Sextra: She’s A Very Freaky Girl … Almost Too Freaky!!

Good day to you, sir! Thank you for writing in and sharing your story! Awe, you sound like a lot of womans’ romantic daydream! On the other hand, your girl sounds like a lot of mens’ wet dream. And, once again, the theory of opposites attract is proven to be as true as the sky is blue! Different people have different ways of expressing their love and affection. So, there’s really nothing more to it than differences in preferences and character. You said yourself that you’re more structured and she’s more free-spiritied, so in essence, the two of you are like night and day. And you can’t have one without other, right? So, with balance, it seems like your relationship can be promising if the two of your are willing to bend a little. She sounds, as you say, “well rounded” enough to understand where you’re coming from with out taking offense.

From what you’ve written, your lady has a bit of a wild side that you’re uncomfortable with – and rightfully so! Some of what you’ve described can get you in a lot of trouble and no man wants trouble with the “them boys” if it can be avoided! If you haven’t already, you should open up the topic for discussion. Let her know what’s a little too much for you, what you could used to with a little time and patience and, finally, what you’re absolutely not willing to tolerate. If you feel like her freakishness is getting in the way of the intimacy you’d like to share with her, don’t hesitate to tell her! If you don’t know how, then find out from her what would be the best way to initiate the closeness you’re looking for – intimacy does not come easy to everyone because it requires some vulnerability exposure. Maybe all it will take is you saying what’s on your mind for her to open up to you in that way. She simply may not know how! But you will never know until you have the conversation!

Here’s what deal, everybody knows that communication is the single most important element to any functional relationship and you must realize that saying what’s on your mind and in your heart is not an option. Your expectations and needs should be made clear and then you should leave room for compromise. This goes both ways. You might learn something about yourself that you might not have ever considered. The point of togetherness is give and take and, most importantly, self-awareness – which is a springboard for learning more about yourself and how to best apply it to your life and someone else’s. Your girl being a freak isn’t really a dealbreaker, is it? Especially if the rest of your relationship with her is solid, so there’s definitely a way around it, right? But you must open your mouth and put it out there. If she’s as invested as you are, then the problem will solve itself with time! Communication is key, sir! Communication is key! Best of luck to you!

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