Dear Bossip: Ultimate Betrayal

Dear Bossip,

I just found out that my high school sweetheart and husband of 3 years cheated on me yet again. The hardest thing about him cheating on me was the way I found out. After charging his iPod, I came across many videos of this h*e. I was shocked to see a video with this h*e at my office (he has an extra key on his key ring) exposing her nasty breasts in my husband’s face. There is also a video of him and this nasty a*s tr*ck having sex, 3 videos to be exact. My husband had more videos of this h*e than my son and I. I’m sooooo depressed and horrified by this situation. I can’t sleep, because these images are imprinted in my brain. I’ve been cheated on before, but to see the sexual act is unbearable. I’m so heart broken by this craziness and too embarrassed to tell my best friends. My husband has yet to apologize for cheating on me. He was sorry he brought that girl to my workplace, but places blame on me for making him do something so stupid. The last two years of our relationship have been rocky, but I thought we were moving on. I always said if he cheated again, I would kick him out…but I’m having trouble doing that.

Tell me Bossip readers….am I stupid if I give my husband another chance. LOVE IS BLIND…I understand that statement now. I still love him, and do want to make things work for our family.

Good day sis! Thanks for writing in and sharing. Your situation is a lot to take in. Now that you have proof, in video form, that your husband has been sleeping with another woman, in your place of business no less, you now have to process! Surely, there’s an array of feelings and emotions you have to sort through at this point but take your time. You don’t have to make a decision today or tomorrow. However, once you do decide what you want to do be firm and stick to it -no flip-flopping! But in the meantime, you have to do what’s best for yourself, health and child.

Clearly, your husband’s lapse of judgement is indicative of his level of respect for your marriage and family – very little? A man who is truly dedicated to his wife and kids wouldn’t recklessly abandon his responsibilities the way he did. Even the strongest of men falter from time to time but the ipod videos of the two if them in your office is just gutter, smug and trifling, and you said this is not the first time he’s been unfaithful. Einstein said it best, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insane! If you continue to accept this type of treatment, more than likely you’ll get more of the same and eventually it’s going to take such a huge toll on you and your children. Something has to change, whether it’s your address, marital status or circumstance, the choice is yours. Love yourself enough to leave a toxic situation though, nothing and no man is worth your mental, emotional and physical well-being! You have to be at your best for your son.

No doubt the idea of your family splitting and a failed marriage is heartbreaking but what’s the point if you’re miserable? What’s a marriage without trust and do you think you can ever fully trust him again? If you feel you can, then by all means, work it out. Plenty of married couples have worked through cheating. It takes time, a willingness to make it work on both your ends, lots of communication and a marriage counselor. If you feel like you can see past his infidelity and rebuild your marriage, go for it. It can work if the both of you are committed and decided on seeing things through. Good luck, sis!

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