there’s also not enough of them for the number of women in the city. and a lot of them are gay.

Um Washington DC is a huge negative. Very large population of gay African American men, also an overall high HIV rate. Ladies, beware!

I guess it depends on whose dating experience we are talking about. A few of those cities post a much higher black woman population than black men. Factor in gays and the socially inept…well, I for ya sistas.

“….well I *feel* for ya sistas.”

New York definitely has the hottest guys as far as singles, but there are a TON of pathological liars here too.

Why its always one white guy/girl n a Black group or vice versa?? Just asking high questions.

Why isn’t Trenton, New Jersey on this list?

Guy from NYC is so wack its not even funny… the guys are good looking but rude in their approach to dating is f’d if u reject them then u might get cursed out and then when u do give 1 a chance they lie about everything… there are a few good 1s but from the most part the men in NYC are ignant, broke or wannabe’s… just saying

How is Atlanta good for dating???

BLACK PEOPLE WHO LIVE IN ATLANTA!!

What is it like for dating? I wanna visit ^_^ I’ve only ever been to NY and hated the black men there. Maybe Atlanta will convert me?

Chicago black dudes are thugs and if they aint-then those dudes are soft and gettin jumped on by the thugs! sure u can find u plenty of babydaddies in CHI town but this city does not hire black men leaving them to be stay at home 40 drinkin bootleg dvd selling insecure azzholes! I say looks somewhere else!!1

There is nothin here in cleve oh either. My husband just gots to be somewhere else.

Moved up from the South to Minneapolis some years ago and as a Black male, I loved it. There’s a much larger Black population than I had thought, and there’s a wide variety of Black women (African American and African). And of course there is quite a large number of white girls always looking to get their swirl on. I’m sure the African American women don’t care for the situation, but if the men are happy in a certain town, the women usually aren’t (ratios ain’t right), and vice versa.

Dude, I changed my name can you leave me the f!ck alone now?

@ nymphis
I can all was count u to make me scream! Rflol

Oops *always*

@g m

I don’t understand your comment

Yeah NY is definitely not a great place for successful single black females! Oh yeah u can find a man but pleaseeeee believe that he isn’t marrying you! You most definitely will be a baby mama or live-in gf. “New York, New York big city of dreams but everything in NY aint always what it seems.” Snoop had it right! Def not hating bc I’m from NYC born and raised and its definitely over-raided. The guys may LOOK good but trust they aint NO GOOD!

*over-rated. Sorry

Where in the HECK are you hanging out at, I had a man take care of me for an entire year after getting sick.

Are you hanging in business circles or in the hood with Pookie and Ray-Ray?

I still care for this man, and we’re not together anymore. He was a New Yorker, spent his money on me, when I had my own stacks and never complained!

What’s your profession? I’m not trying to offend but THERE ARE GOOD GUYS IN NY! I despise men most of the time, but have found some really caring, genuine guys.
There are a TON of pathological liars though..LOL

Because that is the token that makes every race feel like they can relate.

Trenton is gross.

You must live on Staten island.

LACEY! DON’T RETREAT! RELOAD!
You mf’s got a lot of nerve getting mad because a black woman likes a white man. You are the same ones that sit back when moon crickets get on here crapping on us.

Do you live upstate somewhere? There are a ton of dudes here.

The brothers in NY are straight up trifling..I’m not saying all of them, but most of them. I dated a guy from Florida and told him about my dating experiences and he said, “That definitely a NY thing…” the level of bufoonery is astounding. I didn’t say all brothers just the one’s I’ve dated, my friends, co-workers, family. I’ve met only two “good” ones and they were being cheated on by model types.

When I visited NY I was appalled by the men there. DEFFO NOT somewhere to find a husband.

i’d rather go where the white boys are. i’m young, educated, in great shape and no kids and definitely ain’t ready to have any strings attached.

DEAD @ Illuminate

I agree!

Disgusted by ATL and DC being on that list. Didn’t you just post those are the new gay hot-spots.

What’s up with Houston? I am considering relocating there so I am interested about schools and the overall scene there too. So any Houstonians please respond and let me know how your city is.

I am from NYC. BLAH!! N*ggas here are okay. There are some decent ones but then again the are some busted ones. But I am sure every city can say that.

How is the scene in San Diego. It looks beautiful.

The West Coast is the place for that. I live in Las Vegas and I get more White and Hispanic guys asking me out then black.

West Coast is more open to interracial dating.

San Diego is nice. I went to Health Sciences school out there in Balboa. I think you’d have wayy better options there than in NY and Texas even.

Get Em what cities are in the west coast? I like in East France but have only been to NY
where is best

They’re doing that EVERYWHERE! It’s really disgusting.

I had a lawyer try that crap with me. I was so pissed.

He told me he was separated but that his wife was living with him, but not on the same floor of the home.

He seemed cool because he was older, but when he came up with that lame lie, I had to drop him. This was five years ago. thinking about that crappy lie still makes me want to punch him in the face.

Fellas in NY like to exercise their options which is fine, but sometimes they do so on your time and on your dime even if they have their own money. That’s y I don’t date broke men at all, esp the ones who have no problem with it. The black dudes in NY who are about something usually have a color complex.

Sure if you like guessing who’s gay and who isn’t. Too many suspect men for me..LOL!

The West Coast is the place for that. I live in Las Vegas and I get more White and Hispanic guys asking me out then black.
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There is NOTHING in Vegas except that strip and a bunch of Mexicans sneaking into the place. I have never seen so much dirt and rocks in my entire life. In addition, the men have ZERO SWAGGER! ZERO!
A guy actually asked for my number in front of his girlfriend. I was HORRIFIED! This was two weeks ago..

these are all urban areas, what about the the suburbs there might be some young, fine educated, respectful brothers up in the burbs that arent into beckies?
or maybe that is like finding the needle in the haystack?

@IHATE I date more outside of my race so you and I are probably looking for two different types of people. You’re looking for a dude with swagger and I’m looking for a man with charisma. Sorry if you feel that way about Vegas, but i like it here.

@Lacey I think Cali, Nevada, and Arizona are good places. Don’t take my word for it though. You’d have to experience it for yourself. I love the West Coast. People are more friendly over here, I think.

Cool!! Thanks!

SF Bay Area has a high interracial dating scene, it’s like the norm out here.

Sounds a little “How You Doin’?”

Im not to sure bout atlanta. However it is very true about gettn past the down low fake ballers lol!!!

atlanta is the gayest city in the country unless you looking for some hiv , herpes, i say sty away for the fag town

if you want decent black people but with a Caribbean culture in a built up city with low crime higher income , try Toronto it bet out any city here in America

@wes

I’d definitely have to agree wit you on Toronto
I met a female visiting Chicago from Toronto and she put me up on Toronto.now I go up there for carabana every year.I would definitely move up there if it wasn’t for the winters.but I would recommend it to everyone as far as visiting

I like people from all over but let’s be honest, certain people from the Caribbean have HORRIBLE DISPOSITIONS! I cannot stand dealing with any group except Trinis most of the time.

Getem 1/21/11, 11:07:PM
@IHATE I date more outside of my race so you and I are probably looking for two different types of people. You’re looking for a dude with swagger and I’m looking for a man with charisma. Sorry if you feel that way about Vegas, but i like it here.
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Oh, because I was about to say, Vegas IS NOT impressive when it comes to men of color. Businessmen appeal to me, but even then, they need to have a little swag–SOMETHING!

Bless your little heart. White men are too much for me. The idea of them getting mad and calling me the N word stops any attempt on my part, but they constantly try to talk to me. Not interested!

@ihatebrokepeople

I’m from the D.R and in wonderin about your interactions with caribbeans.can you tell me about it?

What about black women looking for white or Asian men?

@your delusional

Im in chicago.and theres more than enough sistas
here.their all over the place.

@ann
All of my asian friends are into white girls
But you might wanna try San Diego or out west simply because people are more open to that in California and there’s alot of Asians out there

Atlanta is a negative….once you find a guy that is not a gay, and he seems like a good catch, he cheats on you…and that’s because of the high women to men ratio…

You make them sound like roaches..LOL! Aren’t the women looking for men though?

I don’t know what’s going on, but I responded to nymphis and the response is not here. What in the Sam Hill is going on?

Yeah, women are pissed about the large population of women in ATL! I hear it’s a playboy’s paradise, and women are sharing men. ATL is a definite NO NO! i just can’t take any more viewings of gay men, especially in high heels.

I live in Houston. There are alot of nice guys..overall its a good place to live full of opportunities..just dont go looking for a man in the club

yea, Lacey California is perfect for you.

The real way to meet men of any persuasion is to get your fat black behinds off the internet and go out and mingle. Fat and below average looking black females need to learn that if you are below average, that is a strike on you, if you are fat that is another strike and if you are black, that can be a third strike. You are going to have to learn that water seeks its own level. Many ugly females and men roam the internet looking for love but need to take the initiative to understand their options. The better you know your options and what you can attract, the more reasonable your dating outlook will be. If your a fat ugly black female dont expect to pull Paul Walker or Beckford. Get what your options can get.

The real way to meet men of any persuasion is to get your fat black behinds off the internet and go out and mingle. Fat and below average looking females need to learn that if you are below average, that is a strike on you, if you are fat that is another strike and if you are black, that can be a third strike. You are going to have to learn that water seeks its own level. Many ugly females and men roam the internet looking for love but need to take the initiative to understand their options. The better you know your options and what you can attract, the more reasonable your dating outlook will be.

my dream guy is a west indian man with long dreads , a ky-mani marley look alike.

@ROB
WOULD YOU PLEASE LEAVE THESE LADIES ALONE SOCIETY NEEDS BOTTOM FEEDERS AND THEIR OFF SPRING. THE GOOD THING IS THEY KEEP EACH OTHER DOWN. THEY TRY THEY REALLY DO BUT THEIR MEN SEEDS ARE BAD AND GAY. MOST WONT LIVE TO BE 50 THEIR MEN HUSBANDS INFECT THEM THEN THEY LAY WITH THEIR WOMEN. LEAVE THEM ALONE THE PROBLEM IS SOLVED!

cosign @ kerry. i loved her username

I think you are afraid of white people, which I can understand. In my life, I have dated three white boys and not one ever thought about calling me the n-word. Relax, go out with one, just to get over the fear.

That list is a damn lie!

@Kerry: “Moon Crickets”!?! ROTFLMAO!!

Detroit got the best looking black families the men and women love and appreciate each other!

I always find my bytches in places like Idaha, Iowa, Arizona, Wyoming and Upper Washington state. New York, Miami and L.A. are too “Jew” for me.

Detroit got the best looking black families the men and women love and appreciate each other!!

I live in the A. I stopped reading once I saw my city on the list. If I already live in one of the best places, I’m screwed…

Really thinking about movin to the west coast and can’t really decide what would be the right spot. I want quiet and a good nite life scene as well as great recreational activities. It’s always going to be whatever I make it to be… I guess I’m looking for some insight.

Wanna find AN I-NTERRACIAL R-ELATION-SHIP???

Here is a very nice co-mmunity

— Blackwhite Cupid * c o m —

It’s where black white sing-les looking for someone to enjoy their lifestyle with.

Come in and stay a while. Complete your profile. Post a message, a picture of yourself and check out the photo galleries.

Give it a try, you will find someone you like here…
local farmers in the area’s of their locations.

Thanks T.K. and no, I don’t think you should be looking for a man in a club in any city.

You’re not serious are you? Love and appreciate each other?

Some of ya’ll women on here scary. If u live in any city with a million+ people and you never run up on any good men that want to date u, then its a good chance thats not going to change no matter where u live.

CHURCH

Chi-town and STL are abput thuggin .. so white girls if you want your azz whipped good black man style bring your valley doll, black man chasing azz to these 2 so you can get a beatdown .. real style!! But the men in my town are real .. they use white girls so stay away! off to the gym .. kick-boxing time.. got to get in them butts!!

this list is absolute garbage.

ATLANTA? The moment ATLANTA hit the list I knew you guys were not serious!

I’m choking lauging at some of these comments. No matter where you’re from or where you’re at if your corny enough to hold complete conversations on a blog you prolly not “dating” material. Comments I get but a whole drawn out convo really? Get a life or buy a friend wow.

actually Atlanta is a good place for dating. all of the “homos” that ppl speak of aren’t even from Atlanta. they migrated down here from every other city in the u.s. plus they’re lots of single women here so all the fellas looking to meet WOMEN… Atl is the spot.

Yeah that is true! Atl and Dallas sound similar after reading all these comments Z(wannabe thugs and ballers. Most men here seem to be chasing white women or hoodrats. Interracial dating for black women here is slim. Still very “southern” here.

I’ve never have a hard time finding good black men to date. That is probably because I don’t think they are all gay, thugs, uncle toms etc. There are alot of nice and normal Black men out there but you just have to make sure you are where they are at. Sadly enough since we are just around 15% of the entire American population we are kinda spread thin in some areas. Look Black professionals groups, jazz clubs, caribbean/african functions, church etc. I remember going to a house of Blues and there were sooo many brothers being run down by white women and they were very very very happy to see a sister in the mix lol VENTURE OUT doesn’t have to mean seeking out another race if you aren’t really attracted to them….

Oh yes! Philly my city

im originally from daygo, southeast paradise hills lol…SD is very diverse, i miss it out there, the weather, the palm trees, the mexican food etc…but its expensive as sh1t out there tho

I dont know how women living in ATL do it considering that theres alot of Downlow brothers out there you not only have to worry about him cheating with a women but w| a man as well lol ..Washington DC is filled with Thugs with Aids … What about Florida ?

I was born and raised in Chicago, IL and theres a lot of black men there I just don’t want em. I now live in Minneapolis, Mn theres a lot of black men here to but all they want is the white and native women.

I don’t think the city you live in matters. It’s the places you choose to go to in those cities. You are not about to meet your husband in the club…sorry. If you do it would be a very rare thing to happen. I know married couples whom met in college, at the library, the gas station. A person just has to have good judgement on the type of people he/she chooses and don’t give it up on the first date!!! Don’t spend all your money on her either brah. Sometimes whom you choose is a mirror of who YOU are so take your time to get to know that person and don’t choose the SAME TYPE EVERY TIME, because most of the time it’s not the fact that all men/women are bad but the fact that you CHOOSE those type of people day in and out.

What you say is funny and true. People are soo hateful toward fat people, and unattractive people are really treated poorly.

You and me are on the same page. If you’re constantly running into thugs who get rude and act disrespectful, you need to change something.

I meet really nice black men all the time, although there are a lot of pathological liars in this world, but how hard is it to do a background check on someone if you think you might want to get serious? Hanging out in business circles is an easy way to attract a professional who has their act together. People think that church is the place to go to find a mate, but that isn’t really the case.

The only time that I met decent men in Florida was during business meetings. Didn’t like Florida for meeting men.

I rate the ATL

LMFFFFFFFAO!

Iono. I’ve always like the chocolate aggressive types.

But, if he EVER tries smacking me. I’ll put a focking poisonous octopus on his d!ck.

Unless he’s too fine for that and his pockets are fat *giggle*

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Right now I live in texas and it is WHACK finding a date, even as an attractive black woman. Up North in michigan, I didn’t have any problems. Austin texas is still 50 years behind and most blacks here are not affluent at all, as many are not educated. I’ve visited NYC and Cali and I have to say the west coast (Cali) is the BEST choice for young, beautiful black women to date….but they will need to be open to dating OUTSIDE their race. I can’t speak for DC or ATL.