If you’ve been in a relationship for some years, it’s no secret it is not easy. Sometimes, things can get so hard to bear a “break” is necessary. But does this mean you’re broken up? Or how many times do you “break” before you realize it’s time to make your final exit? Many relationships are hard to let go; however, it’s hard to decipher when to give it another go, or give it the deuces. What’s the use in sticking around in a relationship if you’re not willing to give your all? You’re either in it for the long haul or not at all, there’s no in between, all or nothing. Relationships are work, but where do you draw the line between making it work and chasing a lost cause? Going back and fourth, swinging between togetherness and fall outs is emotionally draining, and not to mention, a waste of time. But the question still remains, how do you know when it’s really time to go?
Bossip asked a group of people and this is what they had to say:
For me, I know it’s time to hit the road when I’ve exhausted all avenues to try and make things work. If I’ve jumped hurdles, climbed mountains, swam seas and still can’t get it together, it’s over. I will try my damnedest to make it work though, because I never want to walk away from a relationship thinking I could’ve done more or feeling like I didn’t try. So for me, personally, that’s how I know it’s time to walk. -Jasmine, 28, Event Planner
When I don’t like seeing his face anymore! When I can’t stand to see the same face I couldn’t wait to see, it’s pretty much done for me. If I cringe when I hear his voice or get aggravated when I see his number pop up in my phone, it’s time! I really know a break-up is in the midst when I don’t want to spend time with him or think of him throughout the day. – Heather, 22, Finance
If you can see the person you’re with with someone else and you just don’t give a fu*k, then it’s pretty much done. Like if I found something that maybe alluded to some extra activity with another person and it don’t phase me, I’m out. I really think it boils down to that point where I’m just not attracted to her, mentally, physically, none of that, you know? But then again, I can’t call it. Because being that my parents have been together for like 30 year now, my pops told me that there were times where they weren’t feeling each other for years. So, I guess it depends on how bad you want it to work. – Derrick, 45, Funeral Home Director
I treat relationships the way I treat jobs and other things in my life. When the negative outweighs the positive or the I’m getting more dissatisfaction then pleasure, then it’s time for me to leave. Like if it’s no longer fun for me and we’re always bickering and bi*ching at each other, ugh. Like if I’m forever questioning why I’m still with them, then we gotta split. If I roll over and look at her like, why is she still here? It’s time to go. – Weisner, 29, Caterer
You know what? I don’t know. I always have those lingering relationships cause we break up and we’re still messing around kinda thing. I guess when he becomes of low priority and I’m really stressing to make a date or see him or call, for that matter. If I start making excuses not to see him, then it’s pretty much over, right? I think for me, it gets to a point where I just don’t want to be bothered. -Obi, 30, Writer