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Mary J. Blige Explains Why She Doesn’t Allow Her Husband To Have Female Friends
Mary J. Blige recently opened up about how she and husband of 11 years, Kendu Isaacs, have made it through the rough terrain of maintaining a happy matrimony-dom and a working business relationship (Isaacs is still her manager to this day). Among their tactics is each making sure the other has no friends of the opposite sex — Kendu is only permitted to socialize and hang out with other men, while Mary respectfully does the same with other women. As she explains to Stella Magazine:
The couple live in a $12 million mansion beside the Hudson River in New Jersey and will celebrate their 11th wedding anniversary next month. “It definitely feels like an achievement. I never thought I’d last this long in a marriage,” she admits.
What are the benefits of marrying one’s manager, I ask. “He always has my back – he’s going to fight to the death for Mary J Blige. The downside is that there’s no separation – it’s on all the time. When you don’t feel like answering to your manager, he’s still your husband,” she says, laughing. How do they negotiate that? “If one of you doesn’t want to talk about something right now, you have to respect that. And you have to respect each other’s space.”
They have separate groups of friends. “All females for me, all guys for him,” she says, sternly. “There’s none of that, ‘Oh, that’s my female friend. Oh, that’s my guy friend.’ No. Not in a marriage, I’ve never seen that work.” But being a wife has changed her in ways she didn’t expect. “Being a single person and an artist, there’s a lot of selfishness that you don’t even know you have,” she says. “Being a wife, it’s not all about me.”
Damn, what happened to trust? What do you think, Bossip Fam? Can wives and husbands maintain friendships with members of the opposite sex without sacrificing their relationship??