For Discussion: Are Open Relationships The Way To Go??

- By Bossip Staff

We live in a society where greater than 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, and a great proportion of those are due to cheating. A recent report published in the Journal of Sex Research, claimed almost a third of partners who said they were monogamous had in fact slept with someone outside of the relationship. And some behavioral scientists claim that monogamy is indeed unnatural. Some would argue that it appears monogamy isn’t working for people. And if it truly isn’t, many debate whether open relationships are the way to go.

An open relationship is one in which a couple agree to be together, but also agree to have romantic or sexual relationships with additional people. There are no set rules when it comes to open relationships. It’s basically up to the couple to determine the boundaries of acceptable behavior.

Many have opposed the idea of open relationships, and condemned people that practice them, claiming that the lifestyle is simply for the “selfish” and “immature.” And many people in open relationships assert that they have a better grasp on love and reality, unlike their monogamous counterparts that secretly cheat, deceive, and pretend to be monogamous. For an unmarried individual like myself, I wonder if those really are the only two choices: 1. Be in a monogamous relationship where someone secretly strays from time to time or 2. Be in an open relationship.

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    i think there toxic.

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  • http://Hotmail Islandbaby

    I love open relationships. It works if ur not ready for a commitment. It works for me…I don’t have to answer to him and he don’t have to ether. He can see whoever he wants to see and the same goes for me. Some men/women gets emotional and the relationship get complicated. In my opinion, open relationships only works for “some” people who are not ready for commitment.

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals--Me and "we" will piggyback in a thread!

    I think if people wanna give the open relationship a go, they MUST set boundaries with their emotions. (which is damn near impossible to do)

  • mixed bad chick

    Well monogamy isn’t tht hard for sum ppl but if ur the type tht feels u are missing sumthn out there it won’t work. Also I agree with jdmann, if ur trying to be faithful at an age were u still don’t even know who u are then u are setting urself up for failure. I have seen many shows covering open marriage and at the end they always tell u how the couples divorced or separate do to jealousy issues. Or one mate can’t deal with the life they choose to live. At the end of the day to each his own, but if ur going to have an open relationship then why even try to be in one at all. Just be single and mess around with who u choose to.

    • Sa.s.sy24

      I agree

  • http://hotmail Islandbaby

    @jdmann: I am in my early 30’s and it works for me. I love my freedom. I am not ready to settle down. I need another year or two lol.

  • Abbey

    this is why aids will continue to spread. smh at the worlds view of living. im not religious but we need to learn morals & respect. i wouldnt do a open relationship if youre gonna do all that just be single.

    • Curious Misses

      I agree. People stay thinking they’re invincible to AIDS.

  • mixed bad chick

    Idk, I’m married and no matter who tries to come at me I’m happy with what I have at home. Why are ppl so unhappy anyway. Like I said b4 if u can’t stick with one person then why even get married?

  • joey

    open relationship? There shouldnt be such a thing. Ur either single and ready to mingle or u settle down with one person. Open just seems dangerous on so many levels.

  • Dilla

    I think that if you’re with a person and the both of u enjoy one another but are not ready to settle down, then definitely have an open relationship. If not then, settle down.

  • La la

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  • bouyant

    uh mm no!

  • lemme see ya twitter i can make ustream

    They sound psychologically and physically risky

  • clestia

    Weak mind freaks always trying to hump on anything and everything don’t buy into THAT SELF HATRED!

  • REAL REAL TALK

    I THINK SO JUST BE STRAIGHT UP WITH THE B?ITCH AND TELL HER YOUR DESIRE TO F?UCK????

    REAL REAL ROMANTIC TALK

  • http://hotmail Islandbaby

    @Abby…..that’s why condoms were made right? Yes, I know condom do break. As I said before open relationdhip is not for everybody.

  • JustAshley

    Sure open relationships are the way to go….straight to h*ll with std and gasoline draws on. LOL
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    IMO The couple is unhappy, but unwilling to work on the relationship and unwilling to compromise to meet their SO’s needs. So they decided to hump other people meanwhile their relationship is failing because they never addressed their various issues.

  • JustAshley

    Monogamy ain’t hard people.

  • if anything be noble

    Are open relationships the way to go? Go where? To an std clinic? Mm hmm…. You: Cabbie, how do I get to Open relationship? Cabbie: Open Relationship? Take a left at herpes, then swing a right onto gonorrhea and it’s right past Burning sensation in your nether region. Ew.

    • Curious Misses

      LoL

  • if anything be noble

    And if you get lost, just swing back around til you get to I’m Trying to Be An Emotional Mess Drive til you see Aint No Satisfaction Here Lane and go straight downhill til you get to I Don’t Wanna Grow Up Circle. Go round and round there 8000x til you’re 65 and it should be right there on your left.

  • Lady A

    Open relationships are so stupid. Why not just DATE people instead of trying to put a title on it. Open relationships or any relationship where people are sexually involved with more than one person is dangerous. People get too comfortable and stop using protection. But you have no clue who are what they are doing and then what the person they are with are doing etc…

  • beautiful.

    I’m waaay to possessive for an open relationship. It’ll never work for me.

  • Best Kept Secret

    There is no such thing as an open relationship. Ive had this convo before call it what it is your either dating or in a relationship. Calling it open just complicates things for no reason.

    P.S. Monogamy isnt dead 😉

  • clestia

    @sharock1
    Very profound!

    • Sharock1

      Really. Many young women don’t just realize that they can healthy, satisfying relations, into and beyond middle age. But, if they abuse their bodies and spirit, they will just be chronically miserable, burnt out hulks in later life.

  • spade

    monogamy is for the unattractive, im too handsome and fly for one woman. i’ll think about that bullsh!t when I hit my mid 40’s. but for the time being im taking ALL 8’s and better, ladies the line starts over there.

  • 90's baby

    Open relationships are for cowards.

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