Shaunie O’Neal: I’m Not Ready To Be Married Again But I Do Have A Special Someone That Can…

- By Bossip Staff

It’s been a year since Shaunie O’Neal took Shaq for as much as her pre-nup would allow. She’s been busy with VH1 as the executive producer to “Basketball Wives” and “Football Wives”. After 10 years of dedicating her life to being a loving mother and “faithful” wife… Shaunie’s main focus is taking care of her kids, the cougar meat and creating a legacy. In a recent article written by Shaunie, she lays out the divorce survival guide for all the women who think life is over after divorce…

You probably think I’m going to tell you all my business, but I’m not. But what I will share is how I was able to find life after divorce.

As you may know, I was married to a very well-known NBA player, whose whole world I became totally engrossed in, and somehow, along the way, I lost myself. Don’t get me wrong. I was more than happy being a supportive wife and mother, but there was a part of me that was itching to create my own identity and leave a legacy for my children.

Sometimes, as wives and mothers, we become so good at taking care of other people that we forget how to take care of ourselves. Five children and 10 years later, I was faced with the painful truth that my marriage was over, and I had to take a long, hard look in the mirror and make a decision. Would I wallow in self-pity and let the ordeal overtake me or would I find the strength to keep going and get back into the game of life? I chose the latter, and my plan was simple…

Looking back, almost a year later, it amazes me how much my life has changed and how my determination to keep moving forward, for myself and my children, has yielded an endless amount of opportunities— opportunities that I quite honestly may not have had the courage to say yes to before. My mother always told me, “God would never put more on you than you can bear,” and that is so true. Through this whole process I’ve found strength I never knew I had, and I realized my true potential and self-worth…

And so here I am, closing a very long chapter in my life and starting a new and exciting one. I’m proud to say that season two of Basketball Wives will now be an hour long and will be back on VH1 December 12, and Football Wives, for which I’m also executive producer, has gotten off to a great start. And I’m writing a book (not a tell-all; I’m still keeping my business to myself) to encourage other women with children that there is life after divorce.

There are so many things I want to do in this new [phase of my life], including finding love again. I’m dating someone special and have found it to be extremely helpful in the rebuilding process. The worst thing I could do is believe that because I’m divorced I’m not desirable or because I’m divorced I’ll never find love again. And while I’m not quite ready to be married again, I’m ready for whatever life brings my way, and I know I can handle it.


1. Surround yourself with people you trust and who will be a great support system for you and your children.

2. Figure out what you are passionate about and start working toward it every day.

3. Pray as much as possible to help eliminate any negative thoughts of regret, doubt, and fear.

4. Set aside “me” time that includes exercising and doing fun activities with friends to help you find yourself again.

5. Keep things as amicable as possible with your children’s other parent to minimize the impact on them. We are the ones going through a divorce—notthem—so don’t put them in the middle.


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  • It's Me

    she is a very beautiful woman. All the best Shaunie.

    • DJ's Mom

      Agree. Life does goes on. All the best to all those divorced or going through a divorce (I fit into this category). It is not the end but rather a new beginning.

  • G.M.

    exactly…and alimony aka vaginamony stops once a woman remarries unless it was for 10yrs, then alimony is for a lifetime but shaq prenup most likely stopped it from being lifetime…also why the fucc all these b1tches constantly complaining about how they lost themselves and their being life after divorce, why all these divorce b1tches want ppl to feel sorry for em for being too stupid to leave a bad situation, oh yeah, thats right, cuz they get more money the longer they stay and more kids u spit out…this whiny b1tch aint have to marry shaq…golddiggers smh

  • lala

    I agree with tht.

  • Entoon

    I can’t believe a poster had the nerve to rag on Shaunie cuz she’s giving advice from what she learned aft divorce! Damn! Always so negative and we know why cuz o girl is rich! Side note: did she get her nostrils contoured ala NeNe Leaks???

    • Glok...So fresh ta death, ..Like i jumped in my outfit and died !!!





    • Bunny(formerly Angel/UrHeiness)


  • bahamas/chicago/cayman girl

    She remains positive, which I admire her for and she definitely realizes the benefits, of keeping your private life, private! She is carving out her own space in the world and not relying on a check for child support/alimony whatever, good for her!

    • tellthetruth

      I agree. She is very positive and a lot of women need to take notes. My daughter goes to school with her son and she told me the young man is a very down to earth kid and regardless of who is mother and dad is, it has not gone to his head. He is a likeable kid and evidently Shaunie is doing something right as a mother. You go Shaunie!

  • kockjuice

    Shaunie can sit down someehere wit that tired hairdo, she was lucky she snagged Shak retarded azz

  • i kc u u kc me

    Shaunie that is a great plan! BS! At best you find something or somebody to distract you from your children. And while you and Shaw are out bi-coastal f@#king your latest thang and posing for the camera the press will write about your children drug habits and sexcapades. They wont graduate from any school but will have a ton of rehab grad certifications.

  • jenn love

    Shaunie giving out advice is so funny when she only married shaq for his money. I seen them on MTV cribs and you could tell she was all about the money. If shaq was so bad why did she keep having his kids. MONEY!!!!

    • Wow!

      BROKE MUCH?!

  • CJ Domino

    Being a divorced mother of two I can relate to Shaunie’s article. I was also with my second husband for 10yrs. Starting over was hard, especially when I didn’t know where to start and trying to maintain my sanity with the sole responsibility of the kids while going through a mud slinging divorce is even hard. All of Shaunie’s suggestions were so on point and like her when the dusty settled part of my healing process was writing a self-help guide for other women who were trying to survive a break up.

  • BE

    Writing nd talking about it helps you heal so good for her. Good luck, Shaunie.

  • JustAshley

    Shaq messed up big time. Best wishes Shaunie.

  • JustAshley

    Shut the f*ck up you bitter b-tch azz ni**a. I’m so sick of you bitter azz black men on this blog swearin every black woman is evil because your mark azz picked the wrong b*tch. Pay attention, don’t ignore the red flags cuz she gotta big azz and you wont fall for the OkieDoke, (Fred Sanford voice) ya big dummy.

    • I know right!?

      Shaq is not complaining so why do the other bitter black men have so much to say? Shaq knew what he was doing. He had plenty of ho’s but he didnt marry them. He went for the best and chose her to be the mother of his children. Real men handle their business. It is what it is!

  • Allie

    Being a child of divorce I agree with her post-divorce plan and the article, and obviously some of you have no idea how hard divorce can be for people or else you wouldn’t be making extremely ignorant comments, divorce is really hard for the two people involved and any kids that may be involved

  • What?

    What are the two of you talking about? It seems to me that now a days any woman that marries a man with any money is automatically labled a “gold digger”. I I also notice that this mostly label comes from men who dont have *ish themselves but stay heated on someone else’s behalf! GTHFOH with that. If you recall, Shaq pursued HER when she was already in another relationship and HIS serail cheating ended the marriage. She clearly loved him and bore several of his gynormous children. All she said is that she is trying to maintain a good relationship with him and build a life that is positive and not focused on someone else. Most women do give, and give, and give to their detriment. Y’all starting early with the hating on black women. Give it a rest already! She even declined to put their business in the street. Everything she said was intelligent and positive.

  • What?


  • phill

    this woman need to go somewhere and sit down. idk why these women get in front of the camera and tell their story and think we supposed to feel sorry for them. how is your life so bad? tell that sh1t to the millions of single women out there who are struggling with kids who dont have millions of dollars coming at them. i cant stand these spoiled b1tches

  • 233rd whiteplains

    this broad goes out and starts a show with a bunch of ignorant chics call NBA Wives. how are you gonna promote a show about bitter fake gals and then act like your an inspirational healer for broke divorce girls. she is a phoney.

  • 233rd whiteplains

    these atheletes needs to follow Derek Jeter and dont marry a nukka bicsh . they are no good. they see only money, dont give in to a nukka bisch

  • jdmann

    Why does she keep Shaq’s name. That disrespectful.

  • EZRawlins


    “these atheletes needs to follow Derek Jeter and dont marry a nukka bicsh?” Oh, so other women AREN’T interested in money? They NEVER seek to get rich from divorce? The largest divorce settlements have all gone to white women, so WTF are YOU talking about? Can’t believe someone from my old neighborhood (Bronxwood Ave.; attended PS 21 on 225th) could be so stupid…

    Just Ashley’s right: I don’t know why trolls like marquis slither out of the woodwork to criticize Black women when ALL types of women strive to maximize their divorce settlements. (And let’s not forget that men married to rich women try to do the same d@mn thing). Y’all really need a clue.

    you mean they should marry white women cause T

  • Hazelnut

    Lola, I am in the same boat. Shaunie’s words were encouuraging for me. Best wishes to you and anyone else currently enduring the destructive and life-altering process that is divorce.

  • EZRawlins

    “Why you always pickin’ on me?”

    What a punk-@ss b!tch.

    You can’t defend your preposterous positions so you resort to name-calling and diversion instead. Way to go, little boy! THAT’LL win the argument! Let ME try your tactic and ask: How come YOU never criticize the gold-diggin’, plastic-surgery havin’, anorexic “bytches” of OTHER races? Go pick on THEM for a change, will ya?

    Truth is, I despise ANYONE – (male or female) who makes stupid blanket statements about anyone – especially about Black men and women. So whether it’s you or anyone else, if you’re gonna be stupid enough to condemn an entire race, gender or people – ESPECIALLY Black People – then I’m gonna be smart enough to CHECK YOUR @SS.

  • mytwocents

    LOL! thank you EZRawlins! and THIS is why they pick on women and not other men. lol!

  • Ayanna

    Marquis, lmao wow you’re a damn moron & a pathetic embarrasment.

    • EZRawlins


      Yep, that just about sums it up. No further need for me to waste my time.

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