During a recap of this season of #RHOA, Porsha Williams destroyed a claim her fiancé made that went viral.
Early in the season, Porsha was seen in therapy with Dennis McKinley after he cheated on her while pregnant with their daughter. And while there, Dennis claimed that their issues started during Porsha’s pregnancy when their sex life suffered and ballooned into a bigger issue when Porsha gave birth and suffered postpartum depression.
“We had a rough pregnancy, all the way from start to finish,” said McKinley. “Sex during pregnancy, it’s nothing that a man wants to do. … And after PJ got here, postpartum was very real. We cried together, like, every night. That’s not a good enough ‘why,’ but that’s the ‘why.’”
He continued: “It was a poor decision and it was a selfish decision. I made a mistake, I cheated.” That led Porsha to then correct him and saying that cheating is not a “mistake”—it’s a CHOICE.
Now months later, Porsha’s reflecting on her fiancé’s words. The two have of course reconciled and are re-engaged—but Porsha’s standing firm; postpartum is not the reason Dennis McKinley stepped out it was simply “selfishness”, said Porsha during the RHOA after-show.
“When he told me he cheated because of postpartum depression, I took it and it rolled right off my back like water off of a duck’s back – because first of all, we still had sex,” said Porsha. He was my biggest support system while I was going through it…So I knew that was just something that maybe had a piece of it, you know? But I knew that wasn’t the whole reason of why he had stepped out.”
“People, when they talk about infidelity- they try to make up these big, big deep reasons. And really what it was could’ve been that we got together so fast, and this chick was still there. Maybe I wasn’t around and he just made a phone call. It could be really simple,” she added.
“It doesn’t have to be that deep. I think once we kept going to counseling, he came to that he did it because he was selfish, and that’s something he wanted to do. And he found out some things about me that we had never talked about before…”
It’s nice to see Porsha keeping it real about what went down in her relationship—for better or for worse.
Hit the flip for her candid thoughts about “ignoring signs.”
Porsha added on the RHOA after show that her vulnerability is what helped Dennis see the true benefit of their counseling sessions, noting that she had been trying to hide her feelings…
“He had never really seen me be that vulnerable because as a mom he was not going to see that part of my exterior,” said Porsha. “He was not going to see that he broke me but he needed to see that he really, really hurt me. I think that’s when he really got it.”
and she admitted that she did indeed ignore “some signs.” In RHOA season 11 Kandi gossiped to Porsha about Dennis’ history with women but Porsha was NOT having it.
“When I look back I did have a pattern of ignoring some signs,” said Porsha as a clip played of Kandi Burruss telling her about Dennis tattooing other women’s names on him. “I did have a pattern of even saying out loud, ignorance is bliss. You don’t realize when you’re saying all that stuff like that it lands somewhere,” she added noting that he thought he could just apologize and move on. “This was the first time of me like putting my foot down and getting him to really understand that we are building a family.”
Oh, and if you think Porsha’s embarrassed about having her man’s cheating play out on TV, she’s got news for you; it’s actually been helpful. “I don’t care what anybody thinks,” said Porsha defiantly.
It’ll be interesting to see if Andy Cohen brings up the cheating during Sunday’s #RHOA virtual reunion—-will YOU be watching???