How Do You Feel About This? Sex Assault Activist Shares Her Rape Experience On Instagram Minutes After Attack

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It was only a few minutes ago but sometimes these things happen so fast it's hard to remember all the details…. I've been sick for the past 2 days and today was my first day out. I went back to my old hostel to leave a note for a friend, Nick. There was another guy there, Shakir, who was desperately trying to get with me. I kissed him once but he seemed drunk so I told him it was bad timing, I had already met someone. Before heading out, I went upstairs to say hi to one more friend, Clyde from the states. Shakir followed me upstairs and said he was going to take a shower. He invited me to join. I said yes because the water at my current hostel is pretty cold and after 2 days of being sick, I just really wanted a hot shower. As soon as I got in the bathroom, he forced me to my knees. I said "stop!" but he just got more violent. He lifted me up and put his penis in my vagina. I asked him to stop, again, as I began to cry. When he shoved it in my ass, that's when I passed out. I woke up a few minutes later and saw him trying to creep out the door. When he saw that I was awake, he came back to finish me off in the shower. I have all those fucked up feelings that we get after rape…shame, disgust, suffering. I'm here, alone, and any DNA has been wiped away in the shower. The South African police will just roll their eyes when I walk in. Feeling sicker than ever now. Needless today, I'm going to disappear for a bit. Just need to enjoy the freaking sun and call my friends and family in the states. Love you guys. Thank you for always being there for me. All the more reason to continue @stoprapeeducate but not today. Today, I need rest. #StopRapeEducate

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Sex Assault Activist Shares Rape Story On Instagram Immediately Following Attack

Amber Armour, a native New Yorker and sex assault activist, took to Instagram just minutes after being raped in her Cape Town, South Africa hostel.

Sadly and ironically, she was in Cape Town as part of a “Stop Rape. Educate” program that she orchestrated in November of last year.

Amber recently spoke to the NYDailyNews about her rape and the decision to share it so immediately over social media.

“I knew I needed to tell the story because that’s what I do, I help victims of sexual assault,” Amour, 27, told the Daily News.

“I documented everything that happened and I took a picture of myself,” she said of her decision to post about her experience, which received both support and backlash online.

“Backlash” is an understatement. This girl got unbridled hate and classic victim blaming.

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My view of the rape kit. Thank you all for being so loving & supportive during this time. Your messages pushed me to take action and to stand up for myself and for all rape survivors. For those who wish to BLAME ME or any other survivor out there, I want you to know that you are the very reason that I am so brutally honest. I could have hidden details. I could have kept some info to myself, but NO. You need to know the truth and to see the reality of the situation. No matter what a person does, it is not an invitation for rape. It doesn't matter if I kissed him. It doesn't matter if he was drunk. It doesn't matter if I said yes to a shower. I never said he could get violent with me. I never said he could make me bleed. I never said he could rape me. But still, that's how the scene went down. I don't need to explain myself but if you're wondering WHY I took a shower with him, it was written in the text, I'd been sick with food poisoning for 2 days and needed to sweat it out. My current place of residence has only cold water (third world problems are real!) and it seemed like a miracle to be offered a hot shower. That's not what he was there for though, because as soon as he got a chance, he threw me to the ground and had his way. Dealing with rape is hard enough but the aftermath is often even more traumatic but I did this for you and I did this for me. The US Embassy and the South African police are super supportive and he may be arrested as soon as this week. Thank you for the love. And for the victim blamers, I send love, peace, and enlightenment to you so that you may be a beacon of light for us, too. #StopRapeEducate #AmberAmour #AmberTheActivist #SouthAfrica #humanitarian #healing #education #africa #survivor #sexualassault #recovery #victimblaming #overcome #rapeculture #staystrong

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Suffering a sexual assault ANYWHERE is traumatizing, but can you imagine going abroad and having to deal with this type of violence on foreign soil???

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The South African police took me back to the scene of the crime yesterday and the forensic photographer collected evidence. The U.S. Embassy has been by my side every step of the way and we're even talking about starting a @stoprapeeducate program here to help others. I have a meeting with the prosecutor this Thursday here in Cape Town which means I will not make my flight to Australia for the #StopRapeEducate World Tour. Events in California are now tentative, as well. I never expected this to happen to me. I'm sorry, everyone. Love & blessings right back to you all. Thanks for the support the past few days. 🌻⭐️🌻⭐️🌻⭐️🌻⭐️🌻⭐️🌻⭐️🌻⭐️🌻⭐️🌻⭐️🌻⭐️🌻⭐️🌻 #survivor #StopRapeEducateWorldTour #feminism #feminist #humanrights #justiceforamber #faithforamber #peaceandlove #loveandlight

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There are some who feel that Amber’s attempt to share her experience is some form of attention-sloring. Others feel that the sharing of a powerful story like this can be immensely helpful to other rape victims who have suffered the same tragedy. How do you feel about this?

Flip the page to read some of disturbing and supportive comments left in Amber’s comments and drop your 2 cents into the comments section.

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