10 Reasons Why Black Women Should Date Outside Their Race

- By Bossip Staff

This topic seems like such a dead horse that keeps getting beaten, over and over again. But if you’re a woman, who happens to be African American, who also happens to be single, this is probably a scenario that crosses your mind more often as time progresses without a partner. Besides, black men date other races effortlessly so what’s the hold up for the sistas? Once you get past the not so chocolate brown skin and paler scrotums, men of other races are pretty much the same, right? Wrong. How often have you heard ” I’ve dated a (_____) guy, but I couldn’t sleep with him.” Every woman from Black, White, Asian, Latina to Middle Eastern love black men, but black women, however, tend to be exclusive to their own when it comes to dating. But is it in vain? Are the odds even in a black woman’s favor to acquire a black man or should they explore other options for a chance at relationship longevity? Bossip asked a group of people and this is what they had to say:

1. I don’t think black women should date outside their race, and that goes for the men too! There just aren’t enough strong black families out there, man. It’s heartbreaking. We’re a dying race and I just don’t see why black men are so quick to cross over to other races when they haven’t even given sistas a chance. But I guess that’s why we should eventually get used to the idea of multi-racial families because there aren’t enough black men to go around. And that’s too bad, just a sad state of affairs, man. Nicole, 32, Finance

2. As a person whose dated a white man, I think we should start dating other men just to kind of see what’s out there. Otherwise, you’re limiting yourself and love could be staring you in the face, but he’s just not black. And I tell you what, all it takes is that one date and you’ll notice that they’re just as much a man as a black one. So it’s not the best thing to wait around for that “mandingo” ’cause pickings are slim. Alena, 26, Manager

3. I’m not sure that I can really encourage black women not to date a black man. I personally have an affinity for my own, but I can only speak for myself. I think that if it’s a situation where the chemistry is undeniable, then go for it. But I’m more of an advocate of black man, woman and child. But these days love is blind, so I guess to each his own. I’ll never hate on love. Keith, 31, Construction

4. Why continue to set yourself up for a down fall? In this day and age, a good man, let alone a good black man is a rarity. So with that in mind, you’d be ignorant to put yourself through the drama of dealing with ni**as if they keep f*cking up? Try something or someone new because I gotta be honest, while I pride myself on being a good black man, most of my ni**as are not, unfortunately. Jermaine, 23, Author

5. Black women should date other races because black men have a reputation of not having their sh*t together. White men, and others, take pride in being a provider to their wife and kids. Some black men are so sorry anymore, they can’t get it together because they don’t have to, some other woman will do it for him. Now don’t get me wrong, my dad is a black man and is still very in love with my mother, they’ve been together for 30+ years. But they don’t make them like that anymore, sadly. Mimi, 29, Designer

6. I date white men and first, the myth is NOT true. Second, they spoil me more than any black man has. Third, they’re more goal oriented. A white man has it all planned out, he wants to be married by 30, have kids at 32, move to another state in a few more years, put the kids through college and finally retire with his lovely wife and travel the world. So, in my opinion, it might be the look if you want a real relationship and marriage. Courtney, 27, Registered Nurse

7. Well, I don’t really condone the idea, but honestly most black dudes are in jail, gay or have a record. I think, mathematically, it’s impossible for all black women to get a black man because of the reasons I just listed. It’s a harsh reality really, but what can you do? I would encourage black women to keep their options open and find love, no matter what they look like. Mack, 33, Mechanic

8. Ni**as date all kinds of females and so should black women! If ni**as can have their “snow bunnies” then I should I get my “Peter Cotton Tail.” It’s only fair. Go on and get you a white girl and watch how she’ll look 65 at 40 with wrinkles and vericose veins. Black don’t crack. No, in all seriousness, I’ve been single for almost two years now and I’ve never dated anyone else. I haven’t gotten to the point where I’m ready to date outside my race. So I guess I’ll be the only one who holds out until I find a black man because I know he’s out there, but as usual, he’s late as hell. Brandy, 31, Merchandising

9. Black women deserve to be more than “baby mamas” and that’s all that they have been for a while. Like how many dudes you got a child with a black woman who is all kinds of “b*tches” and “hoes,” but turn around and wife up the exotic, half-bred broad. That’s why so many women are wanting a dude to “put a ring on it” because they’re so desperate for commitment. Chicks aren’t getting any younger and don’t want to waste time in meaningless relationships, so by all means find your guy but he might not be what you’ve pictured since your childhood. Marcus, 30, Accountant

10. I say, why not? A man is a man, and we have to get over the color issue. I know it’s hard but seriously, why can’t you love someone other than a black man? It’s 2009 and race purity is so antiquated. I think black women have to stop being too picky and try. Try to date the white guy at your job who thinks you’re cute and wants to take you out, go for it! He may end up being your dream guy! Date who you want and be happy. Geeze. Zaria, 21, Med Student

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  • PO10TiAL

    Here it is…. Let’s Get Ready Men!

  • http://n Ms.fabulous

    damn almost first

  • I AM LEGEND ( A Wise Man Told Me Dont Argue With Fools)

    Amazing ..thats why I date white women

  • I AM LEGEND ( A Wise Man Told Me Dont Argue With Fools)

    I agree with post #2 thats why I date all races of women

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  • What happened to the intelligent people?

    *sigh* here we go

  • I AM LEGEND ( A Wise Man Told Me Dont Argue With Fools)

    Just date whoever you wanna date, who makes you happy and who you love regardless of race …Dont try to make excuses up as to why you cant find a good black man

  • Tiff

    At the end of the day its about chemistry. If I get along with another race and we hit it off right why not give em a try? I love my bruthas but lately pu33y is pu33y to them and always has been so d!ck is d!ck. My opinion

  • allgood

    The whiteman had his way with black women in America for 400 years. Do you want to voluntarily give it to him now?

  • mz.cee ♥

    Oh Lord, here we go…..

  • Angee

    Women and Men should date who they like! Date who you are attracted to, date the person you feel a connection with. If you really find yourself enjoying the company of that person, then you should go with it, and have fun.

    Don’t sell yourself short, give yourself a chance to get to know the person!!

  • DivaDivine

    When will black women realize that black men don’t want them? We are the only group among all races (except for Asian men) who are more likely to never get married. I say we’re all God’s children so I’ll take love anywhere I can get it.

  • Soul Ese

    It doesn’t matter the color…if she likes to date bums then she will continue to have the same bummy problems…. by the way can I borrow a dollar for a dutch 😉

  • Jade Silver

    You can like who you want and I’ve dated white,indian,coloured and even a chinese man. I was never going to marry them though. It was just curiosity (checking out the MYTH). For me it’s about the differences in cultures, traditions, religions. Especially when children are involved.
    That’s just my opinion.

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  • andrea

    Are you thick? Can’t you spell?
    But is it in vein?


  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals---Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud's concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    One thing I’ve noticed—-

    Most of the time when a brotha chooses to date outside his race (white) she’s usually the type of woman that’s…well, “meek.”

    When I see sistas dating outside their race, it’s usually with someone who’s comparable to her in intellect and stature.

    This case may be the exception when I see professional athletes dating outside of their race. They seem to go for beauty and I’m not mad at my brothas for that!!!

    Don’t get it twisted!!!!!!

    These are just MY opinions.

  • Richard Pryor (The King of Comedy)

    White men cant jump!?!

  • chaka1

    I am older than the people interviewed and I can say men are the same no matter what race they are. There are plenty of no good black, white, Latino, Jewish and Asian men. However, there is an endless supply of quality men. The thing is, they might be outside of what you are used to dating. You can’t base your life on what you see on these blogs and what your friends/family are whispering about behind your back.

    I am currently engaged to a gorgeous, strong and intelligent Latino, a Dominican. Our cultures are very similar, except for his native tongue is Spanish.

    I live in South Florida so most people don’t even notice. While visiting my relatives in the Carolinas and Georgia, the women were fixated on him, trying to figure WHAT he was. It got to be very very annoying. But I couldn’t help feeling like some of the judgmental ones actually wanted to get to know him and others like him, but they were either scared or didn’t have self confidence.

    I think the next generation of black women will be more open to dating outside of their comfort zone.

  • Richard Pryor (The King of Comedy)

    Seriously to each is own!!!

  • PO10TiAL

    IMHO.. If black women would choose a better choice of black men.. then they would have no need to stereotype all black men as jobless, players, wanna-be pimps, jail birds and things of that nature. Leave them ninjaz to the white women.. but don’t stoop to they level. It should be about LOVE not Revenge.

  • Richard Pryor (The King of Comedy)

    I dont know what it is but white women, spanish women, and asian more often times then not dont age well, maybe its that soul food keepin the soul young!!!

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals---Pimpin, Platinum style!!! J-Hud's concert was OFF THE MEAT RACK!!!!!!!!!

    I personally know a sista that’s dating a young man from the Czech Republic and seen first hand how he treats her.

    He treats her with dignity and respect.

    This same sista has had her share of dating brothas. From what I’ve witnessed with my OWN eyes, there’s a WHOLE bunch of salty looks thrown at them.


    Why the double standard? It’s OK for YOU to do it but Lawd have mercy when you see US do it!

    There’s would be something understandable about this if you viewed us as the precious diamonds we are but damn, brothas- I love you with all my heart but you can’t have it both ways!!!

    • IloveMyWhiteMen

      Well first off let me say that im a black female and I dated black men most of all my life and I didnt like them so I decided to stop dating them Now im on my whit men and im loving it they are sweeter and nicer and they do knw exactly what they want in life and dats the kind of men dat i like. so for now im over black men who knws i might go back

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