Dear Bossip: My Man Thinks He’s Sasha Fierce

- By Bossip Staff

Good day, Bossip Readers! Seriously, you can’t make this stuff up. Please leave your thoughts for this young lady!

Dear Bossip,
I started dating my man three years ago when we met at the Beyonce Experience Concert. On the first night of meeting we hooked up at his apartment which has posters of Beyonce all over. Things were going cool up until recently, I walked into his room when he was out buying stuff from the hardware store to find a blonde wig, a black leotard and six inch heels tucked underneath his bed. I assumed he was cheating on me with some ball room queen so when he came back I confronted him about it and he said that he and the guys from work were having a fancy dress party for Halloween and that he had bought the costume for his friend.

I went home and believed him until I remembered that we are in the month of January and Haloween is in October! I called my gay friend Jubilante’ who told me that it was possible that my man was planning on making a Single Ladies remake. I was so perplexed and confused- I mean I had seen him do the kitty swing move she does in the video around the house but I didn’t think he’d go that far, so Jubilante’told me what to do.

He told me to take my man to a club and see how he reacted when Single Ladies comes on. Jubilante’ said it brought out the Queen in any downlow man. So I took my man to the club actually forgetting Jubilante’s advice and that was when the anthrax hit the fan.

“Get Me Bodied” came on and my man, who was now really drunk, started to drop down low and sweep the flo’ wid it. Everyone in the club was lookin’ at him like he was crazy but he didn’t care and then he started talking to me in a weird accent like a British accent and a Boston accent fused together with a drawl and he said, “Dahlin! Don’t be bitter! We all have a little Sasha Fi-yarce in us.”

I left the club and went home alone. I havent seen him ever since, two weeks have passed and he’s left about 10 messages on my phone begging to talk to me but the image of him doing the Naomi Campbell walk wont leave my mind. I love him but I cant be with a man who’d rather Sashay with the Kids than make kids with me.

Bossip- I need your help!

We’ll start with the diplomatic approach. You don’t know if your man is truly attracted to men or gay, he may just enjoy cross-dressing and dancing like Beyonce from time to time. One could align his feminine behavior with an alter-ego kind of thing. Even if he hasn’t participated in any homosexual activity, he sounds like he still has some soul-searching to do in terms of his sexual orientation.

Realistically, however, Jubilante’ was all the way on point! Your man catwalking in the club, dropping it low and acting like a “queen” are all red flags that would have most women running as if their life depended on it, literally! Okay, so he had consumed a few drinks and was under the influence of alcohol, but remember a drunken tongue speaks a sober mind! So take heed to his words: “we all have a little Sasha Fierce in us.” Most straight brothas would beg to differ, so exactly who is the “we” and “us” he was referring to?

Girl, run … fast! Sounds like you already have, but stay strong! Good thing you found out before you got in too deep! Could you imagine marrying and having a child with this man completely unaware of the kitty cat inside him trying to claw its way out? Ultimately, he may decide that he’s one of the “Kids” but you need no parts of his confusion! Keep it moving, sis! Keep it moving.

What do you think she should do Bossip readers?

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    I called my gay friend Jubilante’


    *limp wrist*


  • Greg

    nicca is gay!

  • Slide Like A Fresh Pair of Gators

    He told me to take my man to a club and see how he reacted when Single Ladies comes on. Jubilante’ said it brought out the Queen in any downlow man.

    LOL & SMMFH…

  • Mr.GQ

    Girl, your man is GAY!! RUN! Which straight guy will be dancing to single ladies?

  • Love Hangover

    i love that gay name Jubilante’… i’ll call my bi boo Jubilante’ from now on. sup boo? carry on. i used to love u when u were a real man, but then again who knows? maybe u had them other trannies too before u met me.

  • Remembering Black History Month - Remembering the Enslavement of MY people

    there are people out there who are really worryin’ bout this sh@!. She and her man need the LORD.


    i’m done–the women writing in with relationship issues are just too damn dumb for my liking—how the hell doesn’t a woman know she’s with a gay man?

  • Mrs. Rance

    This is the dumbest ish I ever heard in my life. Any man that goes to a Beyonce concert without a female date is gay gay gay. If that didn’t clue her in then the posters should have. Some people are desperate for a man and refuse to see the signs slapping them upside the head.

  • www.The Perfect


    Not a good look son!

    Ladies – come on now…sometimes you just gotta follow your instincts.

    Quit looking for or demanding “sensitive” men – often you end up with the types you see pictured above.




  • HomeGrownKushGetIt

    SMH, the destruction. Man was made in Gods image. What’s the best way to go against him turn him into a homo (MAN). SMH! No one thinks of the long term effects. Ladies take them blinders off! How do you even make it through the day with them things on! Oh yeah it is scary when you take them off. You have to have some HEART!!!!!! Cause it aint pretty!

  • Mrs. Darren shellychelle Sharper

    Hmmm… well if you met him at a beyonce concert,what did you expect, Denzel? smh

  • loveme loveme not

    May I say Cross Dresser

  • NYC Gal

    He’s has better legs than Sasha Fierce!

  • Miss A.

    Don’t ignore those red flags and warning signs. He’s definitely gay!

  • Clark

    Omg that was too dam funny!!!

  • Detroiter4Life


  • Love Hangover

    Could you imagine marrying and having a child with this man completely unaware of the kitty cat inside him trying to claw its way out?


    Yes my kitty kat babyboo is ALL THAT! My boo’s Lady Marmalade after all.

  • B3 Fearless

    The way he acted in the club suggests that he is GAY. Keep it moving as it sounds like you already have.

    @HomeGrownKushGetIt – you know how us females can be. If we care about something we will have the blinders up on full blast. Talkin about we didn’t realize when looking back there were some big signs that would have shown us the light if we had bothered to look and not be in denial.

  • T


  • Mock Rock Star

    If this story is true than LOL!!! People should be honest with whoever they are dating and he should’ve been honest with U about whatever it is that’s going on with him

  • Love Hangover

    @Mrs. Rance:

    thanks. i guess i need to move on & not look back. i feel sorry for that girl who’s gonna have him next if he won’t tell her the truth. God showed me what i can’t see. it’s important to anchor your faith in God so as not to have low self-esteem & stick w/ these kind of men. as they say, there are plenty of fishes in the sea. except when i met him, i wasn’t really looking for love but then i saw him & fell in love with him right there & then. sometimes feelings can just mislead u to the wrong person. glad i woke up from that bad dream, except only after a decade.

  • E

    this so had me crackin up. this was soooooo funny!

  • LadyInChucks

    damn, i thought that was BEYONCE…i was about to say damn ma drop some weight…fks goin

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