“I’ve Been Sleeping With My Uncle Who Was In Prison For 18 Years”

- By Bossip Staff

Dear Gay Best Friend,

I know that you hate long letters, so I will try and keep this two year saga short. I began a sexual relationship with my uncle two years ago. I was 26-years old and he was 45-years old. He was in prison for about 18 years. I visited him every weekend from age 11 until I was about 24-years old. I believe that for a while we were in love with each other (I’ve heard the saying that you can’t help who you love, but….).

He initiated the relationship and I, knowing that I would lose my uncle and cause some major drama if I told anyone what was going on, kept it quiet. About a year in, I couldn’t take him disrespecting and using me anymore, especially lying to me about loving me. He kept lying about his feelings for me even after times he told me he just wanted to have sex with me and that he didn’t want to mess around anymore. He would always come back and say he loved me and missed me. I knew it wasn’t true, but because I still loved him in a romantic way, I allowed it. Now that was my fault.

After a big family blow-up, in which he denied the affair even happened and called me a crazy lying bitch, (which I know now that he was trying to keep his girlfriend whom he was about to have a baby with), he finally came out and said the truth about us. He apologized to me. I was hurt and upset that my favorite uncle that watched me grow up could treat me in this way and that I allowed it. I was angry. Sorry doesn’t fix everything. My family stated that my uncle and I should try and repair our relationship. Honestly, I wasn’t ready for that, and as of yet it hasn’t happened. Mainly because after that family blow-up and a 4-month or so hiatus we began seeing each other, again. He went on lying to our family and his girlfriend and to me. Telling me that no matter what he would never stop seeing me, he misses me all the time, etc. I stopped the relationship after Christmas and told him to stop calling and texting me.

My issue is that my family doesn’t know that we began again and can’t understand why I don’t want to be around him or his girlfriend, her four other kids and their baby. I know this man doesn’t care about me and I don’t believe he ever did. He did more to suit himself than he ever did to be an uncle to me. Especially, after apologizing to me and then calling me only for sex. I feel he is not my uncle and I don’t know who he is. Am I wrong for not wanting to be involved with family functions in which he will be in attendance? Is this whole thing my fault? – Division In My Family

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  • Moanmyname (Certified now!)

    wait wait

  • ByrdLady

    WTF?!? Her uncle?!?

  • Holy shizz


  • Nana

    Go to nearest hood…

    Ask for Mookie or Pookie…

    Cop urself a Gun….

    Put the gun 2 ur head and….

    Pull the trigger….


    • JustLuxe

      AHHHHHHHAHAHAHA You stay keepin me laughing

    • sandrina brewster

      You are tooo funny.This is a girl with a low IQ.You might make harm herself

  • Toy


  • Certain


  • nymphis

    You are a mfn fool for that.

  • No u can't be boyfriend #2!

    I am still SMDH for her reaching out and asking about this mess!

    She should be addressing other issues than worrying about caring if she should skip the family funtions just because of him!

    JUST GROSS on soooo many levels!

  • Nana

    Lol @nymphis! That’s the only solution cuz I can’t possibly imagine livin wit maself after such disgustin…….jus ewwwwww

  • hotdang

    I feel very sorry for her she was obviously manipulated by him when she was very young and needs help now

  • get em paid!

    You sho been sending Pookie n Mookie n dem a whole alot of business lately lmao

  • get em paid!

    lmao game over u win!

  • Tell it like it is!

    You know you’re wrong, LMAO!

  • Nana

    @get em paid lmaoooo I know right! Pookie called me talkin bout “Yo, bizness is boomin, people actin a fool is good 4 bizness”…..So I’mma start investin in their bizness. Sh!t….

  • nymphis

    she need to be worryin about who Uncle was hittin for those 18yrs.

  • Mrs. Rance

    Who the hell was taking a child to visit a jail bird every week for over a decade?

    • shoot

      and it wasn’t her dad. I was wondering the samething

  • Sanriobaby =^.^=

    This is some crazy sh*t right here! Not only does this loser keep it in the family, the rest of thier relatives encouraged this woman to “repair” thier relationship. I’m sorry but this entire family is severely sick. This man groomed her from childhood. She needs to disavow her entire family, move away, and seek dome therapy and God.

  • G.M.

    are u sure u women have standards cuz it damn sure dont seem like it anymore smh

    • G.M.

      i mean, its no secret how modern women love them some convict d1cc but even thats not enough, now y’all goin after related convict d1cc smh

  • G.M.

    if men in prison were so manipulative, they would be able to manipulate their a$$ to freedom…most these b1tches is just stupid, it aint that deep smh

  • WHAT


  • mzdiscreet32

    Jesus be the glory, what in the world is wrong with this family.. this is some sad sad sad sad situation. first how does uncle even find his niece attractive? how does a family encourage them to repair a relationship that NEVER suppose to been? she need as well as the family emergency intervention.

  • http://besomewheretween.wordpress.com Ms. Jones

    I try not to curse but what kind of F*ckery is this??????? She was a grown @ss woman when this ish started they both need their @sses kicked. SMMFH

  • pretty pink bits

    i just choked on my watermellon reading this. Black folks for ya.

  • daisy jay (want some jermaisins??)

    Oops….it’s a she, not a he ha. Still equally disgusting. I’m just wondering how nobody noticed or found out because I’m sure something like that isn’t a very easy thing to hide

  • Brokeneyelash

    The whole d*mn family is “DYSFUNCTIONAL”!!

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