Clearly if we all agree on the single parent issue being the biggest problem affecting our communities…why is it a problem then?

Hmmm

Hrrmmm

hummm

5 on it

The answer is Racism and a Lack of Opportunity.

the answer is the baby mama culture.

I voted for the Baby Mama culture. We have got to get back to the basics: God and family.

Whenever a culture starts thinking having a baby together is less of a commitment than marriage, something is waaaayyyy wrong.

The Black family

We NEED more sizzurp!!!

The Recession

@ Re:
“Clearly if we all agree on the single parent issue being the biggest problem affecting our communities…why is it a problem then?”

Because most people are hypocrites. They are quick to judge the chick in church with 3 kids from 3 different men while we are dating our “boo” of 10 years who has 3 kids his damn self and hasn’t even mentioned marriage… all so we can say: “well, at least I HAVE a man.”

Morals is the biggest issue, if people had better morals then the baby mama culture would not be an issue.

OMG!!!!!!!!!!! I KNOW THE THREE PEOPLE THAT’S IN DA PICTURE!!!!!!!! THE FIRST TWO ARE IN MY CLASS AND THE LAST DUDE GRADUATED WHEN I WAS A FRESHMEN!!!! BOSSIP YALL BOGUS FOR THIS ONE!!!!!!

OMG!!!!! I KNOW THE THREE PEOPLE IN DIS PIC!!! THAT FIRST TWO ARE IN MY GRADE AND THE LAST DUDE GRADUATED WHEN I WAS A FRESHMEN!!!!! BOSSIP YALL BOGUS FOR THIS ONE!!!!

Is homegirl finna cut both of those boys? Damn, smh.

Studies have shown that the single parent black family rate has increased 155% since 1960-2006. While the single WHITE PARENT FAMILY RATE HAS INCREASED 229% DURING THE SAME TIME PERIOD! So enough of white society’s “assessement” of black families.

We all know it’s the triflin single mamas and the worthless men who don’t care for their own children!! Not teaching them morals, a work ethic, self-respect. Fifty odd years ago when Black folks were mostly poor and had no jobs or the worst jobs, we still raised our children right. We respected one another and having babies without a strong male presence giving direction was not tolerated. Now by the times these single mothers are thirty, they are bitter, haggard to the bone and abusive to their children. Not having the daddys being a daddy has embittered her and she is exhausted with struggling to live. It is no damn fuke that over 85% of the young black men in prisons were raised without a father.

Exactly. Now watch all the shiftless single mamas who spend all their time clubbing come on here and blame society. Dumb bitches stop having kids with thugs that neither one of you want to take care of after the first year.

bossip finally got a poll daddy account. welcome to 2009!

why wasn’t thug culture on that list?

The only ones who don’t agree with this are the no good single women having kids they don’t take care of properly.

-LOW EDUCATION/High school drop out rate 50%
-ABSENT BLACK FATHERS
-UNPLANNED PARENTHOOD

All lead to poverty, prison, and lack of job opportunities.

Saying that “racism and lack of opportunity” is ridiculous and precisely the problem with the Black community. I am a teacher and I am teaching my students that there ARE opportunities for African Americans to succeed and achieve. Racism does exist, but it does NOT have to inhibit your progress. Barack is president. Come on. We just don’t take advantage of the opportunities that are given to us i.e, a free education. Working in a low-income, Black/Latino environment, I have noticed that most of my students come from single parent homes. They refuse to do their homework, lack intrinsic motivation, and lack critical thinking skills because they refuse to work. My students are brilliant and have so much potential; they just don’t want to work hard. We are doing it to OURSELVES. It is NOT solely racism and lack of opportunity. We need to stop playing the victim and get up and do something with our lives!

I vote Baby Mama Culture!!!!

I’m tired of people trying to justify why everyone is running around having babies left and right outside of marriage. And for all those dodo’s out there about to come in with that “marriage is an institution made by man” and “spirtual connections” mess, puh-lease!

What is wrong with building a strong family? Do you think MLK would have led a nation of people if he was running around with 3 baby mamas? NO. Do you think Barack would have made it to Prez if Michelle was just his “spiritual partner” and not his wife? Hells NO!

Black people need to get it together and do it the right way, cause apparently all that “you dont need to be married” and “spiritual connections” shit people are spouting is for the birds!

And don’t come in here talking about divorce rates either, cause if Black people don’t get married (since the marriage rate is about 35% since the last census), clearly they not talking about your black ass!

Octavia,

No wonder the black churches are completely useless. What do they stand for? Apparently they dont stand for anything since they are accepting of all kings of wrong. I think we should turn churches into Gyms and Clinics.

@STEFANY,

Wrong again. It isnt absentee fathers. These kids need to be raised by husband and wife so even if the father wasnt “absentee” it still isnt enough. Why are you denying black children the advantages that a nuclear family brings, dumb ass?

@STEFANY,

And btw all those thing, high drop out rate and unplanned pregnancies are more likely to affect chilldren from broken homes and it doesnt matter how often the father visits on the weekends.

“Studies have shown that the single parent black family rate has increased 155% since 1960-2006. While the single WHITE PARENT FAMILY RATE HAS INCREASED 229% DURING THE SAME TIME PERIOD! So enough of white society’s “assessement” of black families.”

You may be correct, but White individuals are still achieving at higher levels than African American individuals. So what is your point?

The baby momma syndrome is the problem. Women need to really take a long look in the mirror and demand more respect and value themselves as more than just a chick with a baby by a random thundercat. Responsibility in the black community transcends to the home first.

Marriage guarentees nothing. The biggest problem combating the black community is a lack of respect for each other. Apparently, none of you who voted in favor of the single parent topic have heard President Obama was raised in a single parent home. So a two parent home with 1.2 children isn’t the only thing that can produce a god fearing asset to society.

Wow I smell a 1,000 post, mofo arguing over ish. What is the point of pointing fingers if we aren’t going to do anything about it. We know what the main issues is (Lack of Opportunity), and second being the baby momma single parent household ish. But talk is cheap. So why folks began to start getting wild up on this board, I will be checking in from time to time.

In order for the black community to thrive and survive, we must rid ourselves of the pestilence called the single black mother out of wedlock. They should be rounded up and sterilized before they can pollute our already ravaged community with more of their bastard drug dealing, drive by shooting sociopaths.

@Ironhead67,

You certainly prove the old adage that statistics dont lie but liars use statistics. Do you understand the difference between black families being raised by single mommas increased from an already huge number to a slightly bigger number, i.e. 50% to 65% and white families raised by single mothers increasing from 20% to 40%. Obviously the white single families had a bigger increase but it is still alot smaller than the black families.

I feel, people with the power to make things move smoothly in the Black community need to fall back, they are the trojan horse. The Black civil war we ignore, its played out. Coveting opportunities and sabotaging hard work is what will be the death of community for good. You don’t fix that and nothing on that list will ever succeed.

@So I say it,

Yes, well graduating high school doesnt garuntee anything either but I doubt you wouldnt encourage your kids to complete it.

I don’t have a babymama because I am not married. Losers take heed.

Let it be known that there is a distinct difference from a single parent home and the baby momma epidemic. I was raised in a single parent home from the age if 8 but that was because my parents got divorced. My mother was not a baby momma, she was married to my father for 2 years before I was born and so she eventually became a single parent who happened to also be an ex-wife. My father was also very much involved in my life after the divorce. That’s much different than these chickenheads out here getting pregnant by random men and bringing the children into an unstable environment.

This whole deal with the females not having accountability for who they open their legs to must end!!

They need to require a home economics course or some type of mothering practicum to be passed by these stupid ass hoes before they receive public funds!

@ C from stl

I totally agree with you, and I know you are a married woman so you toot your own horn, but as much as I don’t agree with the baby momma stuff, men perpetual this vicious cycle as well.

When we as a culture start holding men accountable for knocking two or three women up and having these baby momma then I believe we will see a change.

They lead these baby mommas on, break up, start a new relationship. Now you got baby momma drama cause he got her thinking she wifey when she is just another female.

With that it leads to unstable in the black community, black men who go from woman to woman causing our black women to fight each other become bitter, angry, overzealous because of the drama he perpetuated by this jobless sorry black ass mofo.

Wooo ya’ll got me wild up wooo saaaa wooo saaaa

@c from stl,

Do you understand why we say born out of wedlock? We arent talking about divorces. Black females dont even get married to get divorced.

it’s all of them and more

“I hope ya vagina tight” – L’il Wayne

Can we even still hope for such in this day and age?

@ Kigali

First of all I am above name calling, and will thus reserve from that cause you are not worth it. Re-read that.

But to address what you said I am not even a baby’s momma, nor a fan of them, most of them are home wreakers, jealous of any woman that her baby daddy dates and can’t t and I can tell you that men perpetuate this vicious cycle. Men are sneaky, untrustworthy selfish. They will go out of their way to try

@princedonte,

It cant be all of them because one of them is the root literally the root of all of them.

@Kigali

@c from stl,

Do you understand why we say born out of wedlock? We arent talking about divorces. Black females dont even get married to get divorced.

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I was actually agreeing with your comment above to So it I say. I think that some people are getting single parent homes mixed up with the baby momma dilemma. Yeah, Barack addressed single parent homes, but I don’t think he meant that it’s ok to just randomly get knocked up…ya know? For once Kigali, I was agreeing with you

This site is f uped today, I wasn’t even finished typing when the screen just went blank.

First of all I am above name calling, and will thus reserve from that cause you are not worth it. Re-read that.

But to address what you said I am not even a baby’s momma, nor a fan of them, most of them are home wreakers, jealous of any woman that her baby daddy dates and mpst are def. irresponsible and lazy. But with all that said, if men didn’t lay down and create a kid with every day woman they met we wouldn’t have this problem. Then they go from woman to woman, and not we got this baby momma beef thus creating 2 problems, wedlock mothers and unstable black relationships. Men are sneaky, untrustworthy selfish.

Seeing a man like Barrack has given me hope that their are Black men that are classy and not messy unlike your disrespectful ass.

I think lack of Healthcare

@KC all day

Ironically Kigali is a woman….

@ c from stl

GTFOH she a bitter angry ass woman she must not be getting no d**k. Cause all that was really not called for.

Kigali, please stop! We all get sick of your negative comments about the black woman blah blah blah! I rarely, if ever, see you saying anything uplifting or positive. If you have so much knowledge why don’t you use it to uplift instead of tear down.

@KC all day

I’ve actually gotten used to her and she doesn’t bother me any more. She has very strong views and it’s interesting b/c I actually agree with alot of them, but it’s the manner in which she conveys them that gets people pissed off. There’s always a more positive way to get your point across, but Kigali likes to be very sharp tongued with her comments.

I’m so sick of tired of all of these young women proud to be babymamas and all of these men getting women pregnant and leaving them. This has to stop now. Black men and Black women have to step it up. It takes two to tangle. I don’t understand why people don’t know how to use birth control and condoms.

The morality issue encompasses A, B, C, D and all of the above. If we fix the moral issues, instill some values in our youth, raise our children and stop blurring the line between right and wrong; everything else including baby-mama-ism will cease to exist.

I think we as a people own these issues more the we as individuals should just my opinion…you don’t see whites, hispanics, asians with a polls on the shit draggin down community most of them t try to separate themselves from the bad representations of thier race , call me selfish but I don’t care about single parent problem, I don’t have kids out of wedlock, or the aids rate, I don’t sleep around, never went to prison either. You are in control of your mistakes in life sooner we learn that the better.

@ c from stl

I didn’t have a problem with her comments until she started with the name calling. On top of that I was putting my 2 cents in and she came at me with her point of view which I could care less about, say what you got to say and keep it moving. Ain’t none of psychologist or above messiness to be dogging out anybody anyway. But I damn sho know that, that thing betta watch it! If it is stress/hormones, kilagi need to chill the f**k out.

Correction

Ain’t none of us a psychologist or above messiness to be dogging out anybody anyway. We all got dirt. But I damn sho know that, that thing betta watch it! If it is stress/hormones, kilagi need to chill the f**k out. Woooo saa that s**t out

@KC all day

@ c from stl

I didn’t have a problem with her comments until she started with the name calling. On top of that I was putting my 2 cents in and she came at me with her point of view which I could care less about, say what you got to say and keep it moving. Ain’t none of psychologist or above messiness to be dogging out anybody anyway. But I damn sho know that, that thing betta watch it! If it is stress/hormones, kilagi need to chill the f**k out.

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LOL. yeah, I agree that name calling is unnecessary.

Well I would agree that its definitely the baby mama syndrome.. I believe these sistas need to stop getting pregnant by black males period but if they do these parents need to be raising their kids TOGETHER! Even if for some reason the relationship dosn’t work out thats no reason why a man and a woman cannot band together long enough to put whats best for their children first and foremost.. And these sorry ass n!ggers out here making these babies and abandoning them really need to grow some nuts and step up to the plate.. You do not need a ring on your finger to be a good father to your children.. Other races of men do it all the time..

Let’s do more TOGETHER!!

@ C from stl

Girl, lol she a mess.

The Baby Mama thing , black men AND black women need to get together and work things out , no more blaming each other on who is worse !!!!!

Obama had a single mother, but wasn’t he raised by his MARRIED grandparents? Come on. How can we dispute the fact that this this “baby mama culture” has not benefited our community (or anyone’s community for that matter), and children are suffering because of it. Don’t get me wrong, there are women who’ve had children out of wedlock that are wonderful mothers and their children are just fine. Mistakes happen, so it wouldn’t be fair to demonize all of them. Marriage is no guarantee, but there are no guarantees in life, but you want to up the ante to better your chances of success.

@KC all day>>>KUDOS! Yes, men MUST BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE! Our society has this, “boys will be boys” mentality, thus they go unchecked. Women wouldn’t have anyone to “open their legs to” if men weren’t willing to poke it. How come men can’t be selective in who they join themselves to as well? It’s okay for men to stick it, but women, keep em closed. HELLO! Men, if you are going to have sex with someone, you need to make sure that that woman is of quality as well. It goes both ways. Yes, she’s the one who gets pregnant, but since you don’t know if she’s attempting to prevent pregnancy, be smart and do your part as well because once that baby comes, your DNA is apart of that child as well as the mothers.

Do these idiot black females need to be fitted with chastity belts since its quite obvious that they arent adult enough or smart enough to pick high qaulity men?
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@Kigali

Well, maybe they’d learn to pick quality men if their fathers were around. But don’t worry, their fathers are busy running around sticking it to everyone with a vagina and then to take care of their daughters and sons. And you wonder why the cycle continues.

There are so many free clinics and planned parenthood offices where I live yet, these young girls/women and young men fail to go to them and get help, use contraceptives or receive birth control. I don’t believe in having children out of wedlock or why have a child with someone you don’t intend to marry? There are way to many people having kids and our population is going to run out our resources/food very soon.

Testing, Testing, Testing

My comments will not appear. I think I’ve been blacklisted!!

@ Wordtothewise

Co-sign 100%

Yes, men MUST BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE! Our society has this, “boys will be boys” mentality, thus they go unchecked. Women wouldn’t have anyone to “open their legs to” if men weren’t willing to poke it. How come men can’t be selective in who they join themselves to as well? It’s okay for men to stick it, but women, keep em closed. HELLO! Men, if you are going to have sex with someone, you need to make sure that that woman is of quality as well.
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As you can see on here you black women are at each others throats. When are we going to start calling baby daddy out. Like I said before both parties are at fault but today is the day, that men need to be called out on their ish to.

@WordtotheWise…Obama he had a single white mother you think that made a difference.

Its simple. I see this all the time with friends and relatives.

No father or abusive father (emotional or physical)= poor decisions picking male patners.

@SMDH>>>I agree with you. There’s not excuse for a man not to be involved in his child’s life regardless of how the child got here.

@Capo Status>>>Yep! I cosign 100%. That’s another category that Bossip should’ve added: Black on Black hate.

when there is a problem the important thing is not to dwell on it but to come up with a solution. It’s time for people to start seeing the problems within themselves and to start changing their issues. If everyone does that a lot of things will be solved. The problem with everyone is that they sit around and judge one another knowing damn well their shit don’t sparkle like glitter. Everyone needs to start reevaluating themselves whether they feel they are perfect or not and than a solution will be inevitable

“As you can see on here you black women are at each others throats. When are we going to start calling baby daddy out. Like I said before both parties are at fault but today is the day, that men need to be called out on their ish to.”

AMEN – and its usually only the shiftless swamp jigs like Kigali aka Marquis who are so fukking pitiful and have no excuse for it that they choose to blame others!! I am willing to bet this fukking gutter jig Kigali is up to his ears in child support payments and he’s hella bitter over it!! For the most part good black men know how important it is to be a good father.. They are the 35% of dads who usually get it right!!

Ummm…trick question! It’s everything on that list and you missed one Bossip: Lack of emphasis on education which creates the PERCEPTION that there are little to no opportunities available to succeed/reaching for low expectations; scoffing at the highest.

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Its simple. I see this all the time with friends and relatives.

No father or abusive father (emotional or physical)= poor decisions picking male patners.”

Perhaps thats the case with YOUR relatives but its crazy for you to – becuase you have witness your family make bad decisions – to assume that every single mother out there made a conscience decision to pick a bad man to have a baby by!! You’d be suprised how good a black male can be until he’s faced with some responsibility..

And it is not the “baby mama” problem, it’s the baby mama/baby daddy problem. It takes two to create a child and as such it takes two to muck it up or make the best of it.

@Re,

Maybe their fathers would be around if their mothers chose fathers for them instead of Pooky from up the street. Now if you choose Pooky from up the street, you know he cant be a father, you know he has demonstrated certain qaulities that dont make him a quality mate. This is why back in the day, your man had to meet your parents because back then society knew women were too stupid to make such decisions.

Why is it that the black female is the only female species of homosapien that believes she can lie and mate with Charles Manson and she is the only one shocked that Charles Manson didnt come out to be a good father?

ARRANGED MARRIAGES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Black females arent competant enough to choose high qaulity men. I think I am going to get some Visa application for members of the Taliban so they can become the gaurdians of you mentally deficient children.

Damn, SMDH is off the chain today!….lol

@ SMDH

Kigali is a woman, I know you are thinking, with all that damn hate, you mean to tell me that is a woman.
But like I said before it is typical thing for black women to do, hate on each other about irresponsibility, while the man is sitting back care free and not held accountable for his actions.

Its6am: I agree with most of your list except for the nail shop thing. That’s a female thing. I see gawdy nails on every race of female. As for number one, I agree to an extent. Why is all of it placed on the female. Kids don’t get made without male DNA. If she’s a screw up, why is he messing with her?

@Seattle Slim

A man has never gotten pregnant. But I am certain that if men did get pregnant they would be one billion times more careful with their ass than these female children running around here.

@Kigali (Is working with a full clip of IDEAS)

It depend on your environment! if all u know is pookie and pookie was just like your no good father you are going to end up with pookie, the same thing applied to all other cultures!

kigali

you have a very serious complex that you obviously need to work out cause it can only kill

@ Kigali

Church is for sinners. Saints can sit at home and wait on heaven.

KC all day>>>you know what I mean?

PM>>>I’m not quite sure what you’re saying. Do I believe Obama’s mom made a difference in his life? I’m sure she did, but I believe he turned out the way he did because he had a good, solid upbringing. He wasn’t perfect, but he’s the man of the hour today. I’m sure Obama would not have wanted children out of wedlock because he knows the importance of marriage and its structure.

Kigali, would you care to narrow that down? You do realize that there are nubian women from the different countries right? Unless you can attest, via personal experience, that indeed you have seen this problem all over the world, from Russia to France and England to Tanzania and Trinidad

@SMDH,

I keep telling you. The single biggest source for inmates is the single black female. She churns them out like Honda does the Accord. Its from her bossom that these men come from. What the hell is going on in her home?

Perhaps thats the case with YOUR relatives but its crazy for you to – becuase you have witness your family make bad decisions – to assume that every single mother out there made a conscience decision to pick a bad man to have a baby by!! You’d be suprised how good a black male can be until he’s faced with some responsibility..
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@SMDH

I think you misunderstood my point. A good friend of mine has had her father in and out of her life for years. Now she had a child by a man who not only abondoned her and her child, but is EXACTLY like her father. It’s so weird almost…I don’t think she consciously made the decision to pick a scum bag. She picked someone with characteristics familiar to her. If he was in her life (her father), she probably would’ve had higher standards for the man she chooses to be with.

I completely blame the man in these instances.

@ Anyone

How many people on this thread actually grew up in a single parent house ?

@WordtotheWise..I meant if his mother was a single black woman you think he would be the same person.

Black men also have to stand up and relaize that they are the leaders of the household! they hold it down! without them there is no structure to hold down the the building! It takes two! and it takes two to come together and build a home! you place all the blame of the women, but men also a play a role in the destruction of the home! Women don’t wake up pregnant! it takes man! stay out jail, stop trying to be a hip hop artist and get a real job! both men(the leader) and woman(the caretaker) have to come togther!

The black church is the most INSANE institution we have. Making billions of dollars and absolutely NOTHING to show for it in the communities. Black women are brainwashed and black men are totally disfigured and drugged up. Church is PURE BUSINESS no matter how good you feel at the end of service.

Kigali I understand that, but men need to be held accountable. Don’t want kids? Wear a hat or don’t smash. That simple. If she’s a loser? What are you doing with her? If you proceed, you are a loser too (not you, the guy). I knew a guy who liked a chic. As soon as he found out she wasn’t all for “protecting herself” and had a criminal history, he bounced. I felt sorry for her (a little) because I am a bit of a bleeding heart, but I was proud of him. If only more men and women could be more discerning. It’s a societal ill. We are no longer valuing our minds or bodies as human beings.

Maybe their fathers would be around if their mothers chose fathers for them instead of Pooky from up the street. Now if you choose Pooky from up the street, you know he cant be a father, you know he has demonstrated certain qaulities that dont make him a quality mate. This is why back in the day, your man had to meet your parents because back then society knew women were too stupid to make such decisions.
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@Kigali

MAYBE because Pooky up the street is similar to her loser ass father. I mean really, how can you NOT admit that her father is the bar she sets her standards by?

@Seattle Slim,

Know that when I talk about black females, I am generallys speaking of those from the Anglo Saxon Protestant countries, namely the USA and the UK. I live in both places; they exist in both places, strong.

@Capo Status

parents divorced at 9. Spent weekends, holidays, and summers! very involved father!

None of the above. No1 Problem as it has always been is our inability to be Accountable and Responsible. We are always blaming others, looking for hand outs and crying about our sad states. I don’t see other non-white races doing that. And they landed on these shores after us. Time for everyone of us to look to others to give us a leg up in life.

We need to stop the crab in the barrel crap, stop the Welfare handouts crap, stop petty jealousy and stabbing each other in the back stupidness and abandoning our own responsibilities. We need to become better people.

@Capo Status

My father was a single dad…he raised me when I was younger…and did a damn good job of it.

@MarkH320

That’s why I’m not a faithful churchgoer. Something always doesn’t feel completely right. I have a strong spiritual relationship with the Lord, but I think I can maintain it without the two cents of everyone else. Nothing against anyone who faithfully goes to church and loves their church. I just haven’t found any solace in that.

Black men also have to stand up and relaize that they are the leaders of the household! they hold it down
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Yeah but some black women be on some independent women/Diva ish ,Its not that easy b . How can we lead IF half do not follow ?

@ Capo Status

You kinda cute, I grew up in a single parent household, if we had some babies I would be a good woman and stick around I wouldn’t need to go to the Taliban or wear a Chasity belt…LOL just joking!

Baby Mama culture to blame.

I was raised in a single parent home and I was fortunate enough to turn out fine but I had a strong mother that put all the partying and chasing after men aside when she became a mother.

Most of these chicks are so desperate to have a man that they think having a baby with every man they meet is a sign of their love and devotation… Wrong.

A woman can teach a man to be a man, a man has to do that job.

Its a sad sad cycle that I am not sure the black community will ever break out of. We need to go back to the basics of family values. If the nigga dont have a job and smoke weed all day HE AINT WORTH A SECOND OF YOUR TIME

CANT*

my bad

Thanks for clarifying, Kigali

@Capo Status

My parents divorced when I was 8. My father was very much involved in my life. Mother was an awesome role-model and strong influence in my life.

All think all of the comments above are actually in agreement!

It was the institution of slavery that created the “baby-mama” syndrome. It was the institution of slavery that created the “lack of education” syndrome. It was the institution of slavery that created the “STUD” syndrome where black men where used to populate the plantation(along with massa of course).

However, out of this institution some great African-American prevailed. Which shows if your morals are CORRECT, your current sitution will not define who you will become.

To those who think rap music or rappers have something to do with it – yes they glorify the situation more than they should. But most of them were born out of wedlock.

If in 1960′s most blacks were married and raising their families with morals and values, what happened?

- Well in 1963 JFK was killed
- 1963 MLK had a dream
- 1964 Civil Rights act passed; but nothing changed
- 1968 MLK was killed
- 1969 Woodstock – where Jimmy Hendrix said F-it lets get high and have a good time

Capo Status

Black men also have to stand up and relaize that they are the leaders of the household! they hold it down
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Yeah but some black women be on some independent women/Diva ish ,Its not that easy b . How can we lead IF half do not follow ?

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Da*n good point!!! Then go where they do. Look out of the box and I don’t mean IR. If you like the chicks that are in the videos, then that’s what you’re going to get. It’s a two way street.

@ Kc

Lol Well thank u KC made my whole day wit that comment

@ Remy Lebeau

Wow Single Dad! In Harlem there are no such things as single dads

@BMW

Oh Ok , Im from a Single Parent Home 2 ,

Im 19 by the way so if you debate/argue wit me today dont go too hard aight lol

Swag-a-licious@

If in 1960’s most blacks were married and raising their families with morals and values, what happened?

That was a very poweful statement! something went wrong! I think it started to fall apart in the mid 70′s.

@ Capo Status

Black men also have to stand up and relaize that they are the leaders of the household! they hold it down
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Yeah but some black women be on some independent women/Diva ish ,Its not that easy b . How can we lead IF half do not follow ?
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I’m about to have my first fall out with a man I don’t know.LOL

Men kill me when they say this, women are independent because that how we were raised, it is a method of survival, skills we picked up from grandma, auntie, or momma. Black women are accosted to being abandoned and any woman that put everything aside for a man and was left with out a pinto or a penny will tell you to wisen up and look out for yourself. Never put away your dreams to stoke a man ego. I dig being independent!

Seattle Slim>>>That’s exactly what I’m saying. It takes a sperm to have a baby, so if the so-called woman isn’t any good, then what’s he having sex with her for? That’s a no-brainer that some people don’t get.

@ seattle slim,

Women choose who they f*ck, women choose when they get pregnant (theres too many forms of birth control out there) women choose to keep that baby. Thats why i say “unwed mothers are the biggest detriment to the black community” you knew that n*gga you f*cked didnt have a job, an education, no prospects of getting either, a criminal record and you knew he had other kids that he wasnt taking care of, so lets stop the problem at the start “STOP F*CKIN’ THESE THUG BROKE STUPID N*GGAS”
SH*T IF JUST 1/2 THE WOMEN IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY SAID NO THAT WOULD SOLVE 90% OF THE PROBLEMS!

love 6am

Capo Status

@Capo Status>>>I did. My mother was divorced and raised three children.

the problem is in your comments. There needs to be a working together with women and men with disregard to race. Their is a gender division clearly in black community and that is what is causing the issues. The leader of the household should be both man and woman stop living by society standards because if you do it tears the family apart

To all the folks that said Obama was rasied by a single parent. For half of his life that was true, but for the most part he thank his GRANDPARENTS for raising him. His mother was in Indonesia on a world peace mission, while he was sent to Hawaii to be raised by his grandparents.

@ Word to the wise,

that thug n*gga is having sex with that stupid b*tch because he knows he has no ties to her idiot ass, he cums then bolts, f8ck whatevers leftover. Its the womans choice to make better decisions.

Capo Status

Be a man stand up for yourself. times have also changed. Women don’t need to sta home and watch the kids anymore. the economy is so bad that tow people have to work and do it big together. You need to find a chick that wants to build a life with you. There are plenty of women who want healthy relatioships, and sometimes you have to step out of your box. All adults should be able to take care of themselves, but all egos should be left at the door! The man is the king of the household, don’t listen to some scorned female that you are not!

Out of wedlock parenting is the root to every problem in our hood.

@PM, that’s hard to say. I have no idea, but I do now that there are some single black mothers about their business. They are doing an outstanding job raising their children. In the case of Obama, who really knows?

Sheer ignorance should have been #1 on that poll.

@KC All Day,

30 years ago, you kicked that man out of house because the government said that if you wanted that section 8, that welfare check you had to be a single mother. Dont get it twisted. Yall sold yall souls to the devil.

Men kill me when they say this, women are independent because that how we were raised, it is a method of survival, skills we picked up from grandma, auntie, or momma. Black women are accosted to being abandoned and any woman that put everything aside for a man and was left with out a pinto or a penny will tell you to wisen up and look out for yourself. Never put away your dreams to stoke a man ego. I dig being independent!
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Lol dont fall out with me b , I digg ya opinion 2 , i got cha
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@ C from stl

Oh ok i digg that

@ Wordtothewise

Damn Three children my Ma only had to deal wit me , I hope yall didin’t give her a headache

Kigali and 6am: Oh please believe that I am not letting those girls off the hook. I’m just saying that men have a choice too. My brother gets to know a chick, and if she doensn’t have it together, he doesn’t call her back. She calls back though. If by Kigali’s logic, these men are going to smash whatever is easy anyway, it still won’t stop the problem because there are plenty of impressionable and dumb females out there. If you educate both to be more discerning ie have knowledge of self, then you would see this crap drop down to a negligible rate. That’s all I’m saying. A trick is a trick, but she can’t trick you if you don’t let her.

I just believe we should be masters of our own universe.

@ kigali

Ive said this before, i think welfare should skip a generation and maybe we should go back to social workers visiting welfare recipients, I bet you’d stop seeing “air jordans, playstations, plasma Tv’s and broke n*ggas on the couch playing Madden 2009″ in the middle of the day!

Love 6am

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Da*n good point!!! Then go where they do. Look out of the box and I don’t mean IR. If you like the chicks that are in the videos, then that’s what you’re going to get. It’s a two way street.
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@Seattle Slim

Yeah it is you got a point b

@ Anyone

Are any yall married? , and is your partner black ?

@hmm,

I was at Ralphs the other day and they were selling this book entitled: Mother to Son- how to raise a boy to be a man. Surely Ralphs thinks black females are capable of raising boys to be men. How sad. THey arent selling that shit to white folks.

Black folks love to play the blame game, just come together and do the right thing and stop looking like fools!

@ Kigali

Did you get the memo?

I don’t have any damn kids, so don’t stereotype me. Woo saa all that hate out your system.
This is a blog, not the Montell Williams show.
If you are so concerned about women having unplanned pregnancies and this baby momma hoop la, then try and start a peer organization, where you uplift black women and single mothers, hell be a role model to men and teach them that sticking it in every woman is not what makes you a man. But the content of your charcter. People like you are always pointing the finger like you are so perfect, don’t be apart of the problem be the solution, and I don’t think you are a woman, not with that attitude a line backer at best.

omggg!
vaniaa nd kwameee! lmao
saa

@ BMW,

I know a few white b*tches who cant collect support, these white n*ggas get them pregnant on vacation then return to f*ckin’ Iowa. What im saying is, dont f*ck this n*gga without protection, its that easy!

@6am,

LOL.

@Its6amHoGetOut

You sound jaded! If your theory is correct when did the “ho” and “thug” emerge….

As I stated above,

If in 1960’s most blacks were married and raising their families with morals and values, what happened?

- Well in 1963 JFK was killed
- 1963 MLK had a dream
- 1964 Civil Rights act passed; but nothing changed
- 1968 MLK was killed
- 1969 Woodstock – where Jimmy Hendrix said F-it lets get high and have a good time

I know what I think!!!!

Here are the reasons African-Americans are far behind every other non-Caucasian group:

1. Black men frequently make women pregnant and do not stay around for fatherhood. Thus, you have many black women raising children by themselves. Black women also tend to be more sex-crazed than other ethnic and non-ethnic women. This adds to the issue.

2. There are lots of anger-management issues. This gives rise to drugs, alchohol-abuse, murder, and crime. Black people commit far more crimes than other ethnic and non-ethnic groups. Get over the slavery ordeal! It’s done and over with. Move one and strive for the best and stop pulling the slavery card every time you fail at something.

3. Black people put too much superficial value on church. Most of the choir members are gay and most of the pastors are money-hungry, jewelry-toting scam artists. Church seems to be a tradition and not a relationship with Jesus Christ. Black people need to come back to the centrality of the Cross and stop quoting Scriptures without living the life of true faith.

4. Many Black people pursue get-rich schemes instead of working hard like other groups, pursuing higher education, etc. Too much emphasis on sports and not enough emphasis on academics.

The Answer…

5.

@WordtotheWise:

Men are busy chasing these Flavor of Love chicks; these “go make me my money” chicks. They yell about independence but have 3 kids by 3 different guys and are probably perpetually suspecting they are “pregnant.” If you meet a girl, and she’s an uneducated boor, with no aspirations, wearing baby phat but no daddy for the kids in sight. RUN! RUN, I TELL YOU!

Same thing for me. If a guy is uneducated or cannot formulate a thought, no job and/or goals in life (he doesn’t have to be a NASA scientist mind you. Blue collar works for me thanks!) then I do not engage. Why?

We have to believe we are too good to lower our standards. Men and women both. We have been indoctrinated via the media to believe that we should seek the lowest common denominator, spiritually, mentally and physically.

@KC all day,

It isnt my responsibility to solve hood problems. I just dont want that females kid coming through my window at 3am looking for shit.

Capo Status

I’m married, and my husband is black. We have no children, and we’re still in school…

Kigali & 6 a.m.>>>What is it about you two that just don’t get it? According to the both of your “logic” a man is a dog thus he sticks his penis in everyone woman that is in heat? Get the hell outta here with that. Homosapiens (sp?) are supposed to be the highest form of animal, which means they have a brain. They are supposed to be logical and thinking. Don’t give me this “men are made for sex” b.s. He is supposed to be thinking with the head that his neck holds up, not the one between his legs. Quit giving men a pass for their irresponsible behavior.

@Kigali….either your part of the solution or part of the problem…

Since you don’t want nothing to do with a solution….you are part of the problem…

You are the weekest link…..GOODBYE….and aren’t you from DC (SMDH)

Seattle Slim

You aint ever lied! You can see the signs a mile away! I know ghetto when I see it! run! run very fast!

@ kigali

It isnt my responsibility to solve hood problems. I just dont want that females kid coming through my window at 3am looking for shit.
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I was talking to my friend the other day about this, we as black people want to constantly keep each other down, instead of helping thy neighbor. Someone asked why our community is so broken, because we undermined brotherhood and sisterhood, to become something we are not. You don’t want to solve hood problems and yet you are part of the hood.

The biggest problem that we face in the ’09 is Striving to be better and actually acting out the actions to become better. We have asked for a chance for so long and now we have been given a chance and now that we have black president, so we need to prove that we have deserved this chance and we will prove that we can make big changes.

@CapoStatus: Let me correct one thing. LOL I meant to write *not just IR*. I’m in an IR relationship. I don’t have a box for the mens LOL. If they meet my strict criteria (education, looks, goals, humor, good heart and soul) then I engage. Race is irrelevant to me.

BMW I don’t even look at anything remotely “below standard.” I pretend they are not there. I just keep it moving. My “testing” has never failed.

I voted for lack of morality. Because if we had Jesus in our lives, we wouldn’t be doing half of the stuff that’s being done right now. Like black on black crime, drugs, premarital sex. If parents would instill morals to their children, our community would be better.

@ the answer!

Black women also tend to be more sex-crazed than other ethnic and non-ethnic women. This adds to the issue

I disagree with that statement! the most over sexed group of people I ever met was whites! you can’t beat them! I’ve seen and heard enough!

“Maybe their fathers would be around if their mothers chose fathers for them instead of Pooky from up the street.”

Maybe their fathers would be around is n!gger males had 1/4 of the moral fiber that other races of men – namely the white man – is made up of!!

“Now if you choose Pooky from up the street, you know he cant be a father, you know he has demonstrated certain qaulities that dont make him a quality mate.”

I agree.. I have ZERO pity for a sisat who knows a man aint shit and STILL goes there!! I can spot a full of shit swamp jig coming a mile away and I’ll never get why some sistas can’t..

“This is why back in the day, your man had to meet your parents because back then society knew women were too stupid to make such decisions.”

WHATEVER!! You dumb fukking swamp ape!!

W”hy is it that the black female is the only female species of homosapien that believes she can lie and mate with Charles Manson and she is the only one shocked that Charles Manson didnt come out to be a good father?”

Actually other races of women have children by swamp jig males and end up raising them alone too!! Noone will ever give a n!gger male a pass for abandoning his children… That’s why you Marquis (sorry Kigali) are one of the few fukking n!Ggers in here trying to spew this shit!! Even other GOOD BLACK MEN atre coming out telling you how sorry you bastards are in the fatherhood department.. GO BILL COSBY!!

ARRANGED MARRIAGES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

“Black females arent competant enough to choose high qaulity men. I think I am going to get some Visa application for members of the Taliban so they can become the gaurdians of you mentally deficient children.”

Well according to how freely yo urefer to black males who abandon their children as thugs who never mean ta woman any good – and I’m telling you the number of black males who abandon their kids make up near 4% of the black male population – yo uare freely admitting for the most part jig males aren’t shit – and I agree with you!! Sistas don’t need arranged marriages – they just need to leave these fukking minstrel show coons in the gutter where they found them.. SPANISH MEN FOR EVERYONE!! Get yourself a Spanish man, sistas, and you will have nothing to sorry about..

Seattle Slim

It sure hasn’t! lol! don’t get ot wrong also! there are slo some who appear to be what the are not. I know a couple chicks who have degress and wouldn’t be caught dead in no urban wear, but they still ghetto like all day honey!

@ Seattle

Lol oh aight how old are ya b ?

@ RE

How long you been married for ?

@Re,

You are married and childless? Me too. I was in school too and I practiced birth control. Why cant these females do it too?

“I disagree with that statement! the most over sexed group of people I ever met was whites! you can’t beat them! I’ve seen and heard enough!”

Actually the most oversexed group I have ever met is the funky dick AIDS spreading jig male!!

baby mama morals and recession….

my mama and daddy jus seperated january 7th 2009… the day i turned 21..

@Kigali -

I vote to sterilize every man who has a felony!! If you can’t follow the law of the man…you will not be allowed to reproduce more ignorant seeds who look just like you…

Give every man in Jail a vasectomy!!!!!

**Being sarcastic….but Bill O’Reily agrees**

@Capo Status

married two years, partner is black!

THE BIGGEST PROBLEM FACING BLACK AMERICA IS OURSELVES,FIRST WE HAVE TO UNITE AND THEN TACKLE ALL THE OTHER PROBLEMS,WITHOUT UNITY IT WILL NEVER WORK,STOP SHOOTING EACH OTHER…..

I vote to sterilize every man who has a felony!! If you can’t follow the law of the man…you will not be allowed to reproduce more ignorant seeds who look just like you…

Give every man in Jail a vasectomy!!!!!

Capo Status and Kigali

Yes, three years this past Jan.18 We married young, before he was set to go to Iraq. Since we’re still in undergrad, we’ve decided to hold off on the kids…but if we have one *shrugging*

Kids are serious business. We both want to give our children the love and investment they deserve.

Damn…religion got the lowest numbers of votes.

No wonder we are so lost.

I voted morals. As for Baby Mama — this may be obvious to some, but I think it’s important to note that the term (which I can’t stand) leaves men out of the equation. A single mother is not always single because she wants to be.

I think there needs to be a national day of reconciliation between black women and black men. I’m down for all-encompassing unity, no doubt, but I’d love to see black women and black men call a truce — even if we dont’ always date each other.

I’ll start: I’m here for you for-eva true. Damn.

I think there are a lot of issues plaguing the black community that Bossip failed to add to the list.

In no particular order

1.Babies being born out of wedlock
2.Absent Fathers
3 High incarceration & death rates among black males
4.Ninety-five percent of Rap music
5.Thug mentality
6.Education i.e. graduating H.S and pursuing a college degree
7.No grasp of the English language
8.The word: nigga
9.Crime
10.Poverty
11.Government welfare
12.Not voting- for the exception of 2008!!
13.Pants sagging below the butt syndrome
14 Gold teeth
15.Morality
16. Not being self-reliant
17. HIV infection rate

Kigali

So are you a female or male?

“I was at Ralphs the other day and they were selling this book entitled: Mother to Son- how to raise a boy to be a man. Surely Ralphs thinks black females are capable of raising boys to be men. How sad. THey arent selling that shit to white folks.”

Well thats because unlike the shiftless irresponsible swamp jig male – white men teach their sons to be men THEMSELVES – something the average n!gger male is unable and unwilling to do!! White men are much better fathers than coon males are!!

@Kigali

You are married and childless? Me too. I was in school too and I practiced birth control. Why cant these females do it too?
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Ain’t fooling me, that is a linebacker. Evil ass, ain’t no man gone put up with that funky ass attitude of yours. Shid I need proof, name 3 body lotions at at Bathandbodyworks, how many “active” pills in a box of birth control, and finally what is Allen Iverson’s middle name?

@ swag a licious,

jaded about what? I cant f8ck a b*tch who doesnt wanna f*ck me, its that simple. women need to make better choices as it all boils down to who she parts her legs for. And that thug n ho mentality is bred from single parent households not having the mentality to teach their kids better, plus having something as sh*tty as BET playing 24/7 doesnt help.

KC all day

Shoot, I can’t answer those questions except for the second one, lol.

@ Re

Everyone Black woman know what Allen Iverson’s middle name is. LOL

Jan 22, 2009 – 2:38 pm We “Blacks” Are The Real Hebrew Israelites

I attend chruch but I don’t get caught up in that mess. My pastor owns three homes and drives a 07 BMW that he purchased in 2007! his wife drives a red 2007 Mercdes Benz! his teenage daughter from his first marriage college education is paid in full by the money from the chruch. She drives a 2008 Honda Accor fully loaded! i could go on and on. I love hearing the word, and I attend chruch every sunday, but i do not give money to the chruch. Once the pastor opened a subway two years ago i was so done! i just go to hear and go. I’m not spirtually hungry because I know the word, I was raised in the chruch. every chruch I attend is about growth! but growth isn’t always good! chruch is a business now!

@SMDH,

Dam are you saying black females are dumber than infants on cartoons? Atleast Olivia got married but these black females never do. I told you they were dumb.

KC all day

Seriously…you mean, his nickname, “The Answer?”

I like that sterilization move, but expand it to hoodrat b*tches with no education or job and welfare recipients (if not sterilization, cut off their benefits)

Its6amHoGetOut

still puting the blame on the woman! why can’t the man still take care of his kids even if he does not stay with her. Both people have to take responsibilty!

Atleast Olivia got married but these black females never do. I told you they were dumb.
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Kigali

Alot of people get married for the wrong reason…that doesn’t meant they’re any better than the “baby mamas.” That was uncalled for….

@KC All day,

There is a huge difference between my internet persona and who I am in person. The two couldnt be more different. Now stop changing the subject.

I don’t know why the “baby mama” category is voted the highest when it all starts with morals. The moral category should be at the top of the list because it covers all of our terrible issues in the black community. So to all of the people who think having babies out of wedlock is wrong, what do you think about having sex before marriage. Just because you didn’t get pregnant or get a woman pregnant doesn’t make you right or better than the chick who got knocked up or the dude who got like 3 or 4 baby mamas. They’re all commiting fornication. So it’s all wrong.

Morals will prevent you from killing somebody Morals would make you have self respect and respect for others
Morals will make you think twice about having sex before marriage
Morals will make you be faithful to your wife/husband

A lack of morals is the root to all of the problems I just mentioned.

@ Re

No girl, its Allen Ezail Iverson. LOL

Maybe that was hard but here is another one for Kagail Who is cuter, Morris Chestnut or Idris Elba?

@ capo,

SMDH is a white man impersonating a black woman, everybody knows that. (Jig? what black man uses that word?)

@Re,

And about 70% of black baby mommas get pregnant for the wrong reasons and at the WRONG times.

@Capo Status

Read willy Lynch (I think that’s how you spell it)

It shows you how to break down a slave!

Put woman against the man

the man against the woman

put the lighter blacks against the darker blacks

put so much self hate that they will play the blame game until they self destruct!

Allow the men who came from women to hate their fatherand mothers! it’s some deep stuff!

“@SMDH,

Dam are you saying black females are dumber than infants on cartoons? Atleast Olivia got married but these black females never do. I told you they were dumb.”

No – and only a dumb fukking n!gger like you would pull that out of what I said!! WHat I mean – you dumb jig asshead – is that EVERYONE knows how irresponsible the black males is from the ghetto to Tinseltown!! EVERYONE KNOWS!! Even Seth McFarlane knows!!

# Kigali

Stop changing the subject, this is what we do on Bossip post. uhhh

Secondly we went from lets discuss issues of America, to you going biploar, and start name calling, and saying don’t need to vote, and they need chasity belts, to black women lying about getting section 8, you are all over the place today, so why don’t you chill out and have a good debate with everybody instead of being a ass.

Kigali

EXACTLY. So don’t put “baby mamas” as “idiots” exclusively.

Capo Status>>>All of us turned out great. My sister is a physician, brother, a successful businessman, and I quit my job 5 years ago working for the city to take care of my elderly mother full time. So I must say, she did an upstanding job. She wasn’t perfect, but we all came out quite well

Seattle Slim>>>Bingo! I agree with everything you said. You know, black women have been so torn down, not only by society, but by SOME black men AND other black women that so many believe they aren’t worthy of a decent, loving man so the standards go out the window. Also so many black women didn’t have fathers as an example so they don’t know the qualities of a good man so they settle. Thank God I had a sister that taught me what a good man was and a mother that told me I didn’t have to settle. That’s why I didn’t and won’t ever settle for less.

@ BMW

I put most of the blame on the woman because she chooses to f*ck this n*gga she knows isnt gonna take care of a kid, sh*t he doesnt take care of all his other ones! what he does or wont do after the fact is a whole different issue. example; if you know you have roaches because you leave food out, are you gonna keep leaving food out and get more roaches? thats what these babymommas are doing, they know they’re gonna get pregnant without using birth control, but they keep doing it anyway with the same kind of n*ggas then wonder why life aint fair.

Its6amHoGetOut

I like that sterilization move, but expand it to hoodrat b*tches with no education or job and welfare recipients (if not sterilization, cut off their benefits)
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That was too damn funny, but I do agree with you

@SMDH,

LOL. Yes everyone knows, even in the cartoons, how terrible that black man is except for the black females who has her legs open for him like 7-11 without protection.

@6am..

Actually, the cells that develop the brain comes from the sperm….so if we sterilize all the men who have felonies….

Then future kids will only have the brain cells of law abiding citizens. Then make a law, if the DNA test says it’s yours – you got to get married. Make getting a divorce illegal and if you cheat and have a baby out of wed-lock. To jail you go!!

I bet it will still be more brothers in Jail then any other females or males of other races.

You know I’m right.

P.S. – because you are SOOO IGNORANT – I will school you…free of charge.

Women aren’t born promiscuous – most are taught via sexual abuse. Just like 90+ percent of gay men were sexually abused.

Most sex abusers are MEN!!!

I LOVE MY HUBBY, But this is a fact and I watch my daughter with a close eye!!!

@BMW

The socalled Willie Lynch letter was a hoax. You should read it and realize that there are words used in that letter that didnt exist back then.

Its6amHoGetOut

I’m glad you finally mentioned that the men aint no good either! how did this all start! didn’t his father walk away when he was also a child? he has no sense of manhood and thinks it’s the womans job to hold it down because that’s all he sees around him. It’s a endless cycle that takes two!

i’m mad dhey jus like randomly ghot ya’ll pic nd picked ya’ll. Vania yuu look so young. Dhey ain’t ghotta b tawkin bout black people like ain’t shytt wrong whit everybody else.

@SMDH,

Please take all that you know about the dirty black man and tell the black female that. It is only her, in spite of all the evidence that continues to procreate with him.

Why do your sistas love dirty dick?

“LOL. Yes everyone knows, even in the cartoons, how terrible that black man is except for the black females who has her legs open for him like 7-11 without protection. ”

Well – I don’t expect a weak ass pencil dick n!ggerfag like you to understand this – but there is nothing wrong with the black woman spreading her legs for her man – just as there is nothing wrong with any other race of woman spreading her legs for her man!! Now on thje protection thing – I wouldn’t fukk a n!gger male period so I DAMN SURE would not do it without a comdom!! However I would imagine for the ones who feel lucky and will open their legs for one its their choice in their relationship.. That has nothing to do with the n!gger male beign the only race fo male who can’t seem to be a father to his children!! Even Vietnamese men who come here with NOTHING will be good fathers to their children!! FUKKING IMMIGRANT MEN have a better track record of raising their children than n!gger males born right here do!!

@6am and Chinese Chick

HaHa…funny but you can’t get benefits if YOU GET CHILD SUPPORT!!

IF ALL MEN TOOK CARE OF THEIR KIDS – THERE WOULD BE NO NEED FOR BENEFITS…

ignorance in Hawaii…SMDH…maybe that’s why it so many prostitutes there…it’s definately more prostitutes in Hawaii then there are here in VA. Looking at your comments….I see why

@ RE

Oh aight , good luck in the future

@ BMW

Yeah I read about willie lynch b

@ 6am and Kigali

Yeah but with that much energy its obvious shes a sister whos been hurt
real bad

@ WordtotheWise

Oh ok wat city you from ?

Kigali (Is working with a full clip of IDEAS)

yes i know that! lol! I went to college my friend

What he is saying though is not fictional! they abused all slaves the same?( red on the history of slavery)

1. black men were studs

2. some were allowed to marry but the black woman was sexually abused by whites and other blacks

3. treated like wild beast with chains, whips, and even killed like animales.

4. told they werent shit and will never be shit

4. let the lighter slaves work in the house

5. allowed black women to breed kids with numerous men.

^. placed them all against each other!

that’s just the facts on slavery my friend! willie didn’t need to write it! they have teh masters notes in museums and books! we were beast!

@ BMW

But there are 2 many wholes in that willie lynch theory trust me B it was probably writin in the 80′s or 90′s to try and get black people to stop all the bullshit

In the end you fell for the slave masters biggest goal! SELF HATE!

“Its6amHoGetOut

I like that sterilization move, but expand it to hoodrat b*tches with no education or job and welfare recipients (if not sterilization, cut off their benefits)”

Well if the black male keeps up with his prison record alogn with killing off his own in the streets like flies they won’t even be around enough to impregnate a ghetto bitch sista or any other woman..

BMW well said…very well said…

The institution of slavery IS THE PROBLEM…and the prison system is the new plantation…

Sterilize these “mind-enslaved” men.

OF COURSE NOT EVERYTHING IN THAT BOOK IS TRUE, BUT THE WAY THAT SLAVES WERE TREATED 100% FACT!

Solution -

Sterilize all men in prison and who have felonies!! If you go to jail – you win a vasectomy…I’d bet that drop the crime rate like a mofo….

Black men love to make some kids boy….

Seattle Slim>>>don’t you post on another blog as well? You may or may not want to divulge that information, but I’ve read your post on another blog and I love them! You are always on point. I thought you sounded familiar.

I also am in an IR relationship. I live right down the highway from you in the Portland/Vancouver area. It’s not because I don’t love black men, but because black men here are scarce (99.9% date and are married to WW). They don’t date sisters. I’ve been to Seattle and noticed that same thing there to a larger degree. Most of the non-black men I come in contact with treat me with so much respect. I got into a store and always get a big smile and a “hello.” They don’t seem to have the baggage that I’ve encountered with my own (this is not an indictment on ALL black men nor am I saying that men of other races are better) but here in my town, the brothers walk around with a chip on their shoulder and think they are too good for sistas, so I’ve moved on. I decided to live my life outside the box and will not settle for less regardless of the race of man.

“Kigali

So are you a female or male?”

Kigali is a coon male who also calls himself Marquis de Sade.. Some months ago Iwas going back and forthe with Marquis and outta nowhere this Kigali coon showed up!! I argued with both of them and I called it a day.. Then someone else pointed out that someone was posting under two names so something told me to check Marquis. .I swear before the living God Marquis’ gravatar string numbers, in that htread, matches Kigali’s along with someone names Jesse Helms.. I quickly pointed this out to everyone on the board.. We have lost some people and I don’t know if the ones I pointed it out to are still here.. I am sure a few of them are – but I did point it out.. I have busted him. I can’t eblieve this coon even still tries to present himself as a woman!! That just goes to show the type of fukking bitch ass n!ggers coon males can be!!

SMDH, LOL @ Well if the black male keeps up with his prison record alogn with killing off his own in the streets like flies they won’t even be around enough to impregnate a ghetto bitch sista or any other woman..

That takes care of that, huh? Some of these brothers have to nerve to talk about black women when their behinds are being locked up and killed at an unbelievably high rate. Oh, that’s right. It’s their mama’s fault. Grown men blaming their mama for their criminal and irresponsible activities. They need to grow the hell up and quite blaming everyone for their ills.

All I have to say is stop falling for this crap! it starts with “you” if you can’t handle being responsible please learn how to be a man or a woman or just jump over a bridge! all i hear is hate on this blog! whole bunch f bitter men and women. I do hear some logic comeing from some normal people!

@ SMDH aka SEXY CHOCOLATE SYRUP SAUCE, what if you Kigali and Marquis de Sade are the same person, Now that would be some messed up shit.

@SMDH aka SEXY CHOCOLATE SYRUP SAUCE
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Damn you fine!!! Oops. That aint the subject. The problem is Mental Slavery.

@SMDH

What I don’t understand is why people who have legit things to say get banned, I got banned for about a year. My comments still get policed and I am alot politer than I used to be.

But folks let this marquis character say whatever the hell he want to under numerous names and bloggers will still converse with him, like he aint issues or something, but let it be a woman that get out a pocket on her, you got like 5 other female that will jump in, and start talking ish. I remember the old days, umm mmm. Anyway…..

Oh, SMDH, I remember when you pointed that out. For the longest, I could’ve sworn Kigali was a male because I don’t know females of any race that have such contempt, anger, and hatred for her own gender and race. I mean it really sick. There’s really no point in even argument w/6 a.m., Marquis, Kigali, etc. because they’re stuck in their mindset and I don’t think anything can penetrate it. It’s one thing to have an opinion, but let it be based on facts not stupidity.

SMDH

Interesting…I never thought about that…. (Marquis and Kigali)

Ya’ll got too much going on………

Wassup RE!!

Hold on, so there are people on here that pose as 2 or 3 people???

well First of all its women spittin out all ov dees damn rug rats!!! second of all its this trying to trap a nicca with a danm child for him to b with them!!! third to many black brothers going to Prison thinkin if u let a PUNK suck on ya nutts u still straight to go hit ur babies momma when u get out ! cuz let him tell he aint gay!!! forth ov all dis crap starts at home raise ur damn kids instead ov lil Michael damn Grandma down the street raisin them! fifth ov all if u drag that damn man in child support court for thirty dollars a week u need to stop cuz the time u have wasted u could be out workin a full time job takin care of ur own!!!sixth ov all if u can run ur @ss to the nail shop every Friday and hit the club show ur @ss up to at least one of ur damn childs basketball,football or wat ever the child plays game!!! and LAST BUT NOT LEAST WE AS BLACK WOMEN HAVE TO REALIZE JUST CUZ THAT NICCA KICKED ROCCS AND AINT THERE NO MORE!!! WE STILL HAVE TO STAND UP AND TAKE CARE OV OUR DAMN KIDS WITH OR WITH THIS NICCA !!!!!!! Hell thats just my thought!! we get past sum of this bullshit we might can do sum thin???? OMG I for got the number one right now IF UR SHIT HAS BEEN ON THE ROCCS FOR TEN MONTHS OUT OV A YEAR AND THIS NICCA AINT BEEN DOING RIGHT U KNOW THAT NICCA KNOW ITS INCOME TAX TIME !!!! Jan- Oct. yall cant get along he needs space !! all ov a sudden Nov he ready to work it out all he want is ur TAX money!!!

Jesus Christ is always the answer, if we had the morals of Jesus Christ then we would not have single momma problem and if so the single mothers would be ok because GOD is the best father.

This is KIGALI’S show…but I’ll throw my 2 cents in.

1)THE RECESSION is everyones’ issue…but if you have bright ideas and strong work ethic…you can thrive in tough economic times.NOW is the perfect time to start a business.If you can make money in these times…imagine what it will be like when times get better.

2) RACISM & LACK OF OPPORTUNITY. That is a BULLSHIT CRUTCH that people use to explain away their lack of EFFORT and lack of success.Racism will always be with us…but it does’nt have the force of law to make it effective…and has’nt for decades now.Someone may not like you because you’re a woman-or you’re Jewish-or Black-or any one of a thousand reasons.If you provide a competitive or superior product/service-those people still part with their money to YOU.

3)RELIGION: I’m sure I’ll be in the minority on this one.So be it.RELIGION SUCKS.It has delivered mostly suffering to mostly everyone.The human race has advanced mostly IN SPITE OF religion.Not because of it.Feel free to ignore me on this point.I’m sure you will.

“When you believe in things you don’t understand-you will suffer.”-STEVIE WONDER

“Imagine” – JOHN LENNON

4)MORALITY: This one is tied to the BABY MAMA issue that I’m saving for last.You can be moral & ethical with or WITHOUT a religious base.That being said-a strong TWO PARENT home is the best foundation for learning about that.No-the TPH is’nt without it’s flaws…and many couples who are in it SHOULD’NT BE…but it gives a child the best possible chance for being a force to the good when they grow up.This is especially true as it relates to MALE children.Which leads me to:

5)BABY MAMA CULTURE: *SIGHS* We all need sex…and we all need-to varying degrees-an emotional connection to those around us.When you are young,you are DUMB.Some more than others.In the last 60 or so years…BIRTH CONTROL technology has advanced to the point where there are at least 8 or 9 different EFFECTIVE versions of it.This is before you even get to sterilization or abortion.(obviously the least desirable options) Imagine this: For ALL OF HUMAN HISTORY-up until about 60 years ago-sex usually meant babies would be born.Humans finally create a slate of technologies that separate the act of sex from procreation.A good thing if you ask me.Yet it would appear that MANY WOMEN HAVE NOT GOTTEN THE MEMO.If you do not want to know about-or use birth control.If it violates your “moral code” to use it.If you’re “allergic” (bullshit)to various form of birth control.If you’re against having an abortion: HAVE SEX ONLY AFTER YOU GET MARRIED.Save those of us who can be responsible about our sexuality the BURDEN of living on a planet with your sociopath offspring.Ironically-or not-it appears that people who are most responsible about their new found freedom to express their sexuality responsibly usually come from TWO PARENT HOMES.Go figure.

“That takes care of that, huh? Some of these brothers have to nerve to talk about black women when their behinds are being locked up and killed at an unbelievably high rate. Oh, that’s right. It’s their mama’s fault. Grown men blaming their mama for their criminal and irresponsible activities. They need to grow the hell up and quite blaming everyone for their ills.”

Okay?? And that why I don’t even try to respect coons like Marquis (sorry I mean Kigali – LOL) when these dedbates come up!! I know the sista has her role in what is wrong with this thing we call the black race today and I even agree to a point with what Marquis (oops I did it again) Kigali has to say about sistas taking responsibility!! But when I have to listen to grow nass fukking men going around blaming a woman for the decisions THEY chose to make as males over the age of 18 it jus turns my stomach.. I mean really!! These sorry ass bastards have gone from blaming the white man for all of their sorry ass issues to blaming the black woman for all of their sorry ass issues!! I mean at what point does the black male say I am my worse enemy?!?!

Not to mention whose next?? Black males love white women like they love air yet nothing is changing for him while with the white woman as far as who he is, his pride and his ability to be an upstanding member of any society… He is with her doing all the same garbage he does to us and then some… So in amother 20 to 30 years when he’s still the same gutless weak shiftless undeucated unemployed STD plagued murdering piece of shit that he is today – will he blame the white woman then?? And then who?? The Jewish man for owning everything?? The immigrant for being able to come here on a fukking boat and within a year be living the life that these shiftless coon males born right here only dream of?? Will it be the Indian man for taking his jobs?? I mean whose next, really?!??!

LOL @ Bitch ass nyuccuhs pretending to be women.

Go tuck your dick between your legs and listen to “Goodbye Horses” weird freak.

(Anyone who gets the above movie reference wins a cookie!)

Colonel Stinkmeaner

I just love your name…are you a boondocks watcher?

“Oh, SMDH, I remember when you pointed that out. For the longest, I could’ve sworn Kigali was a male because I don’t know females of any race that have such contempt, anger, and hatred for her own gender and race. I mean it really sick. There’s really no point in even argument w/6 a.m., Marquis, Kigali, etc. because they’re stuck in their mindset and I don’t think anything can penetrate it. It’s one thing to have an opinion, but let it be based on facts not stupidity.”

Thanks you for saying this.. I KNEW it couldn’t be the case that everyone who was here last Summer is gone now.. I KNEW someone had to be here who remembered when I busted Marquis posting as his Kigali identity!! His dumb ass just clearly didn’t change the e-mail address that changes the gravatar string line.. He did the same thing while posting as Jesse Helms.. Thanks you.. THANK YOU!!!

Yes’mam. What about ya’self?

@Re

sean

Still blameing the woman! lol! when will the self hate end. One person can’t do it all honey!

@SMDH!!! LETZ GO HALF ON A BABY!!!! I THINK THEN WILL ALL THAT ANGER GO AWAY!!!

SMDH!!!IM HERE BABY GIRL

Colonel Stinkmeaner

Yessir! That episode (Stinkmeaner meets Grandad) was a good one…”My shoes! Oh, Lawdy lawdy lawd….”

@ SMDH

Girl, another poser, don’t you find it interesting that all these new names come at you at once, out of no where, one minute they are nice the next they talking sideways, obviously it is some 40yr old dude with nothing else to do, I understand that being the reason sometimes, but most folk who are on her ALL the damn time Kilagil obvious have no means of support(yet he talks about black women) nor do they have a social life.

@Re is excited to see GAMBIT in May. FINALLY!
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LMAO!! You silly. Don’t ean to sound stupid(hope this is not a stupid question), but what is GAMBIT?

Ayo KC u still Mad at me B ?

the recession
and morality.

those are not just with black folks.
thats everybody

colonel

i wanted to ask what gambit meant too but i thought somebody would think it was a dumb question

kigali u are the most ignorant smart person everrrrrr.

@MS. MECA

LOL!!!

Colonel Stinkmeaner

Gambit is my favorite character from the X-Men series…

Re=Dork

“Girl, another poser, don’t you find it interesting that all these new names come at you at once, out of no where, one minute they are nice the next they talking sideways, obviously it is some 40yr old dude with nothing else to do, I understand that being the reason sometimes, but most folk who are on her ALL the damn time Kilagil obvious have no means of support(yet he talks about black women) nor do they have a social life.”

Yes it is weird and I think thats what made me look at the gravatar strings that particular day.. I would be in a thread arguing at Marquis and outta nowhere all of these names would start popping up who just so happened to feel the same way Marquis did about everything!! On this particular day when it happened something told me to check the gravatar strings and sure enough Kigali, Marquis and this Jesse Helms person matched up!! I think it’s pretty fukking sad myself.. I know there are alot of people on this blog who don’t care for me or the way I post.. I have been in this blog while everyone was against me.. But even in the face of not being liked it never crosses my mind to start creating identities to agree with me or play the ole good poster/bad poster game.. I just don’t get these so called men up in here bleeding from their asses.. I can’t stand weak ass men!!!

Yes, SMDH, I’m still here girl. I thought I was the only one that noticed that a lot of the regulars are gone and like KC said, people are poppin up all over the place with their b.s.

@ Capo Status

No, it was a joke. I can’t believe you thought that. I always encourage a good healthy debate.

wait that is right gambit was on xman!

where will he be in may????

@KC

Oh aight Thanks For clearing that up Sista Lol

@Re

I figured that. Thats the only “Gambit” I’ve ever heard of. And you are not a dork!lol!

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh…………………….you are talking about that movie preview (I am SUCH an IDIOT)!!!

wow, alot has been said since I was gone. I was away in a meeting. people on here are ready to fight!…lol

@ SMDH

You are right, you have been the same person, no matter if people disagreed with you are not, I remember when you stood up to the old female click on here and held your ground. That is what I don’t understand the minute you say something, you all these people grown women, who will try their best to break down any black with a different opinion, but let it be a man on a tyrant about no good black women, and the black women that was making all that noise before, will either, converse back with him like it ain’t nothing, or won’t say a word at all. uhhhh boy!

Every since I got banned I haven’t really been on here besides reading comments and their, but I see most of the people I couldn’t stand aren’t here any more, it has been about a year. But I will say you have held your ground.

@ Capo Status

You’re welcome no harm here.

@SMDH so whats wit the comments you are so hard on brothas all the time, I really started to think you were a white man.

Da X-Men Cartoon Theme song and Spider Man theme song in the 90s was very Catchy

KC all day, I told SMDH the same thing a while back. People are quick to shot her down because don’t like her delivery, yet give the Marquis’ and 6 a.m.’s a major pass. Yes, she does stand her ground regardless.

It’s been nice ya’ll. Take care and have a great day!

DR.FUNK

This is KIGALI’S show…but I’ll throw my 2 cents in.

1)THE RECESSION is everyones’ issue…but if you have bright ideas and strong work ethic…you can thrive in tough economic times.NOW is the perfect time to start a business.If you can make money in these times…imagine what it will be like when times get better.

2) RACISM & LACK OF OPPORTUNITY. That is a BULLSHIT CRUTCH that people use to explain away their lack of EFFORT and lack of success.Racism will always be with us…but it does’nt have the force of law to make it effective…and has’nt for decades now.Someone may not like you because you’re a woman-or you’re Jewish-or Black-or any one of a thousand reasons.If you provide a competitive or superior product/service-those people still part with their money to YOU.

3)RELIGION: I’m sure I’ll be in the minority on this one.So be it.RELIGION SUCKS.It has delivered mostly suffering to mostly everyone.The human race has advanced mostly IN SPITE OF religion.Not because of it.Feel free to ignore me on this point.I’m sure you will.

“When you believe in things you don’t understand-you will suffer.”-STEVIE WONDER

“Imagine” – JOHN LENNON

4)MORALITY: This one is tied to the BABY MAMA issue that I’m saving for last.You can be moral & ethical with or WITHOUT a religious base.That being said-a strong TWO PARENT home is the best foundation for learning about that.No-the TPH is’nt without it’s flaws…and many couples who are in it SHOULD’NT BE…but it gives a child the best possible chance for being a force to the good when they grow up.This is especially true as it relates to MALE children.Which leads me to:

5)BABY MAMA CULTURE: *SIGHS* We all need sex…and we all need-to varying degrees-an emotional connection to those around us.When you are young,you are DUMB.Some more than others.In the last 60 or so years…BIRTH CONTROL technology has advanced to the point where there are at least 8 or 9 different EFFECTIVE versions of it.This is before you even get to sterilization or abortion.(obviously the least desirable options) Imagine this: For ALL OF HUMAN HISTORY-up until about 60 years ago-sex usually meant babies would be born.Humans finally create a slate of technologies that separate the act of sex from procreation.A good thing if you ask me.Yet it would appear that MANY WOMEN HAVE NOT GOTTEN THE MEMO.If you do not want to know about-or use birth control.If it violates your “moral code” to use it.If you’re “allergic” (bullshit)to various form of birth control.If you’re against having an abortion: HAVE SEX ONLY AFTER YOU GET MARRIED.Save those of us who can be responsible about our sexuality the BURDEN of living on a planet with your sociopath offspring.Ironically-or not-it appears that people who are most responsible about their new found freedom to express their sexuality responsibly usually come from TWO PARENT HOMES.Go figure.

this bitch is on the pulpit giving the business, all you ghetto bitches get ya shit together just cus ur sisters have 3 kids and cant drink yet does not mean its o.k. i kno she buys her son all the latest toys, clothes and sends him to “private School” or a “charter ” lol bitches crank me up, just because she still cool and can smoke weed and go out on the weeknds im letting you kno the shit is not cool dont fall for ir please young black girls these bitches is stupid find a tv ro model and be like her shit b like raven she BIG but bitch got stacks… and ladies dont open ya shit for the first nigga who holla at you while “yall walking around the hood” he aint shit and never gone b shit cus he got 3 bitches taking care of him and they kno he aint shit and dont care shit they just waiting for u to get caught up so they can now have a reason for living cus all they gone do is make ya life hell please please please please …….stay away from these hood ass looser disrepectful no job wanting or having drug dealing no future stupid materialistic weed smoking jail bound will ruin ur life and give u a disease that u cant give back niggas

Sure, the “baby mama” culture and a lack of morality are the 2 biggest ones, but Bossip, Jesus has NOTHING to do with morality. Saying you believe in Jesus and going to church does NOT make you a good person or decent, or any less likely to engage in premarital sex.
The Bible and religion makes black people IGNORANT. They don’t realize they are worshipping from a pagan book most of which comes from astrology and ancient Egyptian mythology. Jesus the Christ was NEVER a real life person but a personification of the sun’s journey in the heavens as well as the spiritua life= spirit/matter.

KC all day, I told SMDH the same thing a while back. People are quick to shot her down because don’t like her delivery, yet give the Marquis’ and 6 a.m.’s a major pass. Yes, she does stand her ground regardless.

It’s been nice ya’ll. Take care and have a great day!
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I have gotten pass alot of things that went on in the past. Once bossip let me back on, I realized that the person I turned into because I let 1 or 2 female take me there was not worth a good debate with some intelligent people on here. But to SMDH you keep being you, much respect.

Sure, the “baby mama” culture and a lack of morality are the 2 biggest ones, but Bossip, Jesus has NOTHING to do with morality. Saying you believe in Jesus and going to church does NOT make you a good person or decent, or any less likely to engage in premarital sex.
The Bible and religion makes black people IGNORANT. They don’t realize they are worshipping from a pagan book most of which comes from astrology and ancient Egyptian mythology. Jesus the Christ was NEVER a real life person but a personification of the sun’s journey in the heavens as well as the spiritual life= the conquest of the spirit/matter.

@Word to the Wise/ SMDH -

I was just a lurker then, but that was funny when you busted him out!!!

Remember the Mary J imposter – now those were the good old days

The prostitutes here in hawaii only work in waikiki, they’re some of the most beautiful women you’ll ever see doing what they do and they only f*ck with japanese tourist because they will pay $500 plus per trick and they’re all white or white mixed with something. we dont have any toothless crackhead bald b*tches walking the strip, but 3 blocks over and you’ll find men who you swear are women.

I get a pass because all I type is the truth……

Love 6am

@Girly

Jesus the Christ was NEVER a real life person but a personification of the sun’s journey in the heavens as well as the spiritua life= spirit/matter.
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Ummmm, there’s historical evidence that a man walked the earth and his name was Jesus and that he was a prophet….

and the just sit and be pretty imposter …

@6 you a mutha-fu&ckin lie!!!!

All them prostitutes I SAW WHEN I WAS ON THE ISLAND WERE CRACK ADDICTS!!!

WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE TALKING TO BOY!!!

FACT:
Hawaii has a sh*t load of hookers…I don’t care if they all look like Halle Berry and f^ck aliens…

That Island has some of the lowest morals than any of the 50 states…

@Ms Mecca – Yes, I remember the JSABP imposter…but Mary J was the funniest. It was always Me and Kendu this and Me and Kendu that….hilarious!!

OK – I see 6am gets sensitive about his little Island of sin, baby mamas, crack addicts and alcoholics!! HAHAHAHAHA

First of all being married doesn’t equal a stable home and there is this thing called a divorce rate. Secondly I will be a single mother not by choice. I am educated and have a job a top company making close to 70k per year. So dont’ assume that all single mothers are worthless clubbing bitches because that just isn’t true. I gave up the club long ago and can I add I am also in my master’s program. I am doing far better than some married people in this world.

@DD

You said that you will be a single mother not by choice. Can you elaborate on that a little? Just curious…..

THANK YOU DD,

I’m all for marrige and raising kids but marriage does not mean stability, and a single parent home doesn’t mean your kid are screwed, so divorcee children are more well adjusted than the married family ones are..Look at all these rich white kids on fucing drug..

@ c from stl

I am not a single mother by choice in that I just did not go and screw the first guy I was with , without a condom. I screwed my bf of almost 4 yrs who wanted to get married after. He found out some truth about me and now can’t forgive me for small mistakes I made almost 2 yrs ago.

Exactly Stefany, I know my child won’t be screwed.

@ swag a licious,

I think you were on a military base here

@ DD,

You shoulda married him first then had the kid, thats the way moral people do it. So when he found out you f*cked his friend he wanted nothing else to do with you huh?

And swag, crack isnt big here, now meth thats a whole other story.

“@SMDH so whats wit the comments you are so hard on brothas all the time, I really started to think you were a white man.”

I’m not white.. I’m jsut an evil bitch who cannot stand bitter ass black males.. I have said here many times when I speak of BLACK MALE I do not mean BLACK MEN.. I do not have any issues with good race proud black men.. My issues are with these ignorant coons out here who would just as quickly see our race fail as they would abandon their children..

@6am

So when he found out you f*cked his friend he wanted nothing else to do with you huh?
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uh uh…you know you’re wrong for that one….lol

LOL
Anyone who believes the lie that kigali is a women is stupid. Read over HIS comments, the tone, termination, sentence structure. He refers to a ‘women’ like an outside, separate entity the same way any man would because of course kigali is a man. He drops the pretence unconsciously sometimes and it clear this is a man with serious social issue.
He is an extreme sexist and his anti-female sentiment clearly mark some kind of traumatic experience he has had in his life concerning a women. He should remember that he got one of his X chromosomes from his mother, so 50% of what made you ass a man comes from a women, so technically you are criticising yourself.
Anyway the baby mamma/daddy syndrome is a relic of slave mentality where their was no such thing a the black family. There was no security for the black family during slavery since families were always separated. It became normal for black families to be headed by women but unfortunately this has carried on into the 21st century.

@SMDH

My issues are with these ignorant coons out here who would just as quickly see our race fail as they would abandon their children..
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I have to say I agree with you. I’m married to a wonderful man who came from a Cosby kid background and we are very happy (no kids yet). But, there are some black males out here that don’t even deserve to share the same air in the room with me. I look at them and just don’t get it. But, to be fair, there are plenty of black females that I feel the same way about…lol

None of the above. The biggest problem facing black America right now is the lack of education of our black people especially, our black men who think the streets and murder is the answer. When you look on youtube and other sites such as these and see young black men in the streets boasting that their city is murder capital… it leaves me speechless at the pure ignorance of how they are proud of this. Start here and all the choices listed above will be fixed along the way. We, as black people need to stop looking for someone to blame and start looking at ourselves.

Anyone who believes the lie that kigali is a women is stupid. Read over HIS comments, the tone, termination, sentence structure. He refers to a ‘women’ like an outside, separate entity the same way any man would because of course kigali is a man.

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For the longest I honestly thought she was maybe a hideously ugly and unattractive black woman.

@6 am….toothless is toothless – crack, meth or whatever..

Obama is the best thing to come out of Hawaii!!

I now see your problem with black women. The women in Hawaii overall look like low class whores!! They all look like they’re high all the time!! And they are very, very, very, very promiscuous!!!

If you live in wholesome state like Virginia however, you will see different classes of people including beautiful, smart, educated black women.

I can honestly agree that on your Island, I didn’t see much of that…so YOU need to broaden your horizons!! That’s like someone who lives in Vegas saying All Black women have gambling problems….well hell you live in Vegas…

You 6am live on an island of HOES – so I understand your name….but don’t direct your disdain for the “natives” on to black women. That’s not fair or accurate. (Lady Architect is from VA too and I’m an Engineer(B.S. Ch.E) by the way)

The problems with Black people are the same with other people that of other races, lol…

It’s lack of stable homes, which in turns causes lack of morals. Bossip, in the future please keep in mind that every black person on this site is not Christian. Stop trying to force your religion of choice on us with the whole “black people need Jesus” bit. One can be religious without practicing the Christian faith. And Please with all that because I grew up in church and that’s where most whores & un-wed teen moms were!

Also I can genuinely say as a women, that in general women’s standards have fallen fast in the last umm 20-30 years and this goes for all women lol (I go to college and see first hand the scandalous behaviour of white sorority girls so lets not get it twisted) The difference between the sistas in the hood and these white sorority girls is self-worth; they expect to get married some day, they expect the security of a family and legitimate children, to these black females this is not even a thought. That mentality has to change, so in many ways it is morality. I myself am from the UK but did my undergraduate in the States. I come from a very strict Nigerian background, never questioned the presents of both my parents, I assumed all families were like mine. When I first got to the states I realised the difference in mentality straight away; I was in a hairdresser and all I heard was “my baby daddy”, husband was not mentioned ONCE!.
I mean maybe my standards are too high but some poor fool called me (as a term of endearment) his future baby mamma, and that was the last time the fool saw me. I will be someone’s future wife and nothing less.

@SMDH

You make a good point, i must admit you got me there. But i guess it just depends where you live cuz me personally, down here in Texas, im more worried bout the laws takin my life than any nigga on the street.In Austin, APD been killin niggas over the last 6 or 7 years over bullshit. Resisting arrest to me doesnt sound like a justified homicide

I heard that Hawaii has a bad meth epidemic, seriously.
I guess a lot of insecure Black men go there to find non Black women, at the nearest trailer park, lol….

@SMDH

You fake ass bitch.

When you were posting as Kesha and the multiple other people that you
use to support your arguments it’s ok?

@ Its6amHoGetOut
If you are such the authority on morality then you shouldn’t be judging anyone and talking about what moral people do and secondly I didn’t f*** his friend. So the guy who married his wife and had kids with her and then cheated or beat her is he moral since he married her first and all. See when you make assumptions you end up making an ass of yourself

I see that Kigal is at it again. If black women are the problem and you are a black woman as you say, thus you are part of the problem.

Also regardless a baby is a blessing, ask all those married or single woman who can’t bear there own children. I am happy with my blessing.

I swear people really think it is cool and okay to be a “baby mamma”. As someone stated earlier there is truly a difference between a single parent home and a home that never had a father. Stop having babies. Yes marriage is not guaranteed, but we all know by now having a baby without marriage damn sure is not guaranteed either. The baby mamma syndrome is a problem in our community.

Get right with your money black people…be cheap if you have too…Cut out the materialism and be smart with your credit…

Black Men, play your part in the household, and take care of your child, talk to your kids..Kiss your daughters and hold them…Teach your sons responsibility and no excuses!

Black Women, if that Black Man could not hold down a steady job and have a care (that is his) when you meet him, you dont need ass-he is a flea!

Black people that have their shit together, each one teach one…If you see a brotha or a sista needs help dont be selfish, it cost nothing to lend an ear, or say a few encouraging words..Hate or discouraging words breeds more Hate…Lets stop bithin and lets do something that will help our community grow..

Black People-stop making excuses, and practice self accoutablity- the blame game is a sorry cycle that continues to errode our community

Black Men-your automobile is NOT AN INVESTMENT-the shit depreciates half as soon as you drive it off the lot- Real Estate (If you can) is the best way go…

Black People-I you are living in the hood, its time to relocate…

Last but not least I cannot say this enough..LOVE, LOVE, LOVE one another…we cannot go wrong if we express this emotion!

@Keify

‘n1ggas, roaches and flies….all of them I do despise….the more I hang around n1ggas….the less I despise flies’

Loops, hon Nigerians are way different from Black people here in the states okay. These guys here and not just Black guys don’t want to here the Marriage word, hell you might as well be saying a swear word, lol… But if a guy is bothering me the next I’ll ask him if he wants to get married, he’ll be gone like in a flash, lol…

@KC All Day,

The reason why none of these females in here say anything to Marquis or 6amHo because they are alpha males and reckless black females dont know how to deal with men who arent simps. This is why they need fathers in their lives because even on the internet these men are able to put their shameless ass in place.

Every black female just needs a black man to put his foot in her ass. I appreciate them for doing what I cant as a woman.

@Redd Tony

What about the black folks you try to help out by talking to them or lending some words of knowledge and they turn and look at you like you have a third eye or something. I will only offer help to someone who wants it and in many cases these low lifed degenerates like the sh1t they wallow in and aren’t lookin’ for ANY advice and think that you are insulting them by trying to help them…

@C From Stl

LOL…I feel you

I say ask more questions, listen more and have patience….

But always help those first that want to be helped, and are willing to listen…

@Redd Tony

Good point. It’s just sooooo frustrating. I have always surrounded myself with positive progressive blacks who are doing big things. The women around me have always been positive pillars in society. But, I swear, it’s always these ignorant fools that I come across ever so often that show me how much more work there is to do in the black community. smh

Swagalicious>>>I used to be a lurker at one time as well, but those were the good ole days of Bossip

People say that marriage is no guarantee. Neither is a college degree but it’s better to have one than to not. JMO.

@c from stl

I feel you..

Just keep doin what you are doing. Continue to be positive… Your actions will become contagious to society…Just like its no need to go back and forth with Kigali, let her beleive what she wants to beleive..she is a waste of energy…Sometimes silence is the best answer…

Kigali, you’re the one always bringing black women into the mix with your negative diatribe. There are some people on here who agree with you, but I’m not one of them. You are poison, Kigali. You know you’re going to get a reaction from people and it feeds you. I, too, always doubted you were female because you sound like bitter, black man. To that end, please do not respond to me because as far as I’m concerned after this comment, the “ignore” button is pushed on your name. The end.

LOL Carla trust me, Nigeria guys are no different, actually they might be a lil bit worst (in terms of womanising), the point is if you have low standards you will attract a low standard kind of guy. If you just watch one re-run of Maury you will see a parade of black women who sleep with men, not even willing to commit to them as their girlfriend let alone a wife, and then they are surprised when the guy does not want take to responsibility for the child. It is not just about the man not wanting to commit, I cannot mentally comprehend having a child by a man who not only does not love me, but by the end of the pregnancy hates me. For life tied to someone you hate through a child…who of course picks up on the hostility especially when the father is absent.

And Kigali I don’t know why you cant just express you views as yourself, this fake female persona you are adopting is really weird, it is so transparent…ummm maybe you want a sex change?????

@Redd Tony

Wow! real talk! nice to see someone who sees the bigger picture! not all of this blame it on the woman or strictly the man. My father was far from perfect but he always told me to never settle for less because he did big things in his life. College educated, well spoken, owns his home, vechiles, and has a stable career and owns a small car dealership! if only more black people stome playing the blame game and put more effort into building positive relationships rather then destroying them.

Stefany, girl, I’ve always said that too. I’ve never heard a woman have so much contempt for their own gender and race, so I knew it had to be some anti-black female troll posing as a woman. I’m telling you, if she is a woman, she needs to lay off Bossip and go admit herself into some psychiatric ward. Sheesh.

Redd Tony

‘Get right with your money black people…be cheap if you have too…Cut out the materialism and be smart with your credit…

Black Men, play your part in the household, and take care of your child, talk to your kids..Kiss your daughters and hold them…Teach your sons responsibility and no excuses!

Black Women, if that Black Man could not hold down a steady job and have a care (that is his) when you meet him, you dont need ass-he is a flea!

Black people that have their shit together, each one teach one…If you see a brotha or a sista needs help dont be selfish, it cost nothing to lend an ear, or say a few encouraging words..Hate or discouraging words breeds more Hate…Lets stop bithin and lets do something that will help our community grow..

Black People-stop making excuses, and practice self accoutablity- the blame game is a sorry cycle that continues to errode our community

Black Men-your automobile is NOT AN INVESTMENT-the shit depreciates half as soon as you drive it off the lot- Real Estate (If you can) is the best way go…’

Those are very good points, and I concur.

Yall remember the movie Dark Knight when Batman was talking to Alfred and them Batman was trying to figure out what the Joker wanted so he would stop killing people..Alfred was like “Sometimes its not all about that, sometimes people just love to see the world burn” Think about it..

Thanks Film!

Hello, WordtotheWise if you return.

I need some food. Take care, everyone.

Clearly Black people need better morals. If morals are applied everything else will fall in place. If u believe in something, you won’t fall for anything. It’s not baby mama’s it’s not the recession. Its man knowing his position and woman knowing hers. When you care and love yourself, family, and formost God u you can overcome any obstacle!!!!!!

No problem, Redd Tony!

@Redd Tony

That buying cars and placeing 40′s on them malkes no sense! I don’t get it! you can’t pay your child support buy you spent 15,000 on a bs ol skool car! i never understood that! how do you have a pair of red monkey jeans but can’t buy diapers for your children! I don’t understand how some chicks in the hood stay so fly and so broke! they make $8.50 an hr at popeyes! I domn’t get it! Why don’t they save up to get out the system. The people I lknow who get government support are able bodied females. They are just addicted to being taken care of. The men who come into their lives are not even better! a whole bunch of free loaders waiting on her food stamp cards to be reloaded. You tell them they can make it out the hood, and they have a whole bunch of excuses! it’s all in your mind!

..i dont understand why- lack of proper education or funding for education and better schools- isnt an option..

@ Film

Very well put together I must say

Always trashing single black mothers. Shame on you. I was raised by one, married and became one through death. I have aunts who raised men by themselves. Did half of my family buck the system? No, people do what they have to do. I have an education, wisdom and worship God and help others, with tim and money. Stop trashing single, black mothers!

@#10

I wrote that baby girl!

@BMW

I know bruh..see the system rewards you more when you are not married and dont have a job…Its a viscious cycle..If you are born into a system thinking like this, why should you get a job or get married…

Black Families need better money management also…Frivilous spending is killing us financially..I think Barack need to provide some programs for this…

@Redd Tony
Do you know that people who make a lower income can easily get into college with the help of FASA! I’ve watched numerous amounts of my cousin take advantage of this but still never finish school. You don’t have to finish college, get a trade! damn! become a medical biller for crying out loud! there are a list of things you can do without a degree. the system is set up to keep you where you are. Nobody can pull out the projects, hood, or ghetto! you have to do it! yeah there is still racism, but I prove those assholes at my job wrong everyday!

sorry “DIVIDE AND CONQUER”

@Redd Tony
Do you know that people who make a lower income can easily get into college with the help of FASA! I’ve watched numerous amounts of my cousin take advantage of this but still never finish school. You don’t have to finish college, get a trade! damn! become a medical biller for crying out loud! there are a list of things you can do without a degree. the system is set up to keep you where you are. Nobody can pull out the projects, hood, or ghetto! you have to do it! yeah there is still racism, but I prove those assholes at my job wrong everyday!
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Your are right, but like you said its the mentality..I beleive having a trade can be the best move for anyone, especially Black Men..I call then recession proof, You will always have a job doing a trade, just do it efficient, cheap, and well! But I totally agree bruh, I totally agree with you!

You should try and mentor a young man brotha, you can make an impact ya know..Ima do that this summer..

@Loops,

What proof does anyone here have that I am not a female? They want to believe I am not a female for a few reasons. First they have never been challenged in their life. They assume that as a black woman I am supposed to think and feel x,y,z. They think I am apart of their strong indepedent black woman cult. I am not. Secondly, they doubt my gender because it is an excuse to talk about something other than what I am saying. They use it as an excuse to ignore. But answer this question: Does it matter if I am male or female? Does my gender invalidate any of the points I am making? You have that pyschotic bitch SMDH saying she hopes black men are murdered in the streets by white cops but that doesnt lead anyone so suspect her/him/it.

So she can talk about her homidical rage toward black men but everyone has shit to say about me? These black females have no morals or principles. They dont mind my delivery, they just dont want to be a target. If I were saying the same about black men, they would be trying to take a day off work to celebrate my birthday.

These bitches…

The “Baby Mama” culture, too many single parent homes 47% (4768 votes)

AND THIS IS WINNING

PEOPLE ARE LOSING THERE JOBS CAN’T PAY THERE BILLS
ARE LOSING THERE HOMES

AND BABYMAMAS IS THE WINNER WELL I BE DAMN

GOES TO PLAY FANTASIA BABYMAMA

@Redd Tony

LOL! I’m a female! I do actually mentor a 12 year old for about 2 years now. She stays in the projects and really needed a positive role model since her mom is a loser and her dad is locked up for a long time. My husband is a big brother at his chruch! My parents never did community service, but how can you just run your mouth how black folks aint shit and you’re not even helping! its wrong! we need more men like you! clear minded!

@BMW..LOL sorry about that! That great you and you husband are sharing time with that young lady….

Thanks..Im willing to take action, I would love to lend a young person a word or two, or spend some of my time..

So Ill catch you another day…

(I thought the cancer had left the building for the day, I guess not) (shrugging shoulders)

Im out Ms BMW…Peace..

Try the the big brother foundation in your area! goodnight! cancer just spreads!

Hey Film, how ya doing, brother!

Kigali (Is working with a full clip of IDEAS)

You just got load of hate. That’s just it! loads of hate on black women. oh well we have the right to say whatever, but sometimes you and that chocalte sauce bloger say some crazy ish!

@ Redd Tony

I stand corrected, but I must definitely say your comment was eloquently put together..

If lack of opportunity is a problem why do we have a black president????????

@ Kigali

It does matter if you are a female, because a true women with sense would never express the thoughts that you or SMDH have….you two deserve each other. Each of you represent a bitterness and hate in the black community we need to get rid of…why don’t you both just leave us alone, bleach your skin, turn your back and never look back, you are only a hindrance.
SMDH is a “black woman” who is bitter and hates and tears down black men and you my dear are A BLACK MAN, who is bitter, pathetic and backwards.

It clear you want black society to be structured in the way 1950′s white patriarchal society was structured, but have you noticed not even white folk live like that any more. You do not understand their can be a balance….you don’t have to be self deprecating, self hating and weak to big-up and support black men….michelle obama has shown that, she was Barack’s advisor, she gave up her job to support him!!!
But you of course are not a women so why am I speaking to you????/
and yes SMDH is better than you, at least that dumbass is not pretending to be a man, as some kind of weak attempt to justify her dumb remarks!!! G
GO JUMP!!!!!!

@Redd tony: thank you for making some sense. I know a guy who has four baby mamas, been in and out of jail, hustles and just put $10,000 into a car so it could have a faster engine. I bet if you asked this individual what kind of college plan he had for his five children he’d look at you like you had two heads. Bill Cosby made an excellent point when he stated black people will spend $200 on a pair of sneakers but won’t spend that money on a reading tutor. Our priorities are so far gone it isn’t even funny.

The problem is lack of morals…period. We church all day and night and don’t take heed to a bit of it. There is no longer shame associated with anything in the black community. No shame for going to jail, no shame for having a baby out of wedlock. No shame for 5 kids and different daddies. No shame for nothing. When we have shame..as in you are ostracized and ridiculed when you are a baby mama, then it will stop. We have no control whatsoever sexually,morally, or anything else. While there are always unexpected events, we have control over having kids at 15,20,21 OR EVEN 30. If you don’t have the money OR TIME TO RAISE IT..DONT HAVE A BABY…PERIOD. ELSE YOU ARE ONLY LETTING ANOTHER USELESS INDIVIDUAL ON SOCIETY.

@Elle
I’m with you %100! How about we totally change the tempo? How’s about we flip the script and dictate the pace we want bossip to take? How about we name so suggestions that would improve our situations rather than quote grim statistics? Bossip has become notorious for presenting negative topiscs for us to expound on ad nauseum. Lets talk about what’s working and make some suggestions for improvement. I am a product of a single mother and I have a 3.9 GPA and will be getting accepted to an IVY League university. My sister is pursuing her masters and my brother is in college as well. We are all products of single mothers. Products of single mothers are not doomed to a prison sentence or to repeat the pattern. We may not have come into this world with the most advantages or opportunities but they are there if one searches hard enough and works diligently. I had to join the military to get my education paid for, I am not endorsing joining the military in any means. I am just saying that I found a way. There is a quote that says: MAN IS NOT A PRODUCT OF CIRCUMSTANCE; CIRCUMSTANCE IS A PRODUCT OF MAN..

Black on Black Violence

The problem are
1. We have fogorten our History that is positive (before and beyond slavery)and remains inspiring
2. We excuse our selves from responsibility, accountability and place it on others (the system, families, the neighbouhoods etc) Take ownership and make changes.
3. Education. The world is big and the universe is bigger and the more you know, the better you can manuver,…Instead of investing in RIMS and Bling and cars/designer lables,…Education is Priceless and always gives you the bigger view/slice/seat….opportunities (Obama, Michelle etc)
4. Respect. We often demand respect before we even give it. When you give it, you don’t have to demand it.
5. Knowing in God not religions and Having faith in your self, family, friends,….
6. Stop holding grudges for petty things.

i agree with the comment above me. but you did forget the single families as being a problem. youth arent growing up in two parent homes, where family is important. A GOOD mother and father will raise their child in a environment that teaches respect, education, responsibility and God. Althought a single parent can do this also….i strongly believe a child needs bother parents. How can a child learn to value family, marriage, respect, and morals when their family didnt?

Nikki

None of the above. The biggest problem facing black America right now is the lack of education of our black people especially, our black men who think the streets and murder is the answer. When you look on youtube and other sites such as these and see young black men in the streets boasting that their city is murder capital… it leaves me speechless at the pure ignorance of how they are proud of this. Start here and all the choices listed above will be fixed along the way. We, as black people need to stop looking for someone to blame and start looking at ourselves

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Agrees 100% with nikki its time for us as a people to stop being stupid. Killing each other, worrying about having the newest clothes and shoes. What about cleaning up the communities and helping the youth.

I think the biggest problem facing the Black Community today is . . .
1. our pervasive inability to love and appreciate ourselves individually AND as a people. If we can’t truly love and appreciate who we are, we can’t really know how to love anyone else . . . not our friends, our spouses, our kids, etc. I’m talking about true, selfless love which is more of a choice than an emotion when you think about it.
2. A persistant apathy and/or lack of passion in how we direct our lives which leads to a lack of purpose or direction for ourselves. We typically don’t step out of our comfort zone to discover our passion in life which can lead to a lack of motivation to work hard to attain life goals.
3. An inability to demand more out of life through OUR HARD WORK. NO HANDOUTS, AND EXCUSES! CONSTANT VIGILANCE IS NECESSARY IN GETTING WHAT YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE. IF ONE FAILS TO PLAN, ONE PLANS TO FAIL! It’s as simple as that!

I think the biggest problem is that morality is low.

Single parenting would be at an all time low if people were morally correct. Having illicit affairs with randomn men or women is not the right way to behave.

HIV is at an all time high, and so is single parenting. If people held on to their virtues and stop being promiscuous, the black community wouldn’t be plagued with single parenting or HIV.

#10 on the Chinese menu w/no MSG

Yeah, that was Redd Tony that made that statement. I agreed with.

WordtotheWise

I’m doing good. You?

agreed with him. TYPO

I think lack of morals is the biggest problem on this list, young black people are out here killing each other every day and don’t think twice about it… next on the list is lack education, the high school drop out rate is ridiculous and all these fools dropping out are going to have a rough road ahead of them!

Maybe we’re starting from unquestioned premises: maybe nothing is “wrong” with black America. It’s conceivable that we’re living according to the deep pattern of our race, which is anarchic. It looks defective only in a gratuitous comparison with more orderly races.

Black Americans are living in what is essentially an alien culture. The mental requirements of modern Western culture are entirely at odds with natural African dispositions. We’re volatile, group-minded, reactive. The old-fashioned term is hot blooded. We’re at the other end of the axis from the Northern European mental pattern. The adjustments we’ve made to this foreign culture are remarkable enough. It seems excessive to ask us to cross one last line and be something we’re not.

Look how hard black culture resists assimilation at a fundamental level. That’s essentially an immune reaction from a body under organic attack.
I think the best we can hope for is a slight bump in the rate of mutation: the production of blacks who are more adaptable to conditions inhospitable to the original population. These are likely to be the people who avoid the pitfalls (addiction, illegitimacy, in-group violence, sexual anarchy) that bog down so many of us. Eventually they will supplant us through a combination of rewards for successful adaptation (longer, healthier lives with more robust, more capable children) and our terminal decline largely because of our poor fit with our environment.

The only “problem” with black America is that evolution (differentiation) takes a long time, and the successful adaptations aren’t obvious as long as most of the species population is still inadequate, but inadequate in large numbers. That gives the impression of an unchanging mass, bound to persist in its flawed condition interminably.

If you care about black people, the good news is that the blackness we represent is heading toward extinction, and a smaller but much better suited cohort is emerging to take our place. President Obama is a prominent example of the evolved African American of the future: a comfortable product of the majority culture; in fact, running a white operating system. His beautiful daughters will be even less influenced by black culture and represent a brilliant future for postblack America.

Oh, and lets not forget the HIV/AIDS epidemic! That should also be on the list… young black people are running around spreading AIDS like little outbreak monkeys… it’s 09′ yall better wrap that sh*t up!

So let’s see, rounding out the top three we have…

1. lack of morals = black on black crime
2. lack of education
3. AIDS epidemic

I think I am offended by a website like Bossip asking the question. This is the same website that revels in hateful rhetoric and blatant racist rants. Swirl anyone?

I think everyone is a little drunk on Barak’s victory and folks should chill.

Single parent issues wouldn’t be a problem if we had better morals.

MORALITY or lack thereof has my vote!

What I mean those things go hand in hand with Family.

1. History shows that we as a people have always had a strong sence of family. Men and women were Interdependent (I saw that in my grand parents who had 11 children together and were with eachother in all causes for all causes Family,..never did my grandfather utter a disrecpectful word to my mother and the same for my Father and Mother. and it stands with me my bothers and or patners)
The whole idea of Father Son/daughther and Holy spirit (Holy trinity) was taken fron Egypt more than 3000BC (before Christ) But it was Father, Mother and Child (but it was changed and altered by Male-dominated societies for capitalistic and selfish reasons) So being godly was being in connection with all these parts which makes Family and sustained by respect.

2. Respect is something that everyone wants,..knowing this it should be therefore reciprocated between mothers, fathers, and children extended family, neighbors, communities etc.

4. Marriage is important and it shows a solid unit/ family and its your first Social Group,..It has to be balance even when the principals are not in agreement. Because we depend on our families for the type of support that we don’t get from the outside world (sometimes)
Plus a 2 income house hold is more bennefficial to a child’s future (money Talks) than a single parent unit (interms of nutrition, access, education, positive exposures and the list goes on)

2. I learned all this through Education (not in school only but through seeking the positivity in Black Cultures/existance. And Very much though my own experiences.

So to speak about single parent families only opens wounds and people sense of feeling inadequate.
But When you take it and Place the responsibilities on the individual as part of a community,..not the community then people can gradually remove the irreconcillable feeling aand look at Family Objectively then slowly we can move away from the blame and take first personal care of our selves in order to be contributing members of our society, starting with the First society which is Family and is God Given.

5. Holding grudges forces parents to use their children as ammunition in attemp to hurt or cause each other to be unhappy etc.

Yes and i am also very much aware single parents house holds are not benneficial to the upbringing of a child,…but weather a PARENT is Single or is a (nuclear) Family Unit,…when these things I mentioned and remembered by the individual then atleast the parents can learn to be civil and put their differences aside and look at the BIGGER picture, the welfare of them selves, family (theirs and others), the Children,..(theirs or others) the Community and so forth and So on.

The problem Stands and it is undeniable in the Black Communities but we often think one thing causes another,…Everything is Interconnected and when one thing is in motion it opens up everything else or the pathways to other things.,..

@ scooby dubious

I couldn’t agree more. I’m surprised no one else has caught on to what you’ve said.

We don’t search for the truth as people..And forgot the laws, commandments of the Most High GOD YAHWEH Almighty..We call him god and The Messiah we call him Jesus Iesous…No his name is Hebrew Yahshua the true Messiah not a white boy but a Israelite from the tribe of Judah Hair like wool feet like brass..Black people love Massa! Free from Willie Lynch Yall..
http://www.thencci.com

Be honest with you I could care less whats goes on in the white people household we got our own problems to worry about we got to get our morals together I believe were so worried about being and doing what white folks do and say that we have destory the fabric in our own homes. Hell from what I see on the net blackwoman don’t even want blackmen no more they want a woman and blackmen even in the 40′s are still trying to play the baby boy role we need to definitly fix this because there are good black men and woman out there but were being out shined by the ghetto low self insteam attiude of some black people.

well said Film … bravo!

What happened to the black community is that ppl got lazy. That applies to all.
1.Why work when you can get:
a crazy check
a welfare check
a disability check

2. Why work hard and sacrifice to have what you need and want, when you can:
sell drugs
steal
boost
lie
cheat
kill

3. Why take the time to raise the children that you have created, not b/c the judge said you had to but b/c you realize the person is literally a part of you, when you can:
walk away from him/her
deny that he/she is yours
know that he/she is yours and just not care

It all boils down to being plan old LAZY. Darwin’s theory is showing. . . natural selection. If ppl continue to do what they are doing in such a destructive way then the weak will die off and only the strong will survive.

BLACKS HATIN ON OTHER BLACKS IS THE SINGLE LARGEST THREAT TO THE BLACK COMMUNITY.

I recently moved to a nicer area, and these blacks over here are more than uppity. With all of the attitude and the flossy cars, you’d think they would own HOMES as opposed to RENT.

If you can’t pull that $80K car into your own garage, then your playing yourself. But, hey I learned game from the white folks.

The vast majority black people are good hardworking, law abiding citizens.

MISS DEE U BETTER TALK ABOUT IT

HIV SHOULD HAVE BEEN A CHOICE IT KILLIN PEOPLE LIKE NO OTHER

momo

Redd Tony made that statement at 5:12 pm, not me.

@ Fake Pic #1

damn you straight put SMDH on blast over all those fake pics huh? I too have about 5 fake pics of this obvious whiteman that were sent to me by I’m gonna guess someone at Bossip. You beat me to the punch!

@ Swag a lishis,

I like the way you danced around that “military” question, its a well known fact over here that you military n*ggas/n*ggettes stay in the poorest parts of west oahu in horrible places like “Waipahu, Waianae, Salt lake and Makaha” so of course you’re gonna see drug addicts and ugly hoes. yanno maybe youre just bitter, because everyone knows the only thing the military guarantees you is an “ugly wife”

The people that find the “BABY MAMA SYNDROME” the number on thing that needs to change please define what classifies a woman as a BABY MAMA??

@ Chanell

Heres the definition of a babymomma, its not someone who was married then got a divorce or became a widow, its a woman who knowingly didnt use any form of birthcontrol for herself or the father then had a baby, it could be one instance or several. The term “babymomma” is derogatory and we know it, but lets be real here, single women in the hood/ghetto having kids out of wedlock is wrong and it does nothing but add burden to her and the community. Now thats not saying that the father isnt at fault, he is, but if youre not married to that man you really shouldnt be having his kid/kids. so the bigger burden rests on the woman who should have either used protection, been married or kept her legs closed.

6am, the right answers at the right time.

And Chanell, single parenthood is the biggest problem facing the inner city right now, most gang members come from single parent households, most street criminals come from single parent households, most teen pregnancies can be traced back to single parent households…… Look it up.

Okay, I have to say this this: There is nothing wrong being a single parent just love and nurture your young ones, encourage education, have dad be there in the kids lives, have a steady job or take a career class, etc.

@Kigali

i have a scenario for u: let’s put your solution to the test: that women choose quality men to marry then have children with….both parents raise a young man and a young woman. these parents raise their daughter to believe that she must be virtuous, keep her legs closed & her eyes open, all the while teaching the son that he cannot possibly steer away from sex when he gets aroused because that’s not how men think. hmmm…..if this ideal society is full of married men and women who will this young man end up having his uncontrollable sex with? he’ll probably end up raping married women, teenage girls, any female he can get his hands on because according to you, we don’t need to teach men to curb their appetite for promiscuous sex, we only need to teach young women to do so. baloney.

yes, we do have more to lose when we get pregnant out of wedlock, that is why men need to be taught not to take advantage of women…because they will never realize this fact through first-hand experience. on the other hand, in modern society, men do have a lot to lose by getting a woman pregnant & not making efforts to support said-child…the woman will most likely win in a court battle, will get awarded child support, and if the father refuses to pay, his tax refund will be taken, his wages might be garnished, he can be fined, jailed, humiliated, and hung out to dry. his financial freedom will decay. women will get more hand-outs from the government because they are most often the victim. not always, but most often.

on another note, i agree with u in many aspects, but not all. yes, i do believe it starts with women, but it does not end there.

@ Kigali
@ Its6amHoGetOut

here’s something to ponder….correlation does not equal causation. in other words, correlation between two variables does not imply that one causes the other. it is a logical fallacy to say that because two events occur together that they have a cause-effect relationship. point being, just because statistics may say “most gang members come from single parent households, most street criminals come from single parent households, most teen pregnancies can be traced back to single parent households” and “… The single biggest source for inmates is the single black female” (direct quotes from Its6amHoGetOut and Kigali respectively) does not make true a cause-effect relationship.

@ born Skeptic, statistics make it true, interviewing prisoners, pregnant teens and single parents make it true, you can only make so many excuses for their behavior before coming to the conclusion that “women getting pregnant without being married is the biggest problem in the black community” Its time they take some kind of responsibility for their actions.

Love 6am

it disgusts me with all kinds of crap you people write on here espescially about church. @ kigali. no wonder you’re a self hater. wanting to turn churches into gyms and clinics.kigali, you need jesus!! and you too octavia.yall are all sinners as well. and you all need help. i’m just thankful that i am blessed with sanity and level headedness snd was born to a good family. thank god!!

Okay, again if the chicks want to have random babies by various guys then it’s cool. But she should not expect any thing more then that, after all the baby daddy is simply a sperm donor, am I right ?

BOSSIP ALWAYS HATING ON BEYONCE AND JAY Z should have been one of the options. The blog continues to throw salt on JayZ and Beyonce. It’s obvious the writer has issues personally. Support your black people, not destroy with lies.