Dear Bossip: My Man Obsesses Over Other Women's Assets & He Told Me I Should Consider Butt Augmentation

Dear Bossip,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 months. In the beginning everything was great.

He treats me well, and we hang out all the time, and even are looking to plan a future together.

There is just one problem. He is obsessed with GIRLS ON INSTGRAM. I never considered myself to be an insecure person, but he makes me feel weird about my body because he is always commenting on other women’s figures.

He is obsessed with women such as, “Miracle Watts.” He may even go on her page at least twice a day, but he is constantly looking for girls with big butts telling me what he would do to them. This is too the point where he has suggested for me get a butt augmentation; mind you I am around 36-29-42 in the hips.

He says things like, “Can you imagine how much bigger your butt would be?” I love him, but I don’t know what to do. It is taking a toll on our relationship. I understand that a man will appreciate other women’s beauty, but there should be a level of respect. What should I do? – Feeling Insecure

Dear Ms. Feeling Insecure,

Sweetie, if you man makes you feel insecure about yourself, and he is always commenting on other women’s figures and assets, then, you start commenting on men and talking about their physiques and bodies in his presence. BOOM! Fix his behind and let him know that he is not the end all and be all.

But, on the real, you either let him know how it makes you feel, and that he needs to respect you and not do it in your presence. It ends today, and you let him know that you are not going to tolerate him complimenting other women in your presence. It’s not cute, funny, or respectful. You are his woman, and he should make you feel like his queen, his number one woman, and he should be complimenting your looks, physique, and assets. He shouldn’t be degrading you and telling you that you need work, or augmentation to enhance your beauty. Hell, tell him he needs augmentation to enhance his looks!

Now, the other thing you can do is that you end the relationship because he is not going to change. If he so bold and brazen to talk about other women’s butts, and he tells you what he would do to them, then, the next time he fixes his mouth to say something about “Miracle Watts,” or any other woman’s behind, then, you slap him in his mouth. Stop letting him degrade you, and comparing you to other women. It’s not healthy. He is basically telling you that you are not enough for him. Therefore, end the relationship, and let him fantasize over his Instagram attractions. He won’t get any of them, and he will never be with any of those women.

He’s an a**hole, and you deserve someone better than this jerk. He sits up and tells you what he will do to other women, and then has the audacity to say you should consider butt augmentation. How about you suggest for him to get a penile implant, and then you say to him, “Can you imagine how much bigger your penis would be and how much more satisfied I would be?” That will shut him up real quick!

You deserve better. You deserve to be treated and made to feel beautiful. Not someone making you feel insecure, and comparing you to other women. Why be with someone and they cannot appreciate you, what you have, and all your wonderful enhancements? Don’t ever change anything about yourself for someone else, especially surgery. If they don’t appreciate and love you for who you, and what you have, then they will never appreciate you. First, it’s the butt augmentation, then it will be breast enhancement, and then your hair, nose, and weight. Girl, bye! You want to be with someone who will uplift you, enhance you, cherish you, and celebrate you. He is not that man. And, if you remain in this relationship he will continue to degrade and mistreat you, and tear down your self-esteem and ego. Never allow a man to treat you less than, or make you feel less than. Now, go get yourself a real man and someone who will love all of you! – Terrance Dean

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