Dear Bossip: I'm Dating My Step-Sister's FWB & Now She's Pregnant

Dear Bossip,

I’ve known my stepsister for six years and at one time she and I were BFF’s.

Well, about a year ago I slept with her “cuddy buddy,” and after a while I came flat out and told her. At first, he and I only had sex once, but we kept our friendship. Well, she found out that she’s pregnant and she thinks it’s his. He and I are now together and he wants nothing to do with her. This is now her baby’s dad, however, she and I are back on speaking terms and I don’t want to end it with him, but I still want to be cool with her. What do I do? – Between A Rock And A Hard Place

Dear Ms. Between A Rock And A Hard Place,

Clears throat, stands, and rips open the envelope: “And, the award for trifling-hot-mess-ghetto-hood-rat-behavior goes to (drum roll) … wait for it…wait for it.”

Sweetie, please explain to me and everyone else how you are between a rock and a hard place? Maybe, it’s better fitting that you are trifling and low brow. Well, how about straight gutter!

I’m curious to know what prompted you to sleep with her “cuddy buddy,” and what were you hoping to get out of it? What was your thinking, and, in particular, how could you even bring yourself to sleep with someone else’s man, especially your own step-sister’s man?

You know what I’m not going to answer you directly because I’m going to hurt your feelings. So, I’m going to address this letter, but not you per se because there are plenty of ratchet women like you out there who are doing the same thing over and over again, and they see nothing wrong with it. Therefore, I will blame it on your ignorance, and that, perhaps, you don’t know any better.

Who the “F” sleeps with their own family member’s man? What type of woman will sleep with a man who is going between two women in the same family? What little girl, yes, you are a little girl, will stoop so low and get into a relationship with a man who is just as trifling as to sleep with a family member, and then impregnate her and then says he wants nothing to do with her? Are you that dumb for d**k?

Chile, if the saying ain’t never been true, “You can take the chick out the hood, but you can’t take the hood out the chick.” SMDH!

This is why castration, tube tying, and the welfare system needs to have baby limits. And, they need to throw in a few moral clauses – if you are family members, and or related in any fashion, and one or both of you become pregnant by the same man, then you are not eligible to receive benefits. You cannot even think about it, or even attempt to fill out the application. You can’t step foot in the social services offices, hell, they will block your number so that you can’t call and get through to ask a dumb ass question.

If the boy, because he’s not a man, impregnates your stepsister and then gets in a relationship with you, and he tells you that he doesn’t want anything to do with her, then guess what that means? It means that he doesn’t care for his own child that he helped to create and bring into this world. It means that he is not going to support his own child, nor will he be a father to the child, thus helping to keep the cycle of an unwed, single parent woman raising the child alone, who will be arguing with her baby daddy for child support, and, the child grows up fatherless, bitter, angry, hating the world, and will have issues of “daddy done left me” syndrome. The child will repeat the vicious cycle and either ends up in and out of jail, selling drugs, sexually promiscuous, having more children out of wedlock, and resenting authority figures. Also, if he is willing to dismiss her, kick her to the curb, and lay up with you, then he is truly less of man and you are clearly less of a woman. He will be no different with you than he is with her. If you become pregnant, and he decides to leave you, because he will, then just know that he will treat you the same way he is treating her. He is a low down dirty no-good for nothing trifling ass dog. And, he needs to have his nuts clipped. WHEW! That was a mouthful.

Look, I can advise you on what to do, and how you can work on your relationship with your step-sister, but, unfortunately, you won’t listen because you are thirsty. You are reckless. You have no regard for anyone but yourself. You don’t care about your step-sister or her feelings. You are out for self. And, all you want is to be with him regardless of who you hurt in the process. And, you really think that you are in love and that you and he will be together forever.

Well, it is not going to work. It is not going to end well. So, get out of the relationship with him. Trust and believe what he did to your stepsister, he is going to do it to you! But, you’re young dumb and stuck on d**k. So, you don’t see it and don’t think he will do it to you. Wait until that child is born. All hell is going to break loose. LMBAO! I do hope you will get out while you can, move on with your life, and maintain your relationship with your stepsister. I hope you will get into someone’s school, further your education, move out of the hood, and surround yourself with positive and motivating people who are empowering, inspiring, and uplifting. I hope you find a church home, and get some spiritual guidance and edification. Because right now, your idol and god is that man and what’s between his legs.

Don’t you know that your stepsister’s spirit and your man’s spirit are forever linked? Sex unifies spirits. That’s why it’s hard to shake a man, or woman, after sex because your spirits become one during sex. And, whatever baggage and drama he is carrying, and the baggage that she is carrying, well, when they consummated during sex they exchange and unified energies. So, ultimately, whatever drama and baggage she has, and when they had sex, he brought it to you. And, when you had sex with him, he dumped it into you. Also, don’t you know that no matter what, they will always be tied together because they have a child together?  They will forever be in one another lives. Stop this game, and work on you. Stop being trifling, and grow up. Stop this vicious cycle and do something different. Be better. Be smarter. Get it together and leave him. He won’t be faithful to you, and he will never be the man you want him to be. He can’t. He’s still a boy. – Terrance Dean