“Fix My Life” Returns With A New Season Sept. 10 On OWN
Iyanla Vanzant is back to help people in emotional crisis get their lives back on track in her new season of “Fix My Life.”
And with appearances by Rick Ross’ ex-fiancé Lira Galore, a “house of healing” to address the issues behind the myth of the “angry black woman,” and an episode about Marie Holmes – the $188 million Powerball winner who sunk $20 million into keeping her ne’er do well boyfriend out of jail – this season looks like it’s going to bring lots of drama, but with a big dose of guidance.
“I don’t do reality TV, I do ministry,” Vanzant said Sept. 7 at a press luncheon at OWN’s headquarters in New York City. “This is not television for me. It’s teaching, publicly.”
In a departure from her usual format, this season, Vanzant invited eight women struggling with various problems – including Chrystale, who played predatory stripper Ronnie in “The Players Club”– to a “house of healing,” where they try to figure out what went wrong in their lives and how they can fix it.
One woman is a high-flying attorney – but is completely alone after one failed relationship after another. One woman helped her husband to become a doctor, only for him to leave her for another woman. And in Chrystale’s case, she said people have treated her so much like the character she played nearly 20 years ago that she couldn’t help but lash out in anger.
Vanzant also spends time with Lira Galore, an exotic dancer who became famous when she went public with rapper Rick Ross.
“Lira spent from 17 to 21 years old on the pole, so what is that about?” Vanzant said. “The one thing in common that all of the women had was that they came in the house saying, I’m done with black men – that’s how we found them all. And that theme just went in another direction.”
Vanzant said she got the idea to work to work on the “angry black woman” stereotype after reading articles that called First Lady Michelle Obama one, and hearing her granddaughter’s college class mates labeled her one too. But she said sometimes black women could be their own worst enemy by perpetuating those stereotypes in the media and in everyday life.
“We have adopted a new way of being that’s antithetical to who we are,” she said. “The way we are going to stop it is by learning a new way of being.”
The best-selling author said there’s nothing wrong with feeling angry, but the key is figuring out what the root cause is, and not let the emotion rule your life. Instead, recognize it as an experience that you’ll have from time to time.
“Are we angry?” she asked. “Absolutely, but no more angry than anybody else. The challenge is that none of us – black, white, male female – have been taught to appropriately express emotion.”
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