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Karrine Steffans Confesses To Being Becky In Beyoncé’s Lemonade

Author Karrine Steffans has penned a think piece on Beyoncé’s “Lemonade” where she confesses to once hooking up with Jay Z and reveals herself as Becky.

It’s not what you think however, instead Steffans says that while she once serviced Jay Z in a car, all women, not just her are Becky.

XO Jane reports:

A woman is all things.

She is your Becky. She is your Beyoncé.

Over 15 years ago, I had Beyoncé’s husband.

Yes, I was one of Jay Z’s Beckys back in the year 2000 for about three minutes, which is about as long it takes me to satisfy a man in the back of a Maybach while overlooking the beaches of Malibu.

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Chauffeured away from the set, down the winding road, and closer to the shoreline, Jay and I feasted on our attraction to one another — rabidly and quickly. After just a few minutes, I lifted my head from his lap, wiped my lips, and knew we’d made a mistake. Over the next few years, I would see Jay again, as I became close with his then business partner Damon Dash. We never mentioned our Malibu melee and acted as if it never happened. My cousin Chuck would be livid.

This was pre-Yoncé, of course, but the fact is that a Becky is a Becky, and I was the Becky for many men, and they were all my salvation and my destitution. They were my reason and my rationale, my life and my death, and eventually, my fame and my infamy.

She also went into detail about her three marriages including her current matrimony-dom with Columbus Short who she recently kicked out for allegedly dirty doggin.

According to Karrine, Columbus is the only man she married for love….

Eventually, I would soon become the wife of several men — three to be exact — each one more disappointing than the last. One I married for convenience, one I married out of fear, and the last I married for love.

Before I met Columbus Short, I felt him. With my back turned to the door in a crowded hookah bar, I felt him walk in. His energy drew me to him as I turned around to see what or who could cause such heat.

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Later that evening, when Columbus caught me in the hall, he said, “You are so beautiful.”

I blushed, looked down to the ground and walked past him without uttering a word. We left separately that night and for five months, I regretted never getting his number.

Then, he walked back into my life.

Three months later, we were married.

but they eventually crumbled due to his drug and alcohol abuse as well as other women.

Nearly three months after that, I was kicking him out.

I married a man whom I so desperately wanted to change.

I married a man with addictions and emotional afflictions. I did everything I could to get him help. His mother and I talked tirelessly about the resources available to us and how to get him to take advantage of them. But, he never did and I hurt myself trying.

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The alcohol, the cocaine, the other women, it all became too much and I raged. I cried. I mourned and still mourn the loss of my husband, my friend, my confidant.

And to be honest, I always wonder if I should have just kept taking the pain. I still wonder if I should have saved my marriage at any cost, no matter how much it hurt me.

I wonder if I could be Beyoncé.

Very interesting. She’s obviously still very much sprung over Columbus, maybe they’ll work it out….

Ladies do YOU feel like you’re Becky like Karrine???

 Karrine Steffans

Hit the flip for more of her think piece including her thoughts on how Lemonade made her reflect on her relationship with another well known rapper…


Karrine also reflected in her XO Jane piece on her relationship with Method Man and how she was his Becky when he decided to marry his baby’s mother.

“I stepped outside of my flash-in-the-pan dealings with Mr. Carter and thought back to my 7-year relationship with another well known rapper and member of the celebrated Wu Tang Clan, Clifford Smith, known better by the world as Method Man — known to me as Bizkit.

The year was 2000 and there was no Instagram, no Twitter and no Facebook. There was no way to know about a person’s personal life other than what they decided to reveal in private.

We were already a year into our romance before he called me with the news — he was getting married.


And for the next six years … I would be his Becky.”

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She also noted that Lemonade spoke to her personally and made her realize that she ultimately married men who were just like her father.

Moving forward in the film, we travel with the Queen through the stages of loss and grief, through the stages of being married to a lying, cheating husband who reminds you of your lying, cheating father.

Holy Mary Mother of God, I married my father.

I wondered how many other women came to the same realization as Beyoncé plainly compared the man she married to the man who made her, as she compared herself to her daughter, as she compared herself to me and to you.

More of Karrine’s words on the flip.

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XO Jane reports:

I am Becky with the good hair. I am Beyoncé. I am the keeper of secrets, the betrayer of women, the confessor of my sins, the owner of my secrets, lies and salvations. I have traded in my Scarlet A for a Scarlet Bey.

Because we are all Becky with the good hair. Every last one of us.




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