It’s 2011: Quit Waiting for Men to Approach You First

- By Bossip Staff

My mama is old-school with her courtship expectations. If ever a dude wanted to get on, he had to pursue and properly court her before anything jumped off.

Yet sometime in the mid-aughts, shortly after the death of my grandmother, she decided to go against the grain of convention and semi-court her ballroom dance teacher. It was the first time in her more than 50 years of life that she’d approached anyone on her own volition. It all worked out and they’re now happily married.

I realize this was a stretch for her considering her generational ideals, but I’m blown that, in 2011, many American women are still yoked to the antiquated tradition of waiting for dudes to pursue them. Even women who consider themselves otherwise “liberated” and dependent in any sense scoff at the idea that they would have to ask a n*gga for his digits. (Continue reading…)

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  • jdmann

    I’m ol skool would rather choose my women but these days if a woman can’t ask for what she wants she will be on the outside looking in.

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    […] My mama is old-school with her courtship expectations. If ever a dude wanted to get on, he had to pursue and properly court her before anything jumped off. Yet sometime in the mid-aughts, shortly after the death of my grandmother, she decided to go against the grain of convention and semi-court her ballroom dance teacher. It was the first time in her more than 50 years of life that she’d approached anyone on her own volition. It all worked out an … Read More […]

  • http://n/a Fly Gurl

    The Book of Proverbs clearly states ‘A Man that Findeth A Wife Findeth A Good Thing’ so I’m not lookn nor approachn no man. U want me then come get me! Relationships became out of order whn Eve took control anf gave Adam the forbidden fruit. Ladies: if u began the pursuit thn u will be forced into a Leadership roll so I suggest to stay in your lane!

  • Kathryn

    No. That’s something only the desperate girls would do because they’re tired of no one trying to approach them. B please, I’m not gonna degrade/belittle myself. Some of us still have our pride and dignity.

  • King Beef

    I have been approached numerous times in my life by women. Some we?re attractive and some were not but I really like it when a women push up. I do not think it is desperation, I think it shows confidence and drive for a women to make the first move. I still like the hunt but it makes me feel good when a woman choose. It takes courage and men know, because there is always the rejection possibility.

  • sportstalk23

    I agree@Kathryn I’m not approaching no dude, and I live in NYC it would help if a lot of these dudes realized that catcalls doesn’t qualify as approaching a woman but, that’s another subject lol. Anyway don’t guys constantly bytch and moan about how women aren’t letting men be men, and how were too liberated and want their roles which the hell is it fellas

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