first!?!

You will get thru this Kanye, keep your head up.

The Creator is a comforter.

I’m sure he is in denial, he is going through a terrible ordel. Losing a parent would be so painful…I hope he can find some inner strength, but of course iw wouldn’e be easy. God bless to the West family and may they find some comfort…

I agree with Number 2!

I guess I need to read the whole story because that little excerpt doesn’t indicate that he is in denial. I don’t even know what that means. Do they mean he doesn’t believe she passed?

I commend this man for being human and grieving rather than disrespecting his mother’s memory and going through with the perfomance. It amazed me how Marie Osmond was seemingly unfazed by her father’s passing and continued on with her performance. I guess we all grieve in different ways.

My prays goes to kanye and his family.

C-Red, calm down a little bit. Its not that deep,seriously.

I know we’re gonna see a new more humble Kanye in going further. Those rants about not winning awards shouldn’t mean ish to him now.

i still dont understand why a woman of 58 yrs still had the desire to have cosmetic surgery

did she have the time to say her last prayer? how will GOD receive her?

the image issues in our community are getting worse and worse everyday….

RIP Dr. WEst

It didn’t say he’s in denial. He wasn’t aware that she was having the procedure which doesn’t shock me. A lot of people, esp black folk, don’t tell their family members because they’re afraid of being judged. If you’ve reached the point of going ahead with the procedure, you don’t really want someone being on your ass for for being “vain.”

Most women, regardless of how they look, have body issues. It’s amazing that some of the most gorgeous, flawless women in the world have it so badly. Your kid telling you that you’re beautiful isn’t going to change what’s in your head really, especially if you’ve spent all your life hating your body.

@ Bird: It means that he hasn’t accepted it. It’s normal after a person’s passing because the shock takes time to wear off and accept that a person has passed away. I understand what he’s going through. After my mother passed, it took me time to accept that she passed away and to deal with the grief….

We all have to die, but I could understand how some people look shamingly on this because she was getting some sort of physical enhancement that she didnt really need. She seemed like such a healthy woman. And for those that say hes in denial, usually when someone dies suddenly for something so trivial, most relatives would be in denial, angered, upset and disgusted.

@BIRD…

No, its not that he doesnt believe she passed. It just means that he’s having a hard time dealing with the reality of it.

Its one thing if they’re very old, or sickly, and you kind of expect that it could come any time. Its another if they’re fairly young and/or healthy, and they’re gone all of a sudden. Then its really hard to come to grips with, especially if you just recently spoke to them.

It was like that for me when a good buddy of mine passed a few months ago. He was only 37. Its hard to come to terms with the fact that someone you used to laugh and have good times with just wont be there any more. And seeing them in a casket for the first time is ROUGH. Just knowing they’re really not coming back is something that’s just hits you in the guts hard. Makes you think about life, your relationship with God, your family,… all kinds of introspective stuff.

I cant even imagine losing my mother. If Kanye is able to continue touring again within a month or two, he’s a much stronger man than me.

And @Heather, she had a tummy tuck and a breast reduction. That’s not an aging thing. A lot of women can’t bounce back after pregnancy because child birth literally tears your stomach muscles. She wasn’t getting a facelift or botox.

Our society (American as well as African-American) equates beauty with youth and being thin first and foremost, so yes, body issues and cosmetic surgery thrive in such an environment. Then if you don’t have the right nose, lips, face shape, skin color, body shape or whatever, people are going to trash you. Think this isn’t true? Just go check out the posts on Serena, Venus, Shar, Vivica, Tyra, Oprah, Solange, Kimora, JHud or Ciara. 1/3rd of the comments or more are dogging their looks so for all the self-righteous I-would-never people out there who come on here an trash beautiful women, YOU are part of the problem.

I think some of these TV shows contribute to popularizing these kinds of surgery, and making it seem like a quick fix for those who might have image issues.

Even my wife used to talk about getting breast reduction surgery, till I finally talked her out of it. To me, unnecessary surgery should be avoided. Thousands of Americans have gone in for minor operations and ended up dying from infections and complications.

Besides… large ta-tas are a blessing, not a curse! Holla!! :O)

Yes I Said It -

Not that I would know but i have friensds that have tig old bittys and it can be a curse…

Losing your mom is something NO one wants to admit days after it happens. But nothing here shows that he’d in denial though. He dropped out of performing at the VS fashion show-that, to me, would say that he’s NOT in denial and that he’s fully aware. So I don’t really know what the headlines meant.

@Bahama Mama

So I’ve heard.

But to the man, its never a curse… just bountiful blessings. :O)

@The Real Peach

Its not just our community. Its all of America, really.

Lip injections, botox, tummy tucks, breast implants, nose jobs, eye surgery (to remove “crow’s feet”), butt implants… its all at epidemic proportions now.

Some people have back problems from tig ol biddies..

Yes I Said It

RIIIGGHHHTTTT!!!!lol

Cha Men *rolls eyes* lol

UPDATE AS PROMISED: My brother Souleo was the last person to interview Donda West and since Monday we have been pitching the article to be published and we got great participation from West Brands to make sure the story went to the right outlet. It will be released on Dec. 11th for the Jan. 08 edition of Sister2Sister magazine. Check out Access Hollywood for the press coverage regarding her last interview with Souleo. Thanks for supporting!!

I see you women complaining about how difficult it is to have big boobies.

Hey, what about us men? Sometimes its a “curse” too, to have a large…

…well, never mind.

TMI

@Yes I Said It:

It’s one thing to discourage her from doing it because of the health risks, but it’s idiotic and selfish for you to discourage it because you like them huge. They cause back problems and many busty women don’t work out because it’s very painful, even with a great bra. Two of my friends have had it done. They are happier, healthier and thinner than ever.

PEOPLE DO NEED TO LET KAYNE AND HIS FAMILY GRIEVE OVER THIS TRADEGY. THE MEDIA JUST NEEDS TO LEAVE HIS FAMILY ALONE AND LET THEM HAS SOME PEACE. AND ALL MY PRAYERS ARE GOING TO HIS WHOLE FAMILY.

I cannot and will not understand why the media, the internet, and the newspaper continue to dwell on this story as if this is the first person who died from this surgery.

LET KANYE AND HIS FAMILY GRIEVE. Are you guys that hyped up for a story.

My prayers go out to KANYE and his family I have never lost a parent but I could only imagine how he feels.

I WOULD BE IN DENIAL TOO IF MY MAMA WOULD HAVE DIED. BECAUSE LOSING A PARENT IS SO PAINFUL, AND IT WILL TAKE SOME TIME TO AT LEAST ACCEPT HIS MOTHER’S PASSING. BUT HE WILL NEVER FORGET HOW WONDERFUL OF A MOTHER HE HAD. HE WILL ALWAYS MISS AND LOVE HER. GOD BLESS THE WHOLE WEST FAMILY.

Break it down FiyahCrotch

May God be with Kanye through this rough time. I couldn’t imagine having to deal with such pain.

Ok-I’ll admit I was one of those women w/ tig ole bitties who had a breast reduction…I did not do it for cosmetic reasons though. The backaches, the neck strain and the deep crevices in my shoulder lines from my “over the boulder shoulder holders” were all deciding factors, and it’s not something I regret. I don’t believe I would have ever let “society” make that decision for me and I never really cared what others thought, but it can be a very painful condition. My migraines even stopped after the surgery.

@Daria

Since your reading comprehension seems to be a bit limited…Let me make it plain for you.

I discouraged her from doing the operation becuase I thought it was unneccesary had potentially risky.

I then also said I like them big anyway. Therefore, if you can understand english… the fact that I like them big was not the primary reason I discouraged her from doing the operation.

Do you understand now ?

Smartie

I know we’re gonna see a new more humble Kanye in going further. Those rants about not winning awards shouldn’t mean ish to him now.

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Amen.

typo… unnecessary AND potentially risky.

@NITA

Very true.

I think he’s going to be a lot more low-key, at least for a while.

Sometimes a personal tragedy causes people to really reflect on things, and “tone it down” a bit in their lives.

daria

And @Heather, she had a tummy tuck and a breast reduction. That’s not an aging thing. A lot of women can’t bounce back after pregnancy because child birth literally tears your stomach muscles. She wasn’t getting a facelift or botox.

Our society (American as well as African-American) equates beauty with youth and being thin first and foremost, so yes, body issues and cosmetic surgery thrive in such an environment. Then if you don’t have the right nose, lips, face shape, skin color, body shape or whatever, people are going to trash you. Think this isn’t true? Just go check out the posts on Serena, Venus, Shar, Vivica, Tyra, Oprah, Solange, Kimora, JHud or Ciara. 1/3rd of the comments or more are dogging their looks so for all the self-righteous I-would-never people out there who come on here an trash beautiful women, YOU are part of the problem.

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I am behind you 100% on this^^^^. Every damn post is about looks. People are sooo quick to tell somebody how ugly or deformed they are and then when they go get plastic surgery b/c their self-esteem has been stomped and something goes wrong like in Dr. West’s case or it just looks bad like in Lil’ kim or V.Fox case they talk about how ugly they are still.

@Ur entitled to my opinion

I want a reduction sooooooooooooooo badly. I am petite and have DD cups and one is bigger than that. I have the hardest time finding bras to fit and even then they don’t fit properly. I am extremely active too so that doesn’t help. I can’t wait to get enough money to cut these suckas off. I don’t want to be pregnant so I hope they don’t use that against me.

@Yes I Said It and everyone else:

The rate of complications and death from cosmetic surgery are small, smaller than they are for other surgeries certainly because of advances like more knowledge about anesthesia and better techniques. It’s lower than it is for other surgical procedures because cosmetic surgeons (are supposed to) screen out patients with higher risks of complications.

There’s a less than 1% complication rate and most complications are not life threatening or long term. People partake in other MUCH higher risk activities (unprotected sex, speeding, driving without a seat belt, smoking, drug use, drinking, drinking and driving, etc.). These are much more likely to kill or disable you than plastic surgery.

“I should have listened to my doctor”

Mac and cheese with extra cheese

Bacon slices with extra grease

Supersized menu at Mickey Dee’s

No wonder I cant see my knees

KFC bucket for a midnight snack

chose between hunger or a heat attack

My size is good just ask any man

besides who cares I got a plan

my body wasnt meant to be like a stick figure

curves are in just ask any n****r

Girls like me are supposed to be thick

healthy, and voluptuous, not like a stick

My doctor said to stay away

for this surgery “too much you weigh!”

I didnt heed his sound advice

I found myself up under the knife

They cut and pulled Voila I’m thin!

Im home, I’m happy, OH No! think again!

I’m alone I’ts dark oh wait I see the light

What are all these firemen doing here dont they have a fire to fight?

On that gurney I took my last breath

Not once when i chose this did I see my own death

There is lesson to be learned although its too late for me

listen to your doctor and dieting is free!

“…image issues”

You know, working out and eating right can help resolve “image issues”. Unfortunately most people are too goddamn lazy. It’s funny, she obviously had the time and the money to hire a chef and personal trainer, but I guess losing weight that way would take too much time, effort and discipline.

well, this is why self esteem is very important. all people, regardless of looks, to have a positive self image. we put too much emphasis on looks.

bless her soul.

If anyone had breast reduction surgery: How was it determined that your medical problems were caused by a large bust? Which kind of surgeon did your surgery? A gynecological, reconstructive or plastic surgeon? Holla back

Stop talking about how/why/the surgery/the looks….and think about the fact that NEVER AGAIN IN HIS LIFE WILL KANYE BE ABLE TO TALK TO, SEE,TOUCH and HUG his MOTHER…MY God that is one of the most PAINFUL AGONIZING Feelings in your life!!!!!!!

@ FiyahCrotch

Thought about. Now what? Can I comment on it now?

@fiyahcritch- i understand what you’re getting at. But if he believes in God he will one day be with his mom. She is not here anymore, God does things that we question ,why? But if Kanye knows the lord he know that his mother is in a better place and that he will one day be with her if we believes God died for us. She went home to her father where it does not matter if you have a flat stomach or smaller breast! She is at piece now!! I hope he gets through this I know death can be hard. Just know in your heart that Donda does not have to be in this crazy messed up world.God let us all know to wake up to plastic surgery and be happy with you!!

I understand all the hurt & confusion Kanye is facing right now {I’ve dealt with it myself when my parent passed} It’s a scary time & none of yall can understand til it happens to YOU!

It’s scary cuz when your support system is taken away like Kanye’s mom was you tend to feel alone & lost & this is the time you find out what you are made of {Man or Mouse} you really start thinking abt your parents words of wisdom & you rack your brain trying to remember everything they told you but of coarse it’s impossible….I myself have good & bad day’s. I hope his choice in fiance proves beneficial cuz this is where he’ll find out what type of woman she really is.

Some folks just aint equipped to deal with dealth like this, heres to hoping Alexa is!

Now on another note: Why was Dr. West trying to get all this work done on her body when her biggest issue whould have been her TEETH! Come on folks this is what I mean by PRIORITIES!!! Your teeth are far more important in the judgement of one’s character she should have been in an orthodontists chair fixing them jibs & less concerned w/ twirking her body {which btw was nicely shaped in the 1st place}

Go figure!

“It amazed me how Marie Osmond was seemingly unfazed by her father’s passing and continued on with her performance. I guess we all grieve in different ways.”

Marie Osmond’s father died at age 90, most likely of natural causes. Marie and her siblings were well aware of their father was in his last days. Marie is in her late 40′s and has her many brothers for comfort and grieve. She was pretty prepared to accept and live with her father’s passing.

Kanye’s mom died at age 58, of some surgery that we aren’t too clear of what happened. Dr. Donda West even at age 58, had many years of life to enjoy, especially to witness Kanye’s potential to start his own family. Not to mention her own work to contributing to society through helping the underprivileged attaining an education through her charitable works. Now that’s gone. She was also a single mother, children of single mothers tend to take it hard when their mother passes. She was actually supportive of Kanye’s rap ambitions, whereas some other moms would tell their sons to go get a job at Wal-Mart or Home Depot. Kanye is only 33, a single child, and now has to live life without his best friend. I don’t even know how close he is to his father. Hopefully his aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, and fiance can help him heal. I feel sorry for him and any other person who loses a parent at a time and the way he has lost his.

@Pervster

Im singling you out…only because we’ve disagreed before !

But what does his mothers death have to do with him and his music and the way he views himself in the world? This man just lost the love of his life…he loved his mother alot! He knows he is human..but when it comes to music he is on top, so he has every right to be super confident. Now I will say he is a bit of a baby, when it comes to awards or the lack thereof, but geez give the dude a break.

When his album isnt #1 or his concerts don’t sell out, then you can say what you said…but not today..not after the death of the woman who gave him life.

I already shared my thoughts about his mom earlier…As far as Kanye, he should be in denial because his mom was already gorgeous and she looked like a mom supposed to look in her fifties…Bigups to Kanye family and friends…Man life is so precious…

I’ll say this and I’ll say it again. I believe Kanye didn’t know about what she was about to do, poor baby, she looked damned good I can’t even pathom it either. It’s sad when you try to follow what society think you should be, I wouldn’t know, because I’ve never followed but it’s sad that what she instilled in Kanye, she didn’t have for herself. How tragic.

Leave Him alone for God’s sake. When I lost my mother, I was a basket case for quite awhile. Yo Heather, F U!! Who the hell cares if you have a wrinkle under your fking eye?? Who the hell cares about plastic surgery at this point? The man just lost HIS MOTHER! It could have been from cancer, heart attack or she could have died in a car accident. SHE’S DEAD!!! That’s no fking joke!! Is your mother dead? My heart and prayers go out to the West family. Just leave them be, please!

tragedy to triumph I love that

I CANNOT BELIEVE THE COMMENTS OF SOME PEOPLE ON HERE!!!

Specifically: i agree with dana and one more thing

WHAT THE F**K IS WRONG WITH YOU????

Regardless of whatever Kanye might have done in the past or what his mother did/did not do is IRRELEVANT!! The fact remains that this man lost somebody that he cares about and loves very much.

You outta be ashamed for your comments…you reap what you sow….

you people are utterly ridiculous! when your parents pass I wonder if you will consider eating some “humble pie” for all your “screwed up” ways….I cant even believe that your mind is wrapped around Kanye and his personality at a time like this…your “PRIORITIES” are messed up big time…How dare you..when he just lost his mom! UTTERLY RIDICULOUS

^ Five @ Nico. My sentiments exactly!

and Insatiable_qt

Kudos!!!!!!

losing a parent ain’t no joke.

sometimes i still am in denial about my father. maybe this will set kanye on the right track though.

i feel so bad for kanye I hope he gets better with time. nothing wrong with goin under the knife but that fake doctor iz an ass. Alot of woman have done it/ So Mrs.West wasnt any diff from otha woman. Whats done is done and Im sure with time things will get better. RIP 2 her

*died*

*around*