Toya Bush-Harris Talks #MarriedToMedicine Reunion & Quad

According to Toya, despite what fans think about a tense moment when the group asked Quad to leave a trip to Napa Valley, there’s much more to the story.

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In case you missed it, in a previous episode Toya invited all of the ladies to join her in Sonoma to introduce them to their wine collection. When they got there, however, she and the group asked Quad to leave citing a lack of emotional collection and allegations that she disappeared from the group until cameras started rolling.

According to Toya, the group isn’t being “mean”, they’re just being real.

“I think “mean girls” is a misconception because I think the reality is when they watch our show, one of the most important things they’ve always asked of us was to keep it real,” Toya told BOSSIP.

“They’ve always said that Married to Medicine was one of those shows where it wasn’t contrived, where it was actually real friendship. So what do y’all want from us now? Do you want us to pretend? Do you want us to become like other shows that you complain about? Because we’re just really and truly at a place where we’re like, “Look, how many times do we have to give people the chance to actually be a real friend?!”

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“Don’t get me wrong, we are coworkers,” she continued. “We are, we come to work and we clock in, like you said. But the reality is in the midst of clocking in, we try to maintain friendships. The reality is we try to maintain, off camera, a relationship.

“How do you build a relationship if you separate yourself from these individuals? And so I can’t do that. That’s a part of my job. My job is to build relationships with the people on my show and maintain it. And if she’s not willing to do that part of her job, which is the most important part, then she needs to find herself a new job with her real friends.”

Following that, Toya also dished on flack she received for making amends with former Married To Medicine star Anila Saja, but not Quad.

In season 9 Anila’s home was burglarized and rumors surfaced that Toya and her husband Eugene somehow played a part in it considering that they live in the same neighborhood and there was bad blood between them. Quad went on to perpetuate the rumor and according to Toya, she accepted Anila’s apology after she vehemently apologized in private.

Anila, Contessa, & Toya! ❤️ #Married2Med pic.twitter.com/rA8uOZa26L

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She has not however forgiven Quad, despite the reality star apologizing in a Carlos King interview.

“I really want the people to understand that if Quad was sorry…” Toya began. “Me and Quad have been in the same room since then. She has never once said, “I’m sorry.” She’s never pulled me aside, woman-to-woman, and said to me … which is what Anila did. Anila was banned from my house, okay? But Anila, because we live in the same neighborhood, would come over here with her kids, with her husband, and was like, “Look, I need to apologize for me.” She was like, “And for you, but for me because I was not being my authentic self.” And she was like, “I’m sorry. I did and said some things. I didn’t stand up when I knew things weren’t right. I’m sorry.”

She was like, “And you may not want to be my friend, but at the end of the day, please know that I’m genuine when I’m saying that I’m sorry and I will never do that again.” And I was like, “Okay.” That’s all you can really ask from someone.”

She went on to say that she appreciated Anila’s apology because the style blogger took real accountability but Quad did not.

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That’s not all she said, however, hit the flip for more.

Toya told BOSSIP that Anila made many attempts to reconcile with her, but Quad did not and that’s allegedly a recurring theme.

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“Quad has not made any effort,” Toya told BOSSIP. “It’s like Simone said on Andy [Watch What Happens Live], when the camera’s on, she’s on but when the camera is off, she’s herself. She doesn’t call you. She doesn’t own anything. But right before that scene in Napa, she walked into our room and I said, “Oh, I’m surprised to see you here.”

She said, “Why would you be? I have to get my check.” She didn’t say, “I’m here to support you.” She didn’t say, “Toya, I wanted to spend some time with you to figure things out.” She said, “I’m here to get a check and everybody heard it.

And so that’s when my demeanor was like, “Oh.” And that’s when Simone said, “You know what? I got it,” because everybody heard it. It was so disrespectful.”

Toya went on to deny that she and her cast members have a role in who stays and goes amongst the group despite fans believing that they’re ousting Quad and alleging that the same thing happened to Mariah Huq.

Shout out to @TheKingOfShade1 for the receipts!!!! Watch until the end because the statements from Quad did not age well. She was hyped when they did to Mariah what they are now doing to her. Oh Well. 👀 #Married2Medicine #Married2Med pic.twitter.com/sYVZs113JE

— HowYSeeItPodcast (@HowYSeeIt) December 11, 2023

“If people don’t know this by now, I am an advocate for our show,” said Toya. “I’ve always been an advocate for new faces, of old faces. I’ve always brought back old faces, okay? Whether it be Mariah, Kari, Lisa, anyone. Shoot, I would love to bring back Jill. But my point is, I have always been an advocate. I’ve never seen them as competition because I don’t feel like we are in competition with each other. We’re in competition with ourselves to be a better version of ourselves.

She continued,

“And I think when it comes to Quad, and even Mariah, I think that they’ve developed their own scenario on their own. Okay? I think they’re both great TV.”

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