Nelly has a mouthful to say…
Nelly Speaks On Why He Hasn’t Married Yet
Towards the end of last year, BOSSIP officially reported that Nelly and his never-claimed common law boo-thang Ashanti had called it quits after years of dating.
Although Nelly and Ashanti have always maintained verbally that they “never said they were a couple,” despite hundreds of pics over the years alluding to otherwise, Nelly recently sat down with VLAD TV to give a little insight onto why he didn’t settle down with his ex R&B misses.
On if he thinks he’ll ever get married:
“Yeah I think so. But the thing about marriage is nobody is going to force me into anything. Nobody is going to rush me into anything. I take marriage very seriously. I only know two ways of marriage. My parent’s marriage did not last at all and my grandparent’s marriage lasted for 60 years.
So I’m either gonna go all the way to 60 or I’m not gonna do it. You see what I’m saying? You’re gonna know when its right. I feel like marriage is something that you just know is right. And it’s just no questions. In order for me to feel like this, I have to have no questions. If I got any questions, I know me; I’m going to play on that.
And eventually that may weigh in on that situation–but do I see myself getting married? Hell yeah. I just think that marriage is something that you should do when you’re ready to do it.”
So, was Ashanti getting that ring finger itch too soon even though they were dating for damn near a decade? Or does Nelly just have some serious long-term commitment issues?
Hit the flip to hear what Nelly’s response to what he’s looking for in relationship that he didn’t find [with Ashanti] and whether or not he’d date another celebrity.
On what he’s looking for in a relationship that he hasn’t found yet:
“The thing is, it’s hard when you’re in this business. People, lets say you’ve known someone for 7 years. But you’ve known them for 7 years in this business. Now, lets take a couple that’s an everyday average couple and they’ve know each other for 7 years. The regular couple is a little different because they’ve actually been together almost every day for 7 years. Now this couple may have known each other for 7 years but they probably only been together five days out a month….You don’t learn as much about a person as you would like to until you actually get a chance to stop and be with that person.
I think people see the relationships that industry folks have and they see the time. But they’re not doing the math on that time. If you do the math on that time you see that it equals out to something totally different than if people were there everyday and doing something.”
On if he’ll stay away from dating other celebrities:
“No, that’s just caused me to shy away from what public perception about what they feel about my relationship. You know what I’m saying, you know I’m like ‘F*ck you.’ [How] you gonna tell me what I should be doing in my relationship? I’m not at home everyday like you. I’m gone. I haven’t seen her in like two weeks. It’s different and people don’t understand how different it really is. It’s hard in that way.
You see so many celebrities who get married and they’re done in a year or they’re done in 2 years or they’re done in 3 years and you know why? Because once they finally get together and they’re with each other everyday they start realizing. “Holy Sh*t! I didn’t know you did that every night. I didn’t know you did this everyday. I didn’t know you ate this food every morning. I just thought you ate that when I’m around.’ Now its just like the sh*t that you thought was cute becomes annoying.”
Hmmmm. So it sounds to us like Nelly is looking for perfection before he’s willing to put a ring on it.
We agree that there should be “no questions” when it comes to your feelings for the other person before you move forward into a marriage, but expecting to not have ANY issues with things like habits, routines, etc. before you can say ‘I Do’ seems extreme.
What do you think, Bossip fam? Do you agree with Nelly’s theory on marriage and what to look for before you take that trip down the aisle?
