Old- Fashion Phased Out? A List of Things Men Don’t Do Anymore …

- By Bossip Staff

Good day, Bossip Readers! The topic of discussion today is old-school versus new school. For the people who are grown today, the days of answering machines and busy signals were real. There was no TV in every room, there wasn’t a plethora of entertainment devices to choose from to kill some time and, in this day and age, too much time! But we’re in paradoxical times because there are some of us who are fine with ditching old-school or old-fashioned practices while others are nostalgic for the good-old-days when things weren’t so complicated and convoluted with other forces. It goes without saying that this translates to romance, dating and marriage too! So, many want to know, how do we bridge the gap? Can two people come together and find a happy medium between new and old? Well, we asked some of our lady readers what men of this generation don’t do that they used to do back in the day and how times have changed! Take a look and stay tuned for the mens’ perspective next week!

My husband doesn’t even open doors for me. I’ve been talking to him about that since I met him. He’s a good guy but no one ever taught him to do those kind of things. I’m tired of talking about it. Chivalry starts a home. – Janice, 38

Men don’t pay for dates these days without expecting something in return. When did that happen? It seems like it’s gotten worse over time because when I was dating, back in the day, they might want to kiss you or make out but now they want it all … for a dinner? Come on! – Kat, 30

See, I have brothers and so I never washed my car, took it to get an oil change, changed a tire — none of that. They always took care of that and they said that if a woman has a dirty or malfunctioning car, then she’s most likely single. That’s not true anymore, a grown man will drive his girl’s car around dirty and all. They don’t care about any of that. – Heather, 31

They never give you that undivided attention because there’s too many distractions! They got Facebook, ipods, Play Stations, Wii, flatscreens with HD, Blueray, T-Vo and I could go on for days! I feel like I’m always competing with technology, I’m always nagging my boyfriend about that. – Sonia, 28

Um, yea! They don’t call anymore! What happened to calling? I mean, I’m 32 and men my age and older text instead of calling! That is such a major turnoff for me because I find it impersonal and, quite honestly, lazy! I feel like with the time spent typing we could have the same conversation in the same amount or shorter time. Plus, it leaves too much room for misinterpretation, you know? -Renee, 32

Men don’t dance! I’ve noticed that when you’re in a place where people should be dancing they’re posted on the wall! I used to watch Soul Train and the men were real dancers and knew how to groove. I miss seeing that. I love to dance so that’s a large part of the reason why I love my boyfriend, we go out dancing all the time! – Natasha, 29

Well, in my experience, men my age don’t really know how to touch a woman. They’re so into “getting it in” they forget that there’s a playground called my body. You can touch it, rub it, taste it but they always go straight to the goods. With everything being so instant anymore, there’s no time for intimacy and that defeats the purpose of loving on somebody. – Zoey, 27

What are your thoughts Bossip Readers? Fellas, in particular, please leave your thoughts! Do you find this to be true or a little embellished?

Please remember to e-mail all your topic suggestions, feedback and questions to loveandrelationships@bossip.com!

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  • Aunt Viv

    It’s so sad that men dancing and men caressing are things of the past. I find ol’ school men from my parents’ generation had way more swag than men nowadays (except for my husband, of course!)

  • BookWorm

    Nope. They don’t do anything with passion anymore. Everything is superficial and for the quick thrill. Patience and passion are of the past.

  • Foots

    Dang… 2 days in a row. i must be getting sick. but I have to agree with Hannibal on this one!! What ever happened to a woman cooking a meal for a man???

  • King Lew

    It’s not that men don’t do these things but enough men aren’t stepping up enough to show these women that special attention they need. I’ve learned that women are much more attentive to your needs when you pay attention to their’s. Most people don’t communicate what they want though and just expect you to know. Ladies if you are telling your man what you want and he won’t comply sometimes you have to move on and find someone who will. I’m not a proponent of divorce because if you married him at some point he must’ve made you happy. But if you are dating and he’s not listening to what you need, move on because if he’s not making you happy now, it most likely won’t get better.

    • Professionalism

      There are two major flaws in your way of thinking…

      First, women have no idea what they need, only what they “feel” at that particular moment in time.

      Second, women are driven solely by their emotions (not common sense) and are therefore extremely fickle.

    • star

      i agree. professionalism you’re some kind of special

    • star

      if you didn’t comprehend the first time around… i was being sarcastic

  • REAL REAL TALK

    A DONT FORGET THIS 1 TELL A B?ITCH I LOVE U

    REAL REAL TALK

  • jjones

    Maybe the brother just not into you like that…i had a female i had be dealing with and she use to always fuss about why i dont wanna do this and do that..The answer is simply i dont wanna do that to you.. just cause you having relations with a guy that dont mean he ought to romance you and sweep you off your feet, SO FIND THE MAN THAT WILL

    • shy

      real talk!!!! thats why I don’t cook for all men!!!!!

    • chaka1

      Dang…good answer…

  • d.

    Women don’t sleep with one man at a time any more either.

    • d.

      Women don’t cook anymore either.

  • d.

    Women dont’ get married or have children by one man anymore either.

    • AQueenWaits

      @D

      Don’t be a total idiot! If you’re a dude, then understand that you’re out there tasting every dish on the food network and you’re hitting every moving target! So, don’t just put it on the female. The trail of devastation is always left by the PLAYA…and that can mean either sex.

  • bbbbb

    Wow. My dude does all that for me and more. Sometimes I even tell him to let me pay for our meal but he won’t have it. Makes me even more grateful for him.

  • Mr.727

    Whats sad, I want to be like this for a female, but yet im not her type, or im soft! So glad to have my own place, two jobs, no kids, money in my pocket, you chicks keep going for the loser who’ll try all the gas out your car, dont work, got more kids from other females, just a damn disgrace how men act in these days an times!

    • deznuts

      preach brother preach…. they always wanted the thugs and the rough necks…

  • lga

    @ thats why probly woman dont cook anymore, because men kill’d it. And Hannibal i think the dave skit was about some others subject aswell not about how man respectfully treah a woman but just are there for the fun. but all the woman outthere there are respectfully men outthere but its only for the first few dates, after they know u all the romantic stuff goes down the drain and when stuff like that happens the woman tends to just dont care anymore either and there the naggin begins. so really the men killed for them selfs.

  • Dcgal

    And you all stop sleeping with women you dont give a damn about…savages….

  • GrimmNoir

    Reality check, ladies….

    You’re not entitled to chivalrous treatment just because you have a vajayjay between your legs….

    The reason why men did those things for women back in the day is because women actually proved themselves worthy of it.

    Nowadays, thanks to Feminazism, we have 2 generations of women who want the New World benefits while still retaining the Old World perks.

    Sorry ladies, but can’t have it both ways,

    So maybe a lot of you need to start asking yourselves….

    “What do I need to do to EARN such treatment?”

    • Molly

      I agree with you. Many women today feel that they can do it all by themselves so they don’t need a man. Now, I’m not talking about the woman who had a string of misfortunes and now has to endure seriously “heavy” responsibilities. I’m referring to the women who don’t know how to be a LADY.

      Hey girls! There is a major difference between being a woman and being a lady. You all might wanna ask your great-grandmother about it!

      There is nothing wrong for a woman to submit to her husband. The husband is to be head of the household, not in a domineering way, but in a loving and caring way. Sometimes women need to get out of the way of their own happiness!

  • Funeral

    It puzzles me how y’all talk bad about men in general,and what women want. But maybe they don’t do those things because of how the women are now in days they think they all that

  • GrimmNoir

    In other words….

    There are still plenty of old school guys out there….

    They just don’t want to be old school guys for thenew world tramp….

    They have better things to do.

  • #1playerHater-B-Cause.most.Players.have.Gay.Tendencies

    my name says it all

  • othello

    This is bullsh*t I dance, I clan the car, I open doors, and pay for dinner. even though my girl just gets the car dirty again, insist that she not a child that need doors open and chairs pulled out, or her meal paid for. Fortunately she does still like to dance. Women forget that there was a time not too long ago where men were being told anything chivalrous wasn’t hen my mom wanted her oil changed she just waited for my Dad to do it, no matter how long it took him to get around to it. Then one day my Dad was visibly busy and took too long to change the oil so my moms got it done herself needless to say my pops never changed her oil again. It only takes once for a man to get the hint. I remember holding a door open for a women just out of courtesy and she actually rolled her eyes at me. Only older women appreciate a gentleman, younger women see chivalry as a sign of weakness. If women want chivalry back they have to expect it and for god sakes appreciate it. imho,

  • othello

    *fixed*

    This is bullsh*t I dance, I clean the car, I open doors, and pay for dinner. even though my girl just gets the car dirty again, insist that she not a child that need doors open and chairs pulled out, or her meal paid for. Fortunately she does still like to dance. Women forget that there was a time not too long ago where men were being told anything chivalrous wasn’t masculine. When my mom wanted her oil changed she just waited for my Dad to do it, no matter how long it took him to get around to it. Then one day my Dad was visibly busy and took too long to change the oil so my moms got it done herself needless to say my pops never changed her oil again. It only takes once for a man to get the hint. I remember holding a door open for a women just out of courtesy and she actually rolled her eyes at me. Only older women appreciate a gentleman, younger women see chivalry as a sign of weakness. If women want chivalry back they have to expect it and for god sakes appreciate it. imho.

    • Professionalism

      It is because females are creatures that are driven by emotion and not logic or common sense.

      Men (masculine men) have the benefit of being born and raised with a mind that understands things that are logical.

      Once you realize that, a lot of things will start to make sense.

  • syd

    a lot of the men responding to this are sad…seriously! That’s why you don’t have a woman now. Stop trying to find a scape goat for why your weak. ALL women aren’t the same just like you would say ALL men aren’t. Most likely the same one chasing tail, mesing with dirty broads & then saying you act the way you do b/c a women did blah blah. Be a gentalman b/c you should not b/c YOU think some1 doesn’t deserve it. That’s weak. Have some conviction my dudes… Didn’t your mother teach you manners?!?

    • Professionalism

      Men chase “skirts” because not only do women allow it, but they also reward it…

  • Professionalism

    But women are supposed to be “skrong” and “independent”

    Or is it “independent” without any since of honor, integrity, and responsibility….

  • truth

    black male bashing done by scorned women. AGAIN! There is nothing out there to boost the good men, just promos showing black men being animals and “black girls rock”. sad

    • Professionalism

      The kicker is that women knowingly and willingly choose to date and get impregnated by the “animal”, but want the “nice guy” to come in and clean up the mess she has made.

      Black women are world’s “strongest” self-made victims…

  • phill

    im 22 and i do all that for women, open doors, pay for dates, all of that old stuff because that was how i was raised to do. It seems like women dont appreciate that stuff anymore.They want swag instead of chivalry.

    • Professionalism

      Common courtesy is common courtesy; however women are not raised to understand the concept.

      Hence you have articles such as these, where one moment a woman will proclaim to be “strong and independent”, yet want a man to do everything for her.

      No different than the mindset of child. Boys tend to grow out of that stage, as they are “forced too”; women however do not…

  • kish

    well i dont kno nothin about that cuz my man does all that ish and then some

  • wwwgirl

    I cook for my husband.. HE WON’T BARELY EAT UNLESS I COOK FOR HIM…. i will have left overs or a meal that was already cooked.. he won’t even heat it up.. I HAVE TO…

    so don’t say women don’t cook.. cause MOST MEN.. just require their wives to cook…

    i cook full dinners for him everyday… lunch as well..

    breakfast: EGGS, BACON, TOAST, OR WAFFLES

    Lunch: Turkey/Ham sandwich with all the works.. bacon included…

    Dinner: Chicken,mash potatoes, green beans, cornbread…

    im cooking so much… for him.. he has only cooked ONE meal.. and i had to help him the whole time.. AND after i finish typing this im getting ready to cook dinner for us…

    • sean-slade

      cooking after 8? woman i want my dinner ready by 7!

    • chaka1

      I hear you, girl. I never thought I would end up spending most of my day planning feedings for my husband too. LOL!!

    • Mock Rock Star

      The problem here is that your husband is lazy and spoiled and it’s partly your fault. U should be eating 5 times a day opposed to 3 and U’re eating way to much. If U keep up the rate U’re going U and your husband will have diabetes or high blood pressure or some fat disease that plague black people.

  • Ms. Keep it REAL

    Correct me if I’m wrong bt I don’t remember any of these women saying only black men lack these qualities and I definitely don’t remember these women stating their race, so how do you knw this is the opinions of only black women? How was this subject even made into a black thing when it’s only about a man-woman thing? @professionalism your making women out 2 be mindless beings that just prance around until we find a stife manly d**k 2 grab a whole of. Sorry 2 inform you bt we our certainly NOT that. A woman can still be independent in matters of providing 4 herself and still know how 2 treat a man w/ respect and “common courtesy”. So are you sure women hasn’t understood the concept or maybe you just lack understanding period?

    • Professionalism

      Lets see here same cookie cutter response that has already been shrieked before
      “We aint all b lik dat!”
      Then said female continues to contradict herself throughout her retort..

    • Whatyomommasay

      I do not know any sistas named heather, do you?

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