Plus-Size Fashion Blogger Says Man Asked Her On A Date “As A Dare”
A plus-size fashion blogger is going viral for exposing a cruel date she went on with a man.
Stephanie Yeboah posted a story on Twitter explaining a situation where she was subjected to a “#PullAPig” date from a white man who asked her out only on a dare from her friends.
She’s since elaborated on the story on Refinery29 and explained how she met the man named “Robert” on Bumble and agreed to go on a date with him. Mind you this was her first date in two years.
Stephanie says Robert seemed to prefer that she was plus-size and noted that sometimes on dating profiles she felt obligated to mention her weight.
“It seems a bit silly to have to declare something as trivial as one’s weight on an app, but due to how a large percentage of plus-size women are treated in the dating world, some of us choose to add a note about our weight to our profiles, almost as some kind of ‘disclaimer’. It’s even worse when your weight intersects with something such as race or gender.”
When their date night finally came Stephanie posted a picture on Twitter noting that she was “terrified” but ready to go meet the man for drinks.
Stephanie said the date went well and they enjoyed each other’s company with Robert even giving her a small gift and kissing her at the end of the night.
Then on their second date, Robert came over for dinner and they had sex. He then went completely ghost on her and THAT’s when things went left.
A friend of Robert reached out and told Stephanie that Robert stopped contacted her because he’d been “dared to pull a fat chick” and successfully did so even winning a sum of money his friends had pooled. The term for a cruel joke like that is “pull a pig”; a dating prank that involves either pulling an unattractive or plus-size person.
Stephanie recapped the humiliation she felt on Refinery29 and said she was mortified.
“I felt sick. A wave of embarrassment and humiliation washed over me, and I went into my bathroom and cried. I had been terrified of meeting and talking to men for fear of them judging my appearance. As much as I know that I am an awesome person, I’m blindingly aware that the way I look is not what mainstream society considers to be ‘beautiful’, and that’s something I always have to think about and carry with me.”
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Looking like an undergrad. One of my favourite looks of the month I think. All hail the beloved Mum jean! I only get my Mum jeans from ASOS Curve because they fit me perfectly, and have just the right amount of baggy-ness.😂 ___ Blouse, jeans and converses – @asos Coat – @navabifashion (a statement piece of mine now, in it’s 3rd year!)
She also added that she shared her story to raise awareness about the dip-sh***d dummies targeting plus-size women. She says however that men, in particular, are trolling her about it and suggesting that she lose weight to be treated like an actual human being.
“Luckily (or maybe unluckily?) I had already deleted Robert’s number from my phone after not hearing from him for a couple of weeks, so I have no way to contact and chastise him for what he did. I decided to ignore the friend’s email and used Twitter to tell my story, in the hope of opening up the conversation about the way plus-size women are treated. My aim was to raise awareness, and while I received some amazing, positive feedback, it also came with its share of trolling and horrible comments – almost all from men, who were either laughing at the situation or suggesting I change my appearance in order to be treated better next time.”
Wow, people are disgusting. There’s some bad karma coming “Robert’s” way and the way of the messy miserables trolling her over her experience.
Have you ever heard of #PullAPig??? What do YOU think about Stephanie’s story???