Jennifer Garner Opens Up About Divorce From Ben Affleck In Vanity Fair Interview
Since announcing their split last summer the public has been pretty much in the dark about what exactly is going on with Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck. Are they really over? Are they getting back together? Did he really screw the nanny?
Garner sets the record straight in a whammy of an interview with Vanity Fair first finally putting the nanny angle to bed…
“Let me just tell you something,” Garner says. “We had been separated for months before I ever heard about the nanny. She had nothing to do with our decision to divorce. She was not a part of the equation. Bad judgment? Yes. It’s not great for your kids for [a nanny] to disappear from their lives.” Months later, she’s still assessing the damage. “I have had to have conversations about the meaning of ‘scandal,’ ” she says, with her children.
Nuts… We can only imagine what that must’ve been like. Cuz you know Violet is 10 and had to have heard something. Even Seraphina, their 7-year-old probably had to deal with some ratchet stories. (Their youngest, Sam, is only 4.)
Garner also addressed how difficult it’s been for her to avoid the chatter about her marriage.
“I turned on CNN one day,” she says, “and there we were. I just won’t do it anymore. I took a silent oath with myself last summer to really stay offline. I am totally clueless about all of it.” In this constant, 24-hour media age, unplugging takes real discipline—which can be interpreted, by some, as indifference. “Ben says, ‘Oh, you just don’t care,’ and I say, ‘No, it’s the opposite.’ It hurts me so much, and I care so much,” she says, choosing to not “give a isht” how the divorce looks to the outside world. “I cannot be driven by the optics of this. I cannot let anger or hurt be my engine. I need to move with the big picture always on my mind, and the kids first and foremost.”
In the meantime it still sounds like Ben fawked up major and could have saved the marriage by not being such a d-bag
“I didn’t marry the big fat movie star; I married him,” she says. “And I would go back and remake that decision. I ran down the beach to him, and I would again. You can’t have these three babies and so much of what we had. He’s the love of my life. What am I going to do about that? He’s the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous. He’s just a complicated guy. I always say, ‘When his sun shines on you, you feel it.’ But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it’s cold. He can cast quite a shadow.”
Garner also discussed 43-year-old Affleck’s new back tattoo of a giant phoenix.
“You know what we would say in my hometown about that? ‘Bless his heart.’ A phoenix rising from the ashes. Am I the ashes in this scenario?” she said before adding, “I take umbrage. I refuse to be the ashes.”
We are rooting for her. Hopefully she will rebound in a MAJOR way!