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Damn I pray for her and her whole damn family, I wouldn’t wish that type of loss on none of my haters!

and Julia is a nut

Prayers to them

Pimpin Willie… Whad up? I agree i pray for her and her remaining family, i wouldnt wish that tragedy on my worse enenmy not even some of these impostering fools up in here! Pimpin i had to bow out i only come on here to holla at a few. It got too damn silly and childish for me when you got imposters impostering the imposters! wack man wack!!

God Bless the Hudson family, but there is just something about Julia that isn’t right…

Good for her. People can say what they want about Julia but she lost just as much if not more as Jennifer. She has her faults but she’s still human and she’s grieving and suffering like the next person. We tend to forget that people are human. Good for her for doing something positive and trying to piece her life back together.

too bad her lack in self confidence and crappy choice of men got practically her whole family killed, she really needs to get a clue. I pray Jennifer can hang in there with her wacko sister….Blessing Jen and Julia

Pynk- I agree

I HOPE THE HUDSON FAMILY CAN FIND SOLACE IN THE LORD….WE CAN NOT KNOW EXACTLY THE PAIN THEY FEEL AND LOSS..PLEASE LORD BE WITH THEM AND CONTINUE TO HELP THEM THROUGH THIS GRIEVING PROCESS TO EMERGE ON THE OTHERSIDE, THOUGHTFUL,AND AT PEACE AND ABLE TO LET GO OF THE PAIN.

May GOD continue to bless her and her family,in JESUS’s name, AMEN, may she stay strong!

I still cant believe that happened to Jennifers family, my prayers continue to go to her and her family, loved ones and friends.

If I was Jennifer, I would have had the mother move in with me in a better neighborhood and home, paid off the mortage at the original house and let Julia live there.

That’s sad, but uplifting

deep. everyone deals with death/loss differently. god bless her.

The devil was between her legs….maybe she’ll keep em shut this time.

her being a loser cause this, i agree close those legs for once shame

@ Mild Sauce

I heard that too that the mom was not feelin movin..and thats understandable…its just really unfortunate that Julia felt that her man was safe…knowing his history and all…especially after I heard he threatened the family at one point. But to have your son killed by this Balfour? Just sickening..he needs to be taken from this earth immediately.

He hasn’t even been found guilty in court yet has he for her to be making those statements?

If this William Balfour guy did do this, i know he didn’t do it alone.

God bless the Hudson Family!

Good for her

Prayers and condolences to the Hudson family

No offence but if I was Jennifer Hudson I would not have my sister working as a bus driver for what 30K a year(not that there is anyting wrong with being a bus diver). I would hire to help me..do my hair, makeup..something! Does anyone else agree?

Wow….some of ya’ll are actin like she deserved this to happen to her just cuz she was dumb about her choice in men. That type of thinking is judgemental, simple, and naive. Grow up. People are not perfect, people do not walk through life with the best judgement 24/7, and not everyone has perfect self esteem. This woman did not deserve for this to happen to her.

You marry and lay with dogs, and you will get fleas.

i wanna know, has Julia even filed for divorce from this guy? are they actually still married?

correction: woman and sympathy.

She is part to blame for brining this convict into her family’s life after is past record:

William Balfour was sentenced to 7 years in prison after pleading guilty to ATTEMPTED MURDER and CAR HIJACKING in September 1999. He was released in May 2006, returned to the neighborhood where he grew up and reconnected with Julia Hudson, one of the three Hudson siblings he had known while attending Yale Elementary School.

She was a single mother who drove a school bus, lived with her mother and depended on relatives to help care for Julian. Balfour was smitten with Julia Hudson, his mother said.

“He was in love with Julia,” Michele Balfour said. “And Julia loved him.”

The couple married in December 2006

Im a little perplexed on how do you bounce back just five months after your child is murdered!
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She can bounce back cuz she knows why her family was wiped out — she was somehow involved. Yeah, I’m sure Jennifer wasn’t at the event, I would stay as far away from Julia as Lake Michigan is wide.

lady l

i wanna know, has Julia even filed for divorce from this guy? are they actually still married?
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She still thinks there’s a chance they may still be able to work it out.

Some of you are pathetic. Blaming the victim? How convenient.

What’s not to know about someone who served 7 years in prison….HELLOOOOOO…Women should not marry men who plead guilty to attempted murder…it’s not rocket science, IT’S CALLED COMMON SENSE. i guess some women are so stupid and their self esteem is so low and they are so fat that they feel that they can’t do any better.

……mmmm……..

She really needs to work on herself. She REALLY needs to work on herself.

Sandy

No offence but if I was Jennifer Hudson I would not have my sister working as a bus driver for what 30K a year(not that there is anyting wrong with being a bus diver). I would hire to help me..do my hair, makeup..something! Does anyone else agree?
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Yes I would also, unless that family member was like a Frankie & Neffe, then I would help them but from a distance.

I hear so many people downing this lady instead of asking God to strenghten her. What has the world come to? No matter what we may or may not think about her, she lost people very close to her. It is not up to us to determine whether or not her grief is valid enough because only she and God knows. I will continually pray for her strength because if there is anything remotely corrupt about her, the creator will handle it.

I’m still on the fence about Julia….

I really want to believe that she had nothing to do with the murders but on the other hand, how do you involve yourself with someone who did time for attempted murder???

I’m sure there are some exconvicts who have been rehabilitated but I’m sure there were some warning signs that this man wasn’t. I mean, he gets out and goes RIGHT back to the same enviroment that put him there…only the second time he’s married.

At least for the sake of her child, she should’ve seen the handwriting on the wall.

I do continuously pray that Jennifer keeps the courage that she’s shown because SHE IS A VICTIM.

THAT, I DO BELIEVE!!!

@Mr. James

What’s not to know about someone who served 7 years in prison….HELLOOOOOO…Women should not marry men who plead guilty to attempted murder…it’s not rocket science, IT’S CALLED COMMON SENSE. i guess some women are so stupid and their self esteem is so low and they are so fat that they feel that they can’t do any better.
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What does one’s weight have to do with self-esteem? You can be skinny and unhappy as well. I used to be a size 6 before I had children which is still probably gigantic for some people, but I had my days. We all have our days. As of now, I’m a 10, but I love myself, and my self-esteem is better than it was before. I think self-esteem is a spiritual, mental, and emotional thing. It doesn’t discriminate according to weight. That notion is just foolish. Yes, she may have had self-esteem problems, but maybe for other reasons.

About it

Im a little perplexed on how do you bounce back just five months after your child is murdered!
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She can bounce back cuz she knows why her family was wiped out — she was somehow involved. Yeah, I’m sure Jennifer wasn’t at the event, I would stay as far away from Julia as Lake Michigan is wide.
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No, she can bounce back with the help of the Lord. She didn’t say it wasn’t hard at times, she simply said she was going to keep going.

I’m sure that if Julia took an ACTIVE role in what happened to her family, she would’ve been charged as such.

However–I think most people don’t feel any sympathy for her because of the fact that she allowed herself to become involved with someone of Balfour’s nature.

Ask yourself (especially if you are single parents) do you NOT consider your child(ren) when dating or “hooking up” with someone?

Or…..
Once you find out someone’s past, do you NOT consider the impact it can have on your relationship?

Let’s keep it real…..There ARE NOT too many people (men or women) that would involve themselves with someone that showed no signs of being rehabilitated–such as Julia did.

I’m not going to go hard on the young lady because-

There but by the Grace of God, go I and I’m fortunate enough to at least have common sense and put the needs of my children before the wants of myself.

@ Marc B’s Honey–

I COMPLETELY understand you and from reading your posts, I can assume that you are a young lady that has found a way to deal with and take charge of your life and I applaud that–especially in a young black woman!

Keep ya head up!

Someone further up asked did she file for divorce yet.

That’s a damn good question!

Wouldn’t that be public knowledge?

Pimpin Willie I agree..I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. My prayers go out to her

Man, this world is just getting colder and colder. SOME OF YOU ARE AMAZING! I am just blown away at the disrespect and the cold and heartless attitude many of you are showing. For one second, I know it sounds cliche to say this, but put YOURSELF in that position. Yes, she made the mistake of hooking up with William Balfour and her decision to be with him cost her her family’s life but who are we to throw stones at her?

We all have made mistakes one time or another. NONE, not ONE OF US are perfect and never will be while walking this earth. You will make mistakes in the future so be VERY CAREFUL how you put your mouth on people and how you condemn people because that same measure of judgment that you’re passing on to someone else will be passed on to you. Remember, it may be 20, 30, or 40 years from now, but be careful how you treat people and what you say, because we ALL will REAP WHAT WE SOW.

MAY GOD CONTINUE TO STRENGTHEN THIS FAMILY.

For me, the jury is stillout on Julia. That’s all I have to say.

@De’Vincent – I agree 100%.

De’Vincent–

You took it waaaaaaaaaaaaay to the left!

NO ONE is saying that we don’t make mistakes!!
(I’ve probably made MORE mistakes before nine this morning than you will make ALL DAY!!!!)

I for one–am not throwing stones.

IMO–The way you’re coming across is to “give the po’ chile a slap on the wrist and let her be on her merry way!

THAT–is what we need to rise above!!

WHEN WE CAN ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR ACTIONS!!

WHEN…WE…CAN..ACCEPT..RESPONSIBILITY..FOR..OUR…ACTIONS!!!!!!

Then–we can grow as an indiviual.

Now, I don’t know if this young lady has done that and it’s not for me or you to decide her fate…OR FORTUNE!

If she, just like the rest of us who make mistake (every day God sends) can aknowledge her role she played in all of this and God can forgive her then so be it.

You must know that as humans, there are certain things that we don’t understand…That does not make you, her or us right or wrong in questioning those things, either!!

Like–WHY DID SHE PUT HERSELF AND HER CHILD IN THE SITUATION SHE DID?

I am sooo glad Julia had fun posing and modeling in designer gowns. I’m glad she had a good time hanging out, 5 months is such a long time to greive for your mother and child, it’s time for her to party. (sarcasim)

You mentioned Karma???

If I understand the true meanining of Karma then please tell me, what did the little boy do to deserve his fate?

I’m honestly NOT trying to be funny, either.

Julia says she is going to give William another chance because everybody makes mistakes.

God Bless her with strength. I feel I couldn’t go on – if that happened to me, but I definitely can feel what she is saying. Be Strong and hold on to your life that God gave you and don’t let the devil tear you down. It’s the right attitude, but can she do it. I pray she can.

@1True Diva
“give the po’ chile a slap on the wrist and let her be on her merry way!”

I think this woman has suffered way more than a slap on the wrist. Do we honestly think that she doesn’t feel guilty about this? We don’t know and we shouldn’t automatically assume that she doesn’t and hasn’t asked for forgiveness.

@ Marc B’s Honey:
I totally agree with you that the Lord lifts us all up. But this woman is convicting Balfour in the press (publicity) and she doesn’t mention the Lord, nor do her cousins. She doesn’t acknowledge Christ as her strength, she mentions hope and Jennifer.
You sound like a woman of strong faith and a good heart. I hope you can agree that people are lashing out at this woman’s hypocrisy.

When I look at Jennifer I see pain, I see someone who’s trying to hold it together… I can connect with her.. With Julia I don’t get that all… sorry….

It’s somethin about her, she updated her MS right after the murders. If anything ever happened to my child, I would be in no state of mind to update my MOOD on My Space!

@ Lique—

At that you’re right and going forward out of respect to you and the rest that may feel that way, I’ll keep my thoughts to myself.

Don’t misunderstand me, if I’m dead to the wrong about something, I NEVER have a problem with people making me understand that or seeing another side (If I feel I’m right)

I won’t direspect the young woman any further or even show the slightest thought that I would.

I’m just one with honest thoughts and questions I had once this tragedy surfaced.

I do respect your opinion(s) even if it appears mine may slightly differ.

Is I stated earlier, there but by the Grace of God, go I.

Thanks for (at least) understanding my posts.

And now this statement, not that I wish for her to be sad, but I be on meds right now after I lost my child and somewhat contributed to the “situation”. I don’t know, suspect.

@ the 1:55 poster—

breathe!

Now, do ya feel better. I hope so because your rant really doesn’t bother me in the least.

For someone YOU feel is a nuisance, you OBVIOUSLY STAY sweating my posts.

It’s all good, though. I’m really not even in the mood to berate even YOU today.

have a nice day because I sure will!!!!

Once again, my time for now has come to an end. I’ll check back later and will most definitely have my “auto ignore” key at hand.

If I catch you on, we’ll blog. If not, please enjoy your day and as always, be safe!

**1TruDiva has left the building**

@1TrueDiva – I didn’t feel you were being disrespectful like some people earlier were. I just wanted to address the one statement.

I just think we see her on TV or read about her and we tend to jump to conclusions…but we don’t know her or what type of pain/guilt she feels, if any. Not only does this woman have to live with this for the rest of her life, she has to live with people judging her because of it. That’s enough for me not to say anything negative to add to her burden.

Life’s not fair
Keep moving forward.

sorry, julia WAS INVOLVED. period. my 2 cents, no need for comments, everyone is entitled to one .. it’ll be proven at the trial

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People really need to know who they are dealing with and look at themselves and ask, am I the type of person that can be with a man like this? If you know you are a big flirt, or the type of woman to try and fight a man, knowing he is stronger than you, don’t get with him!! He is going to be DRAMA in you’re life. I have a man who has a long record but I know who I’m dealing with and deal with him accordingly. P.us she had too much to loose, messin around with him. It would be hard for me to not be mad at her if I was Jennifer too.

I don’t know what it is, she seems so self-consumed to me, since jump … It’s so odd, I feel for that entire family and pray that they continue to heal amidst such tragedy … but something’s just not right about her to me … idk …

I would never want to dream of losing a child, in fact, it is my worst nightmare. But, then again, I have to agree, there is something COMPLETELY NOT RIGHT with this woman. I feel for her as a mother, but all I can think of is the pics she took all happy and jolly while she and her family were hold up in TRUMP towers after the murders. Then, the pics the day of the funeral with her and her new boyfriend; she looking like she won the lottery and making comments about how fine her new man is. Yeah, uh, in the words of Kieth Sweat: SUMTHIN, SUMTHIN, SUMTHIN, SUMTHIN JUS AINT RIGHT!

Constant prayers to the whole family. I still say that Julia should be careful of the words she express in the media etc about her ex-husband. No one has been charged and for all we may know the people behind this sad massacre is still free. I pray that Jennifer Hudson still has her guards on stand by for her own safety. Julia, will need the help of god to get her through all of her pain.

@ 1 Tru Diva – No, I didn’t go to the far left! The truth of the matter is rather Julia Hudson lives a 100 years from now, she will never be able to change the past. I’m pretty sure she is aware of the mistakes that she’s made now. I’m pretty sure she wishes that she could have done things differently but she can’t. Her mistake resulted in a fatal ending for her family and there’s absolutely nothing that YOU or I or SHE could ever do about that! It’s over!

However, instead of criticizing her and condemning about her should’ve, could’ve, and would haves we can do one thing, and that’s love her. Support her. Let her know we’re praying for her! Not remind her of her painful past! Not give distasteful comments to her concerning her mistakes! Rather a person learns from their mistakes or not, it’s not your job to tell them rather they should’ve learned or what they should’ve learned. Only LIFE EXPERIENCES can teach that lesson, not another human being. But as I said, we can LOVE ONE ANOTHER.

And that’s all I have to say…

@ Lique–

“I didn’t feel you were being disrespectful like some people earlier were. I just wanted to address the one statement”
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I’m glad that you saw my point. I was not being condescending in any way. At least, that was not my intent.

Thanks for understanding.

This guys is really messed up though.. tripple homicide.. killing a little boy, the boy you should have adopted as your own? Just to get back at your ex??

WoW

So often we are told not to judge, but that doesn’t mean we should not exercise JUDGEMENT. No, I would not pay money to see a woman in a fashion show whose behavior was so odd in the face of such a tragic and horrific circumstance. When people wind up dead because of a person’s actions, we all need to go on RED ALERT and stay away from that person and yes, call them out, if need be. People need to be embraced while earnesly seeking change or redemption, but not while they are in the same mess. That is why our community is so screwed up — we accept everything, discern nothing and have thrown our judgment out the window.

@ ABOUT IT – Well, I tell you one thing, they won’t receive REDEMPTION or CHANGE by you throwing harsh judgment at them either. She’s not in a fashion show to flaunt what she did. She’s moving on with her life, despite her pain. She’s letting everyone know despite her loss she’s still alive, and she has not given up. Yes, I will not deny she messed up. She made a mistake. But goodness, for sake, if Jennifer can love and forgive her and still be there and that’s her SISTER, what gives you or any of us the right to be so harsh and cruel that we can’t forgive??? That’s absolutely ridiculous for any of you to act so self-righteous and perfect.

You will make a HUGE mistake very sooner than you think. And you’re going to see how it feels when the same people who claimed they’d have your back pass the same harsh and cruel judgment without any explanations or forgiveness the same way you’re doing. MARK…MY…WORDS!

@De Vincent:
I have made HUGE MISTAKES. Life changing mistakes. But I had to sit down and shut up and get right and I am still trying to get right and increase my spiritual world.
You make many assumptions, such as her sister forgives her, she is trying to go on with her life, etc. We don’t know that. Just like we don’t know her involvement. So we must utilize our JUDGMENT AND DISCERNMENT.
Does she mention Christ, Buddha, Abraham, Mohammed in her statements. No. Does she speak of introspection at all. No. And, she has already condemned this William guy and we really don’t know the extent of her involvement. If she were involved should she go free and he do all the time?
So, I can’t give her a pass.
I do agree with you that the spirit of condemnation is unholy. But so is the spirit of stupidity. And when we are presented with a false spirit of commitment (especially to change) we must call it out!!

@ De Vincent–I understand (most) of what you’re trying to deliver in your post but one thing bothers me—

If (in your opinion) you seem to think that some of us need to have a more compassionate spirit toward Julia (such as you) why then would you keep repeating the “We reap what we sow” phrase??

My take on that–I feel as if YOU are showing compassion for her (and I applaud that) yet at the same time, trying to send US to redemption.

Not trying to rain on your parade son but I sense some hypocracy here.

Just my opinion.

@ About it–

VERY GOOD posts!!!!

Thanx Tru Diva. Compassion, that was the word I was looking for. I feel that many times in our community we have too much compassion and not enough critical discernment. We tell our kids that “birds of a feather flock together” and then we embrace all kinds of deviant behavior and crazy people who seek the limelight rather than the Light.

@ Tru Diva

Maybe Julia did reap what she sowed and that is between her and her maker.

Julia payed the ultimate price through her unwise decisions and that was losing her only son.

It should be easy for a kind hearted person to say I’m sorry for your loss in this time of sorrow. I find it distasteful to go and spread negative ideas and notions about a mother who has lost her entire family. It is cruel and borderline hateful. I know that you are an avid supporter of Kigali and that is not a surprise judging from your harsh comments.

Most of us have made bad choices in a mate. Julia was foolish, but she coud not forsee this coming. No one could. This woman has been victimized once more by these hateful comments on blogs.

The general population has a disdain for Julia. I see more hateful commentary than well wishers. When people are having troubles it is their natural instinct to destroy not heal. This is not the right way to treat your fellow man. Overly compassionate I think not. Judging is for Our creator. No one is free from error. The world is full of corrupt people who thrive off of negativity. These blogs are proof of it. It is truly sad when people can not have empathy for no one else but themselves.

If ya’ll don’t understand what i mean by now, you never, ever, ever, ever, ever will…

It’s not that we DON’T understand you point–we just have a slightly different opinion.

Besides–again–how can YOU ask us to show compassion when in fact, you turn right around and show redemption and contempt for us?

Now–I’m not questioning your christianity but at the same time…well I don’t think I need to express it again.

Enjoy your night and please pray my strength in the Lord!

Oh so I guess that Julia’s somewhat famous (because of her sister) she’s allowed sympathy and forgiveness while the rest of us are destined to an eternal hell?????

Now, if any of you beleievers WOULD have came off with something to the effect of “praying for us and making us understand your spiritual convictions,” then, just then, I would totally understand and agree.

However—NO WHERE DID I READ ANYTHING AS SUCH. If it’s posted, please direct me to it.

In the meantime, we can kindly agree to disagree but as profound christians, I think the hypocracy needs to be laid to rest.

@ diva

these are negative sterotypes that you have perpetuated in your own mind. A white woman could of made the same foolish mistake. Everything is not about race. White people go on murder sprees daily. Lonely white women pick up strange men from the pen and bring them home to their children. Including peodphiles and potential murderers. Whit women are on welare and having children out of wedlock as well.

This woman is just a subject to express your bitterness. She has lost a great deal by her foolish decisions. She does not need harsh critiques wathching her every move to see if she is worthy of sympathy. She is trying to move on.

A kind just person empathizes with few words and gives counsel to move forward and heal. You are just here to spread negativity and it is unjust and cruel in my opinion. I hope one day when you need a listening ear and kind words they are not met with brutality. Do yourself a favor and log off.

@ keen observer–

That last comment was definitely not meant for you. No where in your posts did I read anything that would warrant me to direct that toward you.

You are NOT coming off as the bible thumping, evryone’s going to hell except me, damn to you all, type of individual. At least, I didn’t see that in your posts.

Besides–again–how can YOU ask us to show compassion when in fact, you turn right around and show redemption and contempt for us?

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Redemption is when you are trying to cleanse yourself of your sins. I never said I have contempt for you all. I dislike the bitterness and lack of empathy. When 3 people die in an act of violence, it shouldn’t be hard to say I feel sorry for her loss and be sincere.

That’s why that post WAS NOT directed toward you.

I’m back!

If you would would, please take the time to read aand determine the difference between your posts and DeVincent’s. Although I gather you both my be christiaans, I can see their is a difference between your approach and his.

Now–(IMHO) If I were someone that didn’t know absolutely anything about christianity and spiritualism (there’s a HUGE difference) instead of him embracing a “lost soul” he’s condemnining people with all the “you reap what you so” aand the likes.

My question to him (earlier this afternoon was) if WE reap what WE sow, then pray tell what is it that innocent child did to cause his fate?

I didn’t get an answer.

“Do yourself a favor and log off”
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I guess the kind, compassinoate christian has gotten pisseth offeth.

SMH!!!!

You can call me bitter, steroetypical or whatever. As long as you keep that mentality, coupled with the fact that you refuse to see us as we sometimes are, then I sincerely feel sorry for you.

To act like the conditions I described within some of our communities doesn’t exists well, that’s sad.

To want to condemn ME for being honest enough to point them out and label ME as..whatever…well, if that eases yor conscious and makes you sleep at night, go ahead. It’s not going to cchange things.

Also–when the same Balfour like character decides it’s OK to break into YOUR housee and steal what you worked so hard for–instead of calling the police or bashing his head in….pray for him!

When 3 people die in an act of violence, it shouldn’t be hard to say I feel sorry for her loss and be sincere.
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That is sympathy, not empathy.

Sorry, I cannot express either to this woman as I have seen too many of her type. If she were to have hurt herself, I could definitely show sympathy, maybe empathy. But her actions and choices left a child exposed. That child, like so many across the world, didn’t have the legal right, nor the personal right to say, “F*** this, I’m outta here.” If I have any sympathy and empathy, it is with the victims and Jennifer.

I know the difference between sypathy and empathy. They are in close proximity with one another. sympathy is a synonyms for empathy. Empathy is having undertanding and sensitivity towards anothers situation. you have shown none of the above with your distasteful comments directed towards a mother who has lost a child. She didn’t kill her son.

I know the difference between sympathy and empathy. They are in close proximity with one another. sympathy is a synonym for empathy. Empathy is having undertanding and sensitivity towards anothers situation. you have shown none of the above with your distasteful comments directed towards a mother who has lost a child. She didn’t kill her son.

*what I might have..

Please excuse the typos. I hope you can see past them to understand my points!

Good night and if you are at work, please get home safe!

ABOUT IT SAID:
When people wind up dead because of a person’s actions, we all need to go on RED ALERT and stay away from that person and yes, call them out, if need be.

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This is just downright abusive. People died because of William. Julia was never charged with a crime. William went of the deep end and repeated the same loathsome act that his father did. Sure Julia chose him, but she didn’t know he would turn his attack on her family.

If you had an ex who was troublesome and decided to go on a murder spree and kill your family it is not your fault. No one could of anticipated this vicious act. He committed these unjust acts of violence. Their blood is on his hands. Julia paid the ultimate price for her foolish decisions. She does not need hate mongrels writing disdainful comments about how she is to blame. That is cruel and sadistic. Julia has to live with this everyday. That is her punishment.

I could blame a lot of people. I could blame his mother, his father, the justice system, his parole officer and so forth But I won’t. Place the blame where it lies. The person holding the gun and pulling the trigger. That is William Balfour.

JULIA YOU ARE THE DEVIL AND IF YA SISTA JENNIFER WAS SMART SHE WOULD PUSH U SO FAR AWAY FROM HERE THAT WHEN THE SUN CAME UP SHE STILL WOULDN’T BE ABLE TO SEE YOU. THATS YA GUILT BROAD, U KNEW WHAT WAS GONNA HAPPEN AND DAMN SURE DID NOTHING TO STOP IT SO YES THE DEATH OF YA FAMILY WAS YOUR FAULT AND BEING THAT YOU WANTED TO BE THE PRETTY ONE NEVA JENNIFER WILL ALWAYS HAVE YA BEAT AND HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ALL THOSE POUNDS YOU ARE CARRYING AROUND JEN JUST IS PRETTIER THAN YOU. OH GOD FORBID U SHOULD BE SCANDALOUS AND TRY AND HAVE HER TAKEN OUT TO. YA SON I DO BELEIVE WAS NOT PART OF THE DEAL BUT GOD DOES NOT LIKE UGLY AND U HAD TO BE TAUGHT ALESSON OBVIUOSLY U DIDN”T. SO PLEASE STOP PLAYING WITH GOD BEFORE HE REALLY SHOWS U HIS POWERS. JUST GO AWAY.

@about it: Thank you for injecting a note of reality here. Unfortunately people have brought at face value the notions of “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” “Unconditional love” and “being nonjudgemental.” All these notions have allowed evil to flow unchecked. I look at my oldest sister. She treated her eldest daughter like royalty. Girl flunked English in her senior year of high school. Couldn’t graduate. My sister spent a fortune sending her to the prom, “so at least she’ll have the prom” Girl got knocked up, my sister never spoke a word of reproach because “she needs unconditional love right now.” Long story short my eldest sister has 3 grandchildren by 3 different fathers and a child too lazy to study for a GED and it’s my sister’s fault because she never put the brakes on that child’s unsavory behavior. We DO need to exercise judgement. We DO need to condemn stupid and immoral behavior. Oh, and by the way, my sister is a college educated woman as are we all in my family. That’s why I blame my neice’s plight on my sister’s permissiveness.

@earthdc: I feel you. I have experienced stupidity in my own family which is why I know from where I speak.
@Keen Observer: You sound as if you are closer to the story than others. If so, my condolences and my sympathy. You speak of the father of the accused. If this is a family history pattern, then discernment again comes into play. Furthermore, what about Jennifer’s brother. His past must be subject to scrutiny also when the trial comes up.
I cannot extend the sympathy and empathy to Julia because I don’t identify with her actions. Empathy includes identification. I find it interesting that she can do a fashion show but has yet to file for divorce. I don’t know about Illinois, but in my state, a spouse cannot testify against a spouse, thereby not being subject to CROSS-EXAMINATION (if you feel my drift).
I empathize with Jennifer because her mother chose to remain in the ‘hood, and that environment, due to no fault of her own, took Mrs. Hudson’s life. My father decided to remain in the ‘hood, cuz “black folks have to stop being pushed from here to there” and guess what: it took his life. So, no, when stupid ish gets black folks killed in the ‘hood, I am very selective about my sympathy and I have no tolerance for compicity!!!

*complicity*

@ De’Vincent:

You did not take it to the left. You brought this whole issue full circle because regardless of the questions or assumptions people may have, it’s not up to any of us human beings to judge what this woman did or did not do or why she made the decisions she made. That is between her and GOD only because HE is the one she, as well as the rest of us, will have to answer to in the end. You reap what you sow applies to every living human being on this earth. A true Christian who reads and understand the bible and accepts the truth that lay within it’s written word would know that and understand the full meaning of it and not get offended when someone says it. You De’Vincent adn Keen Observer are not judging anyone by making that statement because GOD HIMSELF made that statement because HE is the only TRUE JUDGE that will judge us all. Regardless of how we feel about someone who may clearly be wrong, who may have had a part in something so wicked and grotesque, it is still not for us to judge and condemn this woman. De’Vincent and Keen Observer I understand where you both are coming from completely. Our society is the way it is because the devil is alive and roaming about like a roaring lion seeking to devour. He is all around us so instead of being so quick to condemn others we need to take a stand against the devil first!! We are either on God’s side or the devil’s. Man can’t do anything for me! Some folks can’t or don’t want to understand the deeper, more spiritual side of life and that’s fine. When people don’t understand they become fearful and they allow hatred in their hearts. All we can do is continue to pray for them because soon, very soon God is going to bring about his righteous judgment.

@ Marc B’s–

Don’t worry about that rant, hun! That’s simply coming from someone who can’t formulate the words or structure a sentence to have a healthy debate.

Lol!!!

Keen observer

I know the difference between sypathy and empathy. They are in close proximity with one another. sympathy is a synonyms for empathy. Empathy is having undertanding and sensitivity towards anothers situation. you have shown none of the above with your distasteful comments directed towards a mother who has lost a child. She didn’t kill her son.
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I agree with your “do not judge others” message, but I have to point one thing out. I apologize in advance if I am offensive in any way because that’s not what I’m about, but although sympathy and empathy are relative in meaning, they are not synonyms. Empathy means to understand what someone is going through, while sympathy means to feel compassion for someone else’s grief. If you empathize with a person, it’s because you have been through the same exact situation. If you sympathize for a person, it’s because you feel grief, but not necessarily because of your own experiences of the same situation. I’m not trying to knit-pick…just wanted to state the difference.

@ Marc B’s–

Don’t worry about that rant, hun! That’s simply coming from someone who can’t formulate the words or structure a sentence to have a healthy debate.

Lol!!!
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Yeah, I was just checking old posts when I ran across that one, and I thought it was awful for anyone to address someone else in such a manner, but I’m sure others may not agree. I’m a mother of three, and my children’s father and I are seperated, but I don’t think it’s because I chose the wrong man. We were actually happily married at one point. People grow apart, and things happen. You should never feel ashame of being a single mother. If anything you should feel strong.

Wow. Days old on this, but I think Julia may have a mental health issue. Seriously, her actions and words do not add up so far. However I am not passing judgment, I pray for her and her family in particular her son. The news of his death brought me to tears. I also do not agree with those who have posted about this woman’s weight, and her judgement. How many know they are dating an abuser until they are being abused? Careful your harsh words and criticsms may come back to haunt you. Sympathy, love and support is what this family needs.

I feel NO sympathy for this woman. Zero Zilch.
When it first happened, I cried for Jennifer. I could feel her pain, but on the other side I could see right through the BS this woman displayed on national tv as if everyone is a fool.
She think she fooling everyone else but the only one she fooling is herself. She need to come real with it. To sit there and charge an INNOCENT man, yeah I said it, he is innocent, and she knows it with a crime as horrific as triple homicide is a crime within itself. To show even though she doesn’t intend to that she felt nothing for her son and really doesn’t care that he’s been murdered is a travesty. I’ve been holding this in for so long but I am tired now. And she needs to know that God saw everything and heard everything so while she sitting there pretending she in the Lord and lying through her teeth she needs to know Vengeance is mine I SHALL repay saith the Lord.
The eyes of the Lord are in EVERY place beholding the evil and the good.
She needs to come clean with herself, Jennifer, God and her family for her conscience sake.
You can’t tell me there weren’t some words passed, some hints, some signs BEFORE this happened to let her know that something was going to happen.
She said it herself “If you got beef with me take it up with me” That means she knew there was a chance someone out there had a beef with her and that means that she did something or said something to bring that beef.
She blaming Balfour and assasinating his character but God don’t like ugly and whatever you do is going to come back to you. You WILL sow what you reap. She is telling everyone she has to go on so they won’t think it strange that she is out and about trying to get herself in the limelight and get a piece of the action so soon. I’m not fooled.
She didn’t care about her son and that hasn’t changed. Thats truly awful, and while she is pretending to serve God and mentioning him in every sentence she needs to know he knows her heart and he isn’t fooled either!
The devil IS a liar, stop pretending you’re serving God when you are serving the devil himself.
Anyone who condones murder is Satans puppet on a string and anyone who doesn’t speak up against those who murder might as well murder some 1 too because thats what it is!

GOD BE WITH HER AND HER FAMILY.