In the magazine she gives a first person account about meeting Collins and his brother in college and eventually becoming engaged to him, only to have their wedding plans abruptly canceled without any explanation. She also discusses how his recent revelation helped give her some degree of closure but still left her feeling disappointed.
Peep the excerpts via Cosmo below:
The phone call this April ended the mystery. He left a message on a Sunday, saying, “I have something important to talk about—please call me back.” I was working and called the next morning. He uttered an eerily familiar phrase: “You may want to sit down.” Then he said, “Carolyn, I’m gay.” I was stunned. I managed to say, after a silent moment and then a deep breath, “I had no idea. I’m sure a huge weight is off your shoulders.” During all the years I had known him, I never would have guessed that he would come out as gay.
We talked again briefly that night. He answered a few questions, but there was much left to discuss and he said he had to go. As I tell this story, it has been several weeks since he told me his news and he has made no further time to talk, despite saying he would do so. I am sad that the media seems to be a higher priority. I hope this changes in the coming weeks, as I value open dialogue more than anything.
I can’t imagine what it’s like to go through all the stages he has gone through, all the deep layers. I don’t know what it’s like to wear a mask for 34 years. It’s sad that society puts that kind of pressure on a person. I also understand the macho stereotypes men face in the NBA. I ran up against a reverse stereotype in the WNBA: People said I was too “feminine” to be a pro player. I quickly proved them wrong, showing that my nail polish and dresses had nothing to do with my ability to compete on the court.
I empathize with Jason and support him. But at the same time, I remain deeply hurt by him. I wish he could have been honest with me years ago. I feel like there are two Jasons now—the man I fell in love with and the man I’m trying so hard to understand. He’s being hailed as a pioneer, but I believe true heroism is a result of being honest with yourself and with those you love.
Wellll, you go girl! You told him. Mmm hmmm… Seriously though, what’s left to discuss? The guy likes dudes — at least he spared her the expense and embarrassment of a divorce.
Do you think Collins owes Carolyn more time to talk and explanation for wasting eight years of her life — or is she just as much to blame for allowing him to lead her on? What say you, fair or foul?
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