Did you ever wonder why in 3rd grade while you were writing love sonnets about how incredible your crush was, the boy whose name you were drawing in hearts was pulling on your ponytail, teasing and tagging you (the old-fashioned way, not the Facebook way). It’s no secret that males and females express their emotions in different ways, no matter their age, but there are times when age plays a significant factor in how you and your partner relate to one another. More important than age, however, is maturity level. For example, a 20 year-old whose primary concern is working hard and partying harder will not have much in common with a thirty-something who is counting down the days when they can settle down and start a family.
It all comes down to priorities and in serious relationships if you can’t picture a future of common goals and expectations, then you’ll definitely have a hard time building anything in the present together.
You may have heard that females mature faster than males, and I happen to believe that that’s true. I’ve always had a rule that I don’t date anyone younger than my age. Since I was a teenager I’ve always dated guys who were 1-3 years older than me because I’ve always felt that older guys were usually on the same maturity level. In my experiences, I have found that my least successful relationships have been with men who were the same age as me. Maybe the age was circumstantial, but it also may have had to do with the fact that although we were born in the same year, the things that were important to them no longer interested or concerned me. (Continue reading…)