Taye Diggs Talks About Swirling It Up With Wife Idina Menzel And Defends Slim Thug

- By Bossip Staff

Taye Diggs has caught a lot of flack over his white wife, actress Idina Menzel, but the actor wants people to know he actually understands where the critics are coming from. Pop the hood for his words and his take on Slim Thug’s recent comments

In a recent interview, Taye Taye says he used to have an issue with black men who only dated white women and that he used to want people to know he wasn’t one of those guys, but now he doesn’t really care:

“You know… I understand,” Diggs says. “It’s a situation that’s unfortunate, but at the same time, being a black man, I understand. I understand the idea of having something that you call your own, and how it could feel when a member of your clan, so to speak, chooses to be with someone from another clan. I get how that could make someone feel rejected.

“But that being said, I can’t tolerate that because it’s 2010 and I don’t have time for that. When I was younger I did get caught up with that. When I was growing up, there were guys who dated everybody, there were guys that only dated black girls, and there were guys who only dated white girls. Back then, I used to judge the black guys that only dated white girls and for so long, I wanted people to know, I’m not one of those guys.

“But as I got older, I realised what the important things in life are. I can’t worry about changing the way that people see me. If you like me, you like me, if you don’t, you don’t. And luckily, I’ve been just fine, you know what I mean? I think people are becoming more understanding. Once people realize that this is a real relationship and that I’m not with my wife because she’s white, but because she’s a wonderful person, all that other stuff falls by the wayside.”

Taye also says the racial stuff used to bother him, especially because he wanted to be loved by black women but he’s come to realize you can’t please everyone so you may as well please yourself:

“I won’t pretend [race] wasn’t an issue, because it was. We’ve had to deal with situations in the past where black women would give her attitude or not acknowledge her, and you’ve gotta nip that s**t in the bud. But for the most part, people have been really positive and I’m proud of that.”
“The older you get, the more you know,” says Diggs. “Different things become important to you. And in many cases, when people have those issues, very rarely can someone change their opinions. The person with those issues has to change from the inside. After constantly banging my head against a brick wall, I realized that you just can’t please everybody.

It did bother me for a long time. I mean, us actors, we wanna be loved by everybody. So it did hurt my feelings, especially when it was black women [shunning me] – my mother’s a black woman. But you can only be who you are and be proud of that and just brush the other stuff off.”

TayeTay also offered his perspective on Slim Thug’s comments about black women:

“I try not to judge people,” Diggs says of the rapper’s remarks. “With comments like that, there’s often a deeper issue that has nothing to do with what the actual comment was. Race is such a deeply embedded issue and people get emotional about it. And when they get emotional about it, they speak from the

“When that happens, people can get caught up in the wordage, as opposed to where those words and those feelings come from. That stuff really interests me.
Psychologically, I do wonder about those things. But I do think it’s less about color and more about socialization and how we’re raised. It’s deeper than just black women and white women.”

Do you think Taye is being too understanding of Slim Thug? And after all these years of being wifed up with Idina, is it surprising to hear Taye say he was never one of those guys who only dated white women? Do you believe him?


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  • wow

    funny how you get fame and just fall all in love with white women.

  • lani3000

    Im not mad

  • wow

    lets be honest half of the black famous men that are dateing white women should know that if you had no fame these same women would not give your as- the time of day and it’s your fame thats pulls them in not who you really are because we all know people can easily fall in love with money and fame and not the person then divorce his as- and take half his money and go get a white man to stand by her side.

  • efcv

    I strongly recommend ______ B l a c k W h i t e D a t e * C o m ______ to you where I just found my interracial boyfriend! You know it is a great place to meet black men and beautiful women. What’s kind of relationship do you want?

  • luck

    You black people have major problem. People fall in love with who ever they which to be with. Color should not matter. What the F is wrong with you people.

  • old school tv

    why should he lie? i just hate generalisations thats all.

    how can we stop being stereotyped when we ourselves do it to each other?

    and yes he should defend his wife from anyone who disrespects her not just limit it to a particular group.

    just because he has been with his wife for years doesn’t mean that he didn’t use to date black women.

    stop painting black men as bad, i love black women even those that date outside their race.

    women are beautiful, you have freedom to date whom you choose.

    slim thug is a fool though!

  • OMG!!!!!!!!

    taye diggs aint diggin in anything with that little peen he has… thats why no black woman wanted him. and that white lady he is with now is mad as hell cuz he aint working with nothing!

  • HF


  • Bey-nonsense

    2010 and beyond= LAMAR ODOM

  • HF

    I wonder what Real Black is gonna say…

  • She said it.

    This suspect brotha’ would defend his ignent relative. They are all the same. Doesn’t matter. Articulate, dumb, smart, down low, out; They all want acceptance from the man and want to worshiped so they go to the weakest link to give them what they want.

  • truetalk

    Who cares about taye diggs? He shouldn’t exagerate his existence… he can marry a purple woman for all we care!

  • Ummmmmm.....

    Less is more…all that explaining is not necessary Taye. Do you and damn the ignorant haters!

  • Ummmmmm.....

    As for Slim Thug, unless you’re speaking out against him, best to leave that alone or else you leave people thinking you might agree and it did!

  • TarHeel23

    Um well ill say this I love black ladies but I just so happen to be with an Asian chic. This is my 1st time not being with a sister I miss it but Wht can I do its no diss to my sisters

  • Ummmmmm.....

    See what good throwing in your two cents did, but not coming to the defense of black women did for you Taye!

    (ThatBKChick’s post….exactly.) SMH

  • Sean

    I like how Taye is articulate and honest in his interview and yet all of the comments I see here are emotional nonsense. LOL

    Keep doing you, Taye. Bump the rest..

  • digal704

    I don’t care about who falls for who. He did make a point by saying some people just date one race, that is probably different from their own. That used to be issue for me and the fact that black men seem to turn to other races, especially when they “made it”! However, I look at as blessing. I don’t want anyone who doesn’t want or desire me. The time may come when its really a non issue because there won’t be many “black ” men or women because of interracial relationships.

  • ReALiSt aKa ReALeSt (ThE GrEaTeSt RaPpEr WaS BoRn On JuNe 16th - R.I.P 2Pac!!!)

    Preach brother!!

  • Isis

    @ThatBKChick, Correct! Stand on our backs to get ahead and then go and grab another breed. I never like Taye anyway because he did not look at all like the character that Terry described in the book (Solomon)

  • I love white guys

    OMG who cares I am a black girl and i like to date white guys! black men always have something to say to me too. But i dnt care and i dont FEEL the need to call them out. Taye diggs is married to a white woman, so why does he care what black women think? the fact that he had to specify black women like that gets on my nerves, because lots of people white asian and etc. dont like IR relationships. most black women dont care, most black women are starting to not check for black men and are starting to date white men.
    he needs to get over himself him and his wife are irrelevant!

  • John J


    So. what if it is your fame that pulls them in? Do you think Beyonce would be dating Jay Z if he wasn’t famous?

    Hell, do you think a lot of females would be dating a lot of black men if it weren’t for fame or money.

    Please, get on with the bullshi*t. ALL WOMEN LOVE MONEY AND FAME.

  • Sydney™

    I can’t understand for the life of me why Diggs would care about — and address — the alleged “opinions” of black women. What purpose do his statements serve?

    Why do I feel like I have to don a “Leave Us Alone” t-shirt?

  • !@#$%^&*(!)

    The whole race issue is getting old.

    @wow… I totally agree with your comment. People never want to be bothered with you when you don’t have anything. In the broke category there is no discrimiination. Broke is broke.

  • She said it.


    we haven’t thought about you since brown suga… lol. That’s cold.

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