A “Lil Positivity”: Woman Defies Doctors, Gives Birth Naturally Instead Of C-Section…Baby Is 100% Healthy

- By Bossip Staff

This is a great story for mothers out there:

On Thursday, December 2, as Aneka sat at home nine months pregnant, the phone rang. It was her obstetrician wanting to know where the heck she was. Did Aneka forget that today was the day for her cesarean section? How could she have forgotten? No, Aneka hadn’t forgotten. She hadn’t shown up intentionally.

“She told me, ‘You’re being irresponsible. Your baby could die. You could die,'” Aneka recalls. Then the doctor hung up. Aneka (she doesn’t want her last name used) had already resolved to not have a C-section, even though the doctor told her it was absolutely necessary. She wasn’t going to be opened up surgically, no matter what her doctor said, no matter what any doctor said.
In some online communities, Aneka is a hero who defied the obstetrical establishment and gave birth her way. To many doctors, however, she’s a risk-taker who put her and her baby in peril by giving birth at home.

Aneka’s story begins nine years ago with the birth of her first daughter, Nya. After 10 hours of labor, her doctor told her she wasn’t progressing quickly enough, and she needed a C-section. “I didn’t know any better, so I said OK,” Aneka says. In a postpartum visit six weeks later, the doctor told her she’d needed the surgery because her hips were too small to pass the baby. “I thought to myself, what’s she talking about, I don’t have small hips,” Aneka remembers.

Four years later, doctors told Aneka she couldn’t deliver her second child vaginally, since Nya had been delivered by C-section. Studies show when a woman gives birth vaginally after having had a previous C-section, there’s a higher chance her uterus will rupture since she’s pushing against scar tissue. Then again, when Aneka was pregnant with her third child, son Adasjan, she had a C-section for the same reason. When she became pregnant with her fourth child, a boy named Annan Ni’em, she expected to have a fourth C-section. But about seven months into her pregnancy, Aneka started to read more about childbirth online, and noticed a documentary by actress Ricki Lake called “The Business of Being Born,” a film released in 2008 that questions the way American women have babies. I was a little bit angry after watching documentary,” she said. “It made me realize I’d been robbed of the birthing experience. If possible, all women should be allowed to birth naturally.”

“I asked my doctor if I could try delivering vaginally, and she said no,” Aneka says. “I called the hospital and they said they wouldn’t allow it, and I called three other hospitals and they wouldn’t let me deliver vaginally, either.” The closest hospital that would let her try to deliver vaginally was in Manassas, Virginia, about 90 minutes from her Maryland home. She and her husband, Al, decided that was too far. So just seven weeks away from her December 1 due date, Aneka contacted the International Cesarean Awareness Network, an advocacy group that promotes vaginal births after cesareans, or VBACs.
“She asked me if I could find someone who would deliver her vaginally,” remembers Bobbie Humphrey, who works with ICAN. “She started to cry because she’d heard ‘no, no, no you can’t do this’ so many times.”

But Humphrey told her yes, that she knew of a midwife who would be willing to deliver her baby at home. An article in Midwifery Today, written by Barbara Stratton, the National VBAC ban chair for ICAN, lists several approaches women have used to protest a VBAC denial. On December 5, three days after the C-section that never took place, Annan Ni’em was born at home. He weighed 9 pounds, 6 ounces and was delivered after 20 hours of labor, and, she says, just four minutes of pushing. He was completely healthy.

“We were all crying at the delivery,” says Humphrey, a doula who assisted the midwife at the birth. “It was very emotional. I was just so proud of Aneka.”
Soon, word spread on e-mail lists and chat rooms about the healthy delivery. “People were e-mailing Aneka saying ‘congratulations, you’re a role model,” Humphrey says.


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  • confidently_ugly

    people have the tendency to trust all doctors, you can trust very few of them…most are not in the profession because they care about people. Since this implosion of C- Sections i wouldnt doubt that this is done as a convenience to the physician. I dont support going against “orders” but I do think it is wise seek other opinions(multiple).. i could write a book about the “dark side” of healthcare

    • JaZzIe91

      I agree

  • http://www.swirlsociety.com www.swirlsociety.com

    very very brave and even luckier thank god it all worked out well

  • Glok...So fresh ta death, ..Like i jumped in my outfit and died !!!


  • Delight23

    I’m missing the significance of the “lil positivity” ❓

    Would it have been a case of negativity had she followed the doctors orders ❓

    She has 4 healthy children….along with several other million women.

    • Anti-believer

      I agree delight… if you didn’t need doctor orders then you should have had your baby at home in the comfort of your bed.


    rrowl, rrowl!


    This is the type of stories we should be hearing more of. How Wonderful…

  • JustAshley

    I’m happy their okay. Her midget is adorable! All chunky and cute!

  • juliemango

    Ricki ricki ricki should be proud too!!!

  • latoya

    heyy, the baby was born on my birth day but good for her

  • Educated Goon

    Beautiful Black Family… I’m glad they not putting chemicals in those childrens hair like most these black women do…. I’ve seen infants with Micros & perms… its gettin crazy outchea

  • spoken

    MAJOR MAJOR props to this woman. I’ve seen ricki lake’s documentry “Business of being Born”. I was outraged at how these doctors guilt women into drugs and c sections. A mid wife costs aboutg 5k…and hospital birth costs about 20k. Your baby is supposed to be born when they are ready…not when the doctor is ready. Even the way women give birth in hospitals is for the benefit of the doctor. We are not supposed to be on our backs with our legs in stirrups…that is all for the comfortability of the doctor. We are supposed to be squatting. And if you are in labor for 6 hours or so, they want to speed it up by enducing (they will tell you that the baby is distress). Then the pain is so unbareable they give you drugs for the pain, but the drugs for the pain conteract the drugs to enduce…so they give you more drugs to enduce. By the time you have your baby, the both of you are so damn high that the natural chemicals released from a woman after pushing a baby out are not there. These natural chemicals are what is needed for baby and mother to bond. In the 1900s women were using midwives to birth their babies. But that soon ended as hospitals and doctors waged a campaign saying hospitals were cleaner and sterile. Soon women started going to hospitals to give birth. We as women have been birthing since the begining of time without drugs or c sections. I would advise new mothers to see this documentry as it is extremely PROFOUND. If I had to choose I would have my baby at home around loved ones.

    • LS

      Totally agree – could not have said it better myself

  • http://www.randomtandem.com RandomTandem

    she risked her baby’s life. and dayum she sure had a lot of kids

  • Nia

    That is a bunch of crock. My first child was by c-section, and I had two vaginal births after this. My doctor told me it was totally up to me. I decided to try a vaginal birth and successfully delivered two healthy babies.

  • Nia

    I live in Maryland by the way, I guess it depends on the doctor, mines was not too fond of believing that woman cannot deliver vaginally after a c-section.

  • Hussein lied

    That baby came out white as a mudda-fcker…something seems amiss….

    • Tm30

      Not really, a lot of black children are this color when they’re born. I was and so were my children and we’re darker than this couple.


      I came out “white as a mudda-fcker” with blond hair and blue eyes and so did my father when he was born. My texture is soft & referred to as ‘good hair’ but I don’t buy into the good hair/bad hair crock of shat (never have and never will). Any textured hair with proper care & training can be ‘good’. I am black. 100%. I’m not mixed so don’t go there. Nothing’s amiss. We’re just a beautiful people who come in all varieties. Point blank.

    • Educated Goon

      Obviously a non-black person made this comment… cause I was white as hell when I was a baby… And I am darkskin… and i aint got no “indian in my family”

    • gianni

      Mostly all babies are light when they are born,they have been living in fluids for 9 months…..

  • Kayleezy

    Thats whats up! God bless them!

  • ladiva

    i had to get a c-section for my son due to his heart rate dropping twice. Although i am thankful that he was born healthy, i still feel that i was robbed of that whole experience.

  • Tm30

    I had to have an emergency csection with my oldest. At first I was depressed but by the time I had my second I was over it. I didn’t want to go through the same ordeal so I elected to have another. I was extremely calm with the first but I didn’t know if I would have stayed calm a second time around if things went wrong like the first time. But the weird thing is i was having contractions and didn’t know it with my second. The nurse told me I was contracting away right before I was to have my second. He was probably going to come that day csection or

  • Hussein lied

    @compre “My texture is soft & referred to as ‘good hair’ but I don’t buy into the good hair/bad hair”
    —u don’t buy into it YET u had to state your texture is “soft” and “good hair” GTFOH hahahahaha

  • mosiane

    This is something positive. I love how a doctors are trying to convince women that our bodies are ill-equipped to give birth naturally while we, women, have been giving birth from the beginning of time. It’s all about money, its about time we take control of our bodies, our babies, our birthing process!!!

  • Sweet Cherry!!!

    I had my first c-section bc the doctors said I was too small for the baby to fit after pushing for 2 hours and 28 hours of labor so I decided to do it for my last 2 only bc I didn’t want to go through that whole ordeal again. And also I had complications with my last but now I’m kinda regretting not having that experience of a vaginal birth. It’s something every woman with children should experience if at all possible. Good for her she’s a brave woman.

  • resurrected

    I don’t trust people just because of there profession or because they wear a uniform I do my research first and then trust the professional second because in America everything is about money, fame and entitlement over real everyday real information.

  • severine

    Beautiful family, beautiful story. Western medicine isn’t always the best medicine, and kudos to her for doing what was best for her!!!

    Although, she should slow down on the baby making. Ain’t no shortage of humans on this planet, last I checked.

    • ImaPC

      ‘slow down’? if she and her husband can take care of their own family then they should have as much children as they want or can. There are so many women out there who would love to be in her position, but can’t. The Lord said ‘be fruitful and multiply’, but we go to planned parenthood and abort our children, or have them with deadbeats/baby daddies. Thats not the plan.

    • ImaPC

      contd-We are not ‘over populated’ btw, the Earth has enough natural resources, if we would but use it responsibly. Also, hispanics will be the dominant US group because they dont care about being ‘slowing down’. Many European countries won’t even be able to reproduce THEMSELVES in the coming decades–> they are now below the replacement rate, and some US races may not be far behind.

  • Candid Canuck

    put god first y’all.

  • Star

    Love the mother’s hair!!!!!!!

    • ImaPC

      not to mention her oldest daughter’s…

      I know a woman who just permed her 9 year old’s hair, and it just makes me that much more determined to help my future daughter (if I ever have one) not only love her natural hair, but grow up learning how to take care of it. (better than I had growing up).

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