Sextra: She Doesn’t Feel The Same

Good day to you, sir! Thank you for writing in and sharing your story! So you and your lady were at odds and after a dry spell you’ve drawn the conclusion that she’s been cheating because she doesn’t “feel that same.” Although you didn’t really explain how she felt different, how did she feel? Was she cold? Was she distant? Was she just not into it or disconnected? Maybe she wasn’t mentally present? So, what did she really feel like … kinda like a wife? A wife that’s exhausted by her responsibilities to the kids, the house and her partner? What you must take into consideration is that couples, whether married by law or commonwealth, go through this kind of thing everyday. Relationships evolve through phases and this might be the part where your fiance is learning how to balance the many aspects of her life and, at the end of the day, she might not have a whole lot to give to you in the bedroom. It happens.

On the other end of the spectrum, if you’re saying that her lady parts don’t feel the same, then here’s something to consider. Men, without a doubt, know their woman’s body and it has been said that a man knows when his woman has been unfaithful. However, what you should take into consideration is this: women have needs too and she may be keeping a secret from you. You may be able to find this “secret” tucked away in the back of her drawer or shoebox in the back of the closet. Are you following? In other words, she may have a battery operated friend that she uses from time to time to satisfy her urges. But if this is not at all a factor, you may need to explore your suspicions. If you’re fiends before anything else, sit her down and ask all the questions that you’re ready to hear the answers to. From there, you can draw your conclusions! But if she’s given you no reason to be suspicious, then you should rest easy that you have not been betrayed.

So, sir. Here’s the deal, relationships are not always roses and love songs, they do have their pockets of hardship but if the both of you are committed to your boys and family life, it will work itself out. It’s understood that woman are perhaps the the sneakiest of genders and they do cheat. However, more often than not, if a woman has too much to lose, she’s not going to risk it for a quick romp with a virtual stranger … but there are exceptions to every theory. Again, you know her well enough to gauge her commitment to you your family and you know if she’s the kind of person to do such a thing. If she’s not, then trust in her and her love for you and those little boys. Don’t let your imagination propel doubt and distrust. Stop digging for dirt. Relax and breathe, sir. And good luck to you!

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