Dear Bossip: I’m In Love With a Gigolo

- By Bossip Staff

What’s going on Bossip fam! I have a huge issues that needs to be addressed an I need some sense talked into me asap. I have known this man since I was about 20 and we’ve been tight for about 10 years. I never thought of him as anyone I would love until around New Years of 2011. He was going through some things with one of his girlfriends and he called me. He always called me to get a ‘female perspective’ and I always tell him the truth. Knowing him the way that I do I know that he likes cougars who house him and buy him lots of clothes and keep his pockets lined and I’ve always told him that he has not experienced love yet because he only goes after women who have money and upkeep his carefree ‘money aint a thang’ lifestyle. When the holidays rolled around he was on the outs with is main chick and she was threatening him with kicking him out and he was calling me nonstop and as a friend I listened. He is very attractive but I just thought that he never believed in his own potential and after getting to know him and his story I understand why after he was emotionally abused by his mother. I’ve known all this for a while and after listening to his story I allowed him to crash at my place for a while and I ended having sex with him and understood why these women fall for him because the sex was so amazing. He’s still in my house and we still have sex but he’s still talking to the older woman hat kicked him out!! I believe in his smarts and think that he can make something of himself but I think he is caught up on taking the easy way out. Now that I’ve developed feelings for him and want to be with him I expect more from him but I don’t want to be another woman that takes care of him. What should I do Bossip?? I’m between a rock and a hard place. Please help!!

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  • 7lady

    Girl get him out your house asap. You said he has issues with women due to how his mom treated him. He’s never going to love no one but hisself. Your dealing with a self absorbed looser. He’s not the only man with good quick

  • gina

    Dude max out every credit card, wreck her car, empty savings and checking. Get her to cosign for a car, ask her help you put a down payment on a condo for shady mother ….bankrupt her azz (your new diggs)! Rewrite Beyonce to LEFT…and sing dumb hoe YOU can’t change YOU how you going change ME or stop ME from being who I AM … you pack your stuff!

  • Satan

    Will y’all and all that dang good advice STFU…I NEED FOLLOWERS! Oh well its not like Hoes or hoemogers listen…ok….@Nymphis you were one of my favorites 🙂 You know I want your soul 🙂

  • Teyana

    Why does it have to be black women are sad.. Most black men do the same crap it isnt even a race issue whites do it too. Its about standards. Will u allow urself to be taken advantage of? In situations like this u need to listen to ur brain not ur heart. He could be gamin u. Look at superhead tellin lies on top of lies havin ppl take care of her only to find out how vindictive she was. Some ppl r better liars than others. We call them pathelogical liars. Um why r u askin what u already know? Leave him duh. Man old women these days…

  • Teyana

    Guys like him are no different from hoes. They will lie cheat steal kill if they have to just to keep them away from welfare. He is ridin ur pay check suga. A hoe is a hoe male or female.

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  • Queencoca

    Have a friend that sounds like this guy. He is obsessed with an ex but wanted me to fill all of his relationship needs. I almost got lost in this relationship. Finally woke up i am temporary until he gets what he really wants. Stand in gf is not cool. Almost lost my true mate with this he is my best friend bulls#$t let go you cant afford it emotionally.

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