Why the hell should Oprah get married now? Now that would just be downright stupid.

Would you have a problem being Oprah’s Fiance for 15 years?

This might seem dumb but what race is Stedman? Its hard to tell wid his oompa loompa lookin ass. And is Stedman his first, last name or a nickname? I am always scared to ask Oprah these questions when I’m on the show.

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She was said to have a personal account on a millionaire&celebs online service “Meet Rich,com” with her hot pictures and blogs there. Quite a few fans and hot guys are found in her circle there.

Oprah has everything that a woman could ever dream of. Why should she ruin it and become someone’s property? Stedman ain’t complaining…and I think it would be safe to say that he ain’t going nan where.

I will not abide hating on Oprah; implicit or explicit. Guess I’ll just go out and buy Mary’s new album. Growing Pains!

LMAO @ Mary…Speechless

That is a long engagement though. But whatever works for them…he’s not complain’n.

He is GAY… So being engaged and NEVER EVER having to get married is PERFECT for him. I’m not hating on him or Knocking his hustle ( More Powewr to him )

Google says Stedman Graham, so it’s the first name. Just like Oprah, even her man gets to go by the first name only.

Damn must be hard being Oprah’s man! She is paid paid paid she aint giving up half – good for you ma, keep your money u earned it.

@MJB

are you the real Mary cause the Mary I love wouldn’t speak that way about anyone. I know that was a dumb question casue Mary wouldn’t be on here. But Anyways Oprah is my girl and all but her and Gayle need to come out the closet. Stedman has the good life, lol. Thats where K-fed got it from. Stedman the offical original PIMP!!!

@504okaay… OOOh That’s a Good ONE

O.K. Mary it’s your turn !!!

Oh and Stedman was KICKED out of her crib in Indiana a LOOONNGG Time ago

( Not Living Together = No Common Law Marriage )

If Stedman can ‘play’ husband, can I ‘play’ daughter?

All I need is the keys to one of her homes and the black Amex. Thanks ‘play’ momma!

There are still together? I thought they were over, especially when she was drooling over Jamie Foxx

ummmmmm i am kinda scared of MJB….lmao

im mad yall think thats the real mary….

hiya Mary!!!! R u xcited about ur album release??

wishin u so much luv mami !!!

If I were a man, I wouldn’t mind being engaged to Oprah for 15 yrs. And who’s to say that they are not married?!?

MJB……why don’t you put a picture of yo man on your gravatar or your album cover coming out.

I agree with the first post

Something ain’t right. We’ll be reading about it in 15 years. I’m telling you. I have heard her say, herself, that theirs is not a “traditional relationship.” The question is what is non-traditional about it. There is something unusual going on with this. But I don’t know what. I don’t believe, however, they’re a real (and intimate) couple. Who knows.

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eh…since when are they engaged? per lady o, they’re not.

who STH?

Money can’t buy real love.

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please! Stedman be blowin’ Ofrey’s back out.

the end.

SHE AIN’T GOT NO RING….STEADMAN IS A PRETTY WELL TO DO BUSINESS MAN AND OCCASIONAL PROFESSOR AT NORTHWESTERN..SO HE WOULD BE OKAY WITHOUT OPRAH…AND I THINK THAT’S WHAT SHE LIKES ABOUT HIM AND HE DOESN’T SEEM TOO PRESSED TO MAKE IT A BIGGER ARRANGEMENT, I THINK THEY ARE HAPPY, SETTLED, I THINK FOLKS NEED TO MIND THEIR OWN BUSINESS AND LOOK AT THEIR OWN RELATIONSHIP CAUSE I DOUBT IT’S AS STABLE AS THEIRS AND AS FAR AS GAYLE IS CONCERNED SHE SEEMS LIKE A PAIN IN THE ASS FRIEND, BUT A DEDICATED ONE…OPRAH COULD LET HER BORROW HER STYLIST SOMETIMES…LMAO

MJB YOU ARE RETARDED AND I MEAN THAT IN THE MOST LOVING WAY…LOL ALWAYS LOOK FORWARD TO YOUR COMMENTS. I’LL BE LOOKING OUT FOR THAT “CODE WORD”…LMAO

@mary J…WOW

@504…good one!

but, who cares. Stedman seems to be alright with it so its all good. Go O!

Why would she be stupid. When men do it yall say take all he got. Thats why men treat yall like they do.

ophay iz big pimpin!

if Oprah and Gayle r together thats a good look-those chicks that got crew cuts and grab their crotch from time to time need help from jesus-

I think Oprah can do better than Steadman.

Jay Z is going to do Beyonce the same way! they will be engaged until the camel well runs dry!!!!!!!LOL

I think they are married and have been for years. We won’t know until they file for divorce though

I AM SOOOOOOOO DEAD AT MARY J BLIGE’S GRAVATAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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hey mary j., i got a better deal for you. if you’re the real deal, since you’re gonna be on 106 and park today, instead of “I” being the code word, say, “red”. find a way to work it into the conversation. and if you say it, then we’ll know you’re real.

btw, just copped your album, and it is FIRE!!!!

i agree with mo’ree. i think they’ve been married for years, too. you know how guarded oprah is about her private life. they probably did a Janet Jackson and got married overseas, and just didn’t tell anybody. either that, or one of them is really gay.

p.s., oprah looks GREAT in that pic above!

I mean, a 15 year engagement is rather funny and suspect, no matter who the parties involved are…

But if they are together, hell…I don’t want to say you can be too old for marriage, but there hits a certain point where if y’all are in it to the end, y’all are just in it til the end…Maybe, Lady O and Stedman are secure in what they have.

And maybe it’s a front. Who the hell knows.

He’s got his millions, she’s got her billion, and all seems to be well in their world.

she is NOT gay. give it a break. it is ok to have a best girl friend and not be bumping coochies.

If they like it, I love it. Don’t hate on her and her billions. She’s done what most people WISH they could do, and she did it without compromising herself or her values.

She is a genius. If 50% of all marriages end in divorce and you are worth over a billion dollars, only a real a$$hole would gamble with that much to lose. Marriage is overrated. Don’t do it Oprah.

Oprah is gay, and Stedman is just a well paid beard.

okay I meant to say

@ justsit – good catch!!!! sorry

destiny

She is a genius. If 50% of all marriages end in divorce and you are worth over a billion dollars, only a real a$$hole would gamble with that much to lose. Marriage is overrated. Don’t do it Oprah.

^^^^ So true.

It’s very telling how black people just jump all over bad news about blacks, but if you say something nice or suggest they are happy, black folks say they don’t believe it or want more proof or pretend like they didn’t even read it.

Millions of couples stay together for decades without being married.

Stedman and Gayle are happy tag teaming Oprah in that penthouse on the Handcock Bldg. He’s going to finally get that Stedman sandwich he’s been hinting at this year. Merry Christmas to all.

If the roles were reversed, the man would be in the wrong but its okay for women, dont get that. Plus how can any women take so much advice from another women about men and her homely situation aint right. As a role mode to many young women and girls, what kind of an example is she setting, “Its okay to shake up and play house”. i can careless really, but what it comes down to is living right by the man upstairs and she sure isnt.

So ladies, the next time your man says lets not get married we can be just like O and Stedman. Lets see how many of you ladies will go for that. I know my wife would like that.

You know what, why MUST we find different ways to hate on our sistas? Oprah is a certified legend, icon, genuis, queen and STILL we ridicule one of the most successful black women on the planet. She has truly elevated the race to a level of superiority and continues to set a proud example for the black community all over the world. So what she’s not married? She is in a long-term relationship with a committed black man (which is rare) and we automatically label him as gay? Wake up black people! You’re being evil and ugly and God doesn’t like ugly.

I dnt care if they get married,are already married or never get married and just for the record:

every single man is not gay

every single woman w/a tight girlfriend is not gay

ID WIFE HER HELLA QUICK

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@ FunnyMoney Not every single person is meant to be married and yes that is in the Bible, also God understands and makes allowances for the fact that humans will SIN.

God also does not bless every marriage, partners who are unequally yoked do not meet the Godly definition of a marriage so again that little piece of paper still means Nothing to HIM if you are not living by his Commandments so that is still a SIN =to fornication and or shacking up.

The next time you try to get righteous give the whole interpretation and not the parts that support the narrowminded point you wanted to make.

@hey

who is that in your gravatar?

@funnymoney

I feel what you saying about the shaking up thing but at the end of the day it’s just like you said “what it comes down to is living right by the man upstairs”. We all have done, are doing, and will do some ish we’re not supposed to but that is on each of us. I would rather women get married but I would also rather ppl don’t get married just b/c that’s what society says you’re supposed to do. God will handle her on her sins just like the rest of us.

What i find so interesting about the comments asking why would Oprah want to get married with as much money as she has?

Why would rich men want to get married? Why would would well to do men want to get married?

as long as you all entertain “Mary” she will just keeping writing and writing, you know she is not no “Mary” so just laugh at her comments and ignore, for IGORNACE IS BLISS

Mary, I don’t know whose’s impersonating the impersonator, but can you hook me up with some Carol’s Daughter? I love the Tui hair butter!!

all im saying is that if you been with someone for 15yrs you should know by now if that is the one for you. So i do understand that everyone doesnt have to get married and that the man has to be living by the commandments in order for GOD to bless the marrige.

Just ask yourself, would you be in a relationship for 15yrs and not expect to get married at some point.

oops, meant who’s

I don’t know what Oprah is, but I know what she is not BROKE

Let me see if I got this right:

If a dude strings a woman along for 15 years and don’t give her a ring–he’s a dog;

It’s okay to take half a dudes money at divorce (Juanita Jordan $168 million, Bob (BET) Johnson’s ex appox 1/2 billion plus, Michael Strahan’s ex $15 million plus);

However, it’s cool for Pope’prah to string Stedman/woman along for 15 years, as she would be a fool to risk her dough with marriage and gamble on giving up half if they divorce.

A lot of ladies on this site are anti-marriage and belive you can do the same things that men do. If that’s the case then Pope’prah shouldn’t mind coughing up half her billions of dough to Stedman/woman.

The reality is: WOMEN CAN’T AND SHOULD NOT WANT TO DO WHAT MEN DO. Why? YOU AR NOT MEN. PERIOD!

Stop trying to have things both ways as you will eventually end up with something totally watered down or nothing at all.

The real deal is that quite a few women thinkthat they are supposed to be taken care of by a man. U don’t hear men saying ” I’m tired of working”

blks cant stand to see other blks blow up i dont know what it is but thats the sad truth-blk folks r haters! O do you

“it aint good to do good in my hood,BOW now ya know not to do good now”

In My Hood-50cent

U don’t hear men saying ” I’m tired of working”

^^ urm that’s not true…men do say that ish.

MTW….

here am Iz!!!!!

oh thank gawd……bmama i been wondering round this mutha for hours bored outta my mind……

@Bahama Mama

Where you from?

U don’t hear men saying ” I’m tired of working”

^^^^^^ lmmfao you ain’t met my husband then…..

LMAO @ mtw…i’m sorry…the evil-ness that is work got me.

And…

I am Bahamian but I grew up in Florida..

@Sun Goddess

Wussup? It’s been a long time, long time.

lmmfao you ain’t met my husband then…..

^^

or my brother

@Bahama Mama

I was just wondering cuz you said “here am Iz” and I thought only me and my extra SpEcIaL friends said stuff like that, lol.

I never liked Oprah. She’s too superficial!

or my brother

^^^^^^ lmmfao or mine…..

Anyway, Oprah is a Aquarius woman. Aquariuses are independent. They love making friends with everybody and helping people, but marriage for them is something they tend to run from. I think Steadman may have had other women, as a result, and this is why Oprah won’t marry Stedman. I don’t blame her. She has all that money! Any man who wants to deal with her will be fishing for that, and not what she has to offer as far as her character is concerned.

AND…

IF you haven’t noticed. I AM extra special….lol

Oprah will get married when she’s good and dang ready! SHE’S the pimp! Stedman is her arm candy, like my right hand diamond ring.

chello Sun goddess…

BORED BMAMA DO SOMETHING BOUT IT PLEASE….I SAY WE PLAY TI PRANK CALLS THE REMIXED VERSION…..

Personally I think Oprah & Steadman are happy with their arrangement the way it is. This way, he cannot be seen as gold-digging (even though he’s got mad duckets himself) & they can still walk away from each other if they choose to do so & no one gets half of anyones anything. A brotha that I used to date several years ago really couldn’t handle the fact that I was the main breadwinner in the relationship. Can you imagine Steadman having to deal with Millions to BILLIONS? I have 3 nieces in their VERY early 20′s & the one thing that I have taught them is that if they do choose to get married, they need to do it for ALL the right reasons. Not just because everyone else is asking them when are they going to get married & worse yet WHY haven’t they gotten married yet? Marriage is sacred & NOT something people should just rush into. I think O & Steadman are just a different type of couple & we all know with the divorce rate being what it is, that marriage TRULY is NOT for everyone.

okie dokie…REMIX!!!

but lets take it to the certified links post…It’s too serious up in here

RE a 15 year engagement – haven’t Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell been dating 30+ years now? It’s not for everyone.

But LOL how the shoe is on the other foot. Rich Stedman probably was scared she was coming after his money, now what? Just happened to Harrison Ford – the carpenter/wanna-be actor married a Hollywood screenwriter, and her friends thought she was stupid for not getting a prenup because he was probably using her. $90mil divorce later, who’s stupid now?

K BMAMA

HELLUR!!!!!!!!!!

I’m just LAUGHING-OUT-LOUD at some of these comments…

I’m AMAZED at how many people that THINK that Stedman is STRAIGHT

So to THOSE individuals I’ll ask you this… What straight man that you know of would be engaged to a VERY, VERY, WEALTHY woman for 15+ years without getting married… OR at least trying to encourage her to get married!!!

And IF you do indeed know someone that fits that description… Then that person is Gay or a DL Brother, Trust Me on that one

Oh and for the record… If I was with Oprah it wouldn’t take 15 years before we got married

Tell them Macho

@Elove

He is STILL having sex. He is just not married. Grow up. Unmarried people have MORE sex than married people.

He got millions. To broke folks they don’t understand that he don’t need her, he just actually loves the little butterball.

She can swallow a banana whole.

Macho…I think it BOTH parties agree that its ok for them not to explore the idea of marriage then its perfectly fine for them not to. In the case of Diddy & Kim, do you REALLY think after hearing Kim’s remarks about their relationship that she was comfortable with any such type of arrangement? Two COMPLETELY different scenarios. LOL Steadman does NOT need to make an honest woman out of Oprah lol. They don’t have any children together etc….lol no common assets they have done well to keep everything separate so if they should part there’s no confusion, only love lost.

Elove—wtf does every black man that is single etc or dating someone & NOT married to them have to be GAY? I get so tired of hearing that HOT MESS. Its obvious Stedman loves Oprah & vice versa, can’t he just be straight & HAPPY with the way things are?

Good for them both. Keep holdin’ it down, O, and doin’ it YOUR way. Don’t let any of these haters knock you off track….

@FyreStarrter… I’m not talking about EVERY other person in that situation. I’m JUST talking about Stedman ( He is Gay – Plain and Simple )

I use to kick-up with a couple of females who were Very Close with Stedman’s family AND a couple of childhood friends of mine who went to IVY League Schools met Stedman in college and THEY are still friends… I also know some females that have worked with Oprah in the past… My info is SOLID-AS-A-ROCK!!!

I JUST HAD to throw the Ashford-n-Simpson in there

Heh, heh whuts the rush, shes jest pacin herself, heh, heh

She can swallow a banana whole.

^^^^^ lmmfao how you know…….

ELove I totally get what you are saying and I agree.

hey elove, was your wife giving it up before you got married? what was the reason for the sudden drought? i know i’m nosy but it always puzzles me when marriages dissolve after less than a year. care to share?

@me that’s who

Big girls bring the heat. Size 14 and above know they have to try harder. They WORK you. A big girl may not be for show but every experienced team needs one.

@Elove

You are not alone. I dated a young lady like that. She was beautiful and had the bomb punani but she didn’t dig sex that much.

I stopped dating her 4 years ago but we are still friends. I was super mad in love with this chick but the prospect of going through life on rations isn’t what I dream of at night.

She admits that this is a problem with ALL of her relationships.

You are lucky. Your ex is busy disappointing the next guy OR faking until she hooks him.

OK. OK. This just MIGHT be news but the r-e-a-l news is that Jaheim’s album dropped todaaaaaaaayyyyyy! Trust me when I say, it’s worth the full price and not the bootleg! Lol!!!

I swear, when Steve Harvey played the cut “Never” I literally thought I was going to faint! I actually dropped a load of clothes I was carrying from the laundry room and just….sat down on the steps to hear it. IT CUT RIGHT TO THE CORE!!! The song is THAT powerful! I told y’all Jah was just warmin’ up with his 1st two. Now, he’s ON FIYAHHHH!!

Men have been pulling this ish forever.

I remember she begged him to marry her.

I remember how he denied her heart, and

how these little “rappers” made fun of her

so bad. Now they are all at her feet.

F*ck ‘em

Hi!!!!!!!!

(((((waving frantically)))))

@ Mary–

I’m NOT playing! My shout out best be on that album! If not, Ima tell Jah to “mush” you in yo forehead! Lmao!!!!

I know you heard his Never cut!!!!

AWWWWWW. you knows I gots lub for you giiirrrlll! But Jah, he’s THAT brotha! Shoot, I’ll give you all ya props but at the end of the day–it’s a brotha like Jah that keeps me cozy so I know you understand!! Lol!!

It’s all love for you though!!

I’ll tell you this–

I’ve been dying for that song to come out and my “baby” knew it. He leaves this morning and calls later on to tell me that Jaheim is on the Steve Harvey show. Well by the time they played “Never” I listened to it then called my baby and I’m like “Did you hear it?”. He’s was playing it off like he didn’t. A little while after that, he comes through talkin’ ’bout, “I got something for you”. Girl, why my baby run to the store to get the CD????

Then he was all jokes–yeah, I got it ’cause it’s nice but this’ll be the last time I see you goin’ crazy over another man! Lol!!!

I gotta run out for a bit but I’ll check back in around 9pm. I’m scheduled to sing at Castle McCollouch in about an hour.

Mickit, LIB, CubaLinda, 504, wessssiiiiiidddde–

and the two newbies–

Ya’ll bet not trash this room!

I’ll be back!!!!!!!!!!! Lol!!!

Where is the nite crew!!!

@ Diva

{all child like with hands turn upside down and red paint drippin}. . . Who me???

lol @ the code word. The proof is in the pudding of “I”….

they look good in that pic, lol

Beyonce n Jay Z flash forward pic..lol eternal unmatrimony! spartan shielded..lol

since when is he her fiance’? she never said that assholes..

@ elove – are you sure you were treating your wife well? Maybe that’s the reason she dried up on your jerk azz

O and Steadman look HELLA good in this pic.

They got the formula for happiness for THEM. And if it ain’t broke they don’t need to fix it. Do you O n S, do YOU.

DIVORCE IS A FCUKED UP THANG. One who KNOWS

Hey UMJUSSAYIN__

Where in the hell you been? Iraq?

If your’e still here, head over to the pissy Remy room. I’m headed back there…Lol!!!!!!!!

Nice couple, but should make it legal. Stop shacking. Get a prenup.

Stedman looks like he needs some Geritol!!!

Funnymoney said………………all im saying is that if you been with someone for 15yrs you should know by now if that is the one for you. So i do understand that everyone doesnt have to get married and that the man has to be living by the commandments in order for GOD to bless the marrige.

Just ask yourself, would you be in a relationship for 15yrs and not expect to get married at some point.

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I have been with my man for almost 9 years, we have a beautiful child and a very loving, fun and fulfilling life together. We have made our own commitment to one another but we have never been married by a court. We have no plans on changing ANYTHING and I get physically sick at the thought of going through the process of getting married….The paper work, the court house, the wedding planning…flowers/dresses/flowergirls/a reception/honeymoon…SHOOT!!! We have no plans on changing ANYTHING….we both agree getting married is not for us, we do not need a piece of paper to validate our relationship. I’ve been a court witness in two city hall “weddings” Both times I was so put off by the coldness of it all. I don’t like traditional weddings I hate going to them and have never wanted one for myself. We have been to four weddings since we first started dating and only ONE of those couples are still married today. My mans sister just finished her second divorce in 6 years, between splitting her 3 kids 3.5 days a week and fighting w/ x-hubby #2 cuz who takes her to court every time he can (this month he’s trying to change his son’s days around so he won’t be there w/ the other kids)….she is loosing her dang mind……..AND BROKE FROM LEGAL FEES. She MARRIED x-hubby #2 because she found out she was pregnant (while on the pill) and didn’t want to set a bad example ( “like my brother and his girlfriend” ) for her children, they were dating but not living together at the time. They got married and got a place together, the baby was born the fights started the cheating started and now she’s at divorce #2 w/ 3 kids under 6yrs old, broke cuz her first husband did her wicked with the house(his house now) and money and X #2 was not as smart business wise but way more spiteful. The saddest part is her kids are screwed up even more because of all the new/old drama…. Meanwhile the two of us are still toegther and happy as hell, I’m not advising anyone else to not get married but I understand it’s not for everyone. For me why fix it if it ain’t broke.

15 years.so i dont believe it is a lie.i cant~~Amazing…I saw she has a personal blog on “WealthyKiss.com”, a private site for millionaires&celebrities I heard of from a friend of mine. The blog is updated very often. I think it may be ture

They look fab

oprah is gay, stedmans her beard

Beard and merkin.

STEDMAN HIS TO BE THE PIMP OF THE YEAR FOR THE LAST DECADE!!! LOL

Poolside

I understand dont fix what aint broke. There really isnt that much of a hassle to get married in a small ceremony. when me and my wife got married, it took 10mins in a small ceremony with a preacher and 2 friends.

The examples you used for not wanting to get married are all situations were they decided to get married for all the wrong reasons. so of course it not going to work. But what u are pretty much saying is that when things go wrong not being married makes it easier to leave. No marriage or relationship is easy or simple. Everything takes hard work to make it work.

Nuthing against what works for you. But everyone tries to use examples or situations of y they feel there marriage wont work. If your relationship is not like everyone elses y should you care that that’s what will happen to you.

Its crazy these days at the excuses people use to keeping doing wrong by the man upstairs.

Why do people feel this man has been strung along? Do you actually think that these 2 have never had a conversation about their own relationship? They are happy and let’s leave them at that.

And for the record, Steadman is not a broke man. He too, is a multi-millionaire. After a certain point your money makes money just by sitting in the bank. I’m sure neither one of them is looking at the others bank statements.

oprah’s hair is so pretty. they look nice together.