8 Cities For The Best African-American Dating Experience

- By Bossip Staff

New York

Here’s what “they say”:

The New York metro area has by far the largest number of African-Americans — over 3 million…Despite a recession and high unemployment New York City still meets all the criteria of a great city for singles. We’re talking world-class nightlife, culture and, yes, jobs, which often means lost of eligible bachelors.

Brooklyn and Harlem boast some of the most concentrated enclaves of African-Americans and Afro Caribbeans. And there’s a guy for every taste—from suit and tie banker types to athletes, boho artsy and hipsters.

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  • http://valstyleonline.com Val

    there’s also not enough of them for the number of women in the city. and a lot of them are gay.

    • Kyra


      Here is a very nice co-mmunity

      — Blackwhite Cupid * c o m —

      It’s where black white sing-les looking for someone to enjoy their lifestyle with.

      Come in and stay a while. Complete your profile. Post a message, a picture of yourself and check out the photo galleries.

      Give it a try, you will find someone you like here… 😉
      local farmers in the area’s of their locations.

  • Josslyn

    Um Washington DC is a huge negative. Very large population of gay African American men, also an overall high HIV rate. Ladies, beware!

  • Illuminate Truth "the strong rule the weak but the wise rule the strong"

    I guess it depends on whose dating experience we are talking about. A few of those cities post a much higher black woman population than black men. Factor in gays and the socially inept…well, I for ya sistas.

    • Illuminate Truth "the strong rule the weak but the wise rule the strong"

      “….well I *feel* for ya sistas.”

    • I'm Just Me...Keeping It Real Since: 1983

      DEAD @ Illuminate


    New York definitely has the hottest guys as far as singles, but there are a TON of pathological liars here too.

  • worldchanger

    Why its always one white guy/girl n a Black group or vice versa?? Just asking high questions.

    • kerry

      Because that is the token that makes every race feel like they can relate.

  • WonderWhy

    Why isn’t Trenton, New Jersey on this list?

    • kerry

      Trenton is gross.

  • JaZZ

    Guy from NYC is so wack its not even funny… the guys are good looking but rude in their approach to dating is f’d if u reject them then u might get cursed out and then when u do give 1 a chance they lie about everything… there are a few good 1s but from the most part the men in NYC are ignant, broke or wannabe’s… just saying

    • kerry

      You must live on Staten island.

  • 2Sweet

    How is Atlanta good for dating???


      Sure if you like guessing who’s gay and who isn’t. Too many suspect men for me..LOL!

  • Lacey ( Lord Find Me My White Prince)


    What is it like for dating? I wanna visit ^_^ I’ve only ever been to NY and hated the black men there. Maybe Atlanta will convert me?

  • Entoon

    Chicago black dudes are thugs and if they aint-then those dudes are soft and gettin jumped on by the thugs! sure u can find u plenty of babydaddies in CHI town but this city does not hire black men leaving them to be stay at home 40 drinkin bootleg dvd selling insecure azzholes! I say looks somewhere else!!1

  • 7lady

    There is nothin here in cleve oh either. My husband just gots to be somewhere else.

  • frankiestage

    Moved up from the South to Minneapolis some years ago and as a Black male, I loved it. There’s a much larger Black population than I had thought, and there’s a wide variety of Black women (African American and African). And of course there is quite a large number of white girls always looking to get their swirl on. I’m sure the African American women don’t care for the situation, but if the men are happy in a certain town, the women usually aren’t (ratios ain’t right), and vice versa.

  • Lacey

    Dude, I changed my name can you leave me the f!ck alone now?

  • get em paid!

    @ nymphis
    I can all was count u to make me scream! Rflol

  • get em paid!

    Oops *always*

  • nymphis

    @g m

    I don’t understand your comment

  • Seriously??!!

    Yeah NY is definitely not a great place for successful single black females! Oh yeah u can find a man but pleaseeeee believe that he isn’t marrying you! You most definitely will be a baby mama or live-in gf. “New York, New York big city of dreams but everything in NY aint always what it seems.” Snoop had it right! Def not hating bc I’m from NYC born and raised and its definitely over-raided. The guys may LOOK good but trust they aint NO GOOD!


      Where in the HECK are you hanging out at, I had a man take care of me for an entire year after getting sick.

      Are you hanging in business circles or in the hood with Pookie and Ray-Ray?

      I still care for this man, and we’re not together anymore. He was a New Yorker, spent his money on me, when I had my own stacks and never complained!

      What’s your profession? I’m not trying to offend but THERE ARE GOOD GUYS IN NY! I despise men most of the time, but have found some really caring, genuine guys.
      There are a TON of pathological liars though..LOL

    • kerry

      Do you live upstate somewhere? There are a ton of dudes here.

  • Seriously??!!

    *over-rated. Sorry

  • kerry

    You mf’s got a lot of nerve getting mad because a black woman likes a white man. You are the same ones that sit back when moon crickets get on here crapping on us.

    • Getem

      I agree!

    • heavenlyGOrg

      cosign @ kerry. i loved her username

  • kslim1

    The brothers in NY are straight up trifling..I’m not saying all of them, but most of them. I dated a guy from Florida and told him about my dating experiences and he said, “That definitely a NY thing…” the level of bufoonery is astounding. I didn’t say all brothers just the one’s I’ve dated, my friends, co-workers, family. I’ve met only two “good” ones and they were being cheated on by model types.

    • Lacey

      When I visited NY I was appalled by the men there. DEFFO NOT somewhere to find a husband.

  • Where The White Dudes At...?

    i’d rather go where the white boys are. i’m young, educated, in great shape and no kids and definitely ain’t ready to have any strings attached.

    • Getem

      The West Coast is the place for that. I live in Las Vegas and I get more White and Hispanic guys asking me out then black.

    • Getem

      West Coast is more open to interracial dating.

    • Lacey

      Get Em what cities are in the west coast? I like in East France but have only been to NY
      where is best 🙂

    • Getem

      @Lacey I think Cali, Nevada, and Arizona are good places. Don’t take my word for it though. You’d have to experience it for yourself. I love the West Coast. People are more friendly over here, I think.

    • On Point

      SF Bay Area has a high interracial dating scene, it’s like the norm out here.

  • I'm Just Me...Keeping It Real Since: 1983

    Disgusted by ATL and DC being on that list. Didn’t you just post those are the new gay hot-spots.

    What’s up with Houston? I am considering relocating there so I am interested about schools and the overall scene there too. So any Houstonians please respond and let me know how your city is.

    I am from NYC. BLAH!! N*ggas here are okay. There are some decent ones but then again the are some busted ones. But I am sure every city can say that.

    How is the scene in San Diego. It looks beautiful.

    • Getem

      San Diego is nice. I went to Health Sciences school out there in Balboa. I think you’d have wayy better options there than in NY and Texas even.

    • I'm Just Me...Keeping It Real Since: 1983

      Cool!! Thanks!

    • T.K.

      I live in Houston. There are alot of nice guys..overall its a good place to live full of opportunities..just dont go looking for a man in the club

    • I'm Just Me...Keeping It Real Since: 1983

      Thanks T.K. and no, I don’t think you should be looking for a man in a club in any city.

    • G.M.

      im originally from daygo, southeast paradise hills lol…SD is very diverse, i miss it out there, the weather, the palm trees, the mexican food etc…but its expensive as sh1t out there tho


    They’re doing that EVERYWHERE! It’s really disgusting.

    I had a lawyer try that crap with me. I was so pissed.

    He told me he was separated but that his wife was living with him, but not on the same floor of the home.

    He seemed cool because he was older, but when he came up with that lame lie, I had to drop him. This was five years ago. thinking about that crappy lie still makes me want to punch him in the face.

  • kslim1

    Fellas in NY like to exercise their options which is fine, but sometimes they do so on your time and on your dime even if they have their own money. That’s y I don’t date broke men at all, esp the ones who have no problem with it. The black dudes in NY who are about something usually have a color complex.


    The West Coast is the place for that. I live in Las Vegas and I get more White and Hispanic guys asking me out then black.
    There is NOTHING in Vegas except that strip and a bunch of Mexicans sneaking into the place. I have never seen so much dirt and rocks in my entire life. In addition, the men have ZERO SWAGGER! ZERO!
    A guy actually asked for my number in front of his girlfriend. I was HORRIFIED! This was two weeks ago..

    • Getem

      @IHATE I date more outside of my race so you and I are probably looking for two different types of people. You’re looking for a dude with swagger and I’m looking for a man with charisma. Sorry if you feel that way about Vegas, but i like it here.

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