Is A Good Woman Hard To Find?

- By Bossip Staff

According to some men, finding a good woman isn’t as easy as we would like to believe. We often hear complaints, from our girlfriends or even ourselves, about the lack of quality men in the choosing pool. Well, news flash ladies, some men have the same argument. Just because you’re educated, self-sufficient, and consider yourself a ‘trophy,’ doesn’t mean men are as impressed as you think.

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  • Proud

    I would like to know what men consider to be qualities of a good woman?

  • Ejay

    IMO, Men are easy to please. Sex, kindness and having a women who is a go getter is all I needed. Fortunately, I found it!

  • Proud

    I feel I am a woman of good qualities. But I do think one reason especially why black women and men have a difficult times in good relationships of the understanding are key qualities a person must have to make the ideal in relationship.

  • Educated Goon

    ^^ some idiot just had to bring up race. Sheesh drink bleach already

  • STFU

    damn near impossible these days

  • 1991 UK (The gem of Africa)

    Well only a good man will be able to find a good woman and Vice-versa

  • Darkesthourgla ss

    some idiot just had to bring up race. Sheesh drink bleach already
    In a few hours 97% of this thread is gonna be about race. “Black women ain’t shyt” “White women ain’t shyt.” You know the drill.

  • R_U_Trying_To_Prove_Her_Right?

    Rather than post MY comment, I went to the ORIGINAL article online and copied THIS comment from a young lady named “Mimi”. I found HER comments more compelling than anything that I COULD come up with:

    Mimi7/23/10, 16:19:pm

    If I was a man, would I date any one of my friends? My answer to that question is, I would date only one of my friends (I have a total of five good friends). The four that I wouldn’t date, I have a perfect reason:
    Friend ‘A’ is too busy trying to be a socialite and is more interesting in mingling with up and comers, to be invested in any relationships.
    Friend ‘B’ and ‘C’ are married: B is a mother of two children and C is a newlywed.
    Friend ‘D’…to put it bluntly…she is a h*e. I know I shouldn’t classify my friend like that, but it is the best way to describe her. She thinks being sexually available to her “friends” makes her entitled to be loved.
    Now, do I think I am suitable to be loved? Nope.

  • Proud

    And so I brought up race what?! This is a black site anyway. Did you instantly die because I brought it up did you?!

  • Ejay

    Proud. They weren’t talking about you!

  • See now thats your problem.....

    When a man is ready to have a companion for life he’ll learn to befriend, listen and enjoy the company of a women without seeing them as potential notches on his headboard. The signs of a man not ready for a serious relationship are obvious to most women and the good thing for them is that some women don’t care. However that good woman, that one that you wake up every morning next to, loves you as unconditionally as you do her does.

  • Allie

    Darkesthourgla ss: EXACTLY

    Sometimes, men and women don’t realize when they have a good person standing right in front of them, and when they finally realize it, it’s too late..really take time to analyze the people in your life

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals--I'm just too good to be true!!!

    I would date me!!!!

  • Allie

    ***a n a l y z e***

  • Hold That Thought!!

    No, she isnt!

  • bnww

    “good” man or “good” woman are relative terms. the point is to find someone who is your complementary companion. for example if you are emotionally needy, you have to be with someone who likes to reassure you constantly. since no one is perfect you have to hook up with someone who accepts the good and the bad. the great part is that when you find that person who accepts you, it gives you the confidence to want to be better for yourself and them. a true love will never keep you from trying to grow up in fear of losing you.

    what is so sad is that many people do not understand how much of what they think they want in a mate is determined by outside influences. you have to know who you are before you can know what is right.

  • Brotherman

    Is a good woman hard to find? The amswer is Yes!!!!!!!!!

  • sallysss

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  • miss infamous

    men say they want a wifey but never go for the wifey type

  • Lyard

    There are a lot of good women out there, but the truth is, very few come in BLACK!

  • hunnyBun

    a good man/woman isn’t hard to find in my opinion. people just look for the right things in the wrong places. a man can have a long, sensible list of what he wants in a woman but 9/10 that will go out of the window when they see a woman that looks good. most men will look past the good girls for the big booty/breasted women. it’s just the truth

  • nolikeyIgnoramuses

    My 2 cents….lol…Good people are hard to find in general, be it men or women, platonic or romantic relationship. I think when people try to work on their inner goodness, they also attract the likeness. Its pretty simple actually, do unto others what you would like others do unto you. You cant go wrong with kindness, compassion and understanding. Realistically speaking though, in this day, world and age, I do believe, A good person is hard to find much less of a good man or woman but they do exist!!! 🙂

  • Darkesthourgla ss


    I guess I fall in #8 and somewhat in #1 category but I guess I’m just use to it, bad habits. I’ll be damned if I’m argumentative, ghetto and crazy. I’m easygoing and too old for that shyt.

  • nolikeyIgnoramuses

    @ Hunnybun, there are good girls who are big booty/breasted or just plain good looking. Good and bad comes in all forms and shapes! 🙂

  • hunnyBun

    if you have a hard time finding the right man or woman you might have to look in the mirror. if you tend to meet the wrong men/women it’s because you are attracting them.
    I don’t have a hard time finding the right men but I do have a hard time choosing the right men. I have and still do p a s s on good men because I find them boring but I don’t complain if it goes wrong because I chose him. So if you have a hard time finding a good woman, look in the mirror

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