*Exclusive* Musiq Schools Bossip on Sex&Luv

- By Bossip Staff

Posted by Bossip Staff

Bossip recently sat down with Musiq, the only dude who could write 439 songs about love, and you feel them all. Being that Hallmark holiday Valentine’s Day is coming up, we figured we’d give you lovebirds and cynics some dialogue:

Bossip: Sex and Love…..the same thing?
Musiq: Sex and love are two different things. I think that, mostly women, no offense, have a challenging time in separating the two. This is not a negative critique, just an observation that I’ve made. Women tend to become more emotionally involved with someone once sex if factored in, whereas with a dude, not to say that we don’t have any emotions, but it’s just easier for us to separate the two. Sex is just sex to us usually. You could get all deep with it and say that it’s scientific and it’s just natural selection; we’re depositing something, and y’all are receiving something. The fact that y’all are receivers and you all are so sensitive, that it comes with its side effects. So many times I talk to girls and they be like, ‘Yo, I just be feeling a certain way and I can’t really explain why, I’m just emotional right now. It could be because of a number of things. An accumulative process of things that happen during the week or all your life. So, I don’t think that it’s possible to ever really fully understand a woman’s process, because it’s always changing. Whereas with a dude, you’d be surprised at how simple we are. Usually, whatever we’re going after, whatever it looks like….that’s what it is.

When you want to talk about spending your life with somebody, you need a whole lot more than that. When you tired of looking at that person, there’s gotta be something else there that says, you know what…you lucky I love yo ass, cause I wouldn’t deal with this. I think that it would help if people, not women, but people would understand that there is a huge huge huge difference between sex and love. Sex doesn’t confirm the presence of love, it just means that you’re sexually attracted to a person. I don’t have to have sex with a person to know that I love them.

Bossip: The lyrics in your songs seem like you take them directly from life experiences. True?
Musiq: For so long in Black music or urban music, this idea has been perpetuated that relationships are supposed to be a certain way. It’s not entirely untrue, there’s just more things that should be taken into consideration. In the songs that I write I like to contribute a realistic perspective of things that go on in relationships. You say you love me…but how? You say you like me…but in what way? I’m telling you that I want to be with you…but for what reason? The thing that I’ve learned about us as people is that when it comes to love… It’s not that it’s impossible, but it’s challenging to be unconditional. Because we as human beings we care about ourselves more than anything else. Whether we want to admit to that or not, it’s a reality.
I found myself in relationships saying okay I could be the stereotype, I could be a statistic. The stereotypical dude about whatever, but I’m going to choose to be the exception. But, sometimes I do end up being the statistic.

Bossip: In what way?
Musiq: You know, always thinking about sex. Hollering at a girl because you trying to get some. Wanting a girl to be around me because you like the way that she looks and thinking about what people are gonna say about her being with me. Despite all of the I still try to be the exception and rise above that. A lot of girls ask me, do you mean the stuff that say in those songs. Yeah, I’m that person, but a lot of it is me giving myself something to live up to. Most of the songs that I have, they stem from me actually going through that.

Bossip: Is romance dead?
Musiq: The idea of romance was always on some fairytale stuff. The candles and the roses and the chivalry. Not to say that there’s anything wrong with it, but the idea, the image, what was portrayed as being romantic…they’re just not working anymore for the different generations. We’ve gained better perspective and we see through that. ‘Oh, so you think that just cause you got me some roses, it’s gon’ make everything better.’ You know what I’m saying? For a dude it’s like, ‘Oh, so just because you gave me some tonight, I’m just gon’ forget about everything.’ Like, no. We have the experiences of the past to use as a point of reference. We’re like a fool-proof generation now. I think that the idea of romance is in the element of being spontaneous. That spontaneity is going to come from how you organically feel about a person. We’re running out of room to run game, because everybody’s already put on to the game now.

So, is the short, mo-hawked man right?

Click Here to listen to Musiq’s “Sobeautiful”. Video coming soon…

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  • soulchild's right eyeball

    i do crazy things.




  • jena4rmthablock

    I LUV MUSIQ since Aijuswanaseing my joint was Mary go round. Raw talent, meaningful lyrics and a head on his shoulders. Too bad a MAJORITY of artists aren’t like this man…

  • pm

    his new cd is great I jam it all the time.

  • jena4rmthablock

    And that so beautiful joint is… so beautiful, *sigh*

  • Sawyer

    I think his answers to the questions are prototypical responses you’d get from any man who can articulate his thoughts. There’s nothing new in their that I havent heard before. And I definitely wouldnt internalize anything he said for advice, but I think it was an excellent interview.

  • MissK

    Loves it.

  • hello goodbye

    i definately agree..dudes can eff a female & walk away..most females can’t do that unless..you know

  • http://www.k.com noelle

    DANG I was bumpin’ that cd this morning.

  • pm

    “Until” and “I wanna be” are my favorite tracks

  • TuesdayPhillyYoungGrownWoman

    a good example of a philadelphia man

  • Somer

    OMG, I love his latest cd. So Beautiful & the song Until sound like poetry that he put to music. Musiq writes from the heart & not the groin.

  • The Official Mrs. Carter

    M-A-R-Y-H-O-W-C-O-U-L-D-Y-O-U-B-E-S-O-C-R-U-E*-L-T-O-M-E-M-Y-L-O-V-E…Thats my joint…!!


    Love me some Musiq.. “So Beautiful” is on repeat right now..

    I’m a woman and totally agree… He’s definitely on point. Men are simple.

  • Deano

    That’s bull more women today know to separate the two, Love and Sex. I find this with career woman and independent women, mostly. This is the reason you have chicks that will give you the goods and never call you. I met this chick last summer and she did just that, she just wanted fun in NYC; kept it moving back to ATL. We never exchanged numbers, we just effed, smoke Kush and drink Belve in the Telli all night. Then we both left at midnight to our separate lives.

  • TuesdayPhillyYoungGrownWoman

    @ Deano

    …… 😉

  • truth, iam a girl

    I like how real Musiq is and the fact he is trying not to be the statistic. I try not to be the statistic woman and I would really like the chance to know Musiq.. He could sing to me anytime or have a deep convo.. I am all into that..Gosh I wish my man was deep… haha

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  • You Smell Me??

    “So Beautiful” is fire… wasnt feeling his album @ first. but after a few rotations, is pretty good..

  • Deano

    @TuesdayPhilly, am I right? You will find older women separating the two right from jump in a relationship. My advice to Musiq is, stop talking to those High school girls. An older woman will tell you straight out what she about…groupies do not form or represent the general consensus MUSIQ




  • TuesdayPhillyYoungGrownWoman

    @ Deano

    …you speak the truth

  • TuesdayPhillyYoungGrownWoman


    thats why i said that breezy shouldve stuck to his cougar. chris brown was a happy kid, dancing & carryin’ on before he went with that jealous young-girl rihanna.

  • told you so

    musiq makes some good music and will always be in my music rotation. Not feeling some of his stylist clothes selections though.

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