Single Father Of Quadruplets Remembers Wife Who Died Following Childbirth
Remember the tragic story we shared with you recently about the woman who died after giving birth to quadruplets? Well, People.com profiled him and he shared some of his memories of meeting his wife and his final moments with her.
On How They Met:
Carlos and Erica met at a nightclub in Scottsdale, Arizona, in 2006.
“I didn’t speak any English and she didn’t speak any Spanish,” Carlos tells PEOPLE, laughing. “But I asked her to dance and she said yes”
He only found out later that Erica, a real estate agent, ended up throwing out a piece of paper he gave her that night with his number scribbled on it.
But through mutual friends, they saw each other again, and this time, they didn’t part ways.
He knew right away he wanted to marry her. Erica learned Spanish, Carlos learned English, and in 2007 they got married in Las Vegas.
On Their Pregnancy Journey:
“We also really wanted to have a baby,” says Carlos. “So we started to try right away.”
After experiencing a miscarriage, which Carlos says “was beyond devastating,” they found out Erica was pregnant last June after undergoing fertility treatment.
“We couldn’t have been more excited to finally have a baby,” he says. “Erica was taking such good care of herself.”
When she went for her first sonogram, she found out she wasn’t just having one baby, but four.
“Her doctor told her she had to just relax,” Carlos says. “So that’s exactly what she did.”
Carlos cooked, cleaned and made sure Erica stayed off her feet. Erica’s mother move into their house to help them.
Doctors closely monitored Erica, who was healthy throughout her pregnancy.
His Final Memories Of Erica:
On Jan. 12, Erica was checked into the hospital because she was experiencing high blood pressure.
It was on Jan. 15 that she texted Carlos when he was at work saying the doctors wanted to deliver the babies.
“The doctor said she was having too many contractions so it was time to deliver the babies,” Carlos says. “We took pictures before she went into the delivery room, made some videos, and she was surrounded by family and friends. I said to her, ‘Let’s get these babies out.’ ”
The couple also discussed names. They settled on Carlos Jr. for the boy and Tracey and Paisley for the two girls. Erica couldn’t decide on the other girl’s name. They thought they had plenty of time to figure it out.
“‘We can decide after she’s born,’ ” Carlos recalls Erica telling him.
Some 24 people – doctors, nurses, family and friends – were in the delivery room when the babies were born. Each weighed from two to three lbs.
“I forgot about how expensive it was going to be to raise four kids or how hard it might be,” he says. “Seeing Erica and the babies healthy is all I could think about. I was just so excited for our future.”
Erica, who was coming out of an anesthesia-induced sleep, squeezed her husband’s hand. She couldn’t yet speak. Carlos sat by her bedside, with their newborn babies in the nursery one floor away.
Around 1.am. Erica went into hypovolemic shock, an emergency condition where one experiences a severe amount of blood loss. She died at 1:50 a.m. on Jan. 16. Carlos gave his children the names he and Erica had decided on and named their third daughter Erica in tribute to her mother.
Life After His Wife’s Death:
“How could this have happened?” he asked, something that still haunts him today. “She was fine, and then she wasn’t. She was alive and then she was just gone.”
He still asks himself every day if there is something he could have done to keep his wife alive.
“I went from having the best day of my life to the next morning experiencing the worst day of my life,” Carlos says. “My four babies came into the world and then my wife died.”
Carlos Jr. and Tracey are already home; Paisley and Erica are still in the hospital. Carlos goes to visit them every day while his mother-in-law cares for the babies at home. At the hospital, Carlos is also a student, paying close attention in the free baby-care classes it offers.
“I’m learning everything from how to give them a bath, CPR, feeding, and how to manage their sleep schedule,” he says. “I need to be prepared.”
“Everything I do now is for my children,” Carlos, who will return to work at his job in manufacturing, tells PEOPLE. “Our family and friends have been very supportive too.”
Wow, we really feel for this guy. If you have the money to give, we’d like to ask you to support the GoFundMe page setup by his family friend Nicole Todman.
All photos courtesy of Carlos Morales