Why Do Black Women Hate Each Other So Much???
Posted by Bossip Staff
All you have to do is pop in any thread on Bossip to see the pure an utter loathsome feelings black women hold towards one another, and Essence made an attempt at tackling the subject:
When people learned that we wanted to photograph Iman, Taraji P. Henson and Serena Williams for our April cover, the comments started immediately. “Oh, they’ll never get along” was the refrain most often heard. It was as if the notion that three beautiful and accomplished Black women might come together for a joint cover shoot was just too outrageous to entertain.
Yet the murmurs weren’t totally without precedent. After all, Black women’s relationships with one another have often been fraught with tension. Truth is, we are sometimes our own worst enemy. Wall Street executive Carla A. Harris told us recently she had noticed that in the workplace Black women are sometimes the ones derailing other sisters. Certainly we’ve been guilty of tearing each other down in our personal relationships as well, even fighting over a sorry man who tried to play us against each other. But with all the challenges facing us, it’s more important than ever that we as Black women make a conscious decision to support, love and affirm one another at work, in our communities, in our churches and in our organizations. It’s time for us to wake up to the fact that our problem isn’t between us; it’s with all the forces that teach us to undermine one another instead of pulling together to strengthen us all. Whatever happened to lifting each other as we climb?
Now, I’m not saying we’re all going to get along all the time, but if we can cherish and accept our sisters as we would want to be cherished and accepted, we will go a long way in setting a new tone in our often-fractured relationships. If we can stop the sideways glancing when one of us walks into a room, if we can stop the head-to-toe assessment of others in the club, if we can stop calling people out behind their backs-while smiling in their faces-if we can put an end to all that, we can start to reclaim the spirit of our sisterhood.
Let’s begin by greeting one another with open arms and minds and stop assuming that we’re out to get one another. The next time a sister you don’t know walks into a room, the next time a Black woman you’ve never met starts working at your job, go out of your way to introduce yourself and give her a compliment. You just may make a loyal new friend.
Sisters, can y’all start employing some of the tactics in this article, or y’all just “don’t give a f*ck what that b*tch said” and will continue to act as triflin’ as humanly possible to each other? SMH
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SIMPLE! SELF HATE!
…this is so true on so many levels.
One reason: The BLACK MAN!
The competition is fierce because there very few men out there for us so we feel we need to tear each other down. It also could be learned behavior so many other people do it too us.
house ***** vs. field ***** is a simple answer. Also all people compare themselves to others and do this, us as black people are just a bit more vocal.
Great Article Bossip! except for 1 thing. Yall *****s do the same ***** that u are talking about in this article. Rihanna and Tyra wit a 5 head, Keisha Cole looking like a *****, u used to go hard at Beyonce but ever since Sasha Fierce, yall been on her *****. Practice what u preach!!!
A black woman does not always recognize her own individualize self worth or value. Therefore, is envy of those who do and are walking in their own destiny.
Its not even about black women it is about people in general. We need to change our approach to people in life positivity is necessary, not naivety but positive outlooks in regards to how we think!
RESPECT your Black women your a shining star!And others will respect you no matter how ignorant they may be themselves your a GODDESS no matter your condition iz on this earth right now.I love you sistaz just the same.But do not expect respect,when you do not respect yourselves.Brothers the next time you see a blkwoman in tight prostitute ’s clothing you should walk over to her azz and offer her some money, so that she will know what she lookz like! Maybe just maybe she wil stop dressing loke a ho,if she starts getting offered like one.
Jealousy @ most times….
Uh oh…I smell a 500 comment thread coming, SMDH.
But what’s the underlying reason for this behavior??? I don’t understand it myself and Im a black woman
I can honestly say that I give my all in every relationship I have, especially friendships, and I have been betrayed and let down SO MANY TIMES! Its hard to open yourself up to be hurt again or taken advantage of, etc… my opinion.
Real simple = we as Black People don’t LOVE each other… Male or Female…
One could say it’s like “Black on Black” crime… It’s US killing OURSELVES, it’s NOT white people killing Black people like that!!!
Shoot, Carla Harris left out that “some” Black Women derail Black Men’s Career’s too… And I’m speaking from collegiate and workplace experience…
*Note – For those of you who are interested in Investment Banking contact “Carla Harris” at Morgan Stanley… Harvard educated ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL Sista, I LOVE her… *But have your stuff together, don’t contact her half stepping…
I also think we are excepted by so few that we have to compete with each other
Esp… Darker women by the media, family, friends, black men it’s crazy…
When i was in middle school the black girls would yank my hair to see if it was real, and then when i spoke well they called me an oreo, and then to make matters worse they all made up a lie about me going with this popular black dude in school and he had a girlfriend, few days later i have this angry black girl wanting to kill me over a rumor, it was chaos, and still i have respect for black women, it’s just the horrible memories makes me really hate some of them with a p*****ion.
obviously they have self hate and terrible self esteem issues, now that i am grown i have enough strength to move on without crying.
Amen to that! Sound advice from Ms. Harris. When you have God in your life, no need to hate on the next, you know He’s taking care of you. Some sistas need to check themselves
I don’t hate myself or black women!! I thought the cover was beautiful!!
The Blackwoman iz not to be dis respected by anyone ,not even herself..thatz right not even her self!!The Blackwoman iz avery important link to the salvation ,for all of us so honor her.With out her,there would be no you ..BlackmanYou are not not a son of a ***** are you!? You are a on of a Goddess and Queen! despite her and our conditon now,you are more than what you think you are,and she iz more than what you think she iz!
White girls make for better friends …most black women want to tear your head off if you say anything or something to them. I’m black and i have no Black girlfriends . I wish i had a black girlfriend ..But it is what it is
@Akeys Stan,
Yes, dark butts can be vicious if you are a mulatta. I have heard some stories about the trails and tribulations of mixed race girls having to go to school with these urban gorillas.
Its all down to parenting. In which case, most black people have none. Parents are supposed to instill in you, a sense of purpose, being, happiness, and self confidence. You cant have that if you are being raised on a constant diet of , “*****hs aint *****,” ***** that ***** thats my man, You nappy headed you need a perm and next a weave, your only value is in giggling your ***** in 3D, etc, etc etc.
Fathers are a good source of pyschological nutrition for the family. His stregnth, character, loyalty, protectiveness civilises the woman that he is with and civilizes the children that they have together.
I LOVE FATHERS!!!!!!!!!
Why? On some real talk, insecurity.
Cause Black women with their act together are usually to busy to care about the bull and they remind bum chicks EVERYDAY, just how below average they’ve become. Its so easy to be in denial about being a bum so a distraction is needed to get the focus off of them.
Uh oh…I smell a 500 comment thread coming, SMDH
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@Uh oh
It’s better that we have a 500+ comment thread on a SERIOUS topic about something facing us as a people with intelligent dialogue and various opinions & ideas expressed as opposed to one of those who’s better Beyonce vs Rihanna Threads…
I understand what this website is about = foolishness & laughs to get through the workday or school but every NOW & THEN a serious topic on this website is cool and lets me know that at least one or two of the people on Bossip’s Staff are not as dumb as I think they are… *I’m just playing Bossip, y’all know I love you guys
Uh oh…I smell a 500 comment thread coming, SMDH
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No Beyonce is not on this post
@Akey Stans,
Try African girl friends. Ghanians are very nice and while they may have some resent for your light skinned, their so school orientated they will quickly get over it. Try Asian girl friends too.
I dont recommend white women. This society cultivates a type of priveldge and sense of entitlement in them that will make them jealous of you too. Try a non American friend.
A lot of the hatred is based on jealousy. Some black women hate on other black women because of looks. If black woman is pretty, has her own hair, her own car, and her own home, then she will be hated. Throw a man into the equation and the hate only intensifies. Most of it stems from the European beauty standards that really have nothing to do with us as African-Americans. Until we learn to love our own features and enbrace our own individual beauty then we will hold one another in contempt and the hate will continue.
I dont like the weaves on these black women but they are stunning.
Kigali, I’ve seen you use the term “dark butts” before — Why are you intentionally using such an offensive and incendiary term?
Just curious.
And “mulatta?”
For the record, I love my sistas, and I’ve found great support and guidance in the friendships I’ve formed with fellow black women. Yes, there are catty individuals (as with women of all races), but, overall, my experiences have been positive and enriching.
Sound advice from Ms. Harris. When you have God in your life, no need to hate on the next, you know He’s taking care of you. Some sistas need to check themselves
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@Fancy
110% co-sign…
You just reminded me Mrs. Harris has a Gospel CD out… Everybody please go out and support her
In my town you have to look hard for good fathers sometimes.. Sometimes they are there but they are mentally, physically, emotionally, sexually abusive. Or they teach their daughters to compete. There are some good fathers out there, but you have to look. I love GOOOD FATHERS!
I’m not buying the self-hate thing. Bottom line– its insecurity. This isn’t just a “black girl” thing. All women do it. It’s human nature. Ladies, if you are doing something positive, wearing something fly, whatever the case maybe, I will compliment you. If you see that another women who embodies the qualities you want to immulate, approach her. Ask her to be a mentor, don’t hate…it’s ugly. If anything, it would be more beneficial to seek *****itance, than hate from the sidelines. Essence should come at this topic from a different angle perhaps “How to embrace each other….differences and all.” Or “Empowering African American Through the Power of Sisterhood.” Now that is much more positive than tone Essence is setting,
Black women get it from other black women. What you see you copy so when you were a child you seen people down rating your friends (other black females) so you did as well. Maybe if we just stop this action with younger children then it will not continue. Sometimes you blame it on the men but it not always man fault. I’am a black women and i think everyone pretty in their own way or special.Black women should treat themselves with respect, love, and like Queens. Do you see that we were made in history as the top and man were our slaves look at Cleo. I don’t agrue with my sisters i love them all even don’t most will hate me but their sill love.
@Jamilah,
We already had tis conversation on the Estelle thread.
“Most of it stems from the European beauty standards that really have nothing to do with us as African-Americans.”
Beaty is transcendent. There are no European beauty standards. If you ugly its because you are ugly.
“Until we learn to love our own features and enbrace our own individual beauty then we will hold one another in contempt and the hate will continue.”
You cant talk about lvong our features and then our own individual beauty. Contradiction dear.
Black women need to stop using this mythic European beauty standard as an excuse on why they cant attract or why they arent considered attractive. Maybe you are just ugly? Even if Europe never existed you would still be ugly. Work with what you have.
By far the best article you’ve posted
Bossip, you all should be the first to adhere to this advice. Ya’ll tear down a Black woman quicker, harder and meaner than anyone ever could!!
I just a wonderful article a few days ago about the black women who are now in high-profile positions in the Obama administration, including Valerie Jarrett, Desiree Rogers, Lisa Jackson, and others, and there are professional and personal bonds among this group of educated, driven, and accomplished women.
I believe there is power and dignity in the bonds among black women. We should see one another as sources of inspiration, support, and understanding, not competitors.
One reason: The WHITE MAN AKA WILLIE LYNCH!!
@ A Keys stan
I’m black and I don’t have many black girlfriends either. But the few that I do have, I cherish them. I wouldn’t necessarily say that white girls make better friends either though. And Kigali.. some of the things you’re saying are offensive.
In general blacks folks hate each other that why blacks don’t mind killing each other.BLACK PEOPLE SUFFER FROM THE WORST SELF HATE KNOW TO MAN BUT WE LOVE WHITE PEOPLE
It’s not just Black women that hate each other, all women are like that, lol….
No doubt.Sistas will tear other sistas down right quick.But I’ve seen the same behavior in White girls too.Maybe that’s part of the reason I’ve only dated foreign born woman the last 8 yrs.
Study up on the Blackwoman, Once you truly understand who the Blk woman iz you be surprised and ashamed of yourself at the same time.
Do away with your foolishness.Respect yourself sistazand respect your origin, because if the Black woman iz Bytch that makes us a son of a bytch!
I agree it’s insecurity not self-hating because during decades a few black people achieved to reach a “high status” in society (Europe-America) so the otrhers were kibd of envious whereas the successful few black people were scared to lose their living condition. I think it’s psychological cause nowadays we all can have a part.
*WOMEN*
Black women don’t like each other? Retraction Women don’t like each other
This is not a black woman issue. I have worked with women of several different races, and some women are just catty. Like someone posted earlier-it’s all about being insecure. If you are confident in yourself, then you don’t have time to hate on anyone. Some people are just jealous, and they can’t stand to see anyone be more successful or better looking than them. Jealousy and envy is a part of human nature, and no race is exempt.
IT IZ SELF HATE WHY ALL THE BLOND HAIR AND EVERY COLOR EXCEPT YOUR OWN THE CONTACTZ IN EYEZ OF VARIOUS OF FLAVORS SKIN BLEACHING ..THE ***** IZ THAT IF THAT AINT SELF HATE ..GET THE ***** OUTTA HERE WITH THAT BUL*****!!
Why do black women hate each other so much?
Well, let’s see, where should we start?
There’s the unfair issue of being at the bottom of the totem pole, being consistently disrespected by society at large, being treated poorly in all forms of media…Being considered less than buy your own counterpart, being rejected repeatedly by the time you make it out of school…Competition between women, over men, careers, property, funds, accessories, toys,..
The majority being raised without men in their lives or poor examples..
Looking for father figure, to get what Daddy, neer gave..
Looking for anyting except betrayal, players, having kid without the man taking responsibility, not enough education, and always having to take everyone’s ish…
Maybe those are a few reasons…
It requires a lot of work and self-patience to work through these issues and learn to see each other as a sister…And to maintain that perspective takes even more effort and practice…
Very few black women are able to break the chains…:(
But I do believe that one fine day, we will get past all the pettiness, that we often deal with day in or day out, imagined or self-induced…
Thank Kigali for the advice
NOT ALL black women hate on each other! BLACK ON BLACK crime and Black men chasing after Becky, Rosa and Ming should be the real question!!!!
excuse the typos, I did not do spell check. So what? You don’t like my comments, don’t read them.
Bossip plays a roll in it too
I think the ones who did have the “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” attitude. I mean that they see everyone else hating black women so they might as well too. Some think (just like some black men) that they are the only good black women (sometimes a few of their friends or relatives get a p***** but not all the rest).
INSECURE IZ WHAT WE BLK MEN MAKE YOU FEEL..WE DONT WANT YOU LOKING LIKE NO WHITE WOMAN ..CUZ THAT WHEN NIGGRZ WILL START SWIRLING..WHY HAVE A FAKE BLK SISTAZ WHO TRIES TO CATER HER SELF AS WHITE WHEN HE CAN JUST FIND HIM A WHITE CHICK..YOU AND I KNOW WE DONT LOVE OURSELVES!
@Dr. Funk
“But I’ve seen the same behavior in White girls too.Maybe that’s part of the reason I’ve only dated foreign born woman the last 8 yrs.”
So it’s an American problem? LOL!
hmmmph
NOT ALL black women hate on each other! BLACK ON BLACK crime and Black men chasing after Becky, Rosa and Ming should be the real question!!!!
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Black men Chasing after Ronnie Bobby Ricky and Mike Thats a whole other post!!!
Thats a whole
that’s part of the reason I’ve only dated foreign born woman the last 8 yrs.
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@Dr. Funk
Foreign women are different culturally and it’s refreshing… I’m with you on that, but I haven’t gone to the extent that you have though…
They (SOME) be on that = I’ll “cook & clean”, be supportive of you and don’t be having NASTY A$$ attitudes – that a number of our Sistas be having… SMH and our Sistas be wondering why those foreign females are liked by soo many people and are soo popular….
*I know I’m in trouble with that comment, even though it’s the truth…
I met this girl from the Islands, she was talkin’ that sh#t too = I cook & clean, what do you need honey, etc… = that sh#t was music to a ni@@as ears, but she had a man back home and so I respected that…
But hold up though, ain’t you out in Cali?
@Sydney,
I use the term dark butt because dark skinned women have completely disregarded their light skinned sisters here on Bossip. They insult black men for dating light skinned women and I firmly believe that had Yung Berg said what he said about light skinned women instead of dark skinned women, dark skinned women would praise him to no end.
If dark skinned women want respect, they must show it for their light skinned sisters and not be so resentful of them. Black men are beautiful and plentiful. No need to hate.
man, stfu…like bossip doesn’t continue to do the same and loves to perpetuate the self-hate and the stereotypes. either be a gossip site and continue to trash the african-american race or try to be uplifting and offer some enlightenment (which you definitely don’t do) but do not post this bs when you are guilty of doing the same…who looked more banging for example, the constant contradictions of beyonce rihanna post, posting ***** about estelle b/c you know black men and women will make rude comments about her appearance….i’m definitely going to have to stop coming here…this site does no good for blacks or minorities unless it’s some white person making a general “attack” like the new yorker. and why the ***** should you care about them, when we have no trouble and constantly do it ourselves
It’s funny how what is prevalent in society always become the “major problem” in Black society. Girls and women of all colors, period are just mean. Do others hide it a bit better than black women? Maybe, or is the real question, do they hide it when we are around? They are no less vicious. And men in general are no less jealous. The biggest lie out is that men are not jealous of each other and women! And the biggest hater on Black women is not each other, but some Black queen.
BTW, I have seen only positive comments about the First Lady in black media. Maybe that will spread and maybe that is why Bossip, the biggest ***** talker, ***** starter about Black women is tryin’ to start some mess with this topic now. But it’s allright, it’s a blog, so post on.
If Black women are so self-mutilating, why aren’t the main characters on that primetime show, The Real Housewives (or whatever it is called) black?
But yet, we get branded the most vicious? Now, I am not excusing black women, I have run into some ignorant mess in my day, especially if they are from the South, but this topic is just heading in the wrong direction. Maybe Essence is right, and we should take its advice and give Bossip a little rest.
I doubt this so-called black woman hate is as deep as Essence claims. Last I checked black women aren’t the ones gunning each other down in the streets over simple beefs. And after a certain age, I stopped seeing sisters get into a fist fight. Also I think its important to not group all black people into one group. Half of us don’t choose to deal with ghetto like issues, such as baby mama drama and gossip on the block. Also once I moved to the suburbs it became very clear that as a black person I was one of a few. As a result, the few black people I know I cherish and my relationship with them has transcended into family like relationships. –A completely pop culture based observation…….women period are catty. having been friends with women of all races I can tell u as soon as a man comes in the mix, the claws will come out. Especially in high school, I’ve seen white, mexican, native american, and black girls flip their hair in each others face over the s*****miest guys.
@ Glok9n
Not all the black women have blonde hair or bleach their skin, Indian women bleach their skin that is not self hate but it’s about the status in society.
The fair wigs or the nose job is hollywood and that’s ALL the women
Crabs in a barrell
Remove the word “black”, it’s women. Remove the word “wo”, it’s people in general.
I remember my aunt who is mostly white, having a great rivalry with the female members of our family. Every chance she got, she put them down, she stole other relative’s men, bad mouthed them to destabilise their success. *****ody was allowed to be prettier, richer, more successful etc than her. My other (late) aunt who was darker could match her for strength and if she tried any of her nonesense
KIGALI! I KNEW YOU WERE A WHITE OR VERY LIGHT SKIN SISTAH …WE LOVE ALL OUR SISTAZ ..INFACT MOST BLK MEN ONLY WANT A LIGHTSKIN SISTAH, I LOVE ALL THE SHADES YOU COME IN, BUT I DONT LIKE THAT MENTALITY ! YOU COME FROM A DARK BUTT SOMEWHERE IN OUR PAST!
@Slide
“They (SOME) be on that = I’ll “cook & clean”, be supportive of you and don’t be having NASTY A$$ attitudes – that a number of our Sistas be having”
Here we go with the stereotypes in a thread about sisters having the need to unify. SMH.
First step towards a healthier frame of mind is casting out such negativity. Be gone!
By the way, you and some other brothers have displayed very nasty attitudes on this blog on more than one occasion. It goes both ways.
Sydney™ (the real one)
@Dr. Funk
“But I’ve seen the same behavior in White girls too.Maybe that’s part of the reason I’ve only dated foreign born woman the last 8 yrs.”
So it’s an American problem? LOL!
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Near as I can tell…;^D
@ dr Funk- you might be right about that ….”But I’ve seen the same behavior in White girls too.Maybe that’s part of the reason I’ve only dated foreign born woman the last 8 yrs.”
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I agree, I married foreign and encourage all my sisters, who can’t or don’t want an African-American male, not to swirl but to give the foreign blks a chance. Once the do, they NEVER go back…It could very well be an AFrican-Americna black problem…Along with so many other issues that plague our communities….
I would agree bu this color issue, is safely world wide…Example:
I was driving in my SUV, on the freeway, one morning, noticed tha driver next to me, it happened to be an Asian woman. She had a shirt pulled over her arms, so that the sunlight wouldn’t get to her arms…I couldn’t believe it, that someone is so color- conscious, that they have to keep every part of their body covered, so they can remain light or fair-skinned…
I still can’t believe it…And then it confuses me, when white women/ pink women think that blks are beneath them, but onece a brother gets a little pocket change, he’s ok. And vice versa.
I don’t like that blk women can’t even confide in each other..To the point, you can’t even be real close with some sisters, cause they will try to screw your man,as soon as you turn your back, but them again, that’s all females, not just blacks…But this color issue= worldwide
white/pink women want larger butts, bigger chests, bigger lips,sun-tanning, botox, everything under the sun to get some color, but still are preferred by some blk men, in our community? That’s a sickness with them, not blk women….Get it right!!
@always knew,
“There’s the unfair issue of being at the bottom of the totem pole, being consistently disrespected by society at large…”
Oh please. society at large have given black women and women in general such a priveldge position. White women have it best but black females have been practically untouchable. All of the transfers of wealth from the middle and upper cl***** to the working cl***** and working poor to which black females and their familes form a significant part of. The welfare, the medical, the section 8, the project housing, crystal stairs, job training, scholarships, more women than men in university… Dam you *****es have had it so good your daughters and grand daughters have been on welfare. Generations of black female headed families have been feeding at the trough and no one was allowed to say anything to you without being accused of racism of sexism. Girl bye.
@Kit,
Your comment made me think of the outro on The Fugees album The Score.
whoever reads that article is dumb. all girls hate each other. not just black girls
*peeking in on cat fight*
I think all women are catty white black asian hispanic, i think it’s just a female thing.
@Kigali
“They insult black men for dating light skinned women and I firmly believe that had Yung Berg said what he said about light skinned women instead of dark skinned women, dark skinned women would praise him to no end.”
Are you not familiar with colorism and its history and impact on women of color? The brown paper bag test? Instead of criticizing your sistas, try looking at the psychology behind some of the comments on this blog. I’m sorry to say, but there are individuals who place higher value of people of a certain hue, and the emotional ramifications of this process are vast.
@always knew,
I rely on your to get everything ***** backward.
“white/pink women want larger butts, bigger chests, bigger lips,sun-tanning, botox, everything under the sun to get some color, but still are preferred by some blk men, in our community?”
The most common form of plastic surgery for white women is liposuction. They arent trying to get ***** put in, they trying to get ***** taken out. Black women on the other hand, love them so rhinoplasty. I wonder why.
@Dr. Funk
“Near as I can tell…;^D”
LOL!
DAVINA!@ WHY BLEACH AT ALL IF YOU LOVE YOURSELF THE HELL WITH SOCIETY,DONT CHANGE YOUR DNA TO GAIN STATUS ..YOU LOSE WHO YOU ARE..NOT ALL IZ RIGHT, SOME OF YOU BEAUTIFUL SISTAZ SHINE AND THOSE ARE THE ONES I LOVE..I DONT WANT NO FAKE SISTAH!
*higher value on people of a certain hue*
I can honestly say as a proud dark skin woman i dont care for stupidity in any shade!!!! But i have found that lighter skin woman have hair just as nappy,and wear weaves like dark skin woman the only true difference is that in america some black people have not freed their minds and look to tv and magazines to define what beauty is!!! I have never wished to be light skin for the record NEVER EVER!!!!the richest woman in dark skin and the first lady is dark skin so hopeful those who look to tv and magazines that begin to evolve..oh and just look at Naomi vs any other model out there!!!
KIGALI SHUT THE F***,
LISTEN TO WHAT YOU WROTE YOU ARE SOOOO JEALOUS AND ENVIOUS OF BEAUTIFUL, CONFIDENT COCO WOMEN, YOU ARE ONE OF THOSE OLD WHITE CRONES ROLLING THEIR EYES WHEN I WALK BY…LOL…PATHETIC MY MOTHER IS LIGHT SKINNED DO I HATE HER AND I AM MORENA YOU ARE CRAZZZZZYYYYYYY
@Sydney,
That is no excuse. We dont have a problem with wanting men to be tall, dark, and handsom. Do you see short men becoming all disgruntled at taller men for the disadvantages they face? No woman wants a short man but there are plenty of men who are, have, and will be with dark women. So why not have some sympathy for the midgets out there.
Yeah Akeyes… You got that right!!!
I LOVE MY BEAUTIFUL, FLAWLESS, DEEP RICH MAHOGANY SKIN THAT ALL MEN OF EVERY RACE AND COUNTRY FIND ATTRACTIVE, I LOVE AND UPLIFT ALL MY BEAUTIFUL SISTERS BY MY SMILE, A SIMPLE GESTURE. I WOULD NOT CHNAGE MY SKIN AND BEAUTFUL HAIR FOR THE WORLD
Kigali (Introduction to the New Black Woman 101)
@Sydney,
I use the term dark butt because dark skinned women have completely disregarded their light skinned sisters here on Bossip. They insult black men for dating light skinned women and I firmly believe that had Yung Berg said what he said about light skinned women instead of dark skinned women, dark skinned women would praise him to no end.
If dark skinned women want respect, they must show it for their light skinned sisters and not be so resentful of them. Black men are beautiful and plentiful. No need to hate.
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That whole thing is bs. I am a VERY attractive datk-skinned sister. Not jealous of any light or fair skinned female. Most of the time, when we are in groups, shopping, or whatever, I get more play , than my pink girlfriends, light-skinned ones, Arabic ones, etc.
Ireally think it has everything to do with the way that you perceive yourself…I’ve NEver felt bad about my skin color. I never cut another female just because of her skin color. That’s ridiculous.
It’s just frickin skin. However, there’s a large base of people that only prefer, mulattos, octaroons, quadroons anything except black. And if the black man prefers lighter skin, rather than a pur bloodline, that’s on him…Black men would rather run after m*****a’s nut and uphold as value, proof of him running through our grandmother’s body,I can see why that would be so much more desirable…
I also notice that Bossip love this subject. And usually in their headlines, like the one with Djmonou (excuse sp), saying you can’t see him…Then the constant barrage of negative thinsg that Bossip loves to post about dark-skinned people. The whole article about Estelle being slammed, about her features, which were God-given, not in surgery or in Beverly Hills, Ca.
Maybe the issue is with yourself and you project yor own beliefs onto others…Maybe that’s it, because I don;t know what type of closed-minded people, that you are referring to…
I’ll be right back, gotta run out for a minute, need my Sunday newspaper…Check you guys when I get back…
Ladies just do you, know matter what you do someones going to hate, if you wear a weave some one go have something negative to say, if you go natural someones going to have something to say, so i say love yourself and ***** what anybody else think.
@Kigali
“Do you see short men becoming all disgruntled at taller men for the disadvantages they face?”
Um, have you heard of the “Napoleon complex?” There are indeed some height-challenged men who have some insecurities.
And I’m not referring to a personal preference — I’m referring to an ingrained frame of thought among some that determines a person’s value, pulchritude, and other attributes, based solely on skin tone. The same individuals who tell a darker-toned sista, “you’re pretty for a dark-skinned woman,” as if that woman is attractive in spite of her complexion. It’s a distorted viewpoint that’s emblematic of deeper-seated issues.
it’s not just black women that tear each other down, bossip you do it to any black celb. you don’t like. Mainly 50 cent. it is not just this blog but other blogs tear black apart but are so careful what they say about “other” races. once other races see us calling each other “monkey” “apes” etc. they feel it is alright for them even though it started with them. the way we treat each other is something that William Lynch predicted years ago. as a matter of fact he guaranteed this hate amongst black will keep us down. read up on him
@kigali- when I get back I will deal with your simple minded *****ertions. You are a piece of ish and will remain so. I will not spend my whole day debating your stupid *****. No the main thing hite women spend their money on is LIPOSUCTION, along with BREAST AUGMENTATION, GLUT AUGMENTATION, BOTOX , FACE LIFTS, ETC.
Your mother was backwards for not going to an abortion clinic. That might be what you’re used to, but b-tch, don;t try me, you will get your fake educated ***** served.
back in a minute,*****, then I ‘ll step all over your crackpot theories..
Gotta love those community colleges…They are for people, who couldn’t make it anywhere else….
Ask your mom
By the way, you and some other brothers have displayed very nasty attitudes on this blog on more than one occasion. It goes both ways.
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@Sydney
Please get a life… SERIOUSLY
Why are you on Bossip SOOO much? Morning, noon and night AND throughout the weekends too? WTF?
I think the worst was when I saw you post continuously from 3am continuing to the next day on the day that Bossip posted the picture of Rihanna bruised up… SMH
I post comments wherever I damn well please… Have I ever said anything about you ALWAYS posting articles in posts that have nothing to do with what JUST YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT that people don’t particularly care about on Bossip?
Please get some hobbies besides being on Bossip ALL DAY EVERYDAY, it’s sad seeing you on here SOOO much… SMH
Well, to say such a general statement leads one to believe this really may have some merit?? I love all women, but there is no loving like that of a black woman!
Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators (Keepin’ It Real – D’Original)
that’s part of the reason I’ve only dated foreign born woman the last 8 yrs.
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But hold up though, ain’t you out in Cali?
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Cal/’Zona/Nev…Got business in three places.
Can’t remember the last time I dated an American born White girl.As I’ve said on previous posts…I used them as a sperm drop when I was young (15-24 yo) because they were smarter about birth control than the sistas’ I grew up around.”Becky” wanted to ***** your brains out…but she was’nt gonna bring a little “Brown One” home.Perfect.SKIN COLOR ASIDE: They ALL get crazy between the ages of 25-35…because the have an agenda…a biological clock…and a TIMETABLE.
Dated an American born sista’…uh I think it was sometime in the fall of last year.Pretty girl.About 27 years old…but her “clock” issues almost shattered my eardrums.So I take it back.I’ve dated ONE American born woman of any color n the last 8 years.The rest have been foreign born…or of an ethnic enclave:
Brasilian,Korean,Persian,Thai,Isreali,Czech.
Big salad bar out there.
@Sydney,
Do you know how often here on Bossip black females tout their big behinds, their lips and their hips because they deem these features to be very attractive to men and very feminie? They malign other women, ESPECIALLY white women who dont have these things. Do see a difference between a black woman extolling the superioity of a big behind big lips and curves because of how men prize them and light skinned women utilizing their fairness for that same end? There is no difference. If white women can be made to feel inferior because of their flat *****es, flat chest, and thin lips- less feminine or attractive, then dark skin women can similarly be made to seem less feminine or attractive because of her dark skin.
Whats good for the goose is certainly good for the gander.
I have an aunt, who is a great networker. However, with members of the family that she perceives as weak, in her way or a rivalry with, she denigrated, cheated, stole their man etc whilst maintaining to the great and the good, the rich and important that she is a lovely, kind, cl*****y person. She she was successful at it and she got on (as a politician and business woman). Her daughters have made good marriages and/or had good careers and education as have her sons. The only person she couldn’t do it to was my other (late) aunt who was much younger than she and who gave as good as she got.
I also have a friend who to use Bossip type language, I am sick of playing “bottom of the pile b****h”, she had to be the sexiest, most successful, and one was always second fiddle.
There are those of us who have have had polite upbringings who have allowed these women to spite us, cut them out of your life, call them out. Don’t allow it.
I also don’t think this is just a black thing, it is a people thing.
lmao . . . . essays abound when there need only be two phrases : low self-esteem and self hate.
@Slide
See, there’s the nasty attitude, and brother, you curse people out for saying something about a celebrity who knows nothing about you. Is it that serious?
And to keep track of who posts comments on here only means that YOU are on here yourself, just like today.
And your lack of couth is sad. Get some manners.
As I suspected, you have no cogent, dignified retort.
Bossip should have looked in the mirror. Some African American websites feed into, and foster sister bashing. Even when we are silent our behavior speaks. One of the most heart felt compliments I ever received, was from an older woman while out paying a bill. She yelled, “Come here” I was thinking “I hope this lady does not try to get out on me, about parking handicap, I am running in and out, and I may have to tell her off in a nice way”. To my surprise, She hugged my neck and said that the wanted to compliment me on the way I was dressed, because it was a good example to her granddaughter who was also smiling at me on the p*****enger side. My heart was so warmed, of course, I hugged her back and said thank you. I was wearing a khaki skirt, with chocolate boots and chocolate tights and belt, with a white long sleave button down with a chocolate Micheal Kors logo T shirt on top. Love covers a multitude. We should all make a conscious decision to love one another and show ourselves friendly. I mean I will put the smack down and defend myself and some sisters really need to be checked.. I noticed that women who hate on me really have issues loving themselves.
@Slide
If you come across so many sistas with attitudes (as you’ve written on here repeatedly), it may just be your own nastiness that attracts them. Think about it.
because they were smarter about birth control than the sistas’ I grew up around.
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@Dr. Funk
Oh oh… Now you gonna get Kigali started… LMAO!!!
But it’s the truth though… We’ve got too many Sistas that don’t want to use birth control, what’s up with that…
how bout bossip stop the hate that they do against the black females they post….that’s all ya’ll post honestly a bunch of hate….and always choose the worst pictures of people….how bout bossip stfu on the subject until they start practicing it themselves. I agree whole heartedly with what someone else said on here..about when you have God in your life and have a relationship with him you realize he’s literally taking care of you so there’s no need to hate on anyone else….bossip start with YOURSELF.
TO ALL THE WEAK BLKWOMEN! Why are you afraid of a real Blackwoman ? A real Blkwoman will celebrate and uphold a real Blkwoman.Blkman iz not afraid of a real Blkwoman! He respectz her,he honors her, and would have her no other way ..so sistaz be yourself ..You dont know what it meanz to our future on this planet if we hate ourselves as Blk ppl period!
Low self-esteem and the ever present up-in-your-face, don’t ***** with me attitude which usually is over or about some BS that in the long run don’t mean a thing.
Bwahahahah
this is bull***** because black women do not hate on each other fact: when a sista see another sista with something fly we always give a compliment we don’t hate on each other so once again bossip comes up with another bull***** ***** article to try an bring down the black woman bossip ***** YOU!!!! quick question why do other women from different races hate on black women? hmmmm black women we are the *****…
@MS. SIPPI:
Cool story.Good point. That being said…BOSSIP is a gossip site.As such…pretty much everybody comes here to rag.What I hope is happening however-is that over time…collective consciousness is raised even through the perceived negativity.I don’t expect a site like this to be on it’s best behavior at all times.It’s just good junk food.
@always knew,
You belong to an ethnic group in this country who has some of the lowest levels of educational attainment. Instead of knocking community colleges, why not support them at helping education black peoples? Considering there are so many single mothers among black women, community college seems like an option for them to increase their job skills while they work and have to maintain families. Its also rather cheap and they have many financial incentives for working mothers in terms of tuition waivers, book vouchers, trade skills… you know thinkgs that are VERY relevant to blacks in this country.
I love the community college system because it helped me to transfer to the univeristy of my choice. They have special programs for black and latino low income students. They were dying to get as many of us black and latino students as possible into UCLA, UC Berkely, USC, all of the top schools in California. I appreciate very much the role that community colleges play in the lives of thousands of black and latino students. Perhaps you should too.
I think we should all hate on Asian women. They REALLY have it going on.
okay bossip,i can see that ya’l are running out topics to talk about….despirados
@Sydney
I don’t keep track of your posts or anybody elses, you’re just on Bossip ALL OF THE DAMN TIME and it looks PATHETIC… EVERY and ANYbody who’s comes to this website can see that you’re on here ALL OF THE DAMN TIME… I can click on literally any post and see a comment of yours from 8AM to Midnight, it’s not hard for anybody to notice…
You can be on here all you want, but when you start posting articles from other websites on Bossip to start a conversation (*which you do ALL OF THE TIME) it just looks… Oh nevermind…
@Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators (Keepin’ It Real – D’Original)
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Indeed. ;^D Mattafak…I feel a Kigali post coming on in 3…2…1…
A real Blkman wantz nothing other than a real Blkwoman! A real Blkman dont want no weak watered down, overly submissive,non opinonated,non intelligent,non thinking,overly emotional,White Bimbo Bytch, type of women ..Sistaz these are the same women you model your Blk self after!
Hate is not only a black woman thing; women of all colors are always trying to tear each other down. Women are their own worst enemy. Honestly I have faced more discrimination in my life from more women than men. I am a business owner, and most of the people I network with and have helped my business have been men. Unfortunately, some women get jealous to see other successful women. But I don’t worry about women who are haters anymore. I am secure and I know where I am going in my lifetime. I just walk by haters and keep it moving. Bye hater.
If you come across so many sistas with attitudes (as you’ve written on here repeatedly), it may just be your own nastiness that attracts them. Think about it.
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@Sydney
WRONG!!!
I come across S.W.A (*Sistas With an Attitude) all over the place and not just at certain spots… Ask any Brother, he’ll tell you…
If you don’t think Sistas don’t have attitudes = Ok, then – that’s your opinion and I’m quite sure a lot of Brothas will disagree with that…
@Slide
You post personal notes to Bossip writers and curse out random women who say something derogatory about a certain celeb, who again doesn’t know who you are. Yeah, that’s pathetic.
And now you’re trying to argue with a woman in a thread about black women? Really manly.
@Slide
“If you don’t think Sistas don’t have attitudes = Ok, then – that’s your opinion and I’m quite sure a lot of Brothas will disagree with that…”
I don’t worry about the opinion of brothers like you — You have major attitude and issues, so as far I’m concerned, you’re going to have problems. You’re negative.
Why does Bossip hate black women?
Thank God someome is really talking about this issue, it’s tearing our community apart, and it’s pointless..I don’t even like to walk past a group of Black women, because they are so critical, and why? Why can’t we support, admire, and love one another..why the jeolousy, hate, and envy…so very sad…I’m so glad my twin Sister and I are extremely close, otherwise, I’d have all white friends..Black women are too hard to deal with.
Three out of the last four restraining orders I had to file were against non-black women because they get so emotionally attached after the first time I serve them with chocolate thunder!
What in the hell can you do with a white bytch? you cant do a damn thing to a woman like this!this iz the type of weak woman that white woman iz,a real Blkman dont want no weak white ho like this!Only a weak punk would desire a white woman over you sweet Blk sistaz ..real talk,so he could control and dominate over her just to appear strong!
and yes, “most” Black Women have “nasty” attitudes,,and it hurts me to even admit that, because I am a Black woman, and proud of it, but we need to change our ways…I cannot blame the Black man for dating women of other races…I really cannot blame them at this point….Black women are getting worse by the moment…
@Glock, hello, you are totally proving my point…
You post personal notes to Bossip writers and curse out random women who say something derogatory about a certain celeb, who again doesn’t know who you are. Yeah, that’s pathetic.
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@Sydney
It’s a joke doodoo… And so, what?
I used to work in the entertainment industry and have either partied or worked with a number of the celebrities that are posted on Bossip in REAL LIFE… I mention that fact “occasionally” and usually just bring it up to support how I know a certain fact about them or the issue that is being discussed…
I’ve ignored you for months (*even with the number of side comments that you’ve made towards me) and TODAY I’ve decided to respond to something that you’ve said to me… I’m not arguing with you = all I did was respond to a comment that YOU MADE TO ME and I’m just recommending that you get some hobbies instead of being on here so much, if you don’t want to that’s fine, I don’t care…
@SS! O YEAH! Check this out sistah…Areal Blk man dont want no brainless white bytch,dead weight,lingering around him.He wantz to be in the company of intelligence and strength!A intelligent and strong Blkwoman will nurture you into an intelligent and strong Blkman, if you allow her to brothaz,by getting off your ego first !A punk azz woman makes a punk azz man! And i dont want no punk AZZ sista nursing my children with no punk azz milk!!!
@Slide
So name-calling, too? Wow, you’re a prize. Once again, be the person you want to attract.
Yeah, I know. You used to post a lot of stories about your parties about Diddy, I recall.
If you’ve noticed, I haven’t posted anything addressed to you in quite some time, but I do find your “nuggets of wisdom” amusing. I recommend that you get some cl*****.
it’s a dman shame!!!!!!!!!!
damn*
It’s not a black woman thing. It’s a woman thing. I saw a similar article in the new yourk timres regarding white women in the work place.
having said that I think we black women get along great. all my best friends are black female and we support each other.
Women in genera have issues when they compete for men and in a workplace that only has room for one or two of us.
@Always Knew and Sydney
Don’t let Kigali fool u. He hates all black women: light ones, dark ones, and mixed ones. Please peep his disfunction. He claims he is a black woman so he can spread his sexist hate freely. His moniker use to be ’spiking black women’s drinks with birth control’ now its ‘black women 101′. And anytime the discussion is about black men or black violence he always steers the conversation back to black women bearing illegitimate kids. never not once have I heard him spread some of that blame to black fathers. I mean it does take two to tango, black men are just as responsible for our communal problems as black women. Never not once did he say anything about brothers having to wear condoms.–He hates black women. So he loves this perceived battle between light vs. dark women, not realizing that european colonization keeps all black women down. Not realizing that european colonization affects the black male’s self-esteem too.
He hates black women, period. check out the Angela Davis post then peep everything this negro who proudly proclaimed ‘lickin’ crackers *****’ has to say.
Speaking of fine black women, my lady cop friend will be here soon so I need to go change and heat the jacuzzi up!
Another example: the director of sisterhood of the traveling pants says he was told before they started shooting taht with ll these women in the movie there will be lots of arguing–agin they were talking about white women. He was surprised when there was actually no arguin, but still you see the perception persists for all women not just black women.
Another example: see ametica’snext top model How many times do the contestants of all races say ” I can’t live in a house with all girls”
Dont take on the mindset of your oppressor, lest you recieve the same doom and destruction that iz due to him!You dont want no weak submissive,un intelligent,non thinking Blackwoman,because she will produce weak,submissive,un intelligent,non thinking Black children and thatz where our problem stemz from!
Unfortunate but true, women need to come to the realization that it is not necessary to tear someone down in order to lift yourself up. It takes an effort and the concept of wanting for black women the same things that you want for yourself. We can engage in this behaviour easily. I am sure that Serena, Taraji and Iman came together with respect and admiration for each other and connected because each has had to work hard to obtain their status and still feel challenged in their prospective endeavors.
All Black Women are Beautiful and we never need to let any man come between us; when we are weak on that issue it allows the man to become weak. “Act Like a lady think like a man” Read Steve Harveys book, brothers always hold each other down. They dont stress, if you show your sister respect, if she gives you attitude and you still show her your positive demeanor you place her on the spot since she is used to acting in a nonloving way towards another black female. We must teach this by example, younger black girls watch us and learn by our examples.
@ ddot
how bout bossip stop the hate that they do against the black females they post….that’s all ya’ll post honestly a bunch of hate….and always choose the worst pictures of people….how bout bossip stfu on the subject until they start practicing it themselves. I agree whole heartedly with what someone else said on here..about when you have God in your life and have a relationship with him you realize he’s literally taking care of you so there’s no need to hate on anyone else….bossip start with YOURSELF.
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Nice one. I’ll cede a portion of that point to you. But, at the end of the Bossip ain’t *****ing real, baby. We’re talking about real life. Like, why you may talk ***** about your girlfriend and her relationship when you don’t have a man. Or, why you always scrunch up your face at another chick who is clearly cute. ***** like that. Or, why you say “I don’t like that *****” when referring to black women. Cuz I know the ***** gets said. Bossip is *****ing entertainment, we’re talking serious business here. Like Bossip is the end all be all with regard to black women. Come on now, sis. Get off it and get with it.
LMAO as a whole black people we hate on each other far to much
I don’t worry about the opinion of brothers like you — You have major attitude and issues, so as far I’m concerned, you’re going to have problems. You’re negative.
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@Sydney
ISSUES? WTF?
You’re the one on Bossip 24/7…
I just remembered you being on here from 3AM to the next day for 24 STRAIGHT HOURS (*when Bossip posted the Rihanna’s bruised face) cause I was reading through the comments and wondering = damn when is this b#tch gonna step away from the mother f#cking computer and give this sh#t a rest, don’t you want to go to sleep? It’s just Rihanna and the thread is gonna be there tommorow for you to comment on, just post your comment and converse about it for a little bit, BUT DAMN you was on this joint for hours on end to the next day…
Do you understand this is a just a little ol’ gossip blog and that you should have life outside of it? Nevermind, if you haven’t realized it already I don’t know what to tell you…
The key is having the right black women as friends, and networking out to other positive black women that come from good positive families and backfrounds.
Lmao@ Glok9n he must have been hurt by a white woman cause seriously dude you going hard on em..
No one should be surprise by this article….Black women stay hating on each other. But I think it’s the uneducated black women that bring EVERYONE down.
I dunno. In my experience black women get along well. I mean realistically speaking, if we didn’t have each other what the ***** will we do? I mean we sure as hel don’t have our men muchless for other races. So it just wouldn’t make sense for us to isolate each other, at least not to the extent expressed in the article. i think the author is talking about white women or something. even in the workplace the one two black women i encounter, we hold on to each other for dear life. these white women at work will flipping cut you if you don’t have a support base.
@Slide
First, I don’t know which thread you’re talking about, but, yes, that issue did interest me, and I commented quite a deal, along with some other posters.
As for your continued name-calling, we’ve already established that you have a dearth of manners and cl*****, but if you wish to continue spewing that kind of language, be my guest. Like I’ve said, you’re showing real manhood.
I only see one bi**h in this thread.
Jesus loves the lil children all the children of the world…Red and Yellow, Black and White they are precious in his sight cause Jesus loves the lil children of the world…. Thats the way I look at it if Jesus can love all races then I a lesser person than him can love them also…So I dont descriminate on a good white woman a good black woman chinese asian mexican indian…..If she treats me good im all for it just because shes black doesnt mean she will treat you good….
A weak Blackwoman will give birth to a weak Black Nation!Thatz why a true, real and wise Blackman will not settle for anything less than a 100 percent 100 proof absolutely pure and absolutely strong minded Blackwoman with no bimbo like characteristics attached via white bytch or anthing else!
@Slide
And, yeah, anyone who converses with women like you do has issues and is one to avoid.
GLOK9 NEVER EVER HAD A TASTE FOR WHITE CHOCOLATE NEVER!LOL!
Re white women:
when i worked in my job in england, the black women would talk in secret and be scared to be seen as buddy buddy. they were too scared to be perceived as conspiring by their catty white female co-worker.
at first i thought they were being ridiculous, until i went to lunch with a black co-worker, and my whte supervisor got *****ed and tried to dock my pay, saying that we stayed an extra five minutes at lunch, and that this was witnessed by two others (white women). It was jsut madness considering that they used to go off for 2 hour lunch breaks. never seen anything like it. that white female venom is toxic but somehow people make out like they are angels.
any of you want to share your white female horro stories? i think this is a good time to share.
If you’ve noticed, I haven’t posted anything addressed to you in quite some time, but I do find your “nuggets of wisdom” amusing. I recommend that you get some cl*****.
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@Sydney
If you don’t post a comment to me, please explain to me why should I care? Seriously, I need to understand why I should care so I can laugh at the stupid reason… SMH
I have tons of cl*****, but you SERIOUSLY need to get some hobbies though cause being on Bossip the way you are isn’t too healthy and makes you look… Nevermind, you said I’m negative and so for just for a few seconds I’ll be positive = Have A Great Weekend
I love how Kigali thread jacked and turned it into a dark vs. light issue. Peep he is only using that to talk crap on black women. He said something about how good black women have it good because of welfare. He said we use welfare to feed our daughters and granddaughters, I guess he is saying that young black males have never been fed with food stamps. I guess he is saying that poor women haven’t used their welfare checks to clothe and shelter black males. And I guess ALL black women are welfare mothers, despite our continued educational and professional advances. And I guess maintaining a relationship with black men is the sole responsibility of black women. –Sisters this self-hating, probably butt ugly, social misfit that we black women are happy to give up is a shinning example of the madness that keeps all BLACK People divided.–U know u are off when even the brothers routinely tell u to shut the hell up.–
KIGALI IS A OLD UGLY WHITE WOMAN.. I SECOND THAT STATEMENT AND COULDNT AGREE MORE. ALWAYS ON HERE TALKING SHYT ABOUT BLACK WOMEN!
NOT ONLY BLACK WOMEN ON HERE HATE BLACK PEOPLE PERIOD ON BOSSIP HATE.. YOU CANT EVEN VOICE YOUR OPINION ON THE BLOG WITHOUT A BUNCH OF NEGATIVE CRAP OR IMPOSTERS WITH THE CHILDISH MESS!
I only see one bi**h in this thread.
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@Kigali
Don’t worry about it and don’t pay her no mind… We’ve already established that she has a dearth of manners and cl*****…
anyone who converses with women like you do has issues and is one to avoid.
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@Sydney
You talk to me however you want, I’ll talk to you however I want…
@Slide
I suppose you care about as much as I have not having posts addressed to me from you, lol.
You have cl*****? Maybe the definition of it has changed. *shrugs*
You have a great weekend, too.
“@Kigali
Don’t worry about it and don’t pay her no mind… We’ve already established that she has a dearth of manners and cl*****. . .”
Funny
No, the finger is pointed squarely at you, lol. You like Diddy, right? Try following his doctrine on bi**ha**ness. 
I AM A BLACK WOMEN WITH VERY FEW BLACK GIRLFRIENDS. EVER SINCE I WAS LITTLE I CAN REMEMBER HEARIN THE LIGHT SKIN DARK SKIN DEBATES AND KNOTTY HAIR LONG HAIR FOOLISHNES..EVEN AMONG FAMILY MEMBERS..IT TOTALLY *****ED ME UP..MY MOM IS BLACK MY DAD IS PUERTO RICAN BUT I ALWAYS FELT LIKE MY FAMILY MEMBERS AND EVEN MY SISTERS AT TIMES WERE ALWAYS JEALOUS AND COMPETING WITH ME..IVE COME TO FIND OUT THATS JUST LIFE..HIGH SCHOOL WAS A ***** BECAUSE ALL THE OVERWEIGHT, NON-LIGHTSKINNED *****ES WERE OUT TO GET ME..BUT NEVERTHELESS IVE COME TO FIND OUT THAT ALL BLACK WOMEN WANT IS TO BE ACCEPTED AND LOVED..IT WOULD HELP IF SOME OF THEIR DADDIES WERE THERE TO TELL THEM THEY WERE BEAUTIFUL INSTEAD OF TRYING TO BELITTLE ME BC THEY FELT THEY WERENT…
KIGALI isn’t a woman. The ***** slipped up on that post about the Disney Princess….he started talking about his girl in Cali. I never that wasn’t a female. WAKE UP People.
@Slide
“You talk to me however you want, I’ll talk to you however I want…”
No, you’re not going to talk to me any way you want, and I don’t tolerate name-calling. Keep the gutter talk for someone else.
Sydney™ (the real one)
I just a wonderful article a few days ago about the black women who are now in high-profile positions in the Obama administration, including Valerie Jarrett, Desiree Rogers, Lisa Jackson, and others, and there are professional and personal bonds among this group of educated, driven, and accomplished women.
I believe there is power and dignity in the bonds among black women. We should see one another as sources of inspiration, support, and understanding, not competitors.
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And there was also an article in the Washington, about the black sisters in the Obama Admin, just last week, how and how they have formed a strong sisterhood, so It cannot be said, that intelligent, positive desent black women cant get along, its I lie, for thoes that want to keep the sterotype rolling, I have many *****ociates and friends of black women that continue to be a loving and positive force in my life,,, I love my black women sisters, friends, coworkers, *****ociiates and family, That keep me on the straight and narrow with, love, support, and caring,
CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONG
The Washington Post that is.
*as I not having posts*
@Moreaces
Yup, that’s the article I was referring to. It was great, wasn’t it?
Yeah, I know a number of sisters who have positive, uplifting networks of black women around them. They do exist.
No, the finger is pointed squarely at you, lol. You like Diddy, right? Try following his doctrine on bi**ha**ness.
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@Sydney
*YAWN*
Right after you get some hobbies and realize that this site is primarily for laughs & foolishness and that people aren’t interested in the bullsh#t huffingtonpost articles that you like to post on here just so people can talk about WHAT YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT = lame and immature… If people are interested in those topics they’ll be on those websites…
Seriously, please get a life…
HIGH TOP… GOOD LOOKING OUT .. LOL! I KNEW IT!!!
No, you’re not going to talk to me any way you want
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@Sydney
OH, yes I will…
You talk to me respectfully, I’ll talk to you respectfully… It’s as simple as that…
@Slide
I’ve had conversations with people on this site about HuffPo articles and a variety of other issues and stories. Just because they don’t interest YOU doesn’t mean there aren’t individuals who are interested in those sorts of conversations.
Instead of all the personal attacks, you could have responded from the beginning with maturity and dignity, but you chose not to — You tried to bring more of your negativity and sista-bashing into the thread. Seriously, get some cl*****, get some manners, and take a good look at yourself before you complain again about the angry sistas out here. You sound just as angry, if not more, and it’s distasteful.
I was the mixed girl, that looks white, and developed early, and was picked on, and taunted so much by two other black girls, that I transferred to another school.
It wasn’t until college that I was able to make my lifelong (black) friends. But I still get that side-eye glare from the sistas I don’t know, when I am out and about with my (black) husband. SMH.
A Real Blackman will place his black woman on aelevated pedestal and help her to develop in any and everyway that iz possible, because out her comes us!!If she iz weak we are weak if she iz strong so are we strong! ..As for my beautiful strong powerful Black sistaz I want to talk to you …I need to talk to you . Glok hope that you have been paying attention too,you should know that no trrue Blackman wantz a Blackwoman who iz brainless ,thoughtless, and weak! This iz very much undesired by the wise righteous Black men like myself!
@leeha,
The responsibility of birth control is the women’ full responsibility because women are the ones who get pregnant. Yes, it does take two to tango but the fertilizations of the egg only happens in the uterus of a woman. Now go move to Afghanistan so you can enjoy the full consequences of a man having control over your reproduction since you obviously find it too much of a burden.
Black females have for a very long time talked about how they have been the back bone of the community, that they are the head of the house hold and they are running *****. Well when I point out to them that the community that they have been in charge of has many problems, they dont seem to want to be the CEO anymore. LOL. Then they start screaming where the black men at, where is the black men at. LOL.
Black women need to stop making babies with casual men and wait until they have a commited man in their life before they begin a family. That way, they can actually, and in real valuable terms share the responsibility of raising children..
Perhaps I wanst clear enough. Many black females have taken advantage of welfare to supplement their income. This welfare has been so good that their daughters decided it was a good idea to use it and thier daughter’s daughter decide that it was an option. I think society, since the 1960s have done lots more for women and children then they have for single men. In fact our society has been down right hostile to men and especially vulnerable young boys. How many black boys have been put into special education cl*****es, deemed uncontrolable, while their mothers navel gaze and watch their daughters surp***** them?
Then you wonder why there are no eligible black men? There arent any eligible black men because black women didnt do ***** to prepare their sons for the real world. Instead she allowed the school to cage him in like a zoo animal until he was old enough to be housed in the jail house. black females have conspired with white society to sideline their sons because of the black female’s hostility to black men.
Now in 2009 these same young boy, and men have to deal with you *****es telling them they aint *****, they gay or they are brain washed for wanting a non black woman.
God Bless black boys.
WOW! here is an article i totally agree with. it would be nice if black women would stop hating on each other especially in the work place. it doesn’t make any sense to hate someone you don’t know because of how they look or the way the dress. i have an hourgl***** shape and my boss looks me up and down and rolls her eyes at me when i walk by. it doesn’t make sense to me. why can’t we get along with each other. i’ve found that younger girls yeah they hate, but them old hoes are the worst.
@Slide
“@Sydney
OH, yes I will…
You talk to me respectfully, I’ll talk to you respectfully… It’s as simple as that…
Boy, you are something else, lol. Keep on thuggin’.
@High Top,
You ignorant ***** stain. I live in Cali. I am that girl in Cali. I was talking abut my girl, my home girl in Surrey to the Nigerian chick on here who also lives in Surrey.
Now go suck on a fat one.
the only possible i conflict I see between these women would be the catfight over COMMON.
hell most women, black or otherwise, would be hatin on ANY woman with common.
YOU SHOULD HAVE NOT ALLOWED YOURSELF TO TAKE ON ANY OF WEAK CHARACTERISTICS! A LOT OF WOMEN HAVE USED THIS MALE CHAUVINISM,AS AN EXCUSE TO LAZILY SIT BACK AND NOT DO A DAMN THING! THEY DONT WANT TO DEVELOP THEIR OWN POTENTIAL AND JUST WANT LIVE OFF A MAN LIKE A *****KING PARASITE!!!
***** BOSSIP! AFRICA STAND UP!!
HIGH TOP .. I WENT THERE AND SAW THAT! WOW YOU ARE A GOOD DETECTIVE!! LOL!!!
Let me give ya’ll my 20 reasons why Black women and Niggettes cant get along:
20. Black women have husbands, Niggettes have babydaddies.
19. Black women legitimate children with their husbands, Niggettes have………well you know……….lil ugly mistakes.
18. Black women have careers, Niggettes have Dental hygenist training academy or a stash of weed they need to sell.
17. Black women have good credit, Niggettes have a Rush Card!
16. Black women have cars that are still under factory warrantee, Niggette have that 79 impala on 26’s that one of their babydaddies left them before he violated parole for the 3rd time!
15. Black women date, babymommas ***** hoping the next ***** didnt lie when he said “we’d be together forever, imagine how beautiful our baby would look.
14. Black women buy ***** in Bloomingdales and keep it. Niggettes return the ***** after two days. (the amount of time it would take to stink it up at the club before returning it.
13. Black women have bank accounts, Niggettes have *****s they ***** for diapers, *****s they ***** for formula, *****s they ***** for gas money etc.
12. Black women dont wear *****ed up blonde dog hair weaves.
11. Black women dont have the names of every ***** they’ve ever *****ed on the right *****y, or the names of all their kids on the left one.
10. Black women are laughing right now, You niggettes wanna kill me!
9. Black women dont go see Emmitt Perry movies or TV shows, Niggettes dont think he gay or insulting the black community.
8. Black women dont wear gold fronts.
7. Black women love me, the real “Its6amHoGetOut”, niggettes and their *****boy *****s try and impersonate me.
6. Black women understand in this day and age two children are more than enough, Niggettes want me to pick which one of their seven kids she should have aborted then get angry when i pick the ugliest one.
5. Black women dont worship neighborhood pimps or drug dealers, Niggettes say “damn that *****s a baller, I wonder if he be gotten a girlfriend”
4. Black women know a child needs something from the four food groups everyday, Niggettes think Spaghetti-ohs, grape drink, bologna, hot cheetos and Capt crunch are all a child needs to grow up healthy and strong.
3. Black women love every shade of sista, Niggettes jump liteskin black women in the bathroom at a club.
2. Black women pool their money with their husbands to buy a bigger house, a better car or boost the savings account, Niggettes think that new ***** she met at the minimall club is really Lil Waynes Producer, and he only wants her and all her kids.
1. Black women have 5 year plans and meet every goal, niggettes have 5 year plans too, 3/5’s of her babydaddies get released around the same time.
6am, I love most of ya’ll!
Ha! AND THE DENial GOES ON!
If you guys looks at the posts!(All of them)
VERY FEW BLACK WOMEN ADMIT ANYTHING……there in lies your problem!!
And the denial goes on,and on, and on,and on…….
think
lol
@KIGALI:
Now in 2009 these same young boy, and men have to deal with you *****es telling them they aint *****, they gay or they are brain washed for wanting a non black woman.
God Bless black boys.
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Sad.
TRUE.
it’s a fair point to say that SOME Black women like to hate on others who are doing well and may have reached a place where they themselves would like to be, but to suggest that it’s all about jealousy, etc. is not a balanced argument…
there are many successful sisters out there who have adopted the mindset that once they reach a certain level, they are now above other Black women…if there’s one thing I can’t stand, it’s to see Black people who think that because they went to a certain college or come from a certain economic cl***** that they are then justified in feeling that anyone who hasn’t done the same is beneath them…
uppity Blacks are just as bad as those who are supposedly just “hating” IMO
Calm down everyone, this ***** is only a blog
@6AM
Hahahaha….brutha..You HIT IT ON THE HEAD!
TOO DAMN FUNNY,AND TOO DMN CORRECT. NOW..HOW MANY WILL ADMIT IT?
WE NEED THIS SAME THREAD FOR THE BRUTHAS!!
think
TRUE! YOU BLKWOMEN WHO ALWAYZ GOT ***** TO SAY AINT SAY ***** ABOUT THIS PROBLEM IN THIS POST, YOU MUH *****KAZ HAVE NOT SAID JACK *****,THIS BEEF YOU HAVE WITH SELF AND DONT BLAME THE BLK MAN EITHER!
@ Nikkinice,
Youre partly right luv, Do i respect the sista who didnt get pregnant, went to college, got her degree, married then got a job before she had kids more than some hoodrat, ***** talkin’ multiple, nappy weave wearin’ broke ***** uneducated, unemployed babynomma? ***** yeah!
Just because they don’t interest YOU doesn’t mean there aren’t individuals who are interested in those sorts of conversations.
Instead of all the personal attacks
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@Sydney
I’ve been ignoring you FOR MONTHS for a reason, but whatever… I have a life and I’m out after this for real, I ain’t like you = I have a life outside of Bossip…
I’ve simply pointed out that you like to bring up lame stuff that a good majority of the time has nothing to with the post… You like to come on Bossip with those other stories and post them on Bossip JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT… And it’s wack because it’ll be a thread that has a half naked Sista on it and you want to talk about some ol’ serious issue… Me & the fellas ain’t with that… Isn’t this site about ridiculous things? If Bossip wants to talk about a serious or important issue like the one above they’ll post it… OR if people want to discuss serious issues they’ll go to those websites – STOP trying to force stuff down peoples throats…
Personal attacks? WTF?
I’m talking FACTS that’s it – it’s OBVIOUS and plain to see that you’re on here waaay too much… If you don’t like me pointing that out, I don’t know what to tell you… Maybe if it wasn’t the truth than it wouldn’t bother as much as it does, but oh well…
F#ck Bossip, I will NEVER be on this website from 3AM all the way to the next day no matter what the topic is (*like Sydney does) ’cause I have a life outside of Bossip and it’s not that serious for me to post on this website ALL DAY EVERYDAY…
*@Bossip I didn’t really mean f#ck you guys, I was just making a point… I feel as though y’all can kiss my narrow Black a$$ every now and then but other than that whatever, it’s all love
ROFL!
Basically it’s the slave mentality: light vs. dark, big vs. small etc.
HOLLYWOOD BS.. YOU ARE TIGHT ABOUT THAT THING BEING ON BOSSIP PICKING FIGHTS AND FUSSING ABOUT ISSUES… HELL LET HIM/HER DO SOMETHING TO BETTER OUR PEOPLE INSTEAD OF TALKING SMACK AGAINST BLACK WOMEN AND LASHING OUT AT FOLKS WHO DONT AGREE.. SO JUVENILE! NOW WE FIND OUT ITS A MAN,WHAT DAMN WOMAN SAYS MY .. LOL LOL!!
THATS MY GIRL.. TYPO!!!
Lol. Isn’t Bossip the one who always has negative comments to say about black women? Oh these people. The nerve. The hypocrisy never ends.
@6am…
and I “partly” agree with you, hon.. but are those two extremes the only categories that Black women you know fall into? a woman may not have a college degree, and maybe she had kids at a younger age, but is still a married, working woman who doesn’t rely on the system or the local hustler to care for her… my whole point is that there is a middle ground, but for some reason with Black people, it seems you must be one or the other of the examples you gave…
@6AM
Keep speaking the truth Brotha… LMAO
I’m about to watch Obama on 60 Minutes… Speaking of Obama, what happened? I thought you said that he wasn’t gonna win the election and that 6AM is NEVER wrong?
Talk to you later though…
@Mild sauce
And in the meantime,let’s all deny that we have problems.(Sppppppt! IF we deny that we have self-hate issues,maybe they’ll go away.
think
6am’s imaginary confrontation between a liteskin (even 1/2 black 1/2 whatever) sista and a darkskin niggette:
Lite: hi how are you?
dark: hmmph, that ***** thinks shes fine.
lite: I love your skin, so smooth and beautiful
dark: so you’s tryin’ to say it looks like I put Crisco on my face?
lite: No no no, Im just complementing your glow.
dark: so now’s you be sayin’ I glows in the dark?
lite: no, I think youre beautiful.
dark: So you’s be some kind of dyke *****?
Lite: no not at all, I think Ive offended you and I apologise, have a nice day!
dark: grabbing her by the hair, c’mere ***** your Louis Vuitton bag looks real, come up off that **********a!
I agree.. any black female that I have had to work for,turned out awful. They did about anything they could to fire me, white males on the other hand, did everything possible to promote me, and move me up through an org. A sistha will keep you down, especially if you are cute,smart and a threat to them..
@ 6am..
I hat t say it, but damn,,,it’s true!!!
think
@Slide
“And it’s wack because it’ll be a thread that has a half naked Sista on it and you want to talk about some ol’ serious issue… Me & the fellas ain’t with that…”
So you’re representing a contingent? lol
Well, there are “fellas” on the blog who have engaged in conversations on serious, pressing issues. I didn’t know that there was a limit on what could or could not be discussed on this blog.
Are you the Bossip Keeper? I didn’t know, lol.
Oh, and keep on thuggin’ — I know it comes naturally to you.
@ Nikki,
I’d never date or marry a ***** without an education, job or one who already has kids. My girl right now graduates in may and I told her ***** we werent doing ***** until she did graduate.
@ Slide,
I said if all these black people in here didnt do what they said and get out there and vote, Barack wouldnt get elected, fortunately this past election was the biggest turnout of black voters ever.
I make an effort to get along with other black women and I don’t want to come off as fake. I’d love for us all to stick together. Maybe one day. Untill then I’ll reach out to ALL races.
@Hollywood BS
If you’re located in the UK why is your screename “Hollywood BS”?
I ain’t never said anything bad to you… But whatever, if you don’t really like this site why don’t you NEVER come back to it? Or does that make too much sense?
Trust me no one will care or even notice… I’m not trying to be mean I’m being serious
Ya’ll want me to stay or leave?
Fact did you know
78% of black women are overweight and 50% is obese
@ Lourdes,
Youre funny, the last liteskin ***** who tried to reach out to darkskin sista’s lost her natural hair in a bathroom at that hood club, now she has to wear a wig for the next 5 months because she got tired of people calling her “patches”
@ AKeyes,
If you date 1/2 asian 1/2 black sista’s theres a 75% chance she’ll never get fat.
theres a 90% chance your daughters will be beautiful and will never need weaves.
Asian women have some of the prettiest legs ever.
I greet all people with a smile. I treat all people the way I want to be treated, but some people are just stank. For the most part I ignore it. I think that in some instances there is insecurity. If some chicks just calmed the hell down they would realize that we’re in this together and instead of knocking another sister down they should encourage and support her.
I have told plenty sisters in the workplace in a very nice way if they are coming off wrong, stank, or stuck-up. I even went so far as to tell sista’s about the too tight clothes. Hey if I don’t look out who else will?
@z…what you said is true …when i was in England too my white boss would make all sorts of unauthorized deductions from my pay among other things.Of the group of black females in this work environment ,I was the only one confident enough to question him(in a polite way of course).My black colleagues segregated themselves from me because fearing to be seen as conspirators with me..my only friends then were some white chicks who could care less if he saw us *****ociating.These same females talked crap behind my back but in the end benefited from my *****ertiveness.
I’m so glad I have a group of about 15 black girlfriends from high school we are all different shades some light some dark but we don’t have those issues. I mean sure we get on eachother’s nerves from time to time but that’s regular stuff that comes along when you deal with a big group of women. I know ppl harp on the light vs dark deal but I don’t deal with that in my personal life. I’m mixed but I’m darker than most of my non-mixed friends. We just never focus on that crap. It’s pointless.
On the other hand whenever I have an issue at work it’s always with a black woman. I don’t understand what the problem is. I’m young but I was raised right by my parents I don’t disrepect my elders or act inappropriate around anyone at work. Yet the first time something happens it’s always a black women running and telling. Where I work telling on someone doesn’t get you that next promotion so unless someone is straight ***** you at work why go run and tell about something so simple. I don’t get that??? A friend of mine who recently moved to Atlanta told me that there is a lot of tension between older black women and younger black women there. I’m not sure if it’s due to the lack of straight black men or what. Why can’t we all just get along!!!
I am a black British female who grew up in the ‘ghetto’ have family members who don’t aspire to better themselves in terms of getting a higher education etc. I chose to for myself (then got pregnant despite using protection) took myself out of the course, returned when my child was nine months old and graduated last year. I don’t think I am better than black females who have not opted for this even if I think that the way they choose to live their lives does not empower or liberate our communities. That being said I am constantly on the receiving end of negative vibes and ’side eyes’ from other black women which has made it so I have very few black female friends, and the friendship with a group of friends I had once came to a demise because I guess they felt threatened by me or . . to be fair I don’t really know because I was a good loyal freind and they stabbed me in the back. Why so much hate? I just don’t have it in me, God is love, this is where I get my strength.
LMAO!
@6am
Stay, you’re much more entertaining than the “Angry Black Man/Bossip Keeper,” lol.
Kigali (Introduction to the New Black Woman 101)
@always knew,
“There’s the unfair issue of being at the bottom of the totem pole, being consistently disrespected by society at large…”
Oh please. society at large have given black women and women in general such a priveldge position. White women have it best but black females have been practically untouchable. All of the transfers of wealth from the middle and upper cl***** to the working cl***** and working poor to which black females and their familes form a significant part of. The welfare, the medical, the section 8, the project housing, crystal stairs, job training, scholarships, more women than men in university… Dam you *****es have had it so good your daughters and grand daughters have been on welfare. Generations of black female headed families have been feeding at the trough and no one was allowed to say anything to you without being accused of racism of sexism. Girl bye.
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Stank *****, I have never been on welfare an I don’t have any daughters. My mother, whom was married to my father, lived in the same household and raised us with values.
*****, I suggest you learn who you are speaking with before you go open your retarded ***** mouth, not knowing anything that you are talking about.
This is why I hate community college people, you THINK you know everything!
But don’t KNOW ISH! Go to your local welfare or liquor store and go celebrate with your mom, that she didn’t make more of you, you pink ***** troll…
@6AM
Fam, you won’t believe this…
I went to your boy Pastor Manning’s Church up in Harlem NYC to see the comedy show in living color with my own two eyes (*this goes on the list of one of the craziest things I’ve done)… *I was up there to catch Jadakiss performing at the Apollo Theater and was like f#ck it, while I’m there let me go and see what Atlah Ministies is about, I’ma just check it out for an hour and then dip afterwards…
So, throughout the service Pastor Manning kept on referring to Obama as “the long legged mack daddy” and called Obama “an emissary of the devil”…
But anyways… I bring this up ’cause I left early but before I left I asked them what were the reasons why they didn’t like Obama and one thing that they brought up is that they said he wasn’t really the President of the United States ’cause he’s not a U.S. Citizen… Question: People born in Hawaii are U.S. Citizens right? (*I know I could goggle it or whatever…)
@ ALWAYS KNEW
I agree, I married foreign and encourage all my sisters, who can’t or don’t want an African-American male, not to swirl but to give the foreign blks a chance. Once the do, they NEVER go back…It could very well be an AFrican-Americna black problem…Along with so many other issues that plague our communities….
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Where’s your husband from? If you don’t mind me asking.
I’d like to broaden my horizons and start dating outside of my race but also start dating black men from outside of the U.S.
Dumb. Women as a whole hate on each other. Men as whole compete with one another. This has NOTHING to do with race. NEXT!!
@ Iolastar, sairez, what and bianca,
while I applaud your diversity and ability to get along with all shades of sista’s, I can tell none of ya’ll are ghetto just by your names. Not one “shaquanda, sheniqua, Loquitia, umbilical, placenta or Peaches” in the group. But lets be real, dark *****es hate lite and caramel *****es because ya’ll get all the attention and can grow real hair!
I’M SO TIRED OF PEOPLE MAKING BLACK PEOPLE SEEM LIKE WE ARE THE WORST KIND OF PEOPLE..ALL WOMEN ***** AND COMPLAIN AND FIGHT AND KEEP UP MESS..NOT JUST BLACK WOMEN. WHITE WOMEN KEEP UP MESS BETWEEN EACH OTHER ALL THE DAMN TIME. I’M TIRD OF PEOPLE COMING UP WITH STATISTICS AND BLACK PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS # 1.
EVERY ISSUE THAT BLACK PEOPLE HAVE TODAY ALL DATES BACK TO SLAVERY..(LIGTH SKIN V. DARK SKIN..GOOD HAIR BAD HAIR..ETC)THEY PUT US AGAINST EACH OTHER OVER 500 YEARS AGO AND ITS STILL WORKING. WAKE UP BLACK PEOPLE.
@6am- that was funny, your list but I still don;t like that you particpate with Kil*****head with mean behaviour towards blk women, when you know that it takes 2. Some of the most trifling brothers, create their own realities too….
come on ,admit it. I’m glad that you have stopped genrealizing as much, it makes your comments much easier to read. We are not all alike. I do wish we (sisters), were able to get ourselves together more, then maybe that would help reverse some of these, comedic situations, that you presented..
Youre funny, the last liteskin ***** who tried to reach out to darkskin sista’s lost her natural hair in a bathroom at that hood club, now she has to wear a wig for the next 5 months because she got tired of people calling her “patches”
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Hilarious
I am sorry ….I mean I see that black women do not have the options that white women do…
white women can date any race
black men do not treat women well
and black women are mean and jealous
especially of white women
they are angry and negative
hostile is more like it
they do not work well
they spend more money on cloths
every day is fashion day
but do they really produce….no
so you have a mean black woman and a mean black man getting together then you have mean black kids who kill each other and make our streets unsafe…and all this money goes to support them…actually socialism is for the black community…they get vouchers to move ..then everyone fears them when they come in the neighborhood …they pay lower taxes but get more government handouts…we all pay and subsidize them…
we have to bring immigrants in because blacks dont want to work
it is a sad mess…wake up change please ….it does not have to be like this
we are all in this mess together…quit making your life and everyone elses so miserable with your negativity and crime
@ Yeah I said it,
I think all darkskin *****es should marry liteskin or white *****s, imagine the hit the “weave industry” would take, kids no longer needing that *****!
@ Slide
Hawaii is the 50th state since 1959
@ 6am
Actually you’re wrong one of my friends in my group is dark skinned not mixed with anything and her hair is to her butt. No lie.I’m mixed and my hair is past my shoulders but not longer than some of my other friends. I wouldn’t mind being darker I think there is nothing more beautiful than an even skin toned dark skinned woman. Ok well other than a chocolate MAN! lol
Women are just *****y being black got nothing to do with it.
@ Always knew,
its impossible to hate me luv, you may get mad at my *****, but hate me? never!
@ What,
there is such a thing as an 1 in a million. Im happy you have a darkskin female friend, if you get in a fight at the club they’re usually the ones who’ll take up for you, darkskin *****es can fight really good!
@ What,
Why do darkskin *****es always have ugly feet?
Hawaii is the 50th state since 1959
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@6AM
I KNOW… But them folks are crazy and I’m not really one to argue with crazy folks… I knew that Hawaii was apart of the U.S but you can’t tell them folks nothing… I was scared and had to leave…
These dude was calling Obama “the Long Legged Mack Daddy” throughout the service and is 6′2 his damn self…
Should i leave now ya’ll? my friends say i should go see a movie callede “Miss March” they say that is the funniest ***** they’ve ever seen with black people in it.
I don’t know what it is but I could never made friends with black females but Black men are mad cool. I went to a predominatly black elementry school and it was hell I had to hang out with the boys.Middle school was really bad I couldn’t wear my hair down because a black girls were mad wanted to fight me or I would get chased down the street because i had a dress on it was always The big dark girls that hated me for no reason.
@6 am-” But lets be real, dark *****es hate lite and caramel *****es because ya’ll get all the attention and can grow real hair!”
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There are dark and real light, in my family. No difference between any of us. Light skinned does not equal pretty. And so what if they get attention…Only insecure people care what other people think, in the first place…
In my own family, it wasn’t so much that our light skinned family members were better than, it was more along the lines, that they were very slack, about everything. Their schooling, lessons, c*****s, husework, work ethic, or lack their of, they never really accomplished too much. But the dark skinned people were the ones with all the businesses and land..When our parents,uncles, aunts and grandparents started to die, they left their estates, and they would often be overlooking certain individuals in their wills, because certain people didn’t have the ‘right work ethic’…
I’m always the first to admit, when I see a beautiful person, whether they are male/ female, young/ old, light/ dark, wealthy/poor, spiritual/nonspiritual, nasty in action/ ways and words of that person…
I said all that to say this…It’s truly sad when people think that who you are inside your skin ties to what you can achieve, accomplish and the way you perceive yourself…Because I always received compliments, I never knew there was a stigma attached to being dark-skiined, until I left home, for college. Keep in mind, out of all the various private schools and universities, I didn’t encounter color issues, until dealing with the ‘rest of the world’…I never knew the difference..I do get insulted when people tell me that I am jealous of someone, because of skin pigmentation. How do that know that I even consider whoever they are thinking of,as competition? Why do you THINK I feel less than, when I don;t..Maybe that’s your perception. Which you then project onto others…I have seen plenty beautiful dark,light, in between, exotic, people that are beautiful. Sometimes your personality can be ugly, and you can have it going on outside, but noone wants to be around you because of your negative attitude….It just depends…But as a rule, I never hate on someone because of their skin.
BLACK IS BLACK, DUH!
Fact did you know
78% of black women are overweight and 50% is obese
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@AKeys_Stan XOXOXO
Yeah, I know…
If you go to the Department of Health and Human Services Website it says that “4 out of 5 Black women are overweight or obese”…
or google “black women and obesity” you’ll see stats similar to what you pointed out…
I really don’t understand the competition against one another I really don’t. I didn’t even know that Africans did not really care for Black americans. I get I understand why they feel the way they do I don’t like but I am able to sit back and take it in from there point of view. I love being black and a sistah but I don’t like it when other women try to compete even when I am not trying. I feel like one are one of the only races that only think of themselves from an indiviual stand point except as a whole, only when it comes to OBAMA. Then…and only then is the only time I am seen Black Americans and all the races for that matter be uplifting. For that brief moment it felt good to be the race that I know we can be. I mean we should encourage and not be intimadated when another female looks,good or has it going on or vice versa like has it going on and looking down on those who wish to be in your position. Step back take a look around it’s not that many of us it’s enough to share. We are the lowest on the todem pole as far a race. And why is that you ask yourself?…Because all we have gotten used to is tearing down and destroying rather than uplifting and growing together.
Tiray…. Whatever.. i can understand what you are saying but thanks i dont have self-hate issues TO go away, i love my blackness and black women , i love black people and self love is the first thing. I only come out of pocket on folks who come at me. I dont need to think i know how i feel and as long as i love and respect my black people and my black family im all right with myself!
I don’t know what it is but I could never made friends with black females but Black men are mad cool. I went to a predominatly black elementry school and it was hell I had to hang out with the boys.Middle school was really bad I couldn’t wear my hair down because a black girls were mad wanted to fight me or I would get chased down the street because i had a dress on it was always The big dark girls that hated me for no reason.
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@AKeys_Stan XOXOXO
You out in Wisconsin right? (*I think you’ve mentioned that before) What’s the percentage Black people up there and have you ever thought of moving to a city with a decent number Black People like Chicago, etc.. to be around more Black People? Just curious
Hey, do you know what ever happened to that Black dude up there that supported McCain? The one who stood up during one the Republican Rallys and said some crazy stuff, I’m quite sure he’s from Wisconsin…
Best Example Alicia Keys and India Arie I love Alicia. but lets be serious if India was lighter she would be Poppin they make the same type of music
Why would anyone think they wouldn’t get along for the cover shoot? Serena always seems nice and although I don’t know much about Iman and Taraji they don’t seem like obvious *****es like Kimora. Anyways, Black women aren’t the only ones who diss each other, it happens in ALL races!
@ Milaa,
Black women can date any race they want too, they just gotta be able to put up with certain things;
10 you’ll never meet his grandparents.
9. You’ll have to get used to his daddy saying “ive always wanted to try one of you people, but I liked my job and possibility of promotion better”
8. Do you know thw lady on the pancake box?
7. Honey can you try cooking “without” seasonings once in a while?
6. You like hot sauce I like Mayonnaise whats the problem?
5. Do you mind if I sit in the backseat when we drive thru white neighborhoods?
4. Do all niggettes shed?
3. Baby i lent your brother a thousand dollars last year, can you ask for it back?
2. Afro sheen aint body lotion? but I like the glow it gives me.
1. My mom does like you, everyday she says your a credit to your race, nothing like those dumb hood *****es we see in Emmitt Tyler perry movies!
BLACK IS BLACK, DUH!
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@always knew
Let something come up missing, white people will remind you that you’re black right then and there… SMH
some dark skinned sistas have long hair and real hair .. a lot in my neighborhood like Keisha Knight (rudy), and long hair is not something to be so up about as long as a chick is not baldhead and has her own hair im cool. I dont really care if its long, butt length or whatever its just hair!
I think all women hate on eachother in general. I grew up in the suburbs and white females are just as bad…trust me.
However in the black community in general we’ve grown up(even without knowing) with constant messages of self hatred rooted from our ancestors which were perpetuated by slavery and all of that so its really deep. I’m a light skinned mixed girl and my best friend since pre school is dark skinned and she still claims that the reason why i pull more guys is because of my complexion and the grade of my hair. My grandmother still bears psychological scars because her light skinned sister was treated better than she was. I personally didn’t even know i was light skinned until someone told me because as i child i stayed in the sun so i had a chocolate complexion so i don’t normally identify myself as a skin tone.
I think theres a difference between hating a being real just like i feel theres a difference between being weak and strong, insecure and confident. So only weak and insecure women hate and tear women they view as a treat down. Strong and confident women keep it real, call it how they see it and don’t feel the need to tear a female down because she’s doing her own thing. We need more of those in the world IN GENERAL. Not just in the black community but everywhere.
@Bossip
Bossip=Hate
@Essence Magazine=poor journalism
That is why I don’t have a subscription to your magazine anymore this article is so poorly constructed. I’m not sure what to make of such sensational journalism. Why does anybody hate anybody? What our they doing with this? What kind of message does this put out? This is a “Black Women’s” magazine and it just sounds like a gossip rag. What about Michelle Obama. NO MORE ESSENCE FOR ME!
Bossip-Essence= Oprah Magazine (They have Michelle on The Cover)
I agree with Queeney 100%. This is not a race issue, this is a gender issue across different cultures and backgrounds.
Black aint black, the hood reminds you of that ***** everyday on the 6pm news.
slides… you are right about something coming up missing.. plus they dont care about light skinned , dark butts, long hair, short hait or whatever they put all blacks in the same boat. Its only black folks who have the issues with hair and skin color. In fact i know some white folks who like the blacks who wear afros and act like a black person instead of a wanna be whitey, even though they copy us!
I gotta go ya’ll, you can have your chat back!
As far as women of other races being catty, Laura Ingraham, a white Republican radio host, recently called Meghan McCain fat (or words to that effect — I believe she used the term “plus-sized”). So petty back-and-forth bickering crosses racial lines, to be sure.
Oh, and for the record, women of all skin tones have hair of varying lengths.
@ Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators
Yes I live in Wisconsin but i recently moved here
I’m from M*****. Boston . and Hell no will I live in Chicago I’m to young to die LOL
I got folks in Chicago , been there all their lives and Detroit and they are fine. Its crime everywhere , you just know certain things and leave other things alone but you protect yours.. i love chi and Mich and would never move elsewhere,, well maybe later but not right now!
10 you’ll never meet his grandparents.
9. You’ll have to get used to his daddy saying “ive always wanted to try one of you people, but I liked my job and possibility of promotion better”
8. Do you know thw lady on the pancake box?
7. Honey can you try cooking “without” seasonings once in a while?
6. You like hot sauce I like Mayonnaise whats the problem?
5. Do you mind if I sit in the backseat when we drive thru white neighborhoods?
4. Do all niggettes shed?
3. Baby i lent your brother a thousand dollars last year, can you ask for it back?
2. Afro sheen aint body lotion? but I like the glow it gives me.
1. My mom does like you, everyday she says your a credit to your race, nothing like those dumb hood *****es we see in Emmitt Tyler perry movies!
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LMMFAO!!!!!
Hell on earth >>>>>>>>>>Detroit
Yeah, I Said It
@ ALWAYS KNEW
I agree, I married foreign and encourage all my sisters, who can’t or don’t want an African-American male, not to swirl but to give the foreign blks a chance. Once the do, they NEVER go back…It could very well be an AFrican-Americna black problem…Along with so many other issues that plague our communities….
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Where’s your husband from? If you don’t mind me asking. I’d like to broaden my horizons and start dating outside of my race but also start dating black men from outside of the U.S.
Hubby is Haitian- American. I have some friends who also date Nigerians and some Africans. Most are in school ,aledy have their degrees and/ or businesses started..Like Ogbonna, he owns an Engineering Firm, out here. He’s originally from Nigeria, got his education, started him some business, we met in cl*****, I introduced him o hubby, because my husband does a lot of Third World construction projects…Ogbonna probably did about $15-$40 million, last year…We are still good friends..I;m saying don’t disregard the foreigners, they are more loyal, they are less *****tish and actually have some sense of values…
Very hard-working and determined..Well the ones, I’ve met anyway..I don’t know what state that you live in, but there are black foreigners EVERYWHERE.
They are freer, in their minds ad don’t have the same baggage, that African- Americans carry…
Yes, it’s because of the black man, but not what you think. Black women has fip the strip, they are more often to get their grove on then men. They conceil, and hide it better then the black men. When a black man see a woman that he wants to get with, that’s it. He tries to get with that woman. Different with a black woman, she see, and then says I’m going to give him some. They also lie better then men. Men know the game, but for some reason the women learned how to play it better. But men you have to be ahead of the the game, for those whose trying to learn the game, in other words. pimps up, hoes down, if the game is trying to be played n you.
I dont think the caption is correct it should be Why do black women Hate on each other…my mother had always told me about how some women dont want to see u do better..I think some of it comes from insecurity…if a person is secure in themselves, they wont have time to be jealous of someone else.I have learned to congratulate, not player hate..that kind of hating blocks ur blessings..Also i think women should learn to be loyal to one another..because the ratio of men to women is low in our community, some women will date married men etc..I always say do unto others as u would have them do unto u.
First please let me say
Slide like a fresh paIr of gators your avator is freaking funny and so is that damn pic
NOW FOR THE RESPONSE
I truly do believe that because we were physically separated for somy hundred years we became mentally separated. We have no together-ness about us…Jews, Indians, etc stick togehter no matter what
But we fight each other from every angle and its not just women, its the men too.
WEST INDIANS VS. AMERICAN, RICH VS POOR, HOOD VS HOOD, GANG VS GANG, EAST VS WEST, NORTH VS, SOUTH, BROOKLYN VS HARLEM, QUEENS AND THE BRONX…THE LIST GOES ON WE CAN’T SEEM TO FIND A STRONG BOTTOM GROUND OR LEVEL OF AGREEMENT
As a result some of us give up, leave (swirl), keep fighting, or the few try to be different and change or come up with a solution…
* for so many years hundred
HELL ON EARTH= EARTH PERIOD!
But we fight each other from every angle and its not just women, its the men too.
WEST INDIANS VS. AMERICAN, RICH VS POOR, HOOD VS HOOD, GANG VS GANG, EAST VS WEST, NORTH VS, SOUTH, BROOKLYN VS HARLEM, QUEENS AND THE BRONX…THE LIST GOES ON WE CAN’T SEEM TO FIND A STRONG BOTTOM GROUND OR LEVEL OF AGREEMENT
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I absolutely agree with this, senseless rivalries. SMGDH
whaddup mild
I just asked my liteskin female friend why liteskin and darkskin sistas dont get along, she said when she hugs darkskin women they always smell like burnt hairgrease stuck to a straightening comb.
my darkskin friend says liteskin *****es smell like warm milk and oatmeal thats been sitting out all day.
@ ALWAYS KNEW
Where’s your husband from? If you don’t mind me asking. I’d like to broaden my horizons and start dating outside of my race but also start dating black men from outside of the U.S.
Hubby is Haitian- American. I have some friends who also date Nigerians and some Africans. Most are in school ,aledy have their degrees and/ or businesses started..Like Ogbonna, he owns an Engineering Firm, out here. He’s originally from Nigeria, got his education, started him some business, we met in cl*****, I introduced him o hubby, because my husband does a lot of Third World construction projects…Ogbonna probably did about $15-$40 million, last year…We are still good friends..I;m saying don’t disregard the foreigners, they are more loyal, they are less *****tish and actually have some sense of values…
Very hard-working and determined..Well the ones, I’ve met anyway..I don’t know what state that you live in, but there are black foreigners EVERYWHERE.
They are freer, in their minds ad don’t have the same baggage, that African- Americans carry…
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Looks like he’s a good catch. I live in Houston… Is he close? Lol…. But really though girl.
Sounds like you found a good man!
Oh *****, BRB! These *****es are fighting!
bye all!
flatline!
Blacker the Berry, Sweeter the Juice?
IDK??? What does ***** taste like??
CARACAS, Venezuela — Venezuelan President Hugo Chavez on Sunday called President Barack Obama “ignorant,” saying he has a lot to learn about Latin America.
The Venezuelan leader said he had been ready to name a new amb*****ador in Washington when Obama took office, but put that on hold after the new U.S. president accused him of “exporting terrorism” and being an obstacle to progress in the region.
“At least one could say, ‘poor ignorant person,”‘ Chavez said on his weekly television and radio program, adding that Obama “should read a little bit so that he learns about … the reality of Latin America.”
Chavez’s relations with Washington grew increasingly strained under former President George W. Bush. The Venezuelan president expelled the U.S. amb*****ador and withdrew his envoy from Washington in September. Top diplomats have yet to be restored at either emb*****y.
Chavez and Obama both plan to attend a summit of leaders from across the Americas next month in Trinidad and Tobago. There, Chavez said he will make a case for Cuba to be included in regional talks, saying “we can no longer continue to accept the impositions of the U.S. empire.”
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“We ask only for respect for Venezuela, nothing else,” Chavez said. “If Obama respects us, we’ll respect him. If Obama tries to keep disrespecting Venezuela, we will confront the U.S. empire.”
Chavez said he showed some of the U.S. administration’s critical remarks about him to U.S. Rep. William Delahunt when the M*****achusetts Democrat visited Caracas last week.
“They keep pointing to me as the bad boy, as the one who attacks,” Chavez said. “Who stared the attack first? Obama.”
The U.S. Emb*****y in Caracas did not immediately return a call seeking comment on Sunday
Amen
Its time to do better
Blacker the berry, sweeter the juice, yeah then tomorrow that berry turns moldy and green then its toxic!
Get a berry before its ripe and not dark and you’ll enjoy it longer!
Oh ***** ya’ll make this too easy.
That was my last one I promise.
I like the look on the face of the girl in white, shes sayin’ “I ordered a lobster, crab cakes and crystal and then that ***** got up and went to the bathroom and never came back” hey are ya’ll listening to me? hey!
bye for the 5th time!
i am so happy this subject is being brought up because it so true on so many levels. i dont know why we act like this with each other. i think its to a point where anotha sista would kill you if she could. the jealousy is so deep.
ive always thought it was because we have so much diversity with us. different skin colors, hair length, body types, money and education.
where is with other races all their women are the same complexion, all of them have long hair or can grow it long if they want, if their from a wealthy background all their friends are wealthy also, so there is no competition with that. where with successful black people you have a range of people in your life successful and poor, which can cause envy with your not as successful friends.
i hope im explainin what i think right. but its really sad. especially when were the least sought after women on the earth (as a whole). i feel we need to try and embrace uplift and love one anotha more because we all we got.
@7lady,
If ghetto ***** *****es wouldnt keep reinforcing the stereotypes black women would have it alot easier.
WOW! A MOUTH FULL, MOST STRIKING WOULD BE THE LAST PHRASE IN NATIVE “***** MOMENT FASHION” WOAH!
Am I right?
WHY DO BLACK PEOPLE HATE EACH OTHER SO MUCH, SHOULD BE THE QUESTION ASK?? EXAMPLE WHY DO BLACK MEN, HATE EACH OTHER?
WHY IS THERE SO MANY BLACK ON BLACK CRIME AMONGS THEM, WHY DO BLACK MEN HATE BLACK WOMEN SO MUCH, THAT THEY WOULD RATHER BE WITH ANOTHER RACE, THEN THEIR OWN?
THESE ARE THE QUESTIONS WE SHOULD BE ASKING OURSELVES
IT’S SEEMS THERE IS TOO MUCH HATRED WITHIN OUR RACE AND WE NEED TO BE LOOKING AT ALL OF THIS AND MAKE CHANGES, WE ALL NEED TO SHOW EACH OTHER LOVE INSTEAD OF HATE, WE HAVE COME A LONG WAY SINCE SLAVERY, LEARN FROM THIS PEOPLE. ( UNITED WE STAND, DIVIDE WE FALL )
We can’t get along because BOSSIP always stirring up some sh*t! Lol….
Hate is FEMALE problem not a black female one. It may seem that threough things like the media black females are extra catty or connniving but all women can be this way. Although like I said before this is a good topic for Bossip to post I think the notion that black females hate each otheer more than any other race is just another stereotype we need to get rid of and not augment or add to it.
la la la
@ Time is up,
Black men dont hate each other, innercity black teenagers who watch too much “menace to society, BET, Emmitt Perry movies and Scarface hate each other”
Its fatherless innercity teens who’s mothers made the mistake of *****in’ some nothing ***** ***** unprotected she knew didnt have a job, education or ability to get either, all while knowing he had other kids he wasnt taking care of.
Black people in general hate one another too much, and often for no good reason. However women in general hate on each other ALL the damn time.
tsss black women hate each other and black men whats wrong with afro american society only Damn
@ Its6amHoGetOut, the smartest, most interesting, most honest, and lets be real, the only opinion that really matters.
SO YOU DON’T AGREE WITH WHAT I AM SAYING, TAKE A LOOK AT THE CRIME RATE, HOW MANY BLACK BOYS/MEN ARE KILLING EACH OTHER?
IS THAT THEIR MOTHER’S FAULT? BLACK WOMEN HATE FOR EACH OTHER ARE NOT THAT STRONG AS YOU MEN, WE ARE NOT THE ONE OUT THERE KILLING EACH OTHER
Its6amHoGetOut, the smartest, most interesting, most honest, and lets be real, the only opinion that really matters…
WHY DO YOU PLAY SO DAMN MUCH. I ALMOST CHOCKED ON MY DAMN SNACK AFTER READING THE LIGHSKIN VS DARKSKIN COMMENT…THAT WAS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO FUNNY.
I, LIGHT BUT I DONT DISLIKE DARKSKIN SISTAS BUT SOME DO APPEAR TO DISLIKE ME…I HAVE THIS DANCER (PROFESSIONALLY TRAINED, NOT A STRIPPER)FRIEND WHO HAS ACTUALLY MADE IT INTO A FEW VIDEOS ( ELEPHANT MAN, EVE, SOCA CONCERTS) TELL ME THAT BECAUSE I’M LIGHTER THAN HER ID GET THE JOB BEFORE SHE WOULD ( DANCE BUT I’M NOT PROFESSIONALLY TRAINED)
I’VE BEEN CALLED ***** COLORED BY DARKER GIRLS (I HAVE THE SAME SHADE AS TRACEY ELLIS ROSS WITH BELOVED HAIR, LOL) BUT LAWD AH MERCY LEMME CALL THEM ***** COLORED AND THEY WANNA FIGHT, SO I DONT EVEN BOTHER..WE ALL BLACK…
I 6am hate no one, I am disappointed in the deep south though.
*IM LIGHT
BOSSIP OF ALL PEOPLE SHOULD NOT BE TALKING ABOUT WHY BLACK WOMEN HATE EACH OTHER AS MUCH BLACK HATE THEY DO ON THIS SITE…..BOSSIP STOP HATING ON BLACK PEOPLE PERIOD YOU CAN TALK ABOUT PEOPLE BUT YALL ARE RIDICULOUS ON HERE.
@AKEYS…LOL
EXACTLY LIKE I SAID I MAY NOT BE DARK BUT MY BERRY IS AS SWEET AS THEY COME (I’VE BEEN TOLD)…IF U EAT ALOT OF FRUITS YOUR PU$$Y IS ALWAYS SWEET
BLACK POWER
THEY HATE BECAUSE BLACK PEOPLE HAVE BEEN TAUGHT TO HATE THEMSELVES AND TO THINK BLACK IS UGLY NASTY DIRTY OR BAD PURE AND SIMPLE BRAIN WASHING JUST LIKE WHEN YOU WERE A KID AND YOUR OLDER SIBLING TOLD YOU THAT YOU WERE UGLY AND YOU WENT CRYING TO YOUR MOTHER AND THINKING YOU WERE SAME OLE TYPE BS….FORGET WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK CARE ABOUT YOUR DAMN SELF AND LOVE YOUR SELF DONT WAIT TO OTHERS DO IT CAUSE 9 TIMES OUT OF 10 THEY WONT
@ Time is up,
Black women should not have kids that they cant provide a decent lifestyle for, if you dont have a husband dont have kids, that way there wouldnt be any young men to grow up and kill each other right? It starts at the source, you dont hear about black teenagers in honolulu killing each other.
InBetween,
Heres what you do, next time some darkskin ***** calls you ***** colored, you say, I may be ***** colored but your ***** is ***** colored, and tell me, which one stinks more, which one is easier to wash off, which one attracts flies and you ever tried washing “*****” outta a set of satin sheets?
So ***** you *****, and before you swing on me, let me tie up my “real” hair in a bun then we can get down right now!
*****ODY HATES BLACK WOMEN MORE THAN BOSSIP. SOON THEY WILL BE HATING ON THE 1ST LADY—-WATCH, YOU’LL SEE……..
PAM
I’M SO TIRED OF PEOPLE MAKING BLACK PEOPLE SEEM LIKE WE ARE THE WORST KIND OF PEOPLE..ALL WOMEN ***** AND COMPLAIN AND FIGHT AND KEEP UP MESS..NOT JUST BLACK WOMEN. WHITE WOMEN KEEP UP MESS BETWEEN EACH OTHER ALL THE DAMN TIME. I’M TIRD OF PEOPLE COMING UP WITH STATISTICS AND BLACK PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS # 1.
EVERY ISSUE THAT BLACK PEOPLE HAVE TODAY ALL DATES BACK TO SLAVERY..(LIGTH SKIN V. DARK SKIN..GOOD HAIR BAD HAIR..ETC)THEY PUT US AGAINST EACH OTHER OVER 500 YEARS AGO AND ITS STILL WORKING. WAKE UP BLACK PEOPLE.
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AIN’T THAT THE TRUTH, ABOUT TIME, SOMEONE SAY IT AS IT IS
WELL DONE PAM, KEEP IT REAL
Why r ppl sayin “IM LIGHT” OR “IM DARK” this topic is about black women hating each other not skin shade. Is that a factor in black-on-black female hate? Maybe but the fact remains black is still black even if its very light. There is no light skin/ dark skin box on applications.
just because a black man date outside his race he gotta hate his Race damn LOL U damn fool maybe its love U *****IN RACIST i cant stand women who complain about black men. as for that lightskin and darkskin complexion ***** 3 Words ONLY IN AMERICA
I’d better stop
AND FOR THE RECORD ALL SHADES OF BLACK ARE BEAUTIFUL THERE IS SOMETHING IN EVERY SHADE FOR A BEHOLDER TO FIND BEAUTY IN WHY DO U THINK WE THINK LIGHT SKIN IS GOOD…CAUSE ITS CLOSER TO WHAT IS EMBEDDED IN THE BRAIN AS IDEAL AND WHAT ON THIS EARTH IS SEEN AS SUPREME OVER ALL …WHITE.. AND LIGHT IS CLOSER TO WHITE I SAY( IN MY CHRIS ROCK VOICE)
BOSSIP IS A PERFECT EXAMPLE OF THE “POT CALLING THE KETTLE BLACK”.
EVERY OTHER ARTICLE ON THIS SITE TRASHES BLACK WOMEN, LOOK AT ALL THE TRASHY NAMES AND THINGS THEY CALL BLACK WOMEN.
BOSSIP CULTIVATES HATE FOR BLACK WOMEN,AND BLACK FAMILIES.
6am<———-prefers lietskin or 1/2 black 1/2 whatever *****es, dark hoes even if they’re pretty always have a *****in’ attitude like im the one who got her ***** pregnant and left.
I just finished swimming in my lady cop friend and sent her to bed for a few hours! She will recharge and attempt to handle round two later on this evening.
@ nlsuperstar,
Not to be mean but missy elliott does not look like halle berry
***** ALL YALL WHO HATE FOR DUMB ***** REASONS…..YEP …I THINK THAT COVERS ALL THE HATERS….IN ALL SHADES AND NATIONALITES….HATIN *****ES
@ Daywalker,
Borrow her gun and badge and go pull over fat *****es leaving fast food places, im sure your lady cop is gonna wake up hungry!
NLsuperstar, calm down darky, Not one ***** in here would kick gabriel union outta bed to ***** TI’s lil ugly liteskin *****
Going to see “Miss March” ya’ll
people needs to understand this site is white owned
Why do you see kim kardishian pics all over the site u wonder? why do they post banners on the site about kims show why do they call kimoras man dark ***** night why do they post awful news about black People why do they show more interracial couples and less black couples why do the trash black women.
JUST BECAUSE THEY WANT TO TRASH THE black COMMUNITY
THIS SITE IS WHITE OWNED AND I BET those WHO WRITE The storys and all are WHITE.
*****ODY HATES BLACK WOMEN MORE THAN BOSSIP. SOON THEY WILL BE HATING ON THE 1ST LADY—-WATCH, YOU’LL SEE……..
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LENETTE, I COULDN’T AGREE MORE, THEY ARE A FINE EXAMPLE OF BLACKS HATING ON EACH OTHER
Remember do not support Emmitt Perry movies ya’ll
Bossip is white owned? then that ***** sounding lady that Ive talked to is lyin’ to me” DAMNNIT!
NLsuperstar, calm down darky, Not one ***** in here would kick gabriel union outta bed to ***** TI’s lil ugly liteskin *****
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DARKY………..NUMBER ONE HATER OF BLACK WOMEN ……BLACK MEN……..YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT SHADE I AM AND IF YOU WERE *****ING YOUR LADY COP YOU WOULD NOT HAVE YOUR LIL ***** ***** ONLINE CHIT CHATTING AND ***** OLE ***** MADE PUNK
you guys are funny
Essence magazine is hardly the forum for trying to resolve ANY issues of black-on-black hatred. Having devoted issue after issue after issue on the supposedly HORRIBLE nature of black men, then, surprise, surprise the publishers (pimpettes) noticed this epidemic of black-female-on-black-female hatred.
Well, that pathetic publication has for YEARS promoted the idea that the solution to all the black female’s problem was to get a white man, now what?
Are they next going to propose that all black women dump their black female friends and only *****ociate with white women?
Like I said, that bunch of “pimpettes” ought to LOOK IN THE DAMN MIRROR — they are not part of any solution, they just pimp problems for MONEY.
Umm nlsuperstar (im gonna guess that means new orleans) dummy, I aint *****in’ a lady cop, that would be daywalker, damn deep south education!
How come you aint denied being darkskin?
ONLY PEOPLE I HATE ON IS NO ONE……….I JUST PRAY FOR THEY SIMPLE *****ES IF NEED BE………HATING TAKES ENERGY ID RATHER USE LOVING SO……..TAKE DAT…PUNK
Damn, I almost dropped my laptop in the jacuzzi.
I 6am love black women, what i cant stand is a broke *****, stupid, ghetto, ***** talkin’ uneducated, fat, ugly toe’d, stretchmarked, tatted up, nappy weave wearin’ babymomma hood *****.
Umm nlsuperstar (im gonna guess that means new orleans) dummy, I aint *****in’ a lady cop, that would be daywalker, damn deep south education!
How come you aint denied being darkskin?
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OOPS YOU RIGHT THAT WASNT YOU BUT YOUR ***** IS LIL JUST THE SAME…..AND I HAVENT DENIED BEING DARK SKINNED BECAUSE I AM AND HAVE BEEN FOR MANY YEARS SINCE BIRTH AND DONT GIVE A FLYING RUNNING DIVE IF YOU DONT LIKE IT…..NO ONE STUDIN U
either who gives ***** if ure dark skin light skinned if your light skinned u near damn white if ur dark skin Ure dark ***** the night either way both LOOK GOOD STFU IT aint like yall hoodrats gonna date each other
@ NLsuperstar,
The last woman who tried to love a hood ***** got stabbed in the *****y.
Whats studin’? is that some kind of darkskin deep south ebonics?
i dont think most black men get it…they think they have it hard BUT black women have it harder. black women are still not considered beautiful unless we look half white. All of the popular black female entertainers are fair skinned..Beyonce, A.Keys, Ciara, Rihanna. black women were called fat for having hips and white women made fun of their lips..but look @ j.lo and angie J…hollywood thiks they are the best thing since sliced bread. hips/***** and lips are nothing new-which is why we had to come up with our own mens magazines cuz you wont see a black woman with hips and ***** in white mens magazines cuz black women are fat to white people.
and i’m so tired of the hair issue. when i was a little girl my cousin told me she didnt like me because i had long hair..STUPID. its not that black women hate each other but we feel like we always have to compete just to feel beautiful/smart and equal to other women of other races. white people have TOLD and TAUGHT us lighter is better so thats what we THINK. the master but the fair/brown skinned blacks in the big house and but the darker skin tone blacks in the field which led us to why we as a people are seprated today.
I LIKE HOW YOU SAID STUPID AND GHETTO I WAS LOOKING FOR A PHRASE TO DISCRIBE YOUR RUBBISH OF A COMMENT POST…THANKS FOR THAT….THANKS.
NLR superstar,
Those dont look like prayers youre typing to me dummy.
Its6amHoGetOut, the smartest, most interesting, most honest, and lets be real, the only opinion that really matters.
LOLZ AT YOUR ADVICE I SWEAR EVERYTIME A CHICK CALLS ME *****ED COLORED I’M READY TO SAY ***** YOU LOOK LIKE ***** BUT I DONT BECAUSE I CHOOSE MY BATTLES……
EITHER WAY YOU ARE WAY TOO FUNNY
AND FOR THE RECORD PPL I already know that we are all black and yadda yadda yaddda I love all my people and for some strange reason the darker the guy the sexier he is to me
so I’m not racist at all, me and its6am were just exchanging thoughts
@ pam, really?
OH I PRAY FOR SIMPLE PEOPLE FOR PEOPLE LIKE YOU IT TAKES SOMETHING ELSE….COME ON WITH IT
6AM
@ Inbetween,
Its a waste of time to argue with dummies, why is it real black women know exactly what Im saying but ghetto ***** dark hood *****es dont?
and black women wouldnt “hate” on each other if BLACK MEN and other races wouldnt put us against each other all the time based on how long our hair is..if our hair is real..and what our skin tone is.
NLrsuperstar you must be really dark, no lite to medium ***** would get this upset.
The supposed “hate” that black women have for each other is more myth than real, but because it is such a big myth, ever single incident is blown out of proportion. When there is a case of simple criticism, even when it’s constructive, when a sister does it, it’s always because she is “hating” another sister. Sometimes it’s just the simple truth or an opinion.
On the other hand, there is a systemic problem in the black community that is historic and real, and until it is acknowledged and understood it can never be eliminated, and that is the ‘brainwashing’ and cultural raping of black people during physical slavery and mental oppression that still exists for too many people even today.
The fighting one another is something that was used to keep sisters, brother and all of the enslaved ‘in line’. It is/was no secret that if you get any group working together in one accord, helping each other, loving one another unconditionally and supporting each other no matter what – that’s a force that cannot be suppressed or controlled. So you make sure that they fight each other, you make sure that they believe that they have to win, and the best way to build yourself up, is to tear somebody else down.
You make sure that they continue to fight, and be jealous and tear down, and slander and gossip sgainst one another, so you, the oppressor can stand back and watch them oppress one another, and hate one another, and degrade one another, while you focus your time on something much more contructive. No more need to enslaves them physically, the shackles are on their souls, and they continue to whip and beat, and keep each other “in line”.
The Devil is real, and wears many faces and pretty dresses with laces.
6AM YOU FUNNY AS HELL BRUH
6AM I JUST READ WHERE YOU HAD THE NERVE TO SAY *****Y……..DO ME A FAVOR AND JUST DROP……JUST DROP WHERE YOU SET…..LIKE YOU FAINTED JUST DROP AND SHUT YOUR IGNIT ***** UP YES I SAID IGNIT THAT IS ARKANSAS SOUTH FOR YOU ***** IF YOU LIKE.
@ Pam,
gabriel union=halle berry
kelly rowland= stacy dash
naomi campbell=christina millian
get what Im saying?
Thanks” Who cares”, but as you can see darkskin *****es like Nlrsuperstar want me dead!
NLrsuperstar you must be really dark, no lite to medium ***** would get this upset.
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IM NOT UPSET AND MY COMPLEXION IS DARK AND I HAVE NOT ISSUES WITH IT NEITHER DOES MY MAN IVE NEVER HAD AN ISSUE WITH IT I JUST POSTED AND HERE YOU COME TRYING TO SPEAK UP …I JUST GOT OFF WORKING 12 HOURS AND WANTING TO CUSS SOMEONE OUT AND YOU GOT IN THE WAY SO HEY IM LETTING YOU HAVE IT…
ts6amHoGetOut, the smartest, most interesting, most honest, and lets be real, the only opinion that really matters@ so what if shes dark o light whats the *****in problem do you really think that grand parents parent lalala Wanted to get raped and get a light skinned child:S its like ur dissin yourself when ure sayin shes dark and all and i bet your runnin around callin yourself african american and you should know people from africa are darkskin most of them u idiot
Missy elliott= T.I.’s worlds ugliest liteskin *****, Tiny
@ PAM
I AGREE TO THE 23498293587th POWER
I CANT EVEN ADD TO THAT, YOU SAID IT ALL.
I came from Jamaica, West Indies(born in Brooklyn tho raised in jamaica&Queens) to enter public school only to find I was an outkast…
this lil broad wanted to fight me cause of my accent,color and my hair…I was absolutely confused but ***** we fought it out…
I have alooottt of hair and its bushy and natural kids like the damn wigh eryka badu is wearing and by not perming my hair (I cut my perm off at 16 yrs old) you could swear I committed a damn crime…but hey I prefer it that way when I want it straight I have a flat iron when I want it curly I have gel…
PS : AS A PPL WE NEED TO START FROM SCRATCH AND LOVE ALL OF OUR CHARACTERISTICS, COLORED SKIN, NAPPY HAIR, STRONG BONES, BIG *****, CURVY HIPS, BONEY AS HELL ETC HOWEVER YOU COME BA HAPPY WITH IT
You work on a sunday, you shoulda stayed in school
* kinda like the damn wig
LOL….I DIDNT SAY DIE…..I SAID DROP ….JUST DROP AND SLEEP FOR A FEW HOURS…YOU CAN GET BACK UP LATER THE WORLD NEEDS YOU……..(YOU WISH)
@ a black man, grandparents raped? unless this ***** is a 100 her grandparents shouldnt be older than 70……..Unless shes in the deep south which she is, then grandparents start off at 33!
I swear my lady friend is in the bedroom still moaning and she has been asleep for about half an hour! Best believe I put it down for her and she even let me put the cuffs on her!
1. A BLACK ***** MAKE 50 CENT MORE THAN HER HUSBAND SHE BELITTLES AND TREAT HIM LIKE *****.
2. BLACK *****ES ALWAYS GOT FRIENDS IN THEIR BUSINESS.
3. BLACK *****ES WEAR WEAVES, WIGS, CONTACTS TO IDENTIFY WITH WHITES, BUT WON’T TO COMPLAIN WHEN BLACK MEN DATE WHITE GIRLS.
4. BLACK WOMEN LOVE WHITE MEN, BUT WHITE MEN DON’T VIEW THEM AS NOTHING BUT A PIECE OF *****, NOT MARRIAGE MATERIAL.
5. IT’S NOT BECAUSE THEIR LOYAL TO BLACK MEN THAT THEY DON’T DATE OUT THEIR RACE, IT’S BECAUSE WHITE MEN DON’T WON’T THEY *****.
BLACK *****ES ARE AT THE BOTTOM OF THE BARRELL
I’m surprised that crazy ***** Kigali ain’t in here actin up. But anyway I don’t think that it’s exclusively black women that hate on each other. I think WOMEN of ALL races are haters (examples:Paris Hilton, Kim Kardashian, Nicole Richie, Carmen Electra, Playboy girls, etc. have all been victims of hatread) Hate really has to do with the fact that the MEDIA has placed so much emphasis on what we women LOOK like. So women are always out to hate on the next woman who may look better, because that attention is taken away from her. Whenever u turn on the television, there’s always a flock of beautiful woman, with a handful of average men. In order for a woman to be on television, she has to be gorgeous where as the men can be sub-par. So some women feel they have to “fight” for the attention of men, which is ridiculous, but a reason why they hate. This ISN’T a BLACK “thing” it’s a WOMAN thing.
WTF is up with deep south educations?
Bossip must have posted this because they’re hits were low or something, cause this definitely gonna start some *****.
Damn, I almost dropped my laptop in the jacuzzi.
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LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow who cares!
darkskin *****es are gonna hunt you down and kill you for that *****!
I don’t know but I wish we can find common ground or a solution. I love my sistas just can’t tolerate hating without a cause other than size and skin tone.
@ Ms NYC,
I dont know why darkskin *****es hate lite-medium skin women, maybe its in their DNA
6am@ by your name i *****ume you are a hood rat get a life please do the black community justice by getting a college degree LOL im like 20 years workin in the adidas store in upper manhattan and soon to graduate i aint gotta brag or somethin but aint lettin hoodrats like 6am get a man like me
Betty Friedan, the “mother” of the “feminist” movement in this country, used to host parties for her (white) co-feminists, where she had a BLACK maid wait hand and foot on those *****es. (Don’t believe me, look it up).
This so-called “mother” of women’s liberation had such a BLIND SPOT, that she didn’t even see the ENORMOUS irony of sitting on her fat, white, jew ***** *****ing about being “unfulfilled”, while being waited on by a black women whom whe did not even SEE as a women.
Why am I writing all this? Because black women at Essence and the generation that bought into their bull***** are the REASON for this black-female-on-black-female animosity, if it has any validity.
I once took a college cl***** with a 19-year-old german woman. We both had a free hour before the cl***** and would get to the cl*****room early and talk. She told me that there are feminists in europe just as there are feminists in the USA. In europe feminists are determined to SHARE power, she said. In America, they want to RULE. This was not some wilting little violet, but an independent, ambitious, intelligent german woman.
She prtty much nailed the ***** as far as I’m concerned.
THE ADIDAS STORE IN UPPER MANHATTAN. BWAHAHAHHAHAHAHA WHAT ARE YOU *****ISTANT MANAGER NOW?
@ twinkle,
heres what im gonna do to help mend the rift between dark and lite sista’s;
Im gonna catch a plane to memphis, go to the gehtto mall and follow only darkskin sista’s, I’ll stop them and ask “do you really need that Mrs Fields” or do you like having legs that look like giant swollen “X’s”
@ WHO CARES. BLACK WOMEN ARE NOT AT THE BOTTOM OF THE BARREL. IN FACT NO RACE OF WOMEN IS AT THE BOTTOM OF THE BARREL. IT IS UP TO US WOMEN AS INDIVIDUALS TO DEMAND RESPECT, CARRY OURSELVES WITH CL***** AND REMAIN SEXY ALL AT THE SAME TIME. WE HAVE TO CHANGE THE WAY WE ARE TREATED AND VIEWED BY FIRST CHANGING OUR ACTIONS.
MONETARY ISSUES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT EXCLUSIVE TO THE BLACK COMMUNITY, IT HAS BECOME AN ISSUE AMONGST ALL RACES WITH THE BIRTH OF THE ‘MODERN’ WOMAN.
IT IS VIEWS LIKE YOURS THAT PERPETUATES THIS “HATRED”
WAKEY WAKEY EGGS N BAKEY *****ES
I KNOW PRE-SCHOOL KIDS THAT SOUND SMARTER THAN YOU *****ES.
WHO GIVES A ***** WHERE YOUR FROM OR HOW MUCH MELANIN YOU HAVE IN YOUR GENES
HOW ABOUT YOU GROW UP AND START WORRYING ABOUT HOW WE ARE SPEEDING UP THE COMING ICE AGE. ID LIKE TO SEE THEN IF YOU’S ARE STILL *****IN WHEN YOUR *****ES ARE BURNING
@6am
We can say the same thing about women in the white community. BLONDES VS. BRUNETTES
Kelly rowland>>>>>>>>>>Beyonce Real talk!
@ Wake the ***** up
I feel u 100%
whocares@ When i get money and workin my way up u will be on the corner Selling Blow jobs Rememba me UGLY *****
20 years in the adidas store in manhattan?
Negro im 25, turn 26 this year, I have a MS in Mechanical Engineering from University of Hawaii at Manoa, Ive worked for BP british petroleum since 09/2007, last year with bonus I made a lil under $130k and I’ll make more this year.
So your 20 years as an adidas store magr doesnt mean ***** to me, maybe to a few south bronx babymommas though!
Remember people theres no recession in the oil industry!
@ who cares….ummm wow
I’m not sure if your directing your thoughts to all black women or dark ones but either way that’s messed up…
some of what you said is true but white men would marry us if it weren’t taboo. I was gonna date this cute,tanned,italian/polish white guy (met him in college)…met his mom & dad, brothers and everything but because I was scared I could do it…
I was younger then now I widh I did just to see how far it went..he was super sweet and respectful… shout out to Robb B
and ladies he was SEXYYYYY abs, althletic build, tall, great smile, charming, and yes the white girls hated me lol
but black men guess what he had the nerve to tell me (in a kind way) the only issue he has with me is my fat *****, lmao
*could do it
Appreciate you
Lol *****t mgr at adidas store in “upper” manhattan, does that mean you get white people their running shoes faster than the *****t. in lower manhattan?
20 years?
should I leave now ya’ll?
Its6amHoGetOut, the smartest, most interesting, most honest, and lets be real, the only opinion that really matters@did is say i got a record deal by def jam and u know what that brings MILLIONS, if dont stop yappin im buy ure *****in life cuz on the street you sell your ***** of for 1 dollar
Sandra rose hates black people period.
Its6amHoGetOut, the smartest, most interesting, most honest, and lets be real, the only opinion that really matters.
LOL SERIOUSLY WOULD YOU STOP MESSING WITH PPL…
HE DOESN’T MEAN HARM EVERYONE HE’S JUST POKING FUN AT THE SENSITIVE PPL
6AM CUT IT OUT…LET THEM KNOW YOU LOVE YOUR PPL BEFORE THEY HUNT U DOWN, LOL
AKeys_Stan@ no she dont she hate the light skinned ones
Didn’t have a problem with the cover. Beautiful cover IMO. Iman is THE DIVA, Taraji just got nominated for an Oscar, Serena Williams….need I say more about the tennis star sista with the serious donk LOL I have no problem with either. If you don’t annoy me or come off as a complete lame *****, you’re okay with me LOL
LOL record deal at def jam, now you sound like a million deep south babydaddies! let me give you some advice “20 year employee at adidas, thats gonna make you at least 37 and trying to be a rapper” ***** you write your own jokes, I aint gotta think of *****!
*OMG I MEAN COULD NOT DATE HIM I KEEP SAYING COULD
desire is apart of being human. we all want what we dont have. some people go after it, while others choose to be jealous of those that got it.
however, its not just black women. all women are like that. black women just tend to be more up front about it. while white girls are often vindictive, sneaky, and p*****ive.
im in college in san diego. and the white girls out here are ridiculous. if theyre not stabbing eachother in the back every chance they get, theyre talking mad ***** about one another.
and men do it too. calling eachother gay, square, etc. they have the same jealous tendency as females do.
basically. jealousy and hatred has no racial, ethnic, or gender borders. it affects everyone…
if we learn to love ourselves and appreciate what we do have rather loathing over what we dont, we wouldnt have all these issues.
Its6amHoGetOut@ why did you get all worked up i was just joking with you lmao
Serena is just hard to look at. real talk
Inbetween,
I love black people more than cooked food, my bank account, liteskin *****es and the ocean.
What i cant stand are loud ***** hood *****es who talk without having ***** important to say and the *****s who support them.
@ 6am,
was that before or after taxes? Lol just jokin
smh @urban gorilla’s wow self hate at it’s finest
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Z SAID 6AM IS A FLAMER FROM HAWAII WHO IS METROSEXUAL
AKeys_Stan@ serena aint for girl to look at.are u homo?
@6am
listen to Jay-z “*****es and sistas” that pretty much sums it up
bye all Im going to the movies, and you can best believe it aint to see some Emmitt Perry bull*****!
Bye!, mahalo!
maybe we should take our money and move to africa, away from the white laws and systems, we wouldnt have this problem. and the white people should move back to europe.
also. please dont group all black women together. we are not all like that. i am not “triflin”, i dont walk around with a scowl, i dont give every female that walk p***** me the side eye, etc.
stop acting like we’re all the same. cause we’re not!
Ms NYC,
salary taxed at 34% (no kids), gov taxes bonus at 50%, so it was all before taxes luv.
@ truth speaker,
lol youre funny!
MY 401 K PLAN IS GO BE FAT IF I WORK ANOTHER 20 YRS.
MY POST AT 8:11 WAS ONLY DIRECTED TO BLACK *****ES NOT BLACK WOMEN NO COLOR EXCLUDED. THERE’S A BIG DIFFERENCE.
@ a black man
No I’m not. I am very comfortable with my sexuality I love men especially black men and I also love women i can Appreciate a womens body or looks women are the most beautiful and Important Creatures on earth so no I’m not gay not even Bi but give me Jessica Alba and I’ll be gay for about 10 mins
Wow. I’m Black, and have lots of educated Black female friends, and we never have the problems that this article is talking about. And it is not a light skin/ dark skin problem either. Out of my group of 7, 4 are dark skinned, and 3 are light, and we never argue about light skin/ dark skin problems. I know a lot of people are joking, but it is very frustrating to always hear the sterotypical comments about dark skinned women. I’m dark, my real hair goes about mid way down my back, and I’ve never had any problems with someone just cause they were light. My family ranges from ‘can p***** for white’ to ‘midnight black’, and we were not brought up with the colorism issue. I think articles like the one Essence has are just perpurtrating the stereotype.
@Daywalker_ Not to Be Intimidated
I swear my lady friend is in the bedroom still moaning and she has been asleep for about half an hour! Best believe I put it down for her and she even let me put the cuffs on her!
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Dead at “even let me put the cuffs on her!”
That’s hilarious… Is that something men like? My husband never brought that up but I’ve always wanted to use cuffs!
Bossip should ask real African women this question. African women from Africa hate African American women and thats a fact My father is half Nigerian
I NOTICED AKEYS SAID SHE BE GAY FOR 10 MIN. WITH JESSICA ALBA NOT A BLACK WOMAN. HMMM
@ WHO CARES!!
LMAO!!!!!
I’d do halle Alicia or Megan foxx ..lol she has black hair
# 1 reason……lighter vs darker skin
sad but true…..My darker sisters(some not all) look the other way when i approach them and it breaks my heart, but i hold my head up and proceed on. 1 Day this 2 will end
@ A keys Stan. I am also half Nigerian and what u are saying is SOOOOOO true. But when I was growing up I experienced it from both sides. I look “african-american” so i my nigerian side always treated me funny b/c i didnt look african enough. And african americans would always call me names like “african booty scratcher”, etc when they would see my family dressed in african attire. It’s pretty *****ed up on both sides, but i do think the african side is worse
BOSSIP THATS ALL YOU GUYS DO ALL DAY ***DISRESPECT***DOWNGRADE……. PRACTICE WHAT U’LL PREACH.
@cali-soul
Well said. Even though black ppl have issues that doesn’t shelter other races from their having their own..
oh, and 6am – why niggettes are only dark skinned?
Just seen Ciara’s video love sex and Magic ***** is dope Ciara did the damn thing!!! Best Video of the Year Bossip is slippin
How did this thread become light skin against dark skin? If that what you women hate about, you may need to reevaluate your lives. Adults hating on skin color= stupidity
Unfortunately most other cultures dislike African Americans…I’m west indian and yes I know its wrong but my parents used to say that the americans dont have any upbringing…
not that its entirely true… I think many of the southern blacks have manners
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It’s actually women in general.
For some reason we’re very catty with each other.
My guess is that one of the reasons is that alot of black women never received the psychological help they need to make themselves happy or others. Hating is much easier, but of course more harmful
It is a problem deeply rooted in the minds of black women and men. Its the slave mentality. Its time for us to rise above this hatred, but some of us won’t. Break the cycle.
@Inbetween
Their are blacks in Philadelphia, Washington D.C., Atlanta, and NYC who are fourth and fifth generation graduates of medical and law schools, who have far more impressive pedigrees than anyone that you are ever likely to have known from the west indies.
The current head of the American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons is a BLACK MAN who graduated from Meharry Medical College in 1965; His wife is a psychiatrist who graduated from Howard Medical School in 1969; His sister-in-law graudated from Meharry in 1976; His late father-in-law graduated from Meharry in the 1930s.
I know at LEAST a DOZEN black families with similar ties to Meharry, Howard, and Lincoln Universities (MO and PA).
You need to broaden your circle of aquaintences to include some OLD LINE blacks of character and accomplishment.
OOPS..
THAT SHOULD READ
“There are …..”
Okay next topic Why MTO is Better than Bossip… lol
Bossip, your website is vile. You are the worst offender. You describe black celebrities in a degrading manner. You use adjectives other communities will dare not use on blacks or even on themselves and you think you are coooool. I bet you, some people (non-blacks)click on your site to derive the satisfaction that you help (them) in calling black people nasty things. Goodjob.
You should be ashamed of yourself.
I got to know about”bossip ” in a magazine famous with white people(GQ).Your website was describe as a site that denegrades black people with negative adjectives.
I am black man from Nigeria. I am shocked at the rate blacks hate-on-themselves. Blacks are the only race that believe using derogatory terms (*****h)is a term of endearment and cooooool.
Reminder, the black victim at the recieving end of gun shot usually hear the words of endearment -*****h before he meet his maker.(dead)
Bossip, your website is a contribution to these negative image of blacks.
Congrats.
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@ BOLO-
WELL SAID BROTHA!!!
@just saying
that’s cool and hearing positive things about our is great except I’m not one of those ppl who are gonna be shocked or offended when you react to what I said with name dropping educated blacks
If anything I’m more accostumed to meeting knowledgeable ppl rather than “ghetto, loud, sad” ones
either way good to hear but no need to prove me wrong I already know good black ppl come from all walks of life
ps: I’m educated, my job is great, my community is safe and well kept. I actually dont need to broaden anything but I get why you’ve reacted that way
GIVE ME A BREAK!!! I didn’t even bother to read some of the other blogs because I knew I’d find as much garbage as there is in this article.
THIS IS NOT A BLACK THING!!! ANY RICH CELBRITY WITH AN EGO WILL CLASH WITH ANOTHER RICH CELEBRITY WITH AN EGO!!!
This can even be said for regular people. Anyone who is insecure will try to tear down someone they feel threatened by. Sadly it does tend to occur more frequently with women but TRUST it is the nature of HUMAN BEINGS!!!!!
Ever saw this one on $$$ M illionaire Ro mances *C o m $$$$$ It ’s where you have the opportunity dreaming about dating a millionaire and make it true!
*about our ppl
Are we surprised at this shocking revelation? No, I am not surprised at this sentiment. African American ladies can be vile creatures to one another. I worked for over nine years with a bunch of haters. I am light skinned for lack of a better description, drove a Mercedes, and worked the same tired ***** union job that they did, but they hated. I had a MBA degree, 2 undergraduate degrees and was constantly reminded by those “sisters” that you do not need a degree. Call it what you want, but a rose is a rose by any other name. Perhaps this is some sort of throwback from slavery, dark vs light. I do not know how and why this perverted pecking order exists. While we have collectively achieved so much as a color, we still can not let go of this in fighting and hating. I have had “white” women keep it real with me as opposed to my hating *****, ***** *****, I will ***** your man as sisters. This in fighting will continue to exist until we collectively realized that we are our own worst enemy!
@ Kigali,
Women like YOU are the reason why posts like this are made. I am shocked at how well you can articulate yourself, and yet, you failed to grasp the point of the article. The contradiction/hypocrisy is astonishing. You’re here listing all the reasons why black women hate on each other, while trying to s***** a light vs dark-skinned fight (and it’s a shame some of you don’t see it), and yet you can’t even see that you’re living proof of the hate that exists in our community. Everyday it’s the same bull***** with you. Please realize that no one here needs to validate themselves to some useless imbecile on a website that seeks to tear down black women and men on a consistent basis.
I have nothing more to say to you than this:
GO GET LAID. Yes, that’s right. That’s what you need in your life, some good ol’ ***** (or *****, whichever way you swing). You really can’t be on here 24/7 with your lame-***** rhetoric, boo. It’s not cute.
simple answer: black women are never satisfied with themselves. they always want what another female has..hair, clothes, body type, etc.
@BOLO
YOU got it a NUTSHELL
This is REALLY EMBARR*****ING
BOSSIP will PROVIDE a PROVOCATIVE TOPIC and then they all start ATTACKING ONE ANOTHER.
For all the things that make us one, the reality is that there are many things that separate us; skin color; socioenomic status; zetas, akas, deltas; educated; uneducated; relaxers; weaves; natural; unmarried with children; married with children; overweight; normal weight; those that live in the hood; those that don’t; those who are afrocentric, conscious; those who are not; those who subscribe to organized religion; those who eschew this; etc., etc.
I’m light-skinned and have known the hatred of certian darker-skinned sisters; women who despise me because of my color. 97 percent of dark skinned women I have known have been kind employers; kind friends, etc. But there has been a small amount of dark-skinned women who have hated me because of my color. Really, this has brought great pain to me, but at the end of the day I look at it as their shortcoming.
@Inbetween
Maybe I over reacted, but my family and most of my late parents’ friends have had ties to Fisk U., and Meharry Medical College across 18th Avenue from Fisk in Nashville for three generations. I know people from my parents’ generation with ties to Lincoln University in PA, and to Howard in DC for equally long periods.
The biggest problem that plagues black people is that since integration (which was NECESSARY) far too many blacks no longer have a sense of RACIAL PRIDE.
Read the comments on this site (not just this tread), listen to the conversation in clubs, at parties and in other social gatherings, and tell me that we have not lost a sense of the COMMON GOOD (we blacks).
I applaud ambition, drive and initiative. But when
a people ONLY value MONEY, and what it can buy, you get the social disease that inflicts much of black america.
Please, I do not agree that Black women hate each other. In my opinion, it is just a competition thing. White women and other races do as well, but when Black women do it, we consider it self-hate. Sometimes when we as females see another beautiful Black woman, we may feel intimidated and pre-judge that person in the most horrible ways because we believe that we are competing against that person for male attention. This is what females and males do because it is in our natural behaviors, the same as with animals during mating season. Although there are some people of all races that will hate a person if they are pretty or whatever superficial reasons that they may have, I still would not consider it to be related to just Black women.
I don’t think its a black women thing. I wthinkits a women thing period. And, I thinkit was brought on by a society that pit us against one another to be the most beautiful, the best mother, the best wife, the best lover, feminist, sexy, modest, etc… This happens to women of every color. It’s just closer to home for us so it seems bigger than it really is. I don’t love or trust any other women in the world like I do my sisters.
@ Reality check, my points exactly!!
If EVER there were people who exhibit that CRABS IN A BUCKET mentality it is black women, and that ROTTEN publication “Essence” is at the heart of it.
At MOST, perhaps 10%-15% of black men could be counted as “down low”. Moreover, MOST black men are NOT dating or marrying women of other races.
You’d never know it from reading that rag.
Given that, if most or even a healthy minority of black men are unfaithful to black women, WHO are they practicing infidelity with?
THE ANSWER: that snake ***** black girlfriend that you are so damn fond of spilling your guts to. MOST black men have known for YEARS, that the EASIEST way to get a good piece of ***** is to count the number of “girlfriends” that his woman has.
Rule of thumb: one out of four will ***** YOUR MAN.
If you have eight “close friends” that you are always spilling your guts to, he’s *****ING two of them. Count on it.
This is just a ploy to racially divide. Bossip loves this tactic to get as many posts, and since the black women bashing is so popular on bossip this topic suits them well. It is ridiculous to believe that black women are the only race of women who backstab, and talk about one another. White women do it all the time as well.
@ HOLLYWOOD BS (
I made my points on this topic retard. Beyonce stans always hating on sum ***** get the ***** off bossip and go boycott your life and kill your self you self hating hoe ***** you and beyonce Akeys baby Peace out to everybody else back to twitter
Like what the ***** do people call hate? Had someone just stop to think that if i say “this ***** is ugly” it’ s because i think she is? Like why does people want to throw the hate card around? I’ ll tell you whY,because it is easier to blame it on everyone else but ourselves, stop pointing fingers and look in the mirror maybe someone is right about your teeth being yellow, I personally give props WHERE AND WHEN props are due, But if i feel like something is wrong and i wanna speak on it, i’ m gonna ! How are we supposed to better ourselves if we butt kiss each other every time
“I wish i was born latina” Oh yeah you go girl! i’ m positive i’ m not a hater, you are so right whatever you say, Child i wish i was Chinese,Yep right on sista!
I mean come the hell on, For my part if i have something to say, I will and if people want to call that hate then so be it, at the end of the day it does not hurt to take a look deep inside yourself and correct your wrongs!
I’m sorry, but it IS a black woman thing and we ARE our own worst enemy – I SAID THAT THIS WEEK IN ANOTHER THREAD.
There’s never an instance where there’s five of us in a room and two of us aren’t talking about the other three. It’s a damn shame, but like Glock9n pointed out – a lot of us have SELF HATE!
See me, I don’t mind telling another sister that her outfit is nice are that her shoes or hair are nice – AND ITS NOT BECAUSE I’M A LESBIAN EITHER. I just complement on what I see that looks good. WHAT’S WRONG WITH THAT?!
AKeys_Stan XOXOXO
White girls make for better friends …most black women want to tear your head off if you say anything or something to them. I’m black and i have no Black girlfriends . I wish i had a black girlfriend ..But it is what it is
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I disagree. My best friend is black. We have been best friends ever since we were 13, and we are now 25. She has never wronged me. She has been closer to me than my own sister. I don’t think true friendship comes in a color. I simply feel that friendships are just like relationships. God sends us friends. I guess I don’t really look at it as, I have a black friend, I have a white friend, I have a Hispanic friend because the truth of the matter is that I don’t consider many people my “true” friends, but I will say that I have *****ociates from several different ethnicities. I think there is good and bad in all races. You have to love people if you want them to love you. My mother always said, “You have to be a friend to have a friend.” Her statement is so true. I thank God everyday that I don’t judge people according to their appearances.
and being intimidated by who? NOT ONE of the celebrities out there have a thing on me beside tons of make-up I think it takes a strong woman to say “you know what? you’ re gorgeous but what you just said took your beauty away, you are acting ugly right now” and still feel beautiful, many people have to lick beyonce/alicia keys/rihanna ***** because if you suck on to the light skin girl then you are a good person and very secure! STUF and GTFOH
AKeys_Stan XOXOXO
See you were talking about black chicks yanking your hair to see if it was real, and made it seems like the victim look at what you just said : “White girls make for better friends”, You deserve to get your hair yank what kind of ***** is that? so the color of a person determine their attitude? Personality? should i *****ume that since you are a light skin girl you think you’re all that and better than everyone?Then you wanna talk about people hating on you, to me seems like you give them a reason to hate the hell out of you with comments like that
And i don’ t hate on anybody i just hate people attitudes, comments, or outfit, or them period, and speak on it, it is not written anywhere that i have to like a worship anybody, sound to me like the real self hating people are the stans and worshipers, they need that image to look up to, I don’ t, so if that makes me a hater in someone’ s book then be it, but remember I love Michelle Obama , so any other female is pretty much canceled, Now why would i love her and “hate on you” Gl***** houses
@ Keira J
But here’s the difference; after it’s all said and done, that white woman is going to apologize, that latina woman is going to apologize – US – not so much.
Just Thursday I was thinking about this SAME topic when I saw this white lady with some bad-***** shoes on – T-Straps – SO SEXY! I told the lady that her shoes were so nice, we talked about shoes and where we liked to shop and buy them.
THEN later that day, before I went home from my interview, I saw a sistah with some nice shoes on, too. THIS… woman game me a look like, “*****, I know my shoes are nice, you ain’t gotta tell me that.” Then she proceeded to give me this lame-***** “thanks.”
I looked at her and was like… SMDH!
My friend told a me a hot dating place …..wealthyfish.com…..where you have the opportunity to make friends and chat with a millionaire or hot girl ,supermodels and so on.First i can’t believe,then i sign up there.I celebrities’ profile with sexy photos and newest blog there. you can know more about them. I really got many friends including celebrities.it’s so exciting.
Often times black women hate on one another in an effort to uplift themselves. The saddest part is that this starts with little girls and continues into adulthood. I don’t think it will ever change!!I have been hated on my entire life, and the older I get the greater the hate!!
@Empowered Sista
Don’t feel alone. Petty, shallow, silly, hyper-materialistic women are the MAIN reason that black men who DO “stray” in fact do that. I’ve seen 4 black women sit and tear apart a 5th black woman, who’s not present.
Then one of the 4 will get up and leave, and the remaining three will tear HER apart —- CRABS IN A BUCKET. You can romanticize it all you wish, but that is EXACTLY how they act.
I know a man who went through HELL with his ex-wife, because EVERTHING that he did to try to please her had to meet the expectations of her “girlfriends”. When he finally sued her ***** for divorce, THREE of those heffas hit on him while he and the ex were separated, before the divorce became final.
One of them came right out and told him, that as hard as he worked to make that supid ex happy, if she was too damn greedy and supid to appreciate it then “***** her *****”. Somebody was going to appreciate a good man and to hell with that supid ***** ex, the “greedy *****” (HER phrase, not MINE).
@Kigali,
Sorry been away taking care of my black baby and husband. Yup I’m not that chick who has to worry about birth control at all. In fact, I think its time for me to pop out another one. But in your sexist mind u lumped me in with all the ghetto chicks u know, including your mother. After all, men who hate women as much as u do, have serious mommy issues –I noticed in your whole response u didn’t mention black men at all. When are u going to demand that brothers take responsibility for their kids. Hell, at least u can demand they take responsibility for the violence in our streets. So those single mothers who are trying to raise their kids right can send their boys down the block to school. Grew up in Cali too. And as I remember it, the gang war was the biggest obstacle in my neighborhood. Kids in my hood couldn’t wear blue, red, or green. We always had groups of full grown men, half in their 40s’, hanging on the corners. Walking through a group of them was like walking through a gauntlet, with them staring at barely legal *****es. I remember being caught in an actual shoot out while waiting for a bus. Nothing like seeing a group of mothers trying to hide their kids under their bodies like we were in Iraq. This is all male on male violence. At some point u need to stop making excuses for these full grown men.–Newsflash, the same streets that raised black men raised black women. We are all broken people, but u only want women to stand up and get over their disfunction. U never demand that men do the same.
Did u see the news today? Brother in Oakland took out four cops. What did u have to say about that? -Probably something about his mother not raising him right.
So many people of many colors and cl*****es are simply remedial when it comes to interpersonal relationships. It’s not only black people — it’s everybody but for purposes of this discussion — I will focus.
Yes it is unfortunate that sharing skin color doesn’t automatically translate to friendship — so what?
Get over it.
Grow your own skills, talents and joys while someone else is busy finding ways to perpetuate hate.
A woman who takes the time to love herself and cultivate her talents will find good friends who appreciate and love them for being people with integrity.
And will be saved from being bothered with unsophisticated and corrupt that are backstabbers anyway.
i think black people hate each other period and black women just plainly show it. i think deep down we are insecure as a people and attack each to make ourselves feel powerful. i come from an african nation and we go through the same thing. Black people just will never love each other and come together as we would hope.
really everyone needs to LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND ASK ARE U SOLVING THE PROBLEM OR PERPETUATING IT!!! START WITH THE MAN/WOMAN IN THE MIRROR AND BECOME THE CHANGE U WANT TO SEE!!!
da reason why yall hate each other is there are so few good black men out there. and when yall get one yall ***** on him, pushing his buttons and then be suprised you got dumped. no wonder yall bitter yall dont ***** but complain and be lazy. then get mad when u see us with a white women or another nationality. yall not worthy or to have a black man. that independant ***** caught up with yall and *****ody want yall no more. oh yeah and trust every black women i dated is begging to get back with me. yall think da gr***** is greener or some *****. yall dont want a dude to be nice to you, spoil u and stuff. yall wanna be dudes so from now on we treat u like that.lol. black women are fricken jokes of nature,(african american) notthe african women of africa. bomp sorry, lol
Jealously isn’t always about material things. I don’t have many material things at all but I have a man that loves me despite my flaws and that alone is enough to make me happy. And there are so many people that have a great deal of material things in the area I work in but they are so unhappy.
Then you have some sistas that are mad because they believe they are better looking, or have more money, or eduction and fancy jobs that believe that that alone is enough to attract a life mate. But if your attitude is stank all of those other qualities do not matter. Because in the end a friend and a lover want to come to a person that is sweet and kind and gentle with their hearts. They don’t want to come to constant attitude and vanity and materialistic obessions.
We are so hard on each other. We can be so quick to come down on each other because of status that we forget that people are human beings first and deserve equal respect. If more of us gave each other love we could really change the world. Because when women have each other’s backs it makes it harder for men to treat any woman in a way that would do her harm.
# Miss blaze 44
you ever seen housewives of O.C.? Every single last one of those women are backstabbers, and they are not sorry for any of it. And if you ever watch the hills spleeping with their so called good friends ex or current flame is the norm. On the housewives of O.C. soon as one of them left to go to the bathrooom they were wispering about one another. I am not foolish enough to blame one race for doing something that is common amongst the human race. Back stabbing, negative criticism, envious, disloyal friends come a dime a dozen in every color. It is just ignorance to think that black females are the only people who are disloyal friends. Bossip loves to divide and conquer and I am sick of it. I have met some white people who have done unconscionable acts all the while smiling and claiming to like you. Bossip is just ignorant and so are the people who are spewing racist stereotypes.
@ kigali
how dare you use a term like ‘dark butt’ then try to sound intellectual?
the article was about the solidarity of black women – why is the behavior of some black girls – so called ‘dark butts’ the go to point?
yellow girls, BTW act out in their own ways….
paper bag party anyone?
we use different ways of oppressing one another.
it’s all ugly – all needs to stop.
It’s simple-GROW THE HELL UP!
Stop blaming mommy, daddy, boyfriend, baby daddy, “the man”, and your ex-best friend. Yes some cruddy stuff went down. Yes dark skinned and light skinned girls been teased, confused, and abused. We cried our tears, we fought out battles with society and we know what we need to do. Now lets just be friends and get over it. Men will stay friends til the end but females become enemies as early as middle school. Whatever the excuse may be, grow up or get the ***** out of my way.
Im about peace and prosperity anything that threatens that will be dismissed from my life period. Im not dissecting this anymore, life’s too short. It’s not rocket scientist. And yes I been to hell and back with ‘girlfriends’ but at the end of the day hold on to the ones who are genuine and let the other ones go. Im in my 20’s I don’t have time for this ***** anymore. If women stuck together as much as they stick to their man’s nuts then maybe we’ve have fortune 500 companies by now too as business partners. But nah, we still fighting over who is cuter, slimmer, fatter, richer, poorer, and so on. Get the hell out of here… all these black educated women out here and we can’t even band together to open a damn pie factory. SMH
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All women are very jealous.
Damn latino women are the worst. ?Bossip with their rascist selves need to stop this. the funny thing is how on this particular post, women are still aruguing!!!!!!!!
Women eh?
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Damn Leeha! I loved your responses. I’ve ended many debates with weak men who blame the disfunction in our community on black women.
In every other racial group in the WORLD, the man is the head of household. Only black men are missing from the family unit in large numbers. PERIOD. It is a STATE OF EMERGENCY.
Denial may help you cope Kigali, but your argument is invalid.
It just blows my mind to hear men say, “black women are getting pregnant irresponsibly, raising irresponsible boys, depending on welfare, etc” The black man has to take responsiblity for his absence.
I went to an major university in the northeast and do you know who were missing in large numbers? BLACK MEN. I am a medical professional at a major trauma center and do you know who is missing from higher level medical/professional positions? BLACK MEN. I see more black janitors than medical doctors. there are more black women on my unit than black men.
Black men, please fix your malfunction before attempting to tell the world that black women are the blame.
Black women? How about black men hating black women also? They are all looking for white women. What’s up with that?
A black woman does not always recognize her own individualize self worth or value. Therefore, is envy of those who do and are walking in their own destiny.
This sounds like the thinking of a black woman I want in my life. I date all kinds, but this is what I want in a black woman. Not a Shaniqua. Not a Saditty. Just this.
Angel, I love you.
You know what’s really sad?
After all of these 500 or more posts, we Black folks will continue to ***** to ourselves, friends & online acquaintances—then, bury the argument deep inside & wait until it’s raised again–To do what? ***** again! (Or, at the most, hold a rally or public demonstration-ie: B.S. PROTEST POLITICS!–such an outdated & ineffective stratey!) Nothing gets solved (again) & we’ve succeeded in looking like fools for the whole planet to read.
Thanks, ya’ll (Bossip & all)… I’m feeling more embarr*****ed than I felt yesterday!
It’s well past time for people of all colors to stop petty arguing between each other and creating unneccessary drama. Everyone knows that most of the time similar personality types or people that are just alike either get along great or fight like cats and dogs. There’s no middle ground. The fact that they are black has nothing to do with it in the end except for the people that want to make it about race. Campbell has repeatedly beat down her *****istants and none of her friends/business partners. No one is going to start a fight with Serena or Venus because everyone knows they have strong arms and Iman is a lady so she won’t cause any drama. Just because they are black females doesn’t mean they are just alike. They will get along. This is just a publicity/racial stereotype stunt of some sort. If I hadn’t heard of this i probably wouldn’t have even known they were doing something together. Sex sells. So does racial drama. Condone it or ignore it.
“Fact did you know
78% of black women are overweight and 50% is obese”
@ A_Keys and Slide…
Wrong! Wrong! And Wrong again dummies!!
Actually, Black women are NOT leading “the charge in morbid obesity.” Mexicans are…according to the recent data from NHANES. My aunt has a degree in nutrition so she has significantly studied obesity stats. Believe it or not, Whites are a close second. Statistically, Mexican Americans are leading in both adult and childhood obesity. Whites are a close second, and Blacks are third, with 23%. Its sad, most Blacks think that Blacks are leading in obesity…and damn near everything else. Blacks do have higher rates of cancer, cholesterol, and hypertension than Whites and that does need to be addressed.
The bottom line is that, traditionally, Blacks have been conditioned to believe that we are unhealthier than other races because of our genetics and thus, they don’t do anything about it. Every time you look around you hear “Blacks have higher rates of this and that.” No wonder many think that we are the most obese…but we are NOT. Kinda like when people say there are more Blacks on welfare than anyone else, but the stats tell a different tale.
And don’t think for a minute that there are a lot of obese Black men as well because BMIs tell the true tale. Please don’t just focus on the Black woman because as a RACE it is a problem. I cant tell you how disgusted I am lately with the lazy, unkept, morbidly obese body structure of some of these black men out here. Its a problem with the whole race, not just black women. You black men loooove to put every burden on the shoulders of black women while yall sat back and fight for NOTHING. SMDH…sad.
its not a women thing. its a black thing. women are the stronger force in the black community. when aggressive people come in connect with each other there is automatic animosity. thats why black on black crime was to rampid.Us being the aggressive culture caused that. and like i always say…it starts with the man. women as a whole are their man’s supporters. when men maintain that state of mind the women can only follow.think about everything women have been accused of…..where did it start from….the man. you have to solve the source of the problem…not run from it….like some black men insist on doing by going with white women. that just leaves us with the problems they created…thus this article.
i hope someone sees my comment because it is the truth!!!!!!!!!
I love how a topic for black women asking why do we hate one another turns into a “free for all” black women bashing fest! LOL. Wow, didnt think the black woman was so popular! I love how many BLACK men didn’t hesitate to race in this thread in an effort to demoralize and dememan black women! Cheap shots throughout the whole thread, as if they’re doing sooo much better..LOLOLOL!!!
Wow @ 6am and Slide and Kigali…LOL. I’ll tell you one thing, for a group of insecure, simple minded, uneducated, ingrates like yourselves, you guys REALLY have some issues with the sistas, yet you have made no secret that you date women of other races. You know what I say?? Then why look back? So the ***** what if you think a black woman is this or that..grab your asian, latina, or whyte ***** by the hand and keep it moving! WE DONT CARE!! Trust! Because 9 times out of 10, you all where dissed by a black woman at some point in your life and your bitterness is soooo OBBBBBVIOUS!!! LOL. Your hate transcends into bitterness. Keep hating, it oly makes the black woman look soo much more important. you guys took time out of your busy schedules to HATE on sistas..LOL. You know the saying, “I dont care if you talk good or bad about me, the point is YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT ME, so I’m on your mind REGARDLESS! LOL.
@ Akeys_Stan,
I dont know how your little sneaky, uneducated antics and self hating remarks where able to slide under the radar, but I’m on to you honey. I’ll say, the high school, childlike behavior displayed on the thread by a GROWN ***** MAN who calls himself 6am was the cause. He murked all the attention and your little comments went unnoticed. They definitely didnt fall on blind eyes, though. You know, I despise women like yourself. LIARS! All you do is lie lie lie! You are a bi-racial or really light female who has somehow internalized the notion that only dark skinned women hate on you. Thats a damn lie if I’ve ever heard one. You are nothing to white women, Latinas, or Asian women as well. To them you will always be considered a ni_ _er! Stop fronting like dark women were such the cause for your hard times in high school. Did you ever think that it could be the attitude that you projected? No one ever mentions how light skin women automatically hate on darker women just the same. Ever heard of the AKAs? The Deltas? They were sororities once dominated by light skinned women only and they were so colorstruck that they denied the entry of any dark skin black females. They actually made some black women take the infamous “paper bag” test. So you (light skin women)are not innocent in this, just like you yourself arent. I can tell by your comments, which are very harsh and highly suggestive of someone who thinks they’re worth more than they actually are, are due to you being a light skinned woman. How sad. Whats even sadder is that you would play into the hands of black males who VERY OPENLY bash and put down black women as a whole. They have managed to drive a wedge in between dark and light skin sistas. If they had a real choice, when it comes down to it, YOU light skinned women wouldnt be the chosen ones either. You were looked over for white women as well, so how do you get off thinking your better? Light skin women are the “safer” route to go in case black men need to feel accepted by white america, so for those not strong enough to stand as a man alone, they seek validation and acceptance from the white man by carrying a white woman or the lightest of the black race on his arm. Its all internalized, repressed racism! A brainwashing of the negroes mind. Its very sad that people like you, the 6ams and the Kigalis refuse to travel, further your education and look outside of your ghetto, brainwashed mindsets for representation of black america. If you did this, these comments would NEVER roll off your tongues. I’m not trapped in a “ghetto” or hood state of mind, I actually travel and I’m able to see black men and black women making positive and overwhelming contributions to the black communities in vast numbers. This is the last time I will ever visit this site. It’s trash, it’s uneducating, it’s deplorable. What can you learn here? Instead of always being a part of the problem by jumping on the bandwagon with the constant barrage of negative attacks against black women, try being part of the solution.
@ Sydney,
We need bright minds like yourself over at PanacheReport. Your mind is too sharp to converse with some of these uneducated, non-intellectual, characters on here. Please refrain from trying to teach these uneducated idiots anything. They refuse to learn or expand their minds as well as their vocabularies, therefore they will be the ones who will lose in life and NEVER evolve outside of a “Bossip” mindset.
*yawn*
Just woke up and as you can see I couldn’t resist to leave another comment, and I am so not a morning person but I wanted to say this
AS MUCH CRITICISM AS WE ALL GIVE BLACK WOMEN I MUST SAY THIS. WE DO MAKE FOR BETTER FRIENDS THAN “WHITE GIRLS” BLACK GIRLS DONT LEAVE THEIR DRUNK FRIEND AT A CLUB WITH MEN TO GET RAPED!! MOST OF US DO BODY CHECKS WHEN ITS TIME TO LEAVE ANY GATHERING OR PARTY. THAT’S BECAUSE WE DONT WANT TO BE THE PERSON THAT TELLS SOMEONES MOMMA YOU LEFT HER AND NOW SHE’S MISSING WITH HER BODY IN ONE PLACE AND ***** IN THE NEXT (RAPED/MURDERED)
EVEN THO WE HATE, BACKSTAB AND FLAT LEAVE AT TIMES THAT’S NOT WHAT WE DO THE MAJORITY OF THE TIME. JUST LIKE A marc b’s honey SAID MY BESTIE AND I WERE FRIENDS SINCE WE WERE 13 AND I’M ALSO ABOUT TO BE 25 ( shout out to the 80′S BABIES
I SUPPORT HER IN HER AMBITIONS AND SHE ALWAYS ENCOURAGES ME TO DO WELL. SHE WOULD NEVER ALLOW ME TO EMBAR***** MYSELF AND HAS MY BACK, SHE’D FIGHT FOR ME EVEN IF I WAS WRONG AND CURSE ME OUT FOR BEING A JERK IN PRIVACY. (i dont hear too many white girls doing things like that).
SHE’S DARK WITH DREDS, IM LIGHT WITH BUSHY/CURLY HAIR BUT WE FIND A CONNECTION WITH HAVING NATURAL HAIR… SHE HAS ALSO CALLED ME *****ED COLORERD AND I’VE TOLD HER ***** I’D BE CUTE EITHER WAY, YOUR JUST HATING
POINT BEING WE ALL HAVE OUR DIFFERENCES IN THIS RACE WE CALL BLACK BUT WE SHARE MORE (ESP THE STRUGGLE)IN COMMON. IF YOU TAKE THE EFFORT TO FIND A POSITIVE IN SOMEONE RATHER THAN THE NEGATIVE YOU’D BE A CHANGED AND HAPPIER PERSON (weather it be a brother or a sistah)
SERIOUSLY SOME OF YOU NEED TO TRY IT AND LEARN TO GIVE HE OTHER COMPLIMENTS RATHER THAN CRITICISM
GIVE BLACK WOMEN MORE CREDIT PPL.
*GIVE EACH OTHER..
@ HOLLYWOOD BS ( BOYCOTT BOSSIP UNTIL THEY APOLOGIZE FOR CONSTANTLY MAKING DEROGATORY COMMENTS ABOUT DJIMON HONSOU…AFRICANS WILL NOT TOLERATE SUCH GROSS DISRESPECT)
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***** all dat (to your screen name). *****z got real problems going on in America and you talking about what Bossip calls Djimon “the African Warrior” Hounsou?? Get the ***** on…
THE BLACK MANS PERSPECTIVE
First of all you can’t totally blame us, cause we all love our Black Mother.
But what gets lost in translation, is the black womens love for the “The Thug” “The Baller” 50 Cent or T.I. type of man. You can all scream and yell and deny that thats what you want, but statistics bear it out.
So in your search/quest to find a “Baller”, you continue to tear each other down at all cost. If you don’t believe me, go to a All Star Weekend or Memorial Day in Miami, or any club in Atlanta, Ny, Chicago etc…
Solution: If you open your perspective on what a good man is, you’ll realize that there are enough good men to go around, and then you can be less competitive towards each other.
I think that people just focus on the BLACK RACE in what ever they want to talk bad about, b/c all races have this problem. Some women can get along and others can’t it’s just not the black race it’s all races but people just stay focus on the black race. I have seen many black women get along and help one another out and then u have ur few that is just mad at the world. It is what it is in all races dealing with women. We as people in all races need to stop dividing everything up dealing with what race does what and just focus on the person that’s doing it. It’s dealing with that person and their battles in life.
Funny…all this sound advice and by the next story everybody will be right back to hatin on each other again. Vicious cycle.
ANOTHER BLACK MANS PERSPECTIVE:
MR. WESTCOAST I THINK YOU SAID IT BEST WHEN YOU STATED,
Solution: If you open your perspective on what a good man is, you’ll realize that there are enough good men to go around, and then you can be less competitive towards each other
ANOTHER REASON WHY OUR SISTA’S HATE EACH OTHER SO MUCH IS BECAUSE WE AS AFRICAN AMERICANS ARE RACIST TO EACH OTHER.
FOR INSTANCE, SOME FEMALES WHO ARE ALL THE SAME COMPLEXION, WILL NOT EVEN HANG OUT WITH OTHERS WHO ARE DARKER OR LIGHTER THAN THEMSELVES.
AND ALSO, THE MEDIA HAS A LOT TO DO WITH THIS AS WELL, LETS TAKE A RAP VIDEO FOR INSTANCE.
A DIRECTOR MAY ASK FOR AN ALL LIGHT SKIN BLACK GIRL CAST, OR EVEN IN MOVIES, MAGAZINES ETC A DIRECTOR MIGHT SPECIFICALLY WANT A DARKER SHADE OR LIGHTER SHADE OF FEMALE.
AND THEN WHEN WE AS THE VIEWERS SEE THIS WE INSTANTLY ATTACK EACH OTHER, “OHH WHY THEY GOT ALL LIGHT SKIN GIRLS OR WHY THEY GOT ALL DARK SKIN GIRLS”.
IT IS SO IGNORANT BEYOND MEASURE.
WHAT KILLS ME THE MOST IS THAT SOME OF THESE FEMALES HAVE A SMALL DROP OF BLACK IN THEM OR NONE WHAT SO EVER AND SAY, OHH IM AFRICAN AMERICAN, WHEN REALLY THEY’RE SOMETHING ELSE.
I’m glad someone made a point to address this issue,b/c it needs to stop. Black females need to stop hating on one another and step their game up then you won’t have to hate on the next chick with speed.
Lots of explanations here….as Chris Rock once asked…what ever happend to crazy?!?!
as a black man i love my sistas but when it comes to color its not that their white light dark yellow green etc its about the inside so please stop hatin.
Some black men dates white girls cuz they think life is easier some might not date white women and date darker it depends on the person. it aint like black men just date white. black men who loves black women excist every where. And stop Sayin We hate Black women
and we dont hate black women we love black women but they are the ones that think we hate them and would date white women instead
so its black women hatin on Black men
Women have different relationships then men. . bottom line. Men get along in large groups and generally women don’t, it’s not black vs white. I am a successful black woman and have friends of all different races but I absolutely cherish my sistas they encourage and support me no matter what i do.
Kigali (Introduction to the New Black Woman 101)
@Akeys Stan,
Yes, dark butts can be vicious if you are a mulatta. I have heard some stories about the trails and tribulations of mixed race girls having to go to school with these urban gorillas.
Its all down to parenting. In which case, most black people have none. Parents are supposed to instill in you, a sense of purpose, being, happiness, and self confidence. You cant have that if you are being raised on a constant diet of , “*****hs aint *****,” ***** that ***** thats my man, You nappy headed you need a perm and next a weave, your only value is in giggling your ***** in 3D, etc, etc etc.
Fathers are a good source of pyschological nutrition for the family. His stregnth, character, loyalty, protectiveness civilises the woman that he is with and civilizes the children that they have together.
I LOVE FATHERS!!!!!!!!!
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please speak for yourself.
Your issues with black women is a personal issue and not a general issue. Stop confusing your problems with women as America’s problems
Please seek some help as your commentary is not only offensive but silly.
You are not speaking wisdom, so dont wait around for someone tell you that you are.
yeah, & i was taunted all my life by yellow broads who resented my confidence & hated on by romantic rivals of all hues –
the truth is, most guys who like girls – like girls, & they usually like them pretty
dark light whatever.
Why…because WOMEN are so insecure! Granted, most women are insecure about weight, hair, family, education, etc. (personally, I think it’s genetic) but I’m talking about insecurities that go much deeper than that…insecurities that make them evil, bitter women. Add that with their unhappiness (men, money, etc.) and it makes for a truly unpleasant workday, friendship, etc.
It doesn’t matter the color…it’s the same! I work in an office with 14 women and I manage 5 of them…DRAMA all the time about nothing! All women aren’t like this, but most are! I have two best friends and people (women) find it amazing that we’ve been friends for so long…go figure!
I have a black sista (a temp) working for me (3 months) and I’ve given her every opportunity, but she just doesn’t get it. My manager (white) wanted to get rid of her a long time ago, but noooooo, I said, “she’ll work out”. Unfortunately, I’m going to let her know this will be her last week because she let her own insecurities with me get the best of her and I was the one always encouraging her and trying to help her (4 kids, really needs to work, etc.)…so sad!!!
It depends on the person not the color……some women get along and others don’t and that is with all races it seems to me that people just focus more on the black race to make others look better when really most black women will help out the next female when need we can be very supportive and u have those that just stay mad at the world it’s about that person not the color b/c every person is not the same so u can’t say oh only black women hate one another if that’s the case who do we hang out with and talk to? our selves? if we hate each other so much we wouldn’t have any friends.
because black women,are very known to bring each other down and themselves for no reason, and they are also insecure and have low self esteem.how do i knw? my black girlfriends told me this.
LOL, that is why i don’t really care what a black chic says cause its always dumb and irrational, its like listening to daffy duck, they are retarded and only known for making babies.
i know for a fact that WHITE CHICS HATE EACH OTHER. period. hispanic and indian very close second .. we just take long to warm up to each other but i wouldn’t say we ‘out-right’ hate each other .. we always *****ume [she's a s***** or ghetto] before getting to know the person .. that’s our problem .. but we don’t have this above other races and ladies don’t be fooled into believing this.
Kigali sounds like either a gay black man or gay white man but I can’t tell which one but one thing is for sure, he is gay.
I swear I don’t get it sometimes and I am a black woman. I am of a lighter hue so unfortunatley I usually get the obligatory hate filled stare on fist sight. Unless the other sister is herself light skinned then it will be ok. I have walked into rooms and spoke to a all of the women and all of them ignored me! I mean simple ***** like that. Riding the metro is a wonderful time as well to get hate filled stares from black women. Sometimes I look at black women and wonder why the hell they look so mean and so angry all the time. I constantly have to tell the young interns here to smile and be happy! I watched one of my co-workers once just grit a woman up and down she didn’t see me looking at her. I told her to SMILE and not be so unhappy! I do wish black women would calm the attitudes down sometimes man. And that is from a black woman to other black women! Smile sometimes don’t be so quick to get the attitude and quiet it down sometimes. Not asking you to change but the mood could seriously be lightened on occasions!
@ I Am Who I Am
No, I peeped A_Keys remarks. I just chose to ignore her. But thanks for blastin her so she knows that she’s not foolin anybody with the non-sense.
However, need to correct you on one thing. The AKA’s were the Paper Bag test administrators, lol. The founders of Delta included several dark skinned women.
@Niasa
Perhaps part of the reason that you are getting those kinds of looks is because people perceive your apparent distate for what you call ‘black women’ as if you aren’t one yourself (just because you are light-skinned). Despite your comment having relevance from a substantive point (a blackwoman’s disposition is important in how she is perceived rightly-or-wrongly) you’re many comments in which you appear to be distancing yourself from other black women and what they do is self-explanatory example of why light-skinned women are given an immediate attitude by darker-skinned sister: because they think they are better!
AND WHAT A BEAUTIFUL ESSENCE COVER IT IS! LOVE TO ALL MY BLACK SISTERS!
@ Its6amHoGetOut, the smartest, most interesting, most honest, and lets be real, the only opinion that really matters.
10. Black women are laughing right now, You niggettes wanna kill me!
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You ain’t never lied becasue I was ROFL at that entire thing!! Defintiely funny with a lot of truth sprinkled in it.
ILL PEE ON A BLACK WOMAN’S FACE ANYTIME!! DRIP DRIP DRIP
It really doesn’t even matter what race you are because women going to hate regardless white girls hate on each other as well lets not just limited to black women! Latino women hate as well also!
My boyfriends wife came to my house and jumped on me after she found out I was seeing our man. Wasn’t she wrong?
Since we are generalizing and accusing People want to read the dark skin population , and I’m agreeing with you, Dark skin women might hate on light skin one, but guess what? for light skin chick to be coming from a past where your ancestors were RAPEd and sexually used you sure walk around like your ***** don’ t stink, For every 2 dark skin chicks insecure, they are 3 light one even more insecure and feel the need to bring their skin color and “good hair” to make a point. You people are so sad! I’ m white and i have never been jealous of anyone regardless of their color, i grew up in Brooklyn and been on both side of the fence let me tell you something, The real haters are the light skin chicks, Trying to be white, Be proud of who you are, i thought i’ ll open this article and see people uplifting each other but noo, as usual a light white wanna be chick have to bring up the fact that she was bullied for being sooooooo light and how dark people are monsters and yadi yadi yada yet you get outraged when white people speak down on you? If you open the door everyone will come in and read your ***** to the god, Keep tearing each other down, and fighting over whose color is prettier, we white women will take your man while you’ re unfolding this self hate situation
Holla
Kigali (Introduction to the New Black Woman 101)
@Sydney,
Do you know how often here on Bossip black females tout their big behinds, their lips and their hips because they deem these features to be very attractive to men and very feminie? They malign other women, ESPECIALLY white women who dont have these things. Do see a difference between a black woman extolling the superioity of a big behind big lips and curves because of how men prize them and light skinned women utilizing their fairness for that same end? There is no difference. If white women can be made to feel inferior because of their flat *****es, flat chest, and thin lips- less feminine or attractive, then dark skin women can similarly be made to seem less feminine or attractive because of her dark skin.
Whats good for the goose is certainly good for the gander.
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real talk indeed
I am always kind to my sistas. I treat them with respect, just like everyone else, until they give me reason not to – which is rare. And rarely to I encounter sistas who are strait up rude.
whitey@ im cosignin with you.
i went to sweden for trip with my friend and and you know many light skinned dark skinned women get along just Fine it aint like the states
whitey@ im cosignin with you.
i went to sweden for a trip with my friend and you know many light skinned dark skinned women get along just Fine there it aint like the states
a black man : I KNOW!i have been in africa and the light skin dark skin thing does not exist things that makes you go hmm hmm but in the states it’ s on! Get some self esteem
it’s only in america hat black women hate each other, in africa there are many light and dark skin women who love each other and never hated one another,it’s only in the state… even in london, u will never see a thing like that. ***** the black b8txhes in the state for that. real talk
@whitney
damn u just said the same thing i wrote, i am from south afirca, who resides in the state, i am mixed and i have witness alot of black women in the state feeling so insecure of thier skin. that is one of the reason why i will never marry one.
Man black girls got attitude problems anyway they’ll always hate eachother
***** the black b8txhes in the state for that. real talk
high five that *****
To Whitey and all the others
Being a light skinned person is not easy in the least. I for one am very light and most Whities like me but I really could care less. I am actually suspect of every caucasion! I wear my hair natural and no other fake ***** on my body. I might be light but in no way do I try to or want to identify with being Caucasion! And as for the light skin dark skin thing man…how would you feel if your own race denied you and good old whitey made sure you knew your place. Neither side accepts you really. I will be sitting with my mom (adoptive) so she is VERY brown and she will say things like “finally they got a real black woman” um ok I am sitting here what the hell am I? But let me try to (although I would never) identify with white then I have an identity crisis!! Geez you can’t win for losing! Not every light skinned person wants to be white! How ostentatious of you to even state that. For the record “whitey” not everyone wants to emulate your race! And also for the record my grandmother was not raped she willingly had my mother! And in no way do I think I am better than dark skinned women. I just find their attitudes to be a bit ridiculous at times. And trust me I have been out with friends who are dark skinned and even they comment on the amount of hate I get just for practically existing! So yes I do have a complex not given to me by the white man but by my own people. I used to tan myself a lot but now I realize there is no need to kill my skin in order to make others happy. Even to this day in my 28th yr of life I still get the “You need a Tan” comment, which in itself it very rude! If I told them they needed a bleaching regimine they would be super *****ed! So whitey every light skinned person is not there waiting to bring up their light skin or their hair texture to make a dark skinned woman feel bad! Honestly a lot of us want to be accepted so badly by our own race that we have to jump hoops just to prove our blackness!!
Niasia and being white or dark is easy? both of those is never enough is you white where you booty at? your s*****? if you’ re dark check your attitude lose wight lighten your skin, for once in a while please stop the pity party, ever stop to think that maybe just maybe some people were not interested in knowing you or liking you for other reasons then your skin? i mean it’s hard everywhere and that is where everyone should come in and say hey you’ re light look white but you are beautiful or you’ re dark the real African color but you are gorgeous or you’ re white it’ s okay you’ re still pretty! but no people want to sit here and talk about how they are hated over their beautiful hair like akeys stan i mean come on for real if i was dark and a girl started talking about how she hated because of her skin ill hate her too, it’s like stop being negative You know? and even if people hate on your skin and YES DARK SKIN GET HATE ON BECAUSE IT IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL SKIN OUT THERE EVERY DERMATOLOGIST WILL TELL YOU AND it does not crack, if your skin is hated on, say something crack a joke let people know there is more to it than that! and i guaranty you they will warm up to you, instead of saying in the corner crying the *****ing pretty light skin girl blues
IM MY COUNTRY WE CALL LIGHT SKIN CHICS, YELLOW OR ALBINOS!! LMAO
Damn…maybe because I’m a little discriminating on who I choose as friends, but I don’t have that problem. As a matter of fact, living in the middle of the W.A.S.P. hive that’s Orange County California, Black people have a tendency to be EXTREMELY friendly when they happen to stumble across one another. I’m very pro Black and think it’s healthy to cultivate friendships with like minded people. Like my grandmother says, “You lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas”.
LOL@Black women hating each other.
Speak for your damn selves Bossip. I happen to love Black people…women AND men. Divisive ***** *****ers..
Black people suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome and if they DO have problems relating to each other on even the most platonic of levels then it signifies a deeper underlying issue. The difference between African and African AMERICANS in terms of social adjustment? The White man. Africans can cultivate friendships without all the baggage because they know who they are. They have a sense of self. How can you love someone else when you don’t know/accept yourSELF?
I can’t *****ing stand Essence. They can get a subscription from me when they stop being hypocritical. They will have an article on the dangers of denying “Blackness” then on the opposite page, an advertisement for hair relaxer. Boooooooooo….
Okay this is what it boils down to: Yes there is a secret beef between White, Light, Brown, and Black skinned chicks. However, the truth is that I think it’s really based on looks. There are ugly Light skinned chicks and there are retty light skinned chicks. And the are Brown and Black skinned chicks that aren’t too attractive and there are pretty Brown and Black skinned chicks. So the ho’s that are *****ing about light skinned or Brown and Black skinned women are usually tore up looking, lol.
Well it’s not just Black women though. Latinas do that ***** to each other also, Indian (South Asian) Did you know that the perfect model for an Indian Bride is light skinned and if she looks more White looking her chances of marriage are higher, White chicks have beef toward each other too, et cetra. I’ll discuss the males later on.
And yes I relax my hair but I don’t hate my self. Relaxers are great !
Ummm, it’s not just black women Bossip, ALL I repeat ALL women hate on each, snub each other, look down on each other. Women are insecure and emotional by nature, even female animals, fight, kill and so forth. How narrow minded and ignorant….it’s not just black women…OMG
WELL SAID BOSSIP! U SHOWED SOME CL***** WITH THIS 1!!!
Hmmm… maybe it’s because I’m not after black men, but I love my sisters! If I’m checking them out a beautiful black woman in a club it’s because I’m proud of her! Nothing brings me more joy than to see a beautiful and well-mannered young black woman. Maybe some of that “animosity” when a black woman checks out another black woman is being misinterpreted! For me it’s not jealousy, it’s pride!
Besides, there are plenty of WHITE men to go around! Haha!
First of all, Africans do not have anything on Black Americans in terms of culture, beauty or morals. Africa aborted her best and sent some of our ancestors on the Middle P*****age and consequently will always be the murderous, contentious and hateful place that it is today. Africans will use genocide and rape as a means of geo-political control in a heartbeat. As far as an attachment to Africa, yes we are all connected genetically however as far as I am concerned, that is the only connection. I know from personal experience that Africans, as poor as they are, bad mouth Black Americans worst than the white man does.
My friends and I do not back stab or undermine each other. However, I have experienced that from Blacks in the workplace because they said I spoke white and looked like a Latina. I developed a tough skin, held my own and kept it moving. My parents raised their eight children to be confident, intelligent and tough as hell. Confident women of any color are collectively undermined by the lack of opportunity for women. Our society has conditioned women to believe that we should not get along. As far as I am concerned, my professionalism, intelligence and drive will get me where I want to go.
Lastly, women have to recognize their own beauty and potential. We don’t have to covet or hate on what the next woman has because we are each worthy in our own right. If all the niceness and respect does not work, I always keep my pearl handled switchblade in my purse!
Whitey…
I need you to pump your breaks and imagine something for me. Imagine that it is 2009 and white men are not really checking for white women like they used to. Interracial dating is not that big of deal anymore. Imagine that we currently live in a society where there are Black women that know for a fact that race would not stop any man from wanting to be number one in their worlds.
Well, sweety, I am one sista that does not feel any fear that my man would leave me for any other woman, black white dark light whatever. Why? Because I am his priority. And I handle my business. And I don’t have to use my race as a token to get a man to want to be with me. My personality speaks for itself. And that is why my I don’t worry about my WHITE boyfriend leaving me. If anything maybe you should worry about what your man is doing or craving.
And if you know anything about YOUR history you would know that there was a time when so many white men were wanting sistas that even as slaves white women felt intimidated by the attraction. To the point they would try and pretend they didn’t know about their husbands making babies with the “help”. So NO I will never worry about you or those like you because I know that regardless of what the media says, in reality, many WHITE men are swirling. And not just with sistas but with Asians and Latinas. White women do not have magic powers. A man is a man is a man. And beauty is universal baby. So YOU better watch out!
@GIVEDADDYSOMESUGAR
“Africans do not have anything on Black Americans in terms of culture, beauty or morals”
WOW. I beg to differ. You don’t have a culture. You speak in ebonics as a way to differ yourselves from whites but do you know where that comes from? That is the how slaves used to speak b/c they couldn’t learn….What else do you have? Loose clothing that looks like you ppl are homeless and sagging pants that originated from homos in jail cells…Ain’t that something.
Morals? 70% of you are born out of wedlock and are *****S….Where is the morals you’re talking about?
Beauty? LOL….I’m Eritrean and believe me when I say most of you cannot even stand in our shadows.
Africans have beauty, culture, and brains most of you will NEVER ac*****ulate! Now fall back *****!
@GIVEDADDYSOMESUGAR
“Africans do not have anything on Black Americans in terms of culture, beauty or morals”
ROTFL you should have never said that you just confirmed the stereotype that black Americans are stupid ignorant and dumb and i know it all mean the same but it was for emphasis, Africans are so beautiful and this without l’ oreal or a weave in their heads, and culture? just shut up because their culture is so beautiful when black Americans is basically non existent! oh wait grinding up a pole and chasing the richest dude yep i forgot and moral? don’ t yall sleep with your cousins? or contact all kind of disease you should have just shut up
@ Sarama,
Your Dictator is killing you **********as by the thousands, he’s even an enemy combatant of the U.S.
He suspended elections for the next 40 years guaranteeing himself lifelong tenure, You come to America to escape that “culture” youre praising and the first thing you do is get a silky weave then try and ***** a white ***** hoping to get pregnant, and you wanna talk down to African American women? ***** you bush *****es, its takes me denying 999 ugly widenosed, plates in lips, nappyheaded, doo doo breath, scam artist, ugly toe’d african hoes before I find one who is decent lookin’ and it aint Alex Wek!
***** is talkin’ about culture, ya’ll just learned to wear clothes 60 years ago!
The Cool
Okay imagination over lol, your point was? i was being Ironic Honey, I don’ t take anyone’ s man, I was just being ironic because some black women always talk about white one stealing their men and i was putting the whole ordeal in perspective, I’ m happy that you are so confident that you have to let me in in every each reason of why you would never be dumped or cheated on, Good for you Honey
And girl please don’ t tell me to nothing and calm down this is internet i doubt your hyped behind would ever dare to say one thing to me, i don’ t deal with the likes of you, Bossip saved you, But remember, even with all the reason you enumerated baby,If a want doesn’t want to be kept he won’ t so work on that self confidence and learn how to be by yourself before trying to speak on anyone
Kay?!
See american hoes, 6am is in your corner if you get attacked by some **********in’ immigrants!
Eritrean, ***** if it was so nice and such a paradise there your ***** wouldnt be over here!
next african ***** with an opinion?
Eritrean’s leader is considered one of the worse 10 dictators in the world.
Its6amHoGetOut, the smartest, most interesting and funniest man on Boss
hm another self hating negro. Slavery is still on and in full effect with black Americans, You are still slaves
@ Whitey,
I made $130k last year at 25, Im a slave to a dollar. And with a name like “whitey” are you just wishful thinking?
All Praise President slavemaster Barack “Hussein” Obama! I know that kills you huh?
LOL dumb ***** africans!
Its6amHoGetOut, the smartest, most interesting and funniest man on Bossip.
Yes another African one with a problem, Are you proud of everything you just spit out?I mean you got some out of your chest calling Africans every each name in the book you’ re good? Now I am black but before that I am African what are you? Also did it ever occurred to you that we are civilized and actually get Visa to come here? That’ s what i did and now i am a full citizen, I have never in my entire life put America down, because i came here to get a better life than i had back home, But people like you disgust me, You are so busy putting Africans down that you don’ t realize that you have an identity problem, You are sad and I really hope that you get help for whatever issue you have because guess what? you are a doo-doo butt ugly right there will all of us, Want it or not you are of African descent, You are a self hating person, and i pity you, I won’ t even waste my time going back and forth with you because i can tell you are ignorant and low cl*****, I came to America and in a few years I did more than you and all your “homies on the block” will do in your entire life, so yes We are **********ing immigrants but guess what? we are smarter and will be more successful than you will ever be, because we recognize and respect the opportunities that are given to us, Where as you spend your life on Bossip is proud of it and is a *****ing loser, so kjeui nig man fe rik translate that Loser!
bye yall!
@ Whitey,
I made $130k last year at 25, Im a slave to a dollar. And with a name like “whitey” are you just wishful thinking?
Yeah you made 130k , That’ s why you are sitting her on bossip gossiping like the good housewife you are , rotfl sit somewhere
GREAT POST BOSSIP……WE NEED MORE OF THIS……CAUSE IM TIRED WHEN I MEET A BLACK WOMEN…..THEY ALWAYS SAY….(I DONT HAVE ANY FEMALE FRIENDS,FEMALES ARE TRIFFLING) TIRED OF HEARING THAT.
@ Whitey,
No dumb*****, its only 5:22 here and I have my work comp and my personal laptop on my desk, see when you have aN MS in Mechanical Engineering that usually means you can do more than one thing at at time, but thanks for advising me to sit somewhere, my chair is really comfortable, sucks to be you huh?
*****in’ gutter ***** african
@ Senegal,
Rather you translate this for me, Waataschii wataka schoschii nihongo baka!
And if youre too stupid to see what I was typin’ then yes you fall into that category too **********a! Pull your nappy head outta your ***** and read between the lines Kunta, first I’m in Honolulu, we dont have Homeboys on the block, we have black men who grow up to be future U.S. Presidents, and before your crispy fried ***** even comes outta pocket sayin’ you’ll p***** me, you gotta get in the game first, get an advanced degree then hope to God I dont get promotions.
So in closing ***** You Shaka, instead of telling me what you hope to do, Show me you aint some ***** talkin’ monkey *****in’ bush ***** swipin’ flies outta his eyes and runnin’ internet scams.
6am speaks for all “Black” americans!
Repeat after me, I pledge allegiance to the flag……………..
Next big lipped, aids infested, shiny skin, ***** talkin’ *****in’ bush immigrant?
6am, i love you all, especially if you were born here!
5:37pm bye all, gotta meet my girl at Ala Moana!
Mahalo
@6am
it’s so funny on how u call africans shaka zulu, they are better that u monkey ugly looking species and have more brains and are more educated than ya”ll. most of u should still be lynched until this day and shipped back to africa ASAP. u ugly monkeys.
Oh yeah, let me give you some advice Senegal, next time pick someone else bush *****, I didnt get this name and title listening to or being semi-insulted by some non-deodorant wearin’ nappy head immigrant *****.
6am
@6AM
the only girl u are meeting will be ur crackwh*re black ugly aids mother.
@ senegal,
If youre gonna change your name to Italiano, at least change the way you type. That ***** makes no sense. Italians aint hardly backin’ any *****in’ africans dummy!
peace
@6am
slave n*gger, i am italian, dumb b8tch.
@6am
and y’all have nappy heads too. that is why they called ur b*tches nappy headed hos.
italians hates african american, we call y’all apes.
and obama is african, u dumb f8ck!!
goodnight coward.
sincerely 6am (GTFOH)
Black Americans are not stupid and ignorant. What is the difference between Loreal and mud as a means of beautifying one’s self? Skin bleaching is all the rage in Africa; more than as it is here. African women relax their hair and wear extensions and makeup. I still say that Africans are no better than Black Americans. In terms of parentage, the out of wedlock births in America is not only prevalent in the Black community but in America and other parts of the western world as a whole because the definitions of “family” and social stigma have changed. Furthermore, as a result of all the genocides and wars in Africa, you will soon have a whole generation of *****s! Today, most Africans live well below established proverty levels, not for the lack of want of something better but because despots and tribal differences keep neighbors at each others’ throats. Anyone who thinks we all speak in Ebonics is sad and has had very little exposure to other than what is projected in the media. In terms of culture, we had to recreate a culture (a very rich one at that) as a means of survival. Do not get angry at me for speaking the truth. Check the United Nations, Red Cross, UNICEF and other NGO as well as governmental statistics regarding rapes, genocides, mutilations and poverty in Africa. You have the richest continent however it is being destroyed through war and now through Chinese developement. So much so that the continent is now called ChinAfrica. When are African leaders going to stop prostituting their Mother? My point is this: I do not hate Africans or Africa, I am just glad that my ancestors made the trip out. Also,stop trying to make us believe that everything is so wonderful in Africa when it is not. When someone, anyone, from any tribe rings my doorbell and tells me that they have been searching for me (not to kick my ***** but out of love)their family that was sold away to America, then I will change my feelings.
Regarding the article, women can and do have female friendships that are based on love an respect. We do not all hate each other or have difficulties in establishing and maintaining friendships and sisterhoods.
SO SO SAD, LOOK AT THE WAY WE ATTACK EACH OTHER.
@Its6amHoGetOut
It doesn’t matter if/why I came to this country or not. First of all this ain’t your country, you are a minority just like me. LOL. Second that doesn’t mean I don’t love my country which I do.
Personal attacks eh? One, I have soft hair like the majority of East Africans unlike you unfortunate nappy headed people, so no I do not wear a weave. What makes you think I’m dating white? You think all black men are stupid, abusive, ugly, and thugs like you African American men? FYI, my boyfriend is Eritrean. Dummy all of Africa don’t look the same. Compare East Africans like Iman and Liya Kebeke to your women and see the damn difference *****.
Let me put it this way….A mixed African American doesn’t look half as good as a full-blooded Eritrean. And that’s real!! Please don’t embarr***** yourself any further. Now comb that smelly cornbraids of yours and put yourself to sleep.
Don’t blame our ugly behavior on whites either. When we meet a man at the Club, we must *****ume that he is already fathering children with another woman. We punish the kids, when we hope he’ll ignore them by withholding support payments, or failing to spend time with them. Don’t bother letting yourself get pregnant by these men (babies cannot help you hold a man), because then you’ll come to hate/resent the other mother. If your man has jump-offs, don’t make plans to attack her. Your relationship is/was with HIM. You may have forfeited rent money or shopping trips, but he has chosen to move on and you must do the same. If she seems successful, find out what she does, and learn from her experiences. Stop calling other women *****ES. Your sons get that from you/home, and call all women that (including you behind your back).
@Whitey
I’m not your “hun” and I doubt that you are around enough sistas to know what sistas in real life talk about. Bossip probably inspired the perspective that you have but trust me, we don’t spend our precious moments over the likes of you on a regular basis. I don’t have an identity or self esteem issue. Not every black woman does. So as your little bubble pops as to how important you are on the scale try not to blow that hot air this way. Oh my, I’m going to stop waisting my time because I know you need this to feel better about yourself. You are trying to confirm your belief that sistas are always angry. I’m going to just pray for you and keep moving. I would hate for your ignorance to be a cancer on my joyous spirit.
We should all remember one thing: As people of color, we will always be considered prey to some folks particularly as long as the collecitve leadership of our military and law enforcement are predominantly white. Case in point: When Amadou Diallo was murdered, shot 41 times, the police did not say “Brother, please let us hear your accent first and please let us check the texture of your hair before we shoot you down like a dog in the street”. He was considered collateral damage in the universal quest to wipe us from the face of the earth. So, whether we are from Georgia, Nova Scotia, Naples, Sicily, Durban, Eritrea, Ethiopia, Melbourne, San Juan, Havana, Port of Spain or Kingston, we will always have bullseye on our collective backs. The idea that hair texture and any complexion other than black makes us better is sick, disjoiinted and dangerous because it creates a false sense of security. Do not fool yourself!
Bossip is just trying to create controversy ladies don’t fall for it. Now that *****oby is paying attention to Chrianna anymore they need a new hot button item…nice try Bossip.
Its6amHoGetOut, the smartest, most interesting and funniest man on Bossip@ your president is AFRICAN EAST AFRIICAN
Givedaddysomesugar@ it aint like are ancestors wanted to be raped idiot so for you to be glad that our ancestors to be raped its really sa
now i understand why black men wont wife black women duuh
ooh i meant african american women haha
To Sorry Excuse For A Black Man – reading is fundamental. You are too ignorant and pompous to even consider relevant. I am referring to conditions and events in the past century. Who in his or her right mind would celebrate rape, mutilation and torture except those committing the crimes? Again Africa is no longer Eden. There is strife and discontent everywhere. Anyone who has to resort to name calling is just plain common. The conversation is over and you have been cut.
so for a black man, learned from HIS mistakes from being wrong in a marriage, ready to settle for real and earning good $$, solid brother w/east coast mentality and moral character off of faith i ask 1 question: why can’t i find one of these sista’s complaining of no good men?
This is a serious issue that black women need to cover. For years, I always wonder and wanting to know the answer to “Why black women hate on each other so much”? And not just to poin the finger at just black women, but us as whole race(Male&Female). Even as of today with us having a black president, we still are putting each other down, killing one another and worst of all our black men treating our beautiful black women with no respect. Grant it, some girls get what they dish out but that still doesn’t give them thee right to misstreat us all. Black Women, we need to unite. I pray to GOD that one day we will learn to love each other, care for one another and stop hurting each in so many different ways. We as black people need not to be like “Crabs In A Bucket”!!!!!
@continue to act as triflin’ as humanly possible to each other
I love my fellow black sistas! yall all BEAUTIFUL!
The ones who embelish in the hating are smply insecure. Because of their unhappiness, Many are unhapy with mostly their looks/appearance and/or, marital status. They can’t fathom seeing a sista’ THEY PERCEIVE as doing better than they. Now if the sista’ is better looking, they become truly green. And don’t let her be happy because that causes their blood to boil. As a result of the bitterness, they dddly feel uplifted by attempting to tear her down with crazy looks, by spreading false rumors and by doing all the silly things they can to give them a temporary fix (Uplift). Needless to say, the happier ones they attempt tearing down are always thriving in all facets of their lives. I think good things happen to good people!
It all comes down to insecurity…with appearance. Those who are insecure within themselves feel uplifted by tearing another down by treating the other badly (ugly looks, creating false rumorsm sabotage on the work place and the rest of the crazy things they tend to do). With a little therapy, they’ll get better. I say steer clear of them. I do.
Thats because history has proved it that black woman are emotionally unstable. She can never be statisfied. She has no love for the blackman so she goes to the whiteman he fo sho is not going to accept them when the sun comes up. So she turned to her girlfriend but to unhappy persons cannot make a happy couple. And she wonders why the brothers have started to dating out there race ni$@er Please!
***WHITE WOMEN R LAUGHING AT YOU**I am LMAO at you black girls…..why do you even bother going on these reality shows. Did you not listen to Kanye West’s song?????
Allow me to quote the line for you, “When he gets on….he’ll leave your *** for a WHITE GIRL.” LMAO its so funny, WHITE MEN DON’T
WANT YOU, SPANISH MEN DON’T WANT YOU, ASIANS DON’T WANT YOU, ITALIANS DON’T WANT YOU, AND THE ICING ON THE CAKE
YOUR BLACK MEN DON’T WANT YOU. Maybe you should take some notes from us white girls, we obviously know how to take care of your
men better than you. Think about it, when we wear stillettos, what does a black man say, “*** those shoes are hot” when you wear
stillettos, they say, “STRIPPER” It’s obvious your men only want you when they know they are stuck in the ghetto and not going to be
anything in life, but once they get a little money or reach super stardom, its obvious they want the more superior race, A WHITE GIRL…
Tonight proved that, Chardonnay did nothing wrong, scored the highest on the lie detector, while my fellow white girl, who is clearly
after him for his money, lied continually, was the first to get a gl*****. DUHHHHHHH *****tail is going to win….It’s obvious she is doing what
all of us do…put a few negative words about you black girls in a black man’s ear, and he doesn’t even question it, because its coming from
us…and that’s all it takes. We have been working your men since slavery and its obvious they know who the master is and really why would
a former slave want to be with another slave when he can be with the master, especially since its no longer illegal to do so. So black women
give it up, get used to being alone and raising those kids you have on your own, because your men are ALWAYS GOING TO COME TO US.
Thank you Ray J for having this show, maybe now these black women will watch and see they have nothing on us WHITE GIRLS!!! Go
*****tail…live up to our motto…”THE BEST WAY TO TEAR APART A BLACK FAMILY IS TO TAKE THEIR MEN!!!!!”
**BLACK QUEENS WAKE UP & STOP BEING A HO & *******
LOOK WHAT WHITE WOMEN R SAYING ABOUT YOU….
I am LMAO at you black girls…..why do you even bother going on these reality shows. Did you not listen to Kanye West’s song?????
Allow me to quote the line for you, “When he gets on….he’ll leave your *** for a WHITE GIRL.” LMAO its so funny, WHITE MEN DON’T
WANT YOU, SPANISH MEN DON’T WANT YOU, ASIANS DON’T WANT YOU, ITALIANS DON’T WANT YOU, AND THE ICING ON THE CAKE
YOUR BLACK MEN DON’T WANT YOU. Maybe you should take some notes from us white girls, we obviously know how to take care of your
men better than you. Think about it, when we wear stillettos, what does a black man say, “*** those shoes are hot” when you wear
stillettos, they say, “STRIPPER” It’s obvious your men only want you when they know they are stuck in the ghetto and not going to be
anything in life, but once they get a little money or reach super stardom, its obvious they want the more superior race, A WHITE GIRL…
Tonight proved that, Chardonnay did nothing wrong, scored the highest on the lie detector, while my fellow white girl, who is clearly
after him for his money, lied continually, was the first to get a gl*****. DUHHHHHHH *****tail is going to win….It’s obvious she is doing what
all of us do…put a few negative words about you black girls in a black man’s ear, and he doesn’t even question it, because its coming from
us…and that’s all it takes. We have been working your men since slavery and its obvious they know who the master is and really why would
a former slave want to be with another slave when he can be with the master, especially since its no longer illegal to do so. So black women
give it up, get used to being alone and raising those kids you have on your own, because your men are ALWAYS GOING TO COME TO US.
Thank you Ray J for having this show, maybe now these black women will watch and see they have nothing on us WHITE GIRLS!!! Go
*****tail…live up to our motto…”THE BEST WAY TO TEAR APART A BLACK FAMILY IS TO TAKE THEIR MEN!!!!!”
In my opinion, the Brothers that do that are no damn good any how, and damn things aren’t that bad, lol…