For Discussion: How Long Can A Couple Remain Unmarried After They’ve Had A Child?

- By Bossip Staff

Kourtney and Scott have been together for years, broken up, had a son, and got back together, but still no wedding ring…

After her sister Kim Kardashian’s recent engagement to Kris Humphries, you’d think Kourtney Kardashian would be feeling pressure to get hitched – but it’s actually had the opposite effect.

“Kim getting engaged definitely bought me some time, so I don’t have to go out and get married right now,” Kourtney tells E! Online. “I was at a wedding recently … I hate weddings!”

While Kourtney and boyfriend Scott Disick may not be in a rush to the altar, her mom Kris Jenner has been pushing for the couple to get married on the new season of Keeping Up With the Kardashians. Her grandmother wouldn’t mind another wedding either.

“My grandma just texted me this morning about it. Or yesterday, saying, ‘Am I going to go? When’s my turn?’ And I was like, ‘It’s Kim’s turn,'” Kourtney admits.

But the couple, who have a 17-month-old son, Mason, seem content with their marital status.

“We’re happy,” Disick recently told PEOPLE. “I think that if it’s not broke don’t fix it. We couldn’t be happier.”

Ladies, would you feel slighted after being with a man for so many years, reared a child, and he still hadn’t proposed??

Fellas, does having a baby with your girlfriend make you feel the pressure to get hitched??


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  • xxfrankxx

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    _ Blac k Whi te Da te. C’om _

    This club is for those of us that don’t discriminate! This is to all my people who don’t care about somebody’s ethnic background, just how they are on the inside.

    If you want to find a sincere Inter/racial relationship. If you are serious. Come and join us!

    • Salina

      NICE NEWS !
      My friend Vanessa, a 25 yrs lady, has announced her wedding with a m’illionaire young man Ronald who is the CEO of a MNC. It’s amazing, she said she just posted her profile on a m’illionaire d’ating s’ite called ———SearchingM illionaire* C0- M——– – and received his chat invitations a few days later. Then, everything went so well that I can’t believe it’s true! Every love story will unfold on it’s own..——-
      Marriage is good, but just because a couple has a child together and aren’t married doesn’t mean that the woman feels slighted, maybe SHE doesn’t want to get married and is comfortable where she’s at. Stop making it seem like women are the only ones who feel they have to be married.

  • CutieReppinNY

    They already bore a child out of wedlock, so I guess they’re in no rush to get right now. BTW Scott is a straight up loser douche and Kourtney is crazy to even be with him, let alone become his baby mama.

  • Bunny(formerly Angel/UrHeiness)

    1st off,Scott looks old as hell is this pic above lol..but as far as the topic goes: it all depends on the situation IMHO.
    If a woman gets pregnant by a man who she either just meet(barely knows),one night stand,fwb type arrangement & expects the man to actually marry her,then she should’ve known better,because that most likely will NEVER happen…Heck,she be lucky if she gets the guy to stick around to financially/emotionally support the baby & her.

    But if it’s a long-term-/committed relationship/engagement with genuine feelings/love then I believe marriage should be top priority!

  • carebaer


  • G.M.

    how long can a couple remain unmarried after they’ve had a child???…As long as they want, forever if their smart lol XD…marriage isn’t a requirement, it changes the dynnamics of the relationship, it sets expectations & obligations that everybody doesn’t want to live up to and ppl, especially women, think marriage is something it truly isn’t in reality. 😉

  • Darlin

    2 losers…… story.

  • jewjew

    Um…as long as they want to. People put too much on marriage. It doesn’t keep two people together, but people put so much on it like it will give you the world. Please. I don’t even understand why people get married. And, don’t respond to me with a bunch of bible talk. You are seriously barking up the wrong tree. BTW, a man doesn’t have to stick around for a child to be financially taking care of. Last time I checked, a man has no choice in taking care of a child that is his. That’s why there is something called child support.

  • jewjew

    If men weren’t so insistent on making women put up with crap they would never put up with, marriages/relationships would last a lot longer. Trust me. They are the main ones with unrealistic expectations when it comes to relationships. They want to do whatever they want to do while expecting you to be faithful and loyal. Full of crap. Ladies, everything he do, you do. Who cares if he leaves. #ontothenextone

    • j

      jewjew must be a black woman as she has no idea how relationships work.

      “everything he do, you do ” ??? that is why so many of you all are single and unmarried

  • Matix B

    For as long as they choose to. SMH.

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals!!

    She can stay unmarried for all I care. Just keep the Kardashian Kash and don’t EVAH, evah-evah-EVAH get on public aid ’cause I ain’t trying to give up no more of MY hard earned dough!

    I’m soooooo sick of seeing bytches in grocery stores with food in THEIR baskets that “EYE” have to pay for!

    Do what you do baby just stay outta MY pockets!

  • JEsq

    Scott was going to propose when they were in New York, bought a ring and all that jazz, and Kourtney started talking about how they don’t need to get married. So, it’s not Scott’s fault. @jewjew, I agree. A lot of men believe that a wife should be content with being “the wife” and put up with anything to keep the title. A lot of men want to keep a woman with a baby or promises of marriage b/c he doesn’t want another man to have her but doesn’t want to commit. Women, you know the limit to your love. If he isn’t proposing to or marrying you and you are ready, he is only blocking the way for the man who will.

  • Nene87

    Jewjew sound smart as far as do what your man do as of everything else not so much. I think people should get married dont matter when just do it I rather be married than burn.

  • Nene87

    Its better to marry than to burn. Its do not mean you have to rush just do it. People rush to do all the wrong things but take their time doing all the right things.

  • therightRX

    Personally, I couldn’t have a child with someone I wasn’t married to prior to the kid, but I don’t do the moral sermon to others. Kourtney and Scott are not a good example for this post. Some random models’ pics should have been used. Kourtney is smart not to marry a guy who is being financially supported by his parents, IMO.

  • JM@gic

    Depends on how crazy and dyck whipped the moms is

  • 2Sweet

    I don’t think that baby is his anyway.

  • JustAshley

    Of course she feels slighted but she’ll stick around waitin’ for him to miraculously become that “good man” for at least another 15 years.

  • 1TruDiva w/the PlatinumVocals!!

    One spits out bastard children, one let’s people pee on her and one’s competing for the next Shrek spot. Hell, if THAT ain’t news! Lol!!!!

    Nah..I’m just joking. Khloe’s kinda growing on me. (I always did go for the underdog)

  • 2012NOW

    Should be asking the welfare receipients that have babies for a check.

  • homicidalbraniac

    I’m in a long-term relationship in which we have one 4 year old and another on the way. We’ve talked about marriage on a few occasions, but when it comes down to it we realized that for us, it wouldn’t really make that much of a difference. We could just do it, but all that wedding hoopla would be more for others than for us as neither of us really care to have one. Our relationship works- we’re fantastic partners and great co-parents. I don’t think marriage automatically guarantees commitment or stability. Just another label to me, but that’s just how I feel. Our relationship works for us and that’s all that matters since we’re the parties involved.

  • rose by any other name 350 8914 ™

    Most of the time they refer to him as her boyfriend/fiance, he is her “babys daddy” call it like it is… shows you white folks are “babys mamas” and “babys daddys too”

  • clockwork

    Marriage is good, but just because a couple has a child together and aren’t married doesn’t mean that the woman feels slighted, maybe SHE doesn’t want to get married and is comfortable where she’s at. Stop making it seem like women are the only ones who feel they have to be married.

  • ManchesterUKer

    However long they want to, 1950 called and it wants it’s values back. My parents were together 25 years before they got married. People in long relationships that aren’t married are more solid than those who get married after being together 6 months because the woman’s pregnant

  • ChaneyJulio

    I paid $32.67 for a XBOX 360 and my mom got a 17 inch Toshiba laptop for $94.83 being delivered to our house tomorrow by FedEX. I will never again pay expensive retail prices at stores. I even sold a 46 inch HDTV to my boss for $650 and it only cost me $52.78 to get. Here is the website we using to get all this stuff,

  • Cheeky

    It all depends on how you’re raised and what you’re used to. Most black women are content with baby mama status and convince themselves marriage is just a “piece of paper” which is why so many will never get married. Most white women are raised to expect marriage from a very young age. Even with high divorce rates it’s in a woman’s best interest to get married.

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