It’s been one week since August Alsina set the world on fire with a revelation that he and Jada Pinkett Smith had a relationship that came at the blessing of her husband Will Smith. This, as you can imagine, has only reignited the long-standing rumors that Will and Jada have some sort of arrangement or have an “open marriage” or are anything more than a monogamous married couple.
Where did this all come from? Where did it start and how have these rumors persisted? We decided to go through the archives and try to see where the stories came from and Will and Jada’s discussions about open marriage in their own words. Hit the flip to see it all for yourselves…
1997: Will and Jada get married – Back in 1997, Will and Jada got married after their loving courtship. The problem? There was some drama with Jada and Will’s ex-wife Sheree Zampino. Good thing everyone is on the same page now.
2008: While promoting Hancock, Will talked about marriage vows and what would happen if they wanted to try something new:
‘Our perspective is, you don’t avoid what’s natural and you’re going to be attracted to people,’
‘So sometimes we have the discussion: “Wow, this or that girl is freaking gorgeous”. I’m not going to say anything to my buddies that’s any different than what I say to my wife.’
‘If it came down to it, then one would say to the other: “Look, I need to have sex with somebody. Now I’m not going to do it if you don’t approve of it.
‘In our marriage vows, we didn’t say “forsaking all others”. We said, “You will never hear I did something afterwards”. Because if that happens, the relationship is destroyed.’”
2013: Rumors had been swirling like crazy over Will and Jada having some sort of arrangement and Jada only added to them with an interview with HuffPo Live: “I’ve always told Will, ‘You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be okay. Because at the end of the day, Will is his own man. I’m here as his partner, but he is his own man. He has to decide who he wants to be and that’s not for me to do for him. Or vice versa.”
This had people thinking there was an arrangement of sorts.
2013: She tried to clarify those remarks a few days later but it didn’t really clear things up nearly enough:
Let me first say this, there are far more important things to talk about in regards to what is happening in the world than whether I have an open marriage or not. I am addressing this issue because a very important subject has been born from discussions about my statement that may be worthy of addressing.
The statement I made in regard to, “Will can do whatever he wants,” has illuminated the need to discuss the relationship between trust and love and how they co-exist.
Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should “behave”? Do we believe that all the expectations, conditions, and underlying threats of “you better act right or else” keep one honest and true? Do we believe that we can have meaningful relationships with people who have not defined nor live by the integrity of his or her higher self? What of unconditional love? Or does love look like, feel like, and operate as enslavement? Do we believe that the more control we put on someone the safer we are? What of TRUST and LOVE?
Should we be married to individuals who can not be responsible for themselves and their families within their freedom? Should we be in relationships with individuals who we can not entrust to their own values, integrity, and LOVE…for us???
Here is how I will change my statement…Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship…this means we have a GROWN one.
2015: Jada went on Howard Stern’s show and spoke about the “boundaries” of marriage: “At the end of the day, I’m not here to be anybody’s watcher.”
“I’m not his watcher. He’s a grown man … I trust that the man that Will is is a man with integrity. He’s got all the freedom in the world … and as long as Will can look himself in the mirror and be OK? I’m good.”
2017: Rumors of Will and Jada splitting intensified when tabloid were reporting a close relationship between her and costar Marc Anthony. The Smiths killed the rumors then Will and Marc were seen hanging out together during a Monday Night Football game. Huh?
2017: Jada went on Watch What Happens Live and talked about the rumors: “The craziest rumour? That Will and I are swingers. Its constant. “And I’m like, ‘Yo I wish! I wish!'”
2019: Will went on Red Table Talk and said firmly “we are not swingers.” There’s that. Right?