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In a recent interview, Mary J opens up about some of the struggles she’s had to face:
When asked if she’s happy, Mary replied:
“‘Well, I am, because it’s such a new place for me, but you have no idea how hard I have to work to continue being here. When you come from so many damaged places you don’t ever want to spiral back there, so you gotta continue to check yourself. You have to make sure that one drink is not turning into 20 drinks, or that you’re not even thinking about going back to drugs, or that you continue not to react and get angry. But it’s how you respond that determines how it’s going to be.’
‘When I said I’m not drinking any more, I’m not hanging out any more – it was almost like people ran away from me.’ She keeps her voice neutral but looks away when she says this, her eyes downcast. ‘They just vanished, and it hurt me really, really bad because there was a point where I believed those people loved and liked me, I really did. And that’s devastation – but for me it’s a little easier, I know how to turn off from the world and go into a hole and stay there by myself; I know how to do that and it hurts, but I’ll do it just to survive.’
“This music business can suck all the love out of you,’ she says earnestly, ‘all the compassion for people – you can start to think you’re better than them. But I want to continue to let people know that I’m no better and no worse, I’m just like you.’”
Kudos to Ms. Blige for getting her ish together. For a woman with a $12 million dollar home, she sounds pretty down to earth.
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She is a mammonist? She seems to seek for rich man to date on a celeb dating club “Ma r rymi lliona ire.c om “.She posted her nice pic on that club.
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Good for Mary, when you come from the PJ it’s hard to get out and make a sucess of yourself and she has done just that. More power to her.
Bossip i thought you were blocking the dating website comments? what happened? you’re slacking!
I luv this chick..she so real and blunt!
I LOVE ME SOME MARY! I just want to hug her. She is the bomb times 3!
I love Mary because she tells the truth about herself…
struggle, struggle, struggle, she aint been down and broke for 20yrs…..TALK ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE. she so hurt…….boo hoo, you rich *****, got a sexy husband, some *****es cant never be satisfied. NEXT………. oh yhea, i see she’s still struggling with her hair stylist, that blond ***** is hella wack!
See, that’s what I love so much about Mary. She’s got money, helfa is breaded up! But she is so down to earth, so real, like the money doesn’t even phase her. She’ll admit to being addicted to shoes, but what woman wouldn’t be if they had the money, you know? But she understands the money is just fruit of her labor and it is what it is- it’s just money. She’s still approachable (met her in Chicago after the 4/27 show!), she’s still cool, she’s down to earth, and she really is just like us regular folk, because she is regular folk. She just happens to be blessed with a nice amount of money. She stays true to herself and she’s always been real and open about her own struggles. I love that Mary is happy now, and I love that she can be honest about how hard it is to stay that way. Stay the way you are, Mary. Your fans will continue to love you for it. I know I do.
people liked mary when she was a drunk drug head *****…….She need to stop acting brand new and go back to that
i luv mary but that damn KC from jodeci really had a lot 2 do with her struggles, some of her songs 2day still has alot 2 do with him…..MARY MOVE ON
@NINA
DAMN NO SYMPATHY HUH?????LOL
Love that *****, man…
I can relate to her on so many levels.She keeps it real – not in the cliche way – unlike most celebrities…
Mary is no different than any other hoodrat…she just got money…..She don’t have a GED or high school education…All she have is a voice and a bunch of problems she created by *****ing and sucking everybody while being drunk….
o mary mary
i am so sick and tired of hearing about your struggles…*****, you sing about it you talk about
shut the ***** up and enjoy your riches…and try very hard to loose that super blond wig,make you look like a hooker for real .
Love Mary. I love her older music more, but I love mary none the less. “. But it’s how you respond that determines how it’s going to be.’” AMEN MARY!
mary is such a role model for all woman young and old. because u are somewhere whether low or high you have fight ur way through to get to where you want to be or even to stay at the top. as woman we all go through a phase with self love and with friends. i’m thankful she open up to her spirit and went where God told her to. stay blessed ma
Mary is role model for young and old drunk w*****s
I love Mary. I am glad she overcame her problems and can talk about them now.
We love us some Mary J.
I LOVE MJB…
She’s the only artist in which I can hear her “emotion” in her vocals… She’s been through some s#it…
Money makes life comfortable but it doesn’t buy you happiness, I guess…
Most women who feel a need to keep saying God in every sentence or interview…Or talk about how blessed they are….That’s a sign or really being *****ed up in the head…And 9 times out of 10 they have a ton of problems……….
mary is likeable because she is who she is…nothing more nothing less…she is just like the rest of us…just with a bigger bank account…
@rr
Mary is role model for young and old drunk w*****s
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I LOVE some MJB…ever since Whats The 411?
I admire any star that is willing to put all their ***** in the streets, thats very brave of her and her fans will respect her more
Thanks for keeping it real Mary! Do whatever you need to do to maintain your lifestyle and your sanity. Those people who ran away from you did you a favor, continue to check yourself and always remember that you are a work in progress. The money can’t buy you happiness, that comes from within.
Just because one has money, doesn’t mean one doesn’t have problems. It sounds to me that her past hurts have taught her some very valuable lessons. I think she is still very hurt and the industry is making it very difficult for her to heal. If faced with the same temptations, most of us would not be able to handle the pressure. I commend you Mary…. do yo thang gurl!
I’m so tired of hearing her sob story. She’s been living the good life for years now. Everyone has to deal with shady people at one time in their life and yes with her being a celebrity she probably has to deal with it more but so what? Suck it up! You don’t hear other artist whinning over it this much. She’s out the hood now like so many other artist. It’s great that she remembers her obstacles and all but enough is enough.
mary, your fans love you to pieces and we are so proud of how you pulled yourself up out of the death trap of drugs and a sordid life to become such a beautiful person. Keep doing you and shake off the doubters and the haters.
Some of yall are so freaking ignorant. Just because you have money doesn’t mean you are happy and doesn’t stop problems from occuring. Mary said plain and simple she is just like everybody else; that’s her point of sharing her story. She isn’t singling herself out. To let people know she go through ish – rich or poor.
Just further insight into why some of the most successful people have very few “friends”… living right isn’t easy.
OLD NEWS, MARY! Give us a scandal or somethin
Does she take meds for her depression? She always seems so damn depressed…damn woman…snap out of it…geez.
We all struggle at one time or another…get our little feelings hurt at one time or another as well…but most of us don’t carry that burden around for years…damn, I guess her husband’s hugs didn’t help…
Wipe your eyes Mary…you live long enough…you’ll get over it…and start enjoying life instead of rehashing all that old mess.
Smile chile!
Go ahead Mary!
you didnt need to be in the industry mary to figure this happens all the time
the wheel continues to turn….
Mary, do ya tnang gurl. Ain’t *****ody mad at that. Being happy is gud for you and I’m proud that she finally at that happy point in her life and career.
Well good for her, but I am tired of hearing about her stuggles and the past myself.
@justwanna know
i hear what your saying but what you have to understand is that there are young girls that don’t know her story and it is a testimony. I can relate to mary as well on so many levels even though i didn’t go thru the same things she did. different problems and levels but the same outcome. honestly its encouraging because she is someone that understands or some people can relate to so to speak, when people around you don’t hear you or don’t understand. basically i don’t feel crazy when i hear that someone has the same thoughts about thing i can relate too.
I love this woman….she has gone through so much and she has not allowed it to kill her but yet make her better….taking with her the lesson it taught.
rr: You wish you had her common sense and her money..what a hater, you must hate yourself. And money and riches do not make you happy. And don’t responed, I’m out.
yet another reason to love mary
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I love Mary, she’s so honest and genuine. She keeps it real – she’s not plastic like these other celebs.
I wonder how Mary ***** looks…I wanna kiss it
That is a great down to earth quote from Mary. She’s exactly right- you have to constantly check yourself and constantly be aware. There are some people that can drink one or two gl*****es of wine & stop, and some that can not. Everyone must learn their own individual strengths & limits.
I say Mary take it easy, you have a man that loves you and wonderful stepchildren. not to mention millions in the bank.
enjoy the goodness of life
I loooooove Mary!!! Ever since the 411. She is very inspiring..if someone can overcome drugs and alcohol that is a huge accomplishment. People can try and bring you down when they see ur not begging them for anything. A reminder of the past keeps some people focused. rr get off her. She is the hotest thing and has been for years!
I can honestly say I like the woman Mary has become because there was a time when we didn’t know whether or not she could play the game or let the game play her and through my eyes anybody who can make the about face she made deserves Kudos!!
@Nina
You don’t nothin’ about her bank account! She hasn’t been out 20 yrs. I see you struggling with a dictionary because there are plenty of other words you could have chosen but with your limited vocabulary I guess that could not have been possible. Crab in a Barrell!!
I Love Mary 4 Life. May the lord and savior Jesus christ bless her everyday. Her music amazing. If you haven’t done so please get her latest album its solid. Also if you can download the bonus tracks. “Nowhere Fast” Feat. Brook Lynn, “Mirror” Feat. Eve & “SleepWalkin”. The last bonus track “Hello Its Me” is on a soundtrack forgot which one.
Luv her !
To all the haters out there, how can you all justify the ignorance in which you respond to things. Obviously for those you called Mary out of her name and talked about being tired of hearing her story, you don’t attend church on a regular basis. Mary’s life is a testimony and as such she is told by GOD to keep telling her story. You cannot have a testimony if you don’t have a test! Get over yourselves and just be thankful that you are able to hear her testimony, next time it could be YOU!!!
Wonderful!
I love you Mary J. Thx for your testimony. Ive been going through a lot of what you said and it is hard. Hard on the brain and especially hard on the heart. Ill try and keep my head up!!
love u!
smh@ a dating website getting 1st
There comes a time when everybody NEEDS to move on. Mary J’s life is no different than most. Most women and alot more men have been cheated on. lol Some folks have sniffed liquid paper, snorted cocaine, sipped syrup, privately hooked, busted car windows, keyed cars and then after all of that guess what…they too moved on. lol I’m happy to see anybody do better in life if at some point they caught a bad one. HOWever, I too am sick and tied of reading the same hacknyed expressions of her self love. I love me some me 2 but goodness ain’t no need obsessing over yourself. For real MJ needs to get a grip & new hot wig. Bossip I know what y’all doing and I’m playing right into it. lol
@get the hell outta here
I see what your saying and I guess it is a positive thing for her younger fans to hear her message but I have been a fan since the begining. (Yes, I really am a fan. My Life is my all time favorite album) But at the same time, its gotten old. For example, when My Life was released I was going through a bad break up with someone and I used that CD to get me through. But that relationship took place back in the ’90’s. I’ve moved on and no one that knows me will hear me sobbing over what happened then. Just like no one will hear me complaining about something that happend back in high school when I graduated 12 years ago. All i’m saying is it’s time for her to stop dwelling in the past. She says that her married life is great and all that but in her songs she still has a hint of pain in it. I’m almost starting to feel like that is her gimmick, sorrowful songs. I know they aren’t as dramatic as they use to be but they could still be a little happier than they are for someone that’s moved on. Then again, this is just my opionion or should I say, one of my thoughts about this subject.
What can this woman do to finally be happy and shut the hell up about it. I realize that we all have problems but damn Mary, you have been saying the same ole ***** for years now. We get it. Now why don’t you. Now don’t get me wrong, I’ve been down w/MJB since day one but for goodness sake, leave all of the BS alone and be the grown, married, successful woman that you are today.
Where’s Kendu these days… first he was following her every step now he ain’t to be seen??? Hopefully he went back to work to at something to the stacks.
BE FREE MARY JUST BE FREE
marry wears so much make up, and blond wig,
i dont know, but she never looks like a “STAR”
maybe her clothes cost a few bucks, but still she look like a hoodrat, and a hooker….why dont she use some of that money and try to go get her GED…dum *****s…
You are not allowed to drink liquor in GED schools
This is my Girl for Real!! Do it Mary!! Alot of times it’s what is needed to move ahead when you make the hard choice and take the road less traveled then the fake ones always fall off! Thank God for that………I Love that she realize that and kept pressing forward leave them *****’s alone they were just weights anyway.
I Love Mary!!! She is someone I look up to in terms of how she fought her demons, and won..and found love in the process….Go Mary!!
Well, I’d rather hear of an artist talk about their life struggles and explaining who they REALLY are because then people can identify with the artist – and not just their talent, or music.
Unlike some (**cough** Beyonce **cough**) who come off as Mr/Ms Goodie Two Shoes and don’t say anything about anything like they are a damn mute-deaf box. But we know all about your sex life…hmmm.
But Mary J should take some of you alls advice and chill with the sobbing @ss stories all the time. Geesh!
I love Mary and I hope my soul is as pure as hers when I’m her age. I swear she is so right about how dealin with people can change you. But she is grounded in self and grounded in God that is the only way she can be so real. I absolutely love her!
I think Mary deserves the right to testify everytime she gets a chance to. And if Lil Wayne ever get right and decide to testify for the rest of his life I wont be mad either. So many people get caught up in the Hollywood life that its good to see someone so down to earth. People need that. Some people never come out of that hole.. its like walking death. And now she really liven her life. She has a lot to be thankful for! And I love her for speakin on real *****.
As long as Mary is wearing that blond ***** on her head, she could never be a role model for young black girls. Black girls & young women have serious self esteem issues. The girls in the magazines at the check out stands look nothing like the average black girl. Now you have this hood rat who refuses to wear a more natural color for her skin tone. Mary will be like Ashford & Simpson. Dying with the same hairstyle you came on the scene with.
EVERYTHING IN MARY’S LIFE HAS EVOLVED EXCEPT HER HAIR STYLE
I am tired of hearing of mary’s woes myself. She has trial and tribulations she has gone through like the rest of us. She is being too open with the public. Somethings should be kept private and personal. I am glad she has overcome some things from her past but she should leave it in the past and not rehash past events with the public.
After reading some of these messages, I am gasping for air. If you don’t like hearing her story, then go to the next damn story.
I’m her #1 fan, you betta recognize, fools. LOL
some people say she do think she is better then others, but I know she should know better then that coming from the projects, the only person better then us is GOD
It’s interesting that one makes a comment on Mary keeping things private and one is on a blog site. Celebrities don’t have a private life so why not tell your story while someone is trying to make up a story for you. Testimonies are those who need it and if it helps one person then it has served its purpose. Whether you are dealing with the same thing or something totally different it can uplift you. Even though I have heard her story before reading this again has given me a lil hope with dealing with something totally different. Besides what’s the difference in hearing her story again in an interview versus playing her CD over and over again…..
and for the ones talking about her not even having a GED what does that mean when you’re most likely someone that voted for Bush which has an higher education and sound as dumb as….you fill in the blank
Wow, hot!! I remember that I viewed some sexy models’ videos on the tall dating site –♥♥♥♥-Tallhub.com♥♥♥♥, there the models were not naked, but you can see their nice long legs in the videos!!!!
@HOMO RR YOU MUST BE A BIG FAN OF MARY YOU RETARDED RETARD.DO YOU STILL SUCK ***** ON FRIDAYS? YES OR NO.
@THE REST OF YALL PUNK ***** ***** HATAS GET YALL ***** TOGETHER AND TAKE CARE OF YALL CRACKBABIES.
MARY IS THA BOMB.
Mary RULED NYC lastnite!!! The effing show at MSG was fantabulous!!! Mary talked some real, deal isht to the ladies and it wasnt bull…. Mary J!!!
What kind of 1980’s name is PIMP DADDY….I bet you’re the type that wear old man jeans high up on your waist and dress shoes, thinking your a pimp……..Look you little retard inbreed monkey, do what you do best….go stand on a corner with the rest of your red eye drunk PIMPS
@***** RR ITS INBRED YOU INCEST VICTIM AND WHAT RR STANDS FOR REAL RETARDED.YOU POINTY NOSE,BOLOGNA SMELLING WHEN WET,RED HEAD FRECKLED FACE ***** SUCKER.AND I WEAR TAILORED MADE SUITS AND GATORS ALL THANKS TO YOUR MOM MY BOTTOM *****.
LOL!!! @ tailored made…. you wear zoot suits & cheap fake 2 for $50 Gators from Mr. Allens……I bet you drink E&J and buy 10 cent cigs from the gas station all day….LOL!!! Tell the truth boy..you’re a security guard for Foot Locker
Enough already she done told that same sad story too many damn times
i luv mary…
I love me some Mary
Capricorn sista!!!
I LOVE YOU Mary J.