Tashera Simmons Talks New Book And Relationship With DMX
If there’s one thing that Tashera Simmons wants to make clear about her new book, it’s that you might think you know her story, but you really have no idea.
BOSSIP caught up with Tashera earlier this week as her new memoir, “You Think You Know, But You Have No Idea,” hit shelves and she gave us a very revealing inside scoop on what to expect from the book along with a whole lot more
Check out our interview below:
You seem to have a handle on not being afraid to tell your story without completely slandering DMX. How are you able to find that middle ground?
The book actually is not a tell-all, it’s just telling my story. It’s very detailed, but I left a lot out. And I say that at the end, because it’s not about bashing him. The reason why I didn’t wanna put it out there like that is because for one, he is the father of my children. And even though he’s done so many painful things to me, I still love him very much. I’m not in love with him but, we’ve known each other since we were kids.
I feel like he’s still a human being at the end of the day and I feel like the demons that he has got the best of him. You know, that’s not who he always was. I’m just happy that I got out of the situation. I don’t feel bitter and I feel no kinda way towards him. I tried to tell my story as positive as I could without throwing him under the bus. So, that’s mainly the reason why.
What made you write the book now when so much of your story is already public?
But, see, that’s the thing, what’s already public isn’t even HALF of the story. People coming up to me in the public gave me the inspiration to write the book because I honestly didn’t even feel like I had a story before that.
The title is “You Think You Know, But You Have No Idea.” And the reason why is because at first, “Finding Tashera” [the book’s original title], was exactly what I was doing because when we separated, I didn’t know who I was. I had given literally 25 years of myself to him. We got together when we were 18 and we learned everything together. But he was very dominating and I guess a little controlling and I’m very humble and meek so, I always was following his lead. But as I went on, I realized that I was being labeled as this wife of a rapper who, regardless of what he did and all the kids that he had, people would always say ‘I know she was still good and living in this big house’ and ‘she probably got a whole bunch of money because he’s made millions’ and I’m like, “no, you think you guys know but you have no idea.”
So, I was like I have to put a book out but, I wanted to do it tastefully. I’ve done plenty of interviews & magazines where they asked me to try to throw DMX under the bus but, I was like no. I’m not gonna do that, I’m just gonna tell the story and let everybody figure it out for themselves. I DID put a lot out there [in the book] because I had to, but it’s still not everything.
The former Mrs. X continued to open up as our interview continued.
Next, she described witnessing Love & Hip Hop hot head Erica Mena get brutally abused by her babydaddy and how she was able to help. She also reveals whether or not anyone ever stepped in to help her when she was being abused by DMX. Hit the flip to hear what she had to say.