Ashley Graham Reveals The Long Story Behind Her Marrying Director Justin Ervin
We always wondered about the story behind Ashley Graham’s sweet swirly matrimony-dom with director Justin Ervin and the body positive model ended up revealing the WHOLE beautiful backstory during an appearance on Gwyneth Paltrow’s Goop podcast last Thursday.
It turns out Graham had a rocky road to her happy ending after dating some jerk when she was in her early 20’s who was abusive — not just mentally and emotionally but also physically.
“I knew that I was a stronger woman for breaking up with him, and in feeling stronger for breaking up with him I was like, ‘What is it that I need to do to change myself so I don’t get back into that situation?'”
It was then that Ashley determined she needed to do a better job of keeping the cookies in the jar.
“My problem is I keep giving it up too soon, I keep having sex too soon with these guys.”
And while spirituality didn’t initially have anything to do with Graham’s decision to abstain — she did eventually find herself in some hallowed halls after her mom confronted her about abusing tequila.
“My mom said, ‘rehab or church,'” Graham revealed. “And I was like, ‘I’m not an alcoholic, so I’ll just go to church.”
It was in the elevator of the NYC church that Graham began attending that she first encountered her hubby.
“The next thing you know I’m in the elevator… and I’m volunteering that Sunday. I’m the elevator lady.”
“The one guy says to the other guy, ‘If you don’t talk to her I am.’ I blushed. And the next thing ya know, Justin, my husband, was the one who stayed in the elevator.”
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Graham and Ervin went out for coffee but he struck a bad chord because he didnt’ pick up the tab.
“We had so much fun, but the thing that sucked was he didn’t pay for the coffee,” Graham recalled. “So I was like, great, I have another cheap guy… So he didn’t pay and he said that ‘A man always appreciates it when a woman attempts to grab her wallet.’ So I was through with him, girl, I erased his number. Done.”
It turns out Ervin had an explanation and the next time they saw each other, a month later at church, he asked her out again and revealed why he didn’t offer to pay for the coffee date.
“He said, ‘I have been taken advantage of and I have had women use me for a steak dinner, I don’t want that, I’m looking for a wife.”
Ladies, if this happened to you would you have given him a second chance?
Ashley did, and Justin Ervin became husband and wife in 2010.
Hit the flip to find out if Ashley broke her abstinence rule for Justin.
So it turns out Ashley didn’t even have to worry about breaking her rules for Justin because he was already on the same page.
“He and I did not break my rule, and his rule as well, because I didn’t know that he was also trying to wait until he was married to have sex as well.”
Seems like this has been a common strategy lately.
Do you think you could marry someone without “trying them out” first?