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BMF First Lady Says Show Will Highlight Her Life On The Straight And Narrow

For Tonesa Welch, dubbed the first lady of the Black Mafia Family, life has been a rollercoaster of incredible highs and lows.

Welch was the longtime lover of drug kingpin Terry “Southwest T” Flenory, who with his brother Demetrius “Big Meech” Flenory, controlled a cocaine trafficking syndicate known as the Black Mafia Family that operated from coast to coast for 15 years.

“When I think about it now, I was living a double life,” Welch told BOSSIP. “I always lived in the best homes. My kids went to the best schools. Nobody knew. I knew it wasn’t normal, but I lived the normal housewife life.”


But her world came crashing down in 2005, when the feds arrested the brothers and began dismantling the organization. Her son, boyfriend and three nephews were jailed – along with dozens of other BMF members. Welch herself got five years for money laundering. She was released in 2012.
“When you look back on it now,” she said, “was it all worth it? It had it’s good and it’s bad. I guess what hurt so bad was that other people were hurt.”

With some of her relatives approaching their release dates – her son Marlon, is set to be freed this later year after serving nine years – Welch said she’s in talks to star in her own reality show.
“Now that my family is coming home, we’re in talks to do something about my life, what a family goes through,” Welch told BOSSIP. “It’s bringing that negative to a positive and bringing my family back together.”

The show would also focus on Welch’s work for her charity, Sylent Heart, which supports children whose parents are incarcerated.


Welch’s TV deal shouldn’t be confused with her first foray into the reality show realm. The short-lived “BMF Wives” chronicled the lives of the partners of major players in the organization. The mom said she backed out of the 2013 project after she said her fellow cast members were never actually involved with BMF, but wanted major screen time.

“Not one person on the show – BMF Wives – was either around or suffered as much as I did,” Welch said. “I wish a bi**h would tell me about she deserve a show about (BMF) more than I do! None of them lost nothing. No blood sweat or tears.”

Things got worse when she said a woman from Big Meech’s BMF Entertainment told her probation officer that Welch threatened her. The move – which Welch said was a compete fabrication – put the heat back on.
“I thought it was the cruelest, most hurtful thing to do,” Welch said. “I was put back under investigation. I couldn’t leave the state of California.”

Welch said she’s moved on and she hopes that she can show others – especially young women – that no matter how tough it gets, they can still beat the odds.
“We want to inspire and empower young people to let them know that they can move forward,” she said. “I know the life I lived, and nobody can take that away from me. Not saying it’s right, but it’s a part of me.”



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