For Discussion: Are These Bad Azz Kids Just Begging To Get Beatings???

- By Bossip Staff

We at BOSSIP are fed up with these bad azz kids y’all. They’re stomping each other into comas over text messages, beating other kids to death and menacing the elderly, and we can’t help but to wonder if parents are failing their children by not giving them some good old fashioned disciplinary action. Don’t you think these kids need to be whooped?

Apparently we’re not the only ones thinking along these lines. We came across this article written by a teacher who shares his point of view about all these lil bad kids whose parents “spared the rod and spoiled the child”.

Ever since reading Malcolm Gladwell’s “Outliers”, I now question the child psychologist and book-writers who all have disparate things to say about how to raise children, and I think the claims that butt-whipping has warped whole generations of children (who, I might add, seemed more well-adjusted as a whole than the current generation) are dubious at best.

I got my behind tagged by both of my parents when I was coming up. My father was the reactive one, coming full-tilt with the belt when s**t got thick. But my mother, it’s worth mentioning, was the menacing one…putting the fear of God in me and my sister to the point where we behaved so as not to incur her wrath by way of cleated Indian moccasin.

That “fear” was more of a parental respect, and I think that’s what today’s youth are sorely missing.

I also think that abolishing corporal punishment in schools, while understandable in a sense, might have something to do with the waning student-teacher respect levels. I came up at the tail-end of the “Board of Education” era, when a student’s motivation to behave stemmed from not wanting to get dragged to the front of the classroom and whacked by the aforementioned board in front of his classmates. Parents got soft, legal action was threatened, and now I doubt a nun at a school in the Bible Belt could even get away with whacking a student on the hand with a ruler anymore.

In a perfect world, all children would respond to punishment that doesn’t require violence, and many do. As much as I hated a*s-whippings, I responded even more to getting privileges taken away. I’d love to never have to raise my hand at my future children because the fear alone of not being able to watch season 32 of “American Idol” scared them straight.

As it stands, I am in favor of spankings to get a young kid in line while fully recognizing that there are many lines not to cross in the process. There is a line between spanking and beating/abuse that most well-adjusted people should be able to grasp. In addition, I don’t believe in using foreign objects to strike a child: As innocuous as was the process of getting a “switch” off the tree for my babysitter to whack me with, the less-cowardly approach to corporal discipline is for the parent to actually feel what they are doing to their child.

As long as an overall apathy regarding discipline continues to plague this generation of parents, it’ll only be worse for future ones. When newborns start falling out of their mothers throwin’ them thangs at their doctors, don’t say I didn’t warn you.

What do you think is the best method for disciplining these little terrors? Military School, beatings, or a little time behind bars?

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  • SouthFlaHoney

    Everybody that can have kids don’t need to…

  • lani3000

    no duuuh

  • daisy

    STOP THE BEATINGS AND DO THIS INSTEAD.
    find good things he does, and praise him on that behavior. Scold, but don’t spank, for bad behavior.children need an adult role model that they want to get the approval of, that they can look up to … someone that will praise him for little things and show him some love.

  • Nique (Bossip...Bullsh!!t without Shame)

    Start stomping these crumbsn*atchers from toddler age.

    I rarely got my a$$ beat bc that fear was already instilled in me early on by ma dukes. I KNEW she didnt play…

  • aleximaq

    I say raise a child with a Bible in one hand and belt in the other…If you can not speak the Word of God into them…then beat the Hell out of them….

  • Sabrina

    Of course they need correction but nowadays if you spank a child they can call the cops have you arrested!

  • http://perryone779@yahoo,com a rose by any other name #9304026339482056536 ™

    Daisy is correct, and the only thing is no dont beast them but the way white folks do is not a good way either.. time out.. please these kids now days laugh at time out, some kids need a good butt spanking! Stop being like white folks and let your damn kids talk to you and run all over your azz, call you names and tel you to shut the he** up!! Thats where the problem is too! I vote for the good ole fashion butt whipping, dont have to beat them.. trust i got my butt spanked and i lived to tell it and you best believe my lil badd azz deserved it!!

  • http://perryone779@yahoo,com a rose by any other name #9304026339482056536 ™

    typo .. beat!!!

  • Nique (Bossip...Bullsh!!t without Shame)

    @daisy

    Take ur simple a$$ to Dr. Phil…

    If that actually worked then we wouldnt have as many bad a$$ kids running around. Spare the rod, spoil the child.

    Children need discipline. If I tell a kid, “No” verbally and u continue to disobey, I will follow up with the physical.

  • http://perryone779@yahoo,com a rose by any other name #9304026339482056536 ™

    Trust me , my mom use to swap her across the butt in the grocery if we acted up, and one white lady said .. “oh thats child abuse’ my mom was like i wish you would call the police on me, I will tell them the same thing i told you… this is my kid , i birthed this kid, i feed this kid, i clothe this kid and when this kid acts up i will spank this kid! Thas what wrong with these kids today.. no sense of discipline , they feel they can do what they want and then these ignoramus folks have the nerve to pay Nanny 911 to come and teach them how to raise these smart mouth bad azz kids!!

  • drenk

    whooping is only 1 part of it, whats the point of whoopin a kid if he/she grow up in a violent household?

  • mimi79

    Daisy I understand where you are coming from, but different things work for different children. My children are both straight A students and very well-behaved at school. I praise my son and daughter for a job well done. I can punish my son and he may go 3 months before getting in trouble again. My daughter on the other hand is a whole different story. I punish that child, spank her and a few hours later she is back to doing the same thing that got her in trouble from the get go. My grandmother says that my mom was the say way as a child, so I guess it’s in her damn genes.

  • drenk

    praise them when they do something good as well as whoop them when theyre bad

  • Nique (Bossip...Bullsh!!t without Shame)

    Y’all remember “the look”????

    Sh!!!!!!!!t, just that alone and the thought of what might happen discouraged me from anything stupid.

    If a parent already has that “look” then they rarely have to use the belt.

  • Ms. Brilly

    Beating a child might work for a little while, but I don’t think it’s effective in changing behavior. After a while, you get immune to the physical punishment. You learn how to take the 5 minutes and then you keep stepping.

    Psychological discipline is best, in my opinion. Kids are going to be kids. They’re going to try you, regardless, because that’s what kids do… but instill fear in them… get in their mind, and you have a better chance of actually changing their behavior

  • Soul Ese

    I’ve always found a rolled up newspaper to the nose does wonders…..oh this is about kids.

  • daisy

    WHEN U BEAT YOUR CHILD U R DOING THAT TO END YOUR FRUSTRATION, NOT TO CORRECT HIM. THE BEST WAY TO BE A PARENT IS TO BE A ROLE MODEL. CHILDREN LEARN BY MISTAKES.

  • B3 Fearless

    @daisy

    Do you have kids? Judging from your response I think not. While I agree with a portion of what you said about complimenting them on the things they do well and scolding is ok but that can only go so far.

    I have a 5 year old and I tried the spanking thing at first because it worked on me and my brother but I found taking the things that he loves seem to set him straight more than hitting. But I still use that as a last resort.

    Mind you there is a difference between spanking and physical abuse (breaking kids arms, etc.)

    I believe the reason why we have all these crazy kids is because their parents:

    1. Were kids themselves when they had them.
    2. Have some kind of substance abuse problem.
    3. Don’t care and leave them to raise themselves. Or let the street raise them.

    A role model does wonders but children have to have a solid foundation when they are younger.

  • daisy

    stop quoting the bible in regards to children. u don’t quote the bible on matters that pertain to adults like “if your eye offends u pluck it out” stop it! there is a LOT of violence in that bible

  • Tuesday's Child

    Beat ’em! (and fyi, it’s not just a black thing – white and indian children got their a s s es tagged in the street where I grew up as well. Indian parents don’t play either.)

  • daisy

    most of all KNOW YOUR CHILD is like A SPONGE. so when u say foolish things like, “i’d kill him if he did that to me” the child learns violence is the solution to all of life problems and stop cursing

  • http://perryone779@yahoo,com a rose by any other name #9304026339482056536 ™

    Not all kids need whippings, but some do .. bottom line and i was one who did and got them to and i appreciate my parents for spanking my azz, because i was a smart mouth and a fighter, but i never stole or never been arrested and i respect adults and i will give you respect if you respect me.. other than that.. its on!

  • daisy

    be a role model – the child is EMULATING YOU. give him loving attention – negative attention is better than none to the child. he’ll act up just to get attention

  • Don't ask if you don't wanna hear the TRUTH

    Develop “the look”…have a good leather belt available…and trust,if that child has an ounce of sense and respect for who u are, then they will stay they a$$ in check…i,e (mother or parent…not yo friend) then you will have a happy productive child who always stays in his/her place…simple

    Btw, I personally am much happier that my mom and I developed a friendship after her raising me…

  • mimi79

    I was at my chldren’s school a few months ago and a parent came in there acting a damn fool. Her kid was at school cursing out teachers and trying to fight them. Instead of beating the kid down right there in the office, she starts cursing out the teacher and the principal. I was thinking to myself yep I see where this kid gets it from. A lot of children mimic behavior that they see.

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